Post Pill TTC – Party Harder

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Roll up, roll up, it’s time for a new thread for the ladies who are experiencing the highs and lows (mainly the lows…) of coming off the pill and TTC! Here you’ll find stories of delayed ovulation, crazy long follicular phases, crazy short follicular phases, light AFs, short luteal phases, long luteal phases, confusing temp charts and blindingly white OPKs, to name a few. This our 4th thread (I think!) and we've had a few ladies get their BFP recently which is so exciting! Join us, won’t you?

Welcome back:

@mintgreenlife
@juno231
@kay00
@sperr
@mrsmacmc
@chinchilly
@curcurbita
@tillybabs
@ams19
@moocher90
@trying4one
@flowerbudd
@pumpkineverything
@tatty1987
@mancmama39
@elsie2021
@danielle2012
@spencer22
@charwils
@ftm94
@lobster8
@musicaljojo

Apologies if I’ve forgotten anyone, please tag them!

I absolutely love chocolate wheatbix! I had it for breakfast today in fact 😋

@thehotelcalifornia im not too bad thank you. Got to have some tests done as all the pain is on one side so could be ectopic. Just waiting to find out next steps. But otherwise getting by 🙂

I'm super excited for all the testing coming up and have everything crossed for all of you xx

@AMS19 oh I think I I must have missed an update from you?! Hope all is OK? Xx

Same here @AMS19 - are things not progressing well??

@AMS19 hope you’re alright??
I’ve been missing for a few days as work has been manic this week! Hope everyone is alright xx

Thanks @MintGreenLife @Juno231 @Sperr don't worry you didn't miss anything, I was sat here quiet about it all following your journies and getting excited by your LH surges 😂😂 Hopefully all fine, they just get concerned if the cramping is all one sided. Because I'm been getting quite a bit on the side I ovulated ectopic would be the natural concern. But if that's the case so be it, I'll dust myself off and try again! If thr EPU don't resolve ill just book an early private scan. I'll be 6 weeks from Wednesday so can scan from then xx

@AMS19 well done you for being so positive, but hopefully there’s no cause for concern and everything is actually fine ☺️ Did they say what the next steps are? Surely they want to get you checked quite quickly? X

@ams19 sending you lots of love and hoping everything is perfectly fine xx

@AMS19 oh I'm glad it's not as bad as what my brain just jumped to! Fingers crossed all is well!

9DPO today, temp still pretty much the same although I slept awfully. RHR has jumped up but that could be because of the wine I had last night lol. Had a bit of a cry at bedtime too cause I felt so defeated already thinking this is another failed cycle. I think it was OH playing a Christmas song that got to me as I was thinking this will be yet another Christmas where I'm neither pregnant or with a baby...

@Juno231 hugs hope you're not feeling too low today.

I was really hoping to be pregnant by Christmas too, i'm 35 and feel my chances are slipping away. I think my family have given up on the hope they I will either a) get married or b) have a family, and there are always awkward comments about how a life without children is a good choice and how difficult it is having children anyway... meh.

@kay00 haha at least they're trying! My mum luckily says nothing about it but my dad asks regularly or drop hints about it. Even seeing my cousin and his OH + baby last Christmas they told me dad had spoken to them about why on earth I haven't had children yet and what am I waiting for...

I think what annoys me is that I wanted to start trying straight after we got married in 2017 but OH kept delaying and now it's not working it angers me how maybe it would have worked when I was a bit younger and that time is slipping away.

Speaking of which - I did an AMH test in June 2019 which showed borderline low egg reserves - maybe I should do one again to see if they've plummeted since? In case that helps me just decide to go for private fertility assessments rather than squander another 6 months waiting for an appointment with the NHS.

@Juno231@Kay00 your posts made me well up. Christmas always seems to further stir these emotions doesn't it, probably because all of the advertising is kids opening presents and nuclear families with 2.4. children. Not to mention seeing relatives who either ask outright or give you the 'lucky you no kids' line.

I had a mmc around Christmas and it was awful. I was 35 and never thought I would be able to get through a pregnancy. All I can say is the following December I gave birth a week before Xmas and cried for all the right reasons at festive songs of praise (not religious at all... just got me).

It WILL happen. Sending so much love Xx

@MancMama39 that's so sweet and thank you! Hoping it happens soon to all of us in here

@mancmama39 thank you xx I'm sorry to hear about your MMC, must sill make Christmas a difficult time. So lovely to hear you are able to celebrate your little one around that time

I'm CD13, Still getting EWCM and My cervix is high and open, but a little less soft than yesterday and day before. I'm getting negatives on OPK (just 13% today, down from 25% yesterday) so will keep testing to see if anything happens later today.

My temp dropped to a really low 35.84 today! so odd! I slept really well and felt quite warm, i'm even pretty sure my mouth had been shut haha. Maybe a one off? But my temps have been pretty low for a month or so now...

Thank you both, really hoping for some bfps before xmas on here, never thought I'd be so invested in other people's journeys but I'm checking every day for progress haha!

@AMS19 hope you're ok and get some answers soon. Could be a number of things that are just part and parcel of pregnancy but good to get checked over.

Anyone else STARVING at the minute?! All I want to do is hibernate and scoff.

@Juno231 @Kay00 sorry you're both feeling pretty low. As much as I'm looking forward to all the treats I'm going to have on my birthday next week, it's also in the back of my mind that I'll be turning 32 and most likely will now make it to 33 still not becoming a mum. Feels kind of crazy when you think about starting the journey at 31, and potentially still not having had a baby by 33, given that I've had no luck so far, and obviously takes another whole 9 months once actually pregnant.

@jun0231 my temp is still up too! It was 36.66 today, not feeling much though apart from still got sore nipples and boobs on the side are a bit sore.

@kay00 I'd just stick at DTD every other day just in case :) hopefully your OPKs get darker soon x

@MancMama39 yes I'm totally with you! I just want to eat all the foods, which is tricky, given my diet is very limited. I struggle to feel full these days! x

@MintGreenLife yay! I wonder about your temps each morning so I'm glad you're still going strong in the LP . I agree on the ages too btw. I wanted to start at 29, then 30, finally started at 31 (just) and now I'm only a few months from 33 lol. If nothing happens before my fertility appointment in May I'll be 34 at the earliest.

@MancMama39 I wanted to say that I can't stop eating at the moment but I forgot about lunch until 3pm so maybe I'm not quite as bad as I thought ha!

Hi again guys. I've been following along with the thread and trying to keep up with it!

I'm on CD32 currently and despite some spotting the other day AF has not appeared (currently waiting to see what my cycle is like post pill - had a withdrawal bleed straight after coming off, but this will be my first proper AF). Feeling crampy so I'm hopeful it will appear tomorrow...

We were going to wait for two clear cycles before TTC but I'm honestly feeling so desperate to start trying at the mo.

I'm sure you all understand. After so many years of trying to prevent pregancy it's now all I can think of. I think we will start trying this cycle, as soon as AF comes and goes... Nervous and excited, but I honestly don't think I can convince myself to wait another month!!

Hey everyone, I hope you don’t mind me joining in this chat. I’ve been reading through the thread and I’m really glad I found it. I came off the pill (Yasmin) 8 weeks ago exactly, had one withdrawal bleed 3 days after my final pill but nothing since... currently on CD56. I’m starting to become really worried as to why my period hasn’t come back yet - I’ve only been on the pill for 2.5 years and I had fairly normal periods before that. Does anyone have any tips to try and get my period to come back?! Me and my partner were going to TTC in Jan, however we want to just crack on now so finding the waiting game quite painful. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks x

@MintGreenLife @Juno231 @Kay00 @MancMama39

Evening ladies. Thanks so much for the messages. Went for my scan today and all was fine. The sac was in the right place and had a little yolk which is fab. Only measuring 4-5 weeks but so far so good. It was the smallest little blob. For something so small it does really make me feel pretty rubbish 😂😂

Hopefully this month you all come join me with the feeling crappy and constant worrying!

Oh ladies, sounds like we’re all struggling a bit at the moment. I think it’s the time of year that really doesn’t help like you say! I was in Home Bargains earlier (dream way to spend a day off…) and I swear everywhere I looked people had tiny babies and I was just like OMG why is it so easy for everyone else!? I know that’s not the case and we don’t know how long its taking people but why aren’t any of us girlies getting so lucky!? Grrrr! ANYWAY. I really need to snap out of this negative mindset so I might try writing down some positive things later and reasons to be happy, sounds a bit cheesy but writing stuff down really helps me. My temp dropped again this morning which upset me and I spent so long Googling it ☹ it’s dropped to 36.32, I took it half an hour earlier at 4.30 which may have affected it but I haven’t been adjusting it this cycle as I’ve only ever been 30 mins out so I’ve just left it. The BBT adjuster says 36.38 which is still low. Anyone have any thoughts/words of comfort? Obviously dreading my LP being short again but trying not to focus on it :( No symptoms or anything to report today.

Also I’m 33 too! I find it really interesting how most of us in this group (I think?) are in our thirties and have all been on the pill a long time and experiencing very similar journeys. Honestly it’s so nice to know I’m not alone.

@Ams19 I’m keeping everything crossed for you and sending the most positive thoughts xxx

@Juno231 Hope you’re feeling better today, hate the thought of you getting upset at bedtime. Please feel free to PM me any time you want or post on this thread if you need support!

@mancmama39 such sweet words! I know they were for the other ladies but thank you from me too!

@mintgreenlife did you make a decision on your birthday takeaway!? I’m very invested. I don’t eat meat and hubby is mostly vegan, can recommend the Pizza Hut Pepperphoni with vegan cheese but don’t know if they do GF annoyingly!

@lauraT94 welcome back! Fingers crossed AF comes for you in the next few days that’ll be a fab post-pill cycle! And yes 100% know what you mean, as soon as I came off the pill I became obsessed with it, after doing everything I could to prevent it since I was 17!!

Hey everyone, newbie here! Just read a lot of this thread and although I've been posting on other threads I feel like maybe some of you are closer to the stage I'm at and can relate.

Came off the pill this month and had withdrawal bleed 5 days later and now getting a bit obsessed about TTC right from the off 🙈

I've been temping and charting and Femometer seems to think I OV'd on CD7 after my withdrawal bleed. I had stretchy EWCM and pains, and a temp rise as you can see. I tested with OPKs and highest I got was 0.71 low around CD6, but maybe I missed a very quick peak as I wasn't paying much attention that early on in my cycle.

At what point would FF show it's crosshairs?

According to Femometer I'm 7DPO and well into my 2WW but would mean only 3 weeks between withdrawal bleed and AF.

Based on an average cycle I'd be OVing today but all 0s on OPKs and no clear CM or any other signs. Temperature appears to be staying high?

What do you guys think and when would you test?! It's my 30th birthday on Dec 4th so definitely need to test before then so I know whether I can have a drink 😂 But Femometer tells me I should test next weekend! 😬

Summary: This is all so confusing isn't it! And I can see a lot of you have been having your own confusions and dilemmas!

Thanks @TheHotelCalifornia xx