TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

[30somethingyorkie]

Thought I'd start this post as hoping there are some lovely ladies in a similar boat to me.

DH and I are now 8 months in TTC and no luck. We both really want it to happen though he does have a son already so not always as emotional about AFs arrival every month as I am.

I know it's early days still and some have to go a lot longer but I'm now starting to get to the worried/upset stage. Get pangs of sadness when I see a baby bump or something pregnancy related in the shops, on TV or online.

Would love to hear and support others who are in the same boat as me

@30somethingyorkie Sorry to hear you've been going through a tough time❤
Which OPKs did you use? Is there a chance you could have ovulated earlier do you think? Definitely not out yet 😊

Like clockwork 10dpo the usual pre AF spotting has started this morning! I know they say you're not out till AF arrives but its exactly the same every month, this doesn't feel any different. I'm feeling really OK though not going to work myself up as I have the last few months 😊

Forgot to add that my temp has gone up every so slightly today. I dont temp at home but I have to do it every day at work before we start the session and I'm always 36.2 but today it was 36.4 which I've just googled and isnt it supposed to dip when AF is arriving? Slightly confused

@30somethingyorkie i'm so sorry to hear about your parents! Is it mutual at least or just one being an ar*ehole?

Temp spiked today so 99% I ovulated yesterday seeing as I also had ovulation pain. I'm glad I'm temping though as I missed my peak OPK even though I was testing 3 times a day to catch it.

Got a call with my GP on Monday as I want to get the ball rolling on a fertility clinic referral and I wanted to challenge my TSH results. I had them done in July and was told they were normal at 3.1 but now that I've read up on it, everywhere says it should be below 2.5 for TTC and can really impact fertility plus increase risk of miscarriage if over. Apart from anything it says it needs to be below 3 once pregnant as it can cause foetal brain damage! I have a feeling I'll get fobbed off though...

Apologies if it was a repeat of info btw, I struggle to remember who I've told what!

@SparkyLauz It is but I guess there are a lot of factors that could contribute to a 0.2C rise by the time you have it checked at work.

Spent a good hour last night catching up on the thread and it's so nice to hear how supportive you have all been to each other!
AF arrived after I messaged last night (never had it that late in the day) so had a good cry and couldn't help but think after 9 cycles if I was one of those lucky ones it could of actually been the month I got to meet my little one. But onwards and upwards today, part of me thinks it's my body's way of holding off after have so much sh*t going on this year aside from covid.

@MJM1608 only done OPKs once a day around lunch time, maybe I will try again this month, my FW should be when I have a week off work so hoping I will be relaxed enough it might work this month!!
So glad this thread has helped you!! Everyone is so supportive!

@SparkyLauz just used ICs, maybe I'll try with something a bit more expensive this month, imagine if I could give DH a BFP test gift wrapped on Christmas Day!! It's the thing of movies!!!

@Juno231 it's reasonably amicable, they've decided they aren't happy together any more but my dad is certainly an a*rsehole. He's very coercive towards my mum and after years of me telling her she's eventually realised. It's not something any child should ever say but because I'm so close to my mum I'm happy she's going to able to live the life she deserves. My relationship with my Dad isn't the best so just worry how much more it will deteriorate

Sorry for such a long message!!!

Thanks MJM1608 I’m feeling pretty chilled. How are you? I bet you keep pinching yourself! Will you announce at Christmas?

Glad you're feeling ok despite AF being on her way SparkyLauz

Juno I’d be interested to hear how you get on with your GP. My TSH is wonky but I had such a battle to get treatment a few years ago that I gave up. It’s ridiculous that most people have to wait until their TSH hits 10 or more before getting treatment.

30somethingyorkie Sorry to hear about your parents, it must have been a shock regardless of any issues going on.

@CausingChaos2 a new cycle, a whole new month and it could happen for you, is what I tell myself when I begin again, the hope is there again.
@30somethingyorkie sorry to hear about your parents, mine broke up a few years ago in my early twenties and it was horrendous, I'm glad it's quite amicable for you as well as them.
@sparkylauz sorry to hear that, it's so crap. I hope your okay.
@Juno231 I hope your TWW passes quickly, it seems to take forever when your waiting.

@CausingChaos2 she called today randomly (and didn't even know we were scheduled for next week lol) and said the guidance on 2.5 is if you are already on levothyroxine and that she can't do anything. She kinda said the fertility clinic are the experts though and that they most likely will take action to lower it... Annoyingly I just moved two weeks ago so to get a fertility clinic referral I need to register locally and request it from the new gp.

@30somethingyorkie Sorry to hear AF arrived for you ☹Aww yes a BFP as a Christmas present would just make it the perfect Christmas wouldn't it. Let's hope its the next cycle eeeek!!

I'm still spotting today, was expecting AF today but its probably going to be tomorrow. If its any later than tomorrow then ile be testing on Sunday morning again I think. I woke up in the middle of the night last night with some awful cramping which has never happened before and couldn't get back to sleep as kep feeling really sick. Was very unusual and my temp is still higher too... my body playing tricks on me.

@30somethingyorkie so sorry to hear AF arrived!! Hope you’re ok & have a nice weekend planned ❤️ Really hope next month is the one for you 🙏🏻

@SparkyLauz nooo hope AF stays away for you!😞 hopefully it’s just spotting & not a heavy flow, we deserve some good news here!! 🤞🏼💖 your body does play tricks - it’s so unfair! I don’t really have any symptoms still if that gives you any hope!

@CausingChaos2 Glad you’re doing ok! 💜 We are still in shock - hopefully soon we will actually start believing it 😂💖 I’ve booked a 7 week scan for 3 weeks today. If you think the TWW is bad, wait until the wait for a scan 😂 time is going soooo slow! Only known for 5 days and it feels like forever!! My 13 week scan is 12th Jan so that’s when we will properly announce but hoping to tell our parents at Xmas all going well 🤞🏼 Thanks for asking, it’s very overwhelming!! Haven’t quite processed it yet! xxxxx

AF is here. Convinced myself the 2 days spotting was IB. AF hasn't gone into full swing yet but definitely getting heavier. Think we are going to enquire about some private initial fertility tests this week just to check all is OK, thinking we would rather know now than however many months more down the line xx

Really sorry to hear that @sparkylauz I think I'm just behind you I can feel mine coming now I'm aching down there and slight cramps.
Hope it's okay to ask as I have lost track, how many cycles are you now?

@SparkyLauz have a wine and some chocolate lovely 🤍✨ keep yourself occupied. I’ve taken a few days out, I’m usually so so positive but I don’t know what’s come over me the last few weeks. I feel like it never going to happen naturally, and on month 11, I’m resigning myself to the fact it may need to be further intervention 😩 ever get yourself into one of those moods? Hope you’re ok xx

@Lovebug06 how’s things for you? 🥰 hopefully it’s not AF!!! But I honestly feel you now. I feel like it’s never going to happen and I just can’t even feel optimistic now 😩 seeing the same alllll over my social media. I wish every pregnancy post came with a back story of how long!! Month 11 here and not feeling like it’s going to happen anytime soon. 🙁 xx

@MJM1608 how’s everything with you lovely? 🤍✨ so glad to have one positive out of this thread so far!!! Hope you’re not too stressed and enjoying every minute Xx

@30somethingyorkie sorry you’re feeling the way you do 😔 I know that feeling all too well. It seems we all put so much pressure on ourselves. I don’t care what anyone says, but stress doesn’t / or help!!!! It makes zero sods different to conceiving or not!! I hope our time comes soon. Really feel like we’ve been waiting too long and I struggle with DSS. He’s amazing but makes me just wish I was a mum you know.

Sorry if I’ve missed anyone, I took a few days off to try and chill (yet I can’t stop bloody thinking about it!!!) currently in my FW xxx

@SparkyLauz I'm so sorry :( is there anything you can do as a treat? Wine and chocolate at the very least I hope.

3DPO here but I feel pretty deflated already. Sort of just waiting for AF instead of wondering if this could be the month.

@Juno231 hope it’s your month!!🤍✨ we really need some more positivity on this thread. I’m really struggling this month too, I’m not even sure why. I guess as we get closer to the 12 month ttc mark I’m wondering if it really will ever happen or if we’ll just be unexplained infertility 😔 the stats online don’t suggest anything hopeful for me!!! Ughhh haha.

Fingers and toes crossed for you!!! How longs your cycle usually? I’m about 3 days from OV xxx

@Izzie94 thank you 😊. I agree, it's getting to the one year mark that makes me think I'm at the stage where it's clearly not going to happen naturally anymore. My cycles are regular but not THAT regular - FF tells me my average is 27 days but with a min /max of 24-27. With OD on CD16 I suspect AF will be here on CD29 - aka the 24th :)

I'll probably test next Sunday at 11dpo in that case!

Feeling much more positive today, new cycle new chance. We've not been DTD to any real schedule as don't want it to be too planned. So yesterday I said to my DH I was setting him a 30 sex challenge this month 😂 his response was a very happy smile followed by the realisation in his words that he's "getting old" 😂😂

@MJM1608 I can't even imagine waiting for a 7 week scan, TWW is bad enough, but you'll be able to see your little miracle

@SparkyLauz sorry to hear AF arrived, just try and see it as another new opportunity, this month could be your month 🤞🏻

@Izzie94 please don't give up hope, it will happen for all of us I'm sure! Sending lots af baby dust!! I won't say don't stress because I know how frustrating it is when you just want those two little lines!!
I know exactly what you mean with DSS, love him to bits but hurts so much that he's not my own (especially when his mum isn't exactly motherly). It's just not fair is it!?

@Juno231 you never know what might happen this month, but I know the feeling of not wanting to get your hopes us as you feel the inevitable will happen

@Izzie94 thank you 😊. I agree, it's getting to the one year mark that makes me think I'm at the stage where it's clearly not going to happen naturally anymore. My cycles are regular but not THAT regular - FF tells me my average is 27 days but with a min /max of 24-27. With OD on CD16 I suspect AF will be here on CD29 - aka the 24th.

I'll probably test on Sunday at 11DPO in that case!

@Lovebug06 I'm starting cycle 9 now, I've been trying for just over 7 months but my cycles are really short. My AF has arrived but literally will last 2 days, not sure if this is a reason why I'm not pg yet tbh.

@Izzie94 Thanks, aww yeah I was in that frame of mind last month when AF I just couldn't stop crying either. You've had all your fertility checks and they came back fine?! surely its going to happen for you any day now❤

@juno231 Thanks, and yeah I treat myself to a few homemade mojitos last night which I rather enjoyed haha!

@30somethingyorkie thanks xx

Surprisingly iv not shed a tear this month! I think I'd already sort of geared myself up for AF so it was less of a disappointment.

@SparkyLauz aw hun I’m so sorry 😞 hope you’re ok!! We are really pleased we had fertility checks as it gave us peace of mind we were doing everything right & everything was ok. Paid about £550, if you have any questions please ask ❤️

@Izzie94 thanks for checking in lovely!! Still no wild symptoms! Constant hunger/growling tummy and a bit of insomnia but nothing to cause concern! We still can’t believe it! 3 weeks until our first scan - honestly time is going soooo slow!!! Way worse than the TWW 😭😂 how are you doing? Hope you’re hanging in there! Deffo try the pre seed again this month! Hope that your positive is coming this month!! 🧡✨

@Juno231 sending positive vibes to you this month!! 🙏🏻💜

@30somethingyorkie glad you’re feeling positive & have re-joined the thread, all the support is here if you need it 😊 glad you’re looking more forward to DTD! I didn’t obsess over OPKs this month & it happened to work just DTD every day when I had EWCM. Hopefully good news before Xmas 🤞🏼🥰

Sorry everyone is feeling a bit flat - sending you all love!! Keep going ✨ xxx

@sparkylauz wow that sounds like me. I have short cycles and 2 day periods. I had tried not to think much of it as my periods came regulary and had come straight back after coming off the pill so I thought that was good. Maybe it's why I'm having trouble then?
@Izzie94 @Juno231 I'm just behind you both and feel the same. Feel so deflated getting near the year mark. I know it can be normal but when you hear constantly about accidents and people getting pregannt really quickly I can't help but worry there's something wrong. Especially as dh has dc. I kind of want to go and get tests to find out but then I feel reluctant at the same time but I don't know why. I guess it's just as i don't want it to have to get to that.
@MJM1608 I'm truly so over the moon for you.
@30somethingyorkie @Izzie94
I feel the same regarding sdcs. I love them they're such great kids but I'm finding it difficult because I see how much dh loves them (that amazing love a parent has for their child) and I want that so badly myself and it just isn't happening which gets me down. I do so much with them but nothing changes that they aren't mine. Maybe that sounds bad I'm not sure how to explain

@30somethingyorkie @Izzie94 think I explained that last bit badly. I love sdcs very much, but they have their own mum of course and I just want to feel that bond/love for myself that I see dh have with them.

How is everyone? I'm 5DPO and the first half of TWW has flown by. Now for the suuuuuper slow part lol as I'll struggle not to test. I really, really want to hold off until 11DPO at the earliest this time but I have never been able to exercise such discipline in the past!

Maybe I'll do that thing where I get OH to take care of the tests until it's time?

@MJM1608 Thankyou im fine. 😊I will do! You're positivity is really helping on here, thanks for sticking with us! X

Lovebug06 how long have you been off the pill for? And do you spot for a few days before and after a proper flow? X

After looking back, i've realised my cycles are gradually getting longer, they started at 23 /24 days in may/june/july now theyre 27/28 days so I think its my body going back to normal after being on the pill for so long. I've had a regular AF every month since coming off the pill but has always been on the short side. This has been my longest cycle yet, So fingers crossed that in the next few months it will be BFP for me as the cycle lengthens more? So after figuring this out I've decided not to go for investigations until maybe after Christmas x