Any mums in 40's ttc?

[timeforanother1]

Just that really!

I'm aware I'm in the 'older' bracket now but really want to soon start trying for another (have 1 already).

We have been thinking about it for a while now and have this time to see what happens. Theres only positives when we weigh everything up.

Planning on starting to try next month.

Anyone else?

@Tiletiletile1 Hopefully with some changes his count goes up enough to make it happen for you. We've not had any tests and I do wonder why we haven't conceived this time.

FeatherInTheBreeze thank you!

I only had the tests the nhs was willing to do, considering it’s secondary for me and my age etc. So blood tests at day 3 and 26 (If I’ve got those days right!) and then a scan to make sure no fibroids etc in the way. I wanted to know either way - even though we weren’t going to go for fertility treatment.

How long have you been TTC?

I’m trying ttc my third. 7 dpo xx

@Tiletiletile1 TTC for about 8 months after miscarriage at about 13 weeks earlier this year. Due to my age I don't think I would have any tests. I told myself I would stop TTC in a few months time.

Hi all, just wondered how everyone was doing this new year? I'm 41, TTC no. 2 for a while, one mc 18m ago, nothing since. Just having the blood tests now to see if there's any hope! I think I'd rather just know so that I can come to terms with never having a second child. I feel extremely fortunate to have my lovely dd , now 12. I'm a bit over the monthly rollercoaster. It's emotionally painful and keeps me in a kind of limbo. I hope you are all ok.

@Happysbno4 I just wanted to share my experience as what you said resonated with me - I turned 43 last week and am currently almost 14 weeks pregnant, but I have 19 mo twins which were born when I was 41 under very similar circumstances to you - placental abruption at 34 weeks resulting in a crash caesarean under GA (luckily I had been kept in hospital overnight for other reasons) and a huge blood loss. All three of us almost died, and
would have done if we hadn't happened to be in hospital. Immediately after they were born I already felt the urge for another do I questioned my consultant at length about the reasons for the PA and the likelihood of it happening again during my debrief, and he was very reassuring. The chances of another PA are only very slightly more than they are for a woman who has never had one (about 3%) and it's not age related - literally just one of those unlucky things. It's true that as this pregnancy progresses what happened plays on my mind more often, but my midwives have assured me that there's lots that can be done to keep an eye on things later on, e.g. Weekly monitoring and extra scans. They've also offered me a referral back to the perinatal mental health team who gave me treatment for PTSD should I require it. Hope this helps you 😊

Good luck to all of you - I've found being a new FTM in my forties an amazing experience (taking covid out of the equation at least)!

Hi all, af is here for me now.

I'm going to try using opk's this month so we have a better idea of my fertile window as this cycle was 28 days, my last was 21 I think or 22... anyway I want to try everything I can to conceive.

Worrying it's not going to happen for us now and I don't think I realised how much I'd love another until hoping for that bfp.

Good luck everyone x

@timeforanother1 I know what your mean - the trying for a baby has made me realise how much I'd love another one. I'm about the ovulate I think (using cheap opks) so will be in the two week window soon. Been here many times now! I'm taking my vitamins and not drinking. I always have hope which is both a blessing and a curse.

I'm so sad today. AF is starting and I feel like I am never going to have another. I'm 42 with 2 dc's from exh (15 & 18). DP has never had kids and has resigned himself to the fact it's not going to happen. He went through IVF with ex wife and it wasn't successful and it had a massive detrimental impact on her mental health (she's still v poorly 15 years on). Because if this he's not willing to try any interventions and I fully understand why. I just wish it would happen for us. Had mirena removed in April and nothing since. We have a great sex life and all round lovely life but I still feel a bit of a let down. Roll on next cycle ☹️

@courtrai it's so hard 😔 you are not alone in how you feel, there are so many of us for whom it would just mean everything. I try hard to focus on the nice life bit but I think we have to allow ourselves to be sad, esp when af arrives - that's always an especially sad day. I can feel v angry with my body. I wish I didn't get my hopes up every single month. I convince myself I'm pregnant every time 🙄

Hi all,

Can I join? I'm a month away from turning 38 and my partner (43) and I are casually ttc. I have 3 children from a previous relationship. Up until the end of last year we were adamant my baby days were well and truly over and have even planned to enjoy some adult holidays and concentrate on my career... then we had a pregnancy "scare" …turns out my body was playing tricks on us but we were surprisingly gutted when my af arrived. So I've ditched the pill and we are just going to see what happens, if anything.

Wishing everyone all the best this year - hoping for lots of bfp's!!!

Hi everyone. I'm 43 and have been TTC for about 5 year now. Have endometriosis, surgery done in 2019 which removed tissue and identified a blocked tube. Also have fibroids. Looks like everything is against me!

I was pregnant with twins last year but MC at 11 weeks. I can't remember feeling as happy as I did when I first saw the positive line coming up on the test. We hadn't been trying as assumed it wouldn't happen. The MC bleeding dragged on for months and I had surgery to resolve it which helped.

We tried last month but with Christmas we didn't do our best, lol. This month we are though. I think it it doesn't happen by Summer we will make our peace with it all.

@FrankieChips @gnashalou of course

What are you both using to assist, if anything?

I'm now using opk's and taking conception vitamins.

If no luck this month I'll be getting preseed for next month.