TTC November Bus

[Bmeggar]

Hi loves,
I'm out of the game for the Oct bus so I thought I'd kick off November bus early so people can join if AF rears her ugly head.
Brief summary of me - TTC since Jan, mc in Sept, just finished first period after d&c and ready to get pregnant already!
I've got a 4yr old ds and really hoped to be pregnant right now so pretty fed up with the whole process but trying to keep positive. IT WILL HAPPEN.
Sending baby dust to everyone! Summer babes for us all round

I’m only using opk for now too @SRyellow more for the data of what my levels do normally. Heehaw appears to be the answer so far.

@gracie2307 I miss coffee lol. Within the last few hours I’ve had very minor lower cramping but otherwise 0 symptoms! Have you had any symptoms? I have told myself I won’t test but let’s see how long that lasts! x

@NamechangeTTC thank you, how are you feeling? x

Same! I've had cramping on and off for the past few days. I sometimes get PMS cramps like 2 days before AF is due but this has been earlier and feels different. Had headaches a couple of days but they have lifted. Lol I'm worse than a kid at Christmas when it comes to testing, I get all excited at first then just annoyed when I get negatives. You'd think I be used to it now (5th cycle) but nope lol 🙈 xx

Good luck ladies with your 2WW 🙏 xxx

Crampy Wednesday and yesterday. 7dpo now. Sore boobs but had that last cycle.

Huge congratulations @Ells19962000!!! That's fantastic news xxx
Thank you for sharing your symptoms in the lead up to your BFP
I am I think 10 or 11 dpo now and I was certain I was pregnant, I just feel pregnant as crazy as that sounds! I'm nearly certain I had implantation pains all day Monday so I
and had thought I got a faint bfp yesterday but I'm now left so deflated after getting a bfn today. Reading that you got a bfn on 10 and 12 dpo though gives me a little hope!

This 2ww is so so hard I had no idea how crazy it can send you!! 😔
Due my AF on Sunday and I'm just counting down the days just so I know either way

I think i may be off on my dpo, if I got a very dark opk (much darker than control line) on Sunday morning 1st this month, would that mean I ovulated on the Sunday or on the Monday? X

@gracie2307 @Sunflowers81 @MgW1 thanks ladies! Xx Spoke to my doctor tonight and he said it sounds like a miscarriage. He advised to take a pregnancy test to confirm there was no HCG in my system which I took and nothing. Will try once more in the morning. I had the worst abdominal pain today, which like the clot is not normal for me. Luckily I was WFH and just crawled in bed crying. I couldn't stop thinking something was wrong with me and now that I finally decided to have a baby, my body isn't working. Hubby was very good, gave me all the hugs and kept saying nothing happens before it's time. He then proceeded to list all the times we were frustrated when something didn't work out in the past but bigger and better things were always in store for us. So I just have to hold on to that sentiment and believe a viable pregnancy is on the way. It's crazy to think in the 5 months we've been trying, I've had 2 suspected early miscarriages and 1 confirmed 😱😢 Sperm seems to meet egg but implantation seems to be an issue. Will definitely get tests done if we're not pregnant by the end of the year. X

@Sunflowers81 sorry you've also had a rough day. As my hubby says, nothing happens before it's time. Your forever home is right around the corner and it will be so much better than this one. Keeping everything crossed for you. Xx

Oh @SunnydazeQ I’m so sorry you’ve had such a rough day, you poor thing. Sending you lots of hugs and chocolate. I hope you are all cosy now.
Your DH sounds very wise. Xx

@Sunflowers81 Thats such a shame about your house, I'm so sorry 😞 there will be something better that comes up soon. Its such an odd time at the moment with the housing market but with the stamp duty cut, people are moving more now so fingers crossed there will be something perfect for you again soon xxx

Thank you @cienga!!❤
I officially had my first bfp at 13dpo if I ovulated when I thought! But I could be less if I ovulated slightly later.
Funnily enough, I took the ultra sensitive clear blue which is 10 in sensitivity. But next day (today) I took a difference brand and I got a veryyyy faint squinted and I got a not pregnant on clear blue digital. I was gutted but then I realised th tests I took after were 25 sensitivity so my HCG hormone isnt high enough yet. I do think I impmated late.

Lower stomach has weird pulling and twinges, bit weird tbh, and I'm 3 days kate for AF. I know im pregnant, but I have to wait for HCG to increase. Ordered more tests so will check in next few days! Worried though I'll lose the pregnancy but trying to stay positive

Ah no 😔 sorry to hear that xx
When I went through a miscarriage i read an interesting article, i dont know how to share it to you so just google :
'Can a miscarriage mess up your fertility' it.should be first article that comes up.
Its an interesting read. You may have to give yourself some time , it sounds like you have been through a lot xxxx

Thank you @gracie2307 ❤️ Hopefully there will be something better for us.

@Ells19962000 I think everything is going to be just fine for you ☺️. Xx

@SunnydazeQ sorry to hear about your day, such a tough time. Dh is right though, it will happen ❤️

@gracie2307 my cramps have got a bit more noticeable tonight but not painful just achy, really hoping not AF but I’ve only had my opk peak Saturday so surely it can’t be 🤞

@Cienega I think they say you ovulate with 24 -36 hours of the peak

@SunnydazeQ I'm so sorry hun. Thats absolutely horrible. Sending you lots of hugs. Did the doctors say if they are able to look into things further? Make sure you take it easy and get plenty of rest. Take care of yourself xxx

@Sunflowers81 I'm so sorry to hear about this, you will have your rainbow soon!

@Ells19962000 I dont quite understand the sensitivity. So the lower the better for early testing 10? Or higher 25

@Markygirl1995 yes, so when you buy a test, it will tell you the sensitivity. For example the clear blue ultra tests are 10. But the normal clear blue and digital ones are 25. So you could get a negative and postive on different tests if its early on and your HCG hasnt had time to increase.
FRER test (first response) are very sensitive like 6-10 too so they're good. Plus they're pink dye so less trouble spotting an evap line

@SunnydazeQ whoops sorry! It was meant to be for @MgW1 🙈

@gracie2307 I'm doing grand, still sore boobs but again that's normal for me. Had some ov type pains but not as much as normal so maybe it is the proceive helping the pains at least 😁 I don't test unless I'm late xx

@SunnydazeQ I'm so sorry. Take it easy, you deserve a rest and I'm sure everything will work out soon xx

@SunnydazeQ I'm sorry to hear all you're going through but try and keep positive. Your egg and sperm are meeting and starting something! That is a great sign. My hubby and I are banging away with very little happening at all and I actually took comfort in my mc as it at least showed something was happening. Mc risk increases with age but that's not to say you won't get a sticky bean soon or that anything is the matter.
For peace of mind, you can't always start the testing process now. It's not quick. First you need bloods done 7days b4 your period. That checks progesterone levels and makes sure they're high enough to sustain a pregnancy. If they're not, they can give you something to help. Then they'll give you a scan, the wait for which was 2months for me on NHS. Then finally it was hubby's sperm analysis that was a 3months wait. It might be different in your area but we had to have done these tests ahead of being referred to the fertility clinic which likely has another 3-6month wait. So starting the process might help put your mind to rest - it certainly gave me a bit of distraction!
In the meantime there's lots of stuff you can do to boost egg and sperm quality. And my sister has a fertility doctor friend who told her that people underestimate how huge the impact of stress is on ttc. So we all need to be super zen and just trust the process - this WILL happen, we WILL get our babies. Even if we have to get a little help from the docs. The chances of never conceiving are small. Positive mental attitude. Sending hugs xxx

@SunnydazeQ *you could start the process that was supposed to say. Not can't! 🤦🏼‍♀️

So my app doesn't know if it's coming or going today! 🤦🏼‍♀️ I've been temping this month as I read that this plus opks was the most accurate way to identify ovulation....only I ran out of opks at what I thought was the day before ovulation, plus my temps at the beginning of the month were inaccurate as I had to keep getting out of bed before taking my temperature.
Sooooo...at first my app decided I ovulated 3 days later than I'd thought, and today it's just updated again and reckons I ovulated 9days later! Either way I'm certain I'm out of the game for this month (if it WAS 9days later then we'd not had sex for a week before) but now I'm also entirely confused about ovulation date 🤪 I actually think I might not have ovulated at all. It's my first proper cycle post-mc. On a normal month, I'd be due my period tomorrow (I'm really regular) and I feel quite sick and crampy which are normal AF symptoms for me. Did a pregnancy test (or 5 🤦🏼‍♀️) and bfn. Even if ovulation was 3 days later, I'd still get a positive by now. So I'm just keen to get my period and start the SMEP now. I think I'll carry on temping/opks next month, just for shits and giggles, but essentially just going to have sex all month! Lucky hubby...x

@Dogmum13
Was the evening primrose comment for me ?! Yes i am taking it , so what happens 🤞🏻 prob wont do anything but no harm in trying!!! X

@bmeggar that's so sweet thanks for your message.
Hopefully we're out the other side now and just need to give it some time. DH is doing well but not in a place to think about it right now and wants to use protection at the moment. He'll let me know when he's ready I'm sure. The doctors just said get on with life but reduce stress where you can, so that's what he's doing. It's out of my hands basically. The doctor told me not to worry about my age but the thing that always worries me is that my mum and her mum started menopause symptoms around 38 so that's why I'm worried about time. Good news is that my blood test for progesterone came back fine and shows I'm ovulating so that gives me hope. I guess if I'm meant to be an older parent then I'll take it. It might sound strange but I also look further ahead too knowing that if I became a grandparent one day, I will probably have even less time with my grandchildren as my kids will probably have their children later too, it's the world we live in now though. It would be nice to have a sibling for my boy I know he'd make a good older brother.

Aww that must be so torturous having your little one asking for a sibling. Adds to the pressure!
Why is it so difficult for us women to have what I would consider a normal family life?? Years ago Women seemed to just pop kids out in large numbers and usually by a young age. Now it's such a struggle for women to have that.
I really appreciate your support and positivity and I wish for your dream to come true soon too. I hope you are ok and you get your BFP this cycle 🤞🏼. When are you due AF? xxx