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[MummyToPrince]

Heey ladies :-)
@RBCoxie
@Supermathsdoc
@robodo
@BellaBella84
@BettyM90

@RBCoxie I really do hope you are ok ... I still have terrible sickness and I worry everyday xx

@MummyToPrince I'm struggling to be honest - it does get lighter ever day, but it's still hard. I'm still bleeding very, very lightly although I had a negative pregnancy test yesterday so I know that the hormones are dropping in preparation for next cycle. I just don't know what to do about trying again. Do we try straight away or do we leave it until I've had my first real period like the EPU recommended?! I know people who have fallen pregnant straight away and been fine but I also don't want to increase my chance of a MC again.

Sorry, that's a total rant and not expecting anyone to have the answers to these questions - it's just so difficult.

Sorry to hear about your sickness! When is your next scan booked in? You're in the second trimester now which is such a positive thing - sending you all the positive vibes!! ❤️

@RBCoxie I've previously had a MC so I can understand the pain, frustration and the why me and what ifs ... To be honest I personally think its entirely up to you, and when you feel ready, they sdo say you are at higher risk of falling pregnant again after a mc ... Dont be sorry about ranting lovely. When you fee ready yo try again then go for it :-) we will be here for you x

@RBCoxie Thank you for the positive vibes .. I don't want to talk about menlovely it isn't fair on anyone else, I want to be there for you all x

@RBCoxie It took me a few weeks after the bleeding stopped before I could even think about trying again. Even longer before I found the right words to talk to my husband about it. There's no normal or right/wrong way to dealing with this. My only suggestion is, once you're both ready, don't avoid talking about it.

In the spirit of complete transparency, it was another couple of weeks before me and my husband could be intimate. And it was wierd! Fine now, but that first time was so awkward!

The miscarriage association and Tommy's websites were my go to for information.

Hang in there x x x

@RBCoxie I’m sorry to hear this, I won’t pretend to know exactly how you feel, but I’m wishing you strength and all the tools you need to work through this.

We are obviously here if it’s helpful, but also there’s no pressure to post. Take much care x

@MummyToPrince thank you so much - that's exactly it, why me, what if, could I have done something differently?! I don't want to put you in any awkward situation but from my perspective, please don't feel like you can't talk about yourself on here - it's been such a fabulous group for support and if you need it - go for it!

@BellaBella36 I've found the miscarriage association website unbelievably useful too - it was reading the other stories that I was like 'yes that's me!' and it really helped me. Thank you for your honesty - it's helpful to know how others are feeling who have gone through it as well.

@Supermathsdoc thank you so much. I've caught up on the messages - keeping everything crossed for you for the surgery! Are you in your TWW now?

Let's hope 2021 gets better for us all! Today was the first day of no blood in the morning, so I'm keeping everything crossed that it's finished now. We've decided we're going to start trying straight away so I'm back to tracking with OPKs and waiting for my peak. If this was a normal cycle my peak would be around Sunday so I think it'll be slightly later, maybe next week, but who knows!

@RBCoxie so many things go through your mind but please please remember it wasn't your fault. I feel awful and feel like I would be rubbing it in people faces, I'd rather just be here and help you girlie's out lovely ... You are strong and I'm looking forward to your journey x

@MummyToPrince thank you - let's hope that this 'extra fertility' that everyone keeps talking about is a real thing! I totally understand and respect that - just please know that I am just as happy for you as I was at the very beginning! 😊 x

Morning everyone, hope you’re all well and it’s the start of a restful weekend for you,

I’m 12DPO today, almost tested this morning but I wanted a weekend without more negative information to deal with...

Sadly my appointment for the saline scan was cancelled because of the covid pressures. Totally understandable, but I’m kicking myself as they offered me an earlier appointment that coincided with ovulation and I didn’t take it because I didn’t want to miss a cycle. I guess I was trying to put off having surgery unless I really really need it...

Is anyone else testing soon? x

@RBCoxie Thank you lovely :-)

@Supermathsdoc omg 12dpo how are you feeling ? Why does it feel like your cycles go really fast haha!! Dont beat yourself up about not taking the earlier appointment as you might have dwelled and the thoughts of what if I didn't and it was the right cycle might have flooded your brain ... When are you thinking on testing ?

@MummyToPrince I was thinking I probably won’t test now unless AF is actually late, the repeated cycles are getting tough for me so I’m just gonna assume I’m not pregnant!

I feel a bit like this polyp might represent an explanation for the time it’s taking (although I know it can also take up a year for healthy couples) and I think I won’t be very hopeful til it’s sorted...

It’s so kind of you to stay in this group, looks like we might need a new thread soon! Hopefully everyone’s had a lovely Saturday x

@Supermathsdoc sorry to hear your appointment was cancelled - I do think it's totally natural to want to put off surgery - you've got to be in the right mindset for it! As @MummyToPrince said, if you had gone for it, you may have been thinking what if after it too. Have they given you another date?

@RBCoxie yeah I think that’s a good way to look at it, there probably no ‘right’ thing in this situation and I have to keep thinking it will happen when the time is right for me. They havnt give me another date but I think they don’t know how long this madness will be for and also it has to be timed with my cycle....

13DPO today but feeling very ‘periody’ my temp is still high-ish (I’ve attached a pic). I’m thinking of testing tomorrow.... eek.

@MummyToPrince I also think it comes around quickly! Although not so much when I’m in the 2WW! My cycles are 27 days so I suppose that might explain it.... @

@Supermathsdoc Completely understand, its a shame covid is putting a hold on alot of investigations and appointments! I said I'd stay until everyone gets a bfp :-) ... Omg we sure will need a new thread soon! I have everything crossed for you lovely!

How is everyone on this lovely Sunday? We have just got back from a 14 mile bike ride i am shattered haha!

@MummyToPrince thanks so much! I think I should have just taken a test today as I’ve been thinking about it all day anyway. Let’s see what tomorrow brings .... x

BFN at 14DPO for me this morning unfortunately, hope someone else has better news! On to the next one.....

@Supermathsdoc I'm so sorry to hear that! Be kind to yourself today - sending you hugs and positive thoughts.

I'm day one of my 'fertile window' today - tbh I have no idea if that's accurate or not, I'm just going on the fact that I'm previous months it started 4 days after AF finished so as today is 4 days since my MC bleeding stopped, I'm going by that. I'm still using OPKs and hoping I get a peak at the end of this week, but let's see! Back to DTD as much as possible and pre-seed!

Might have found a flaw in my TTC plan... Team healthcare/education are bloody shattered at the moment! Like, asleep on the sofa by 8.30 🙄

@BellaBella36 I'm not surprised you're tired by 8:30pm! Working in healthcare and education must be exhausting at the best of times but now, I can't even imagine! Hope you're doing okay?

I'm on CD17 today, assuming CD1 was the first day of my MC and back to my trusty OPKs! They seem to be going up gradually this time as opposed to before when it would be nothing and then suddenly a peak 🤷‍♀️

I ended up having a peak on my OPK yesterday and think I'm ovulating today given the pain I have on my left side. No other symptoms like sensitive nipples/boobs as I had previously. We've DTD for the last 3 nights, going to tonight and tomorrow too just in case and then try to forget about it for the next two weeks!

I know I was a serial tester before and wanted to know as soon as possible before but now I've been through the MC I'm not sure I'd want to know early in case of a chemical!

Afternoon ladies :-) @RBCoxie Oooo fingers crossed for you lovely :-)

@Supermathsdoc how are you feeling ?

Hi everyone, it’s so nice to hear from you all!

I’m doing ok. I’m getting frustrated with the hospital as they’ve offered me a private scan for £800. I think it’s awful that they are providing private but not NHS care, surely the risks are the same?

I feel like I won’t make progress until this polyp is removed and am really torn about what to do. The costs will also potentially add up because I have to have 3 rounds of IUI before I would qualify for IVF. This would cost me about £4K. The scan also wouldn’t be the end of it, I would then probably have to pay privately for the removal.....

Anyway, @RBCoxie you continue to exhibit very high levels of stamina! Good on you for getting in so many attempts. @BellaBella36 it must be so exhausting, i wish I had some useful advice but everything I have typed seems useless!

@MummyToPrince how are you getting along? What’s your due date? I feel like you must be halfway...

@Supermathsdoc Omg that sounds so frustrating, I'm so sorry your having to go through all this, its a shame the NHS can't fix you and get you sorted ASAP! It amazes me how they come up with these big figures that ladies have to pay to become pregnant, its so wrong! Yet the system chucks money out to these teens that want to be bums and take drugs or drink!! Sorry I'm going off on one now it just infuriates me ... I'm 16 weeks, I had to have my GTT on Wednesday as I had gestational diabetes with my son, I get the results tomorrow for that, and in 3 weeks we find out the gender :-)

@MummyToPrince was wondering if I could pick your brains lovely? So I seem to remember when you got your BFP in October you has two OPK peaks? (Or have I totally made that up?). Basically I thought I had a peak (first picture shown) but it was weaker than my peaks in previous months. I've carried on testing and it hasn't properly gone back down to very low like it did in previous months (second picture shown) - my baseline is normally around 0.05-1 max! I know no one is going to be able to tell me categorically but just looking for opinions really - do you think it's possible I may peak again?

Very exciting about your next scan too! Hope your GTT test goes well too!

@Supermathsdoc it's absolutely awful how expensive these things are. I'm so sorry you're going through that. I wish I could give proper advice!