Christmas BFP’s positive thoughts (let’s support each other)

[Idreamof2more]

Hi ladies, have started this thread for anyone that has not had their bfp this month but is going into their next cycle positively hoping for their Christmas or New Years bfp. Let’s support each other..laugh/cry. No such thing as TMI. Let’s celebrate together! Xxx

@Leonberger I know the feeling. TTC becomes so stressful when you're months down the line. I'm in month 9 now of trying. I told DH we'd take a break from TTC in October and November in the hope that I'd become less obsessed. Worked for October - had so much going on we just enjoyed sex when it happened and I didn't check my apps etc. Que a friend telling me shes pregnant 2 weeks ago, and I'm back in we must keep trying and we must try now. I know it's not a race but feels like everyone else gets their BFP and you're just left behind. Doesn't help no one knows we are TTC so its hard. Me and DH tend to argue around my fertile week too. I'm so focussed on it and I think because I stress myself out obsessing over opks etc it just escalates. I'm not doing opks this month and just checking cm and DTD every day this week in the hope we secure it. I'm dreading the thought of starting the new year with no BFP.

Hi @NamechangeTTC so sorry to hear all you're going through. Its hard when you're in the unknown. HCG levels looks great though and I'd take it as a good sign until proven otherwise. So early in its hard to detect on an ultrasound so lets hope it was just playing hide and seek and is nestled safely in the right place. Thinking of you. Xxx

@Leonberger yer we are the ones who are acting crazy, yet they are the ones pestering for sex even before AF has finished coz heaven forbid they have gone 3 days without it. Then all of a sudden they dry up for 5 days when ovulating but two days later are back with the horn full swing.
I spoke with my partner a few months ago and he has been a lot better since. He said he was feeling the pressure too and I just said you have pressure for a few days, whilst I have that pressure all month. I have to watch what I’m eating and drinking, make sure I’m active and getting enough sleep, pee on sticks, get up at the same time every day to temp, check what god awful cervical fluid is flowing out of me everytime my pants are down, try to keep stress levels low (which is very difficult as I have a very stressful job). The only time I get any relief is when AF is in full flow. But even then, since my chemicals AF has been super light so I even have that to worry about. I don’t think they understand how much effort we put in behind the scenes. And it has to be a private struggle other we get accused of being obsessive or ‘crazy’.
I tend to grab him either has soon as he gets out the shower or first thing in the morning before work and then he hasn’t had time to think about it, and can’t complain he is too tired. Plus he wakes up with the morning wood. 😂😂 seems to work. I thought about buying some sexy undies but decided not to waste the money and now just walk around the bedroom nakey and he thinks his luck is in 😂😂

Anyway basically if you feel down or frustrated you aren’t alone. I know we are just talking through the keyboard, but there are lots of us here in similar situations and are here to support each other and build each other up. ❤️❤️❤️ X

@Mamatoalittlebear it’s awful isn’t it. We’ve never argued so much! The same happened with my best friend and as much as I’m so happy for her every time she updates me I’m upset and I don’t want to feel like that!

I think it’s worse as I work shifts so I’m having to get him out of bed or asking him to stay up to dtd otherwise we could not have sex for the week I’m on that shift
It means he said the sex is planned and forced but if not then it means I might miss the whole fertile window waiting for the next normal opportunity.
This month we managed saturday but missed sun/mon/tues which were my peak days so I’m 99% sure this month is a write off and it’s ended in a huge row now where we never normally fight.

I’m not sure how to change it either other than just give up and hope ovulation lands on my day off

Sorry really making this thread miserable aren’t I!

@Leonberger no not at all! When you need a virtual shoulder to lean on that is what these groups are here for. TTC is a struggle for some of us from start to finish. I work shifts too so I know the bloody hardship the cause when trying to DTD. X

Urgh this ttc game is a tough lark isn’t it? Sorry to those whose OH’s can’t get their ahem heads in the game. That was actually me this month. I’ve got a lot of stress at work and when I saw the lines on the OPKs I realised just couldn’t deal with a tww on top of everything else. My next fertile week will be when I’m on leave so hopefully can relax and enjoy.

@NamechangeTTC keeping all things crossed for you - I had an early scan at about 5 weeks for a possible ectopic with DC1 and had to go back a week later as it was hard to tell being so early. That was the longest week of my life.

How did it turn out @Aozora13

Thanks for the support everyone.

I’m going to huff for a few days and abandon this month but my next fertile week will be 20-25th December. At least I’m off work

Thanks @Leonberger thats why I grateful for this group.

@Namechangettc sounds like you little one is playing hide and seek. Evrything else seems to be positive. I'm sure you'll have good news in a week. Hope you have some nice distractions planned.

I hate waiting especially when it feels like we're running out of time. We don't have a very active sex life as it is so at the moment I'm just not adding to the pressure of it. I still have hope for some more BFPs in this group though xx

@NamechangeTTC Waiting for the next scan is the worst. I have everything crossed for you, I didn't think they could see anything this early on at all?

@S345 im not going to use anything this month, just trying to DTD everyday, although we did miss yesterday as I was exhausted and jsut fell asleep!! I couldnt get on with OPKS last time

@NamechangeTTC I went back a week later and the scan was much clearer. I continued to have severe cramping for a couple of weeks - never got to the bottom of it, might have been trapped wind . Worrisome bean is now a stroppy 4yo! Hoping for a positive outcome for you too.

There’s a gestational sac in the uterus, and a yolk sac.

I’m so pleased.

I’m still worried about the levels but about ectopic so much.

Worrying about the low rise but they’re not redoing them.

@NamechangeTTC ah that’s good news if they have found the little eggy in the right place! ❤️❤️ Xx

@NamechangeTTC so happy to see your update! Great news.

@NamechangeTTC thats brilliant news. So happy for you. What a rollercoaster of emotions. I understand why you would be worried but if they have cause for concern they would continue to monitor you so take that as good news! Everything is as it should be Here for if you're ever having a wobble x

Hi ladies, may I join? I'm CD3 of cycle 12 so have now got my sights on a Christmas BFP :) AF is due on the 21st/22nd so if it's late I could actually tell OH on Christmas Day if I exercise a teeny bit of discipline lol. A girl can dream right?

@Juno231 aww that'd be lovely way to tell your OH! Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you and us all. After the most cruddy year with covid, it'd be nice to end the year on a high x

Hello all!
Could I join you, please?
I'm just coming into my fw after a chemical last month. Hoping for an xmas BFP!
Fx and baby dust for us all!!
🧚🏻‍♀️🧚‍♀️

Hi @MamaMoonbeam sorry to hear about your chemical, hope you're ok? I'm in my FW now. Trying to be more relaxed, not tracking temp or doing ovulation tests etc, afterall its done nothing for me the last 9 months, just keeping an eye on CM and trying to DTD everyday while I'm most fertile 🤣 Really keeping everything crossed that this is our month. Baby dust to us all x

Hi ladies, I’m 5 dpo. Hope you are all okay.
@NamechangeTTC so pleased everything seems to be looking positive for you!
Baby dust to you all 💙🌈🙏

@mamatoalittlebear I'm alright, was surprised (because of our age) to get a BFP as it was our first cycle trying but started bleeding when af was due so wouldn't have known if I hadn't tested to early.
I am cd10 and femometer is saying I should start tracking my LH and get on the bd. I've just started tracking bbt and tracked LH last month. I find it really interesting, so doing out of curiosity more than the TTC side of things. It helps with timings though so it's a bonus!

@idreamof2more how are you feeling in the TWW? Symptom spotting?

Hi ladies. This is almost laughable and almost a waste of your time to read but just wanted to share this with you. So took this first response today at 6/7 dpo based on cb static smile.
We only dtd second day of static.
I know it’s too early to test but I got this...
However I read it at about 3 minutes then it disappeared to almost invisible.. god knows what to think

Sorry posted too quick...never knew a line could vanish xx

I'm 5dpo and stupidly did a test this morning BFN, surprise surprise. Symptoms spotting like mad Not even sure if its worth doing another test or just and see if AF appears.
I really don't remember the other 2 being this difficult, although I was in my 20s then.
I think I may be becoming obsessive.......
Good Luck to anyone else waiting for BFP x

@Idreamof2more girl, why you testin'? V strange to get a disappearing line. Maybe something to do with LH?

@dob78 girl, why you testin', too? I would wait. I had a chemical last month which has totally put me off of testing early. I have strips to test when my app tells me too but not testing before af due date again!