Tits out, chin up and ❤️ yourself - TTC Bus 19

[Juno231]

Come join us on our TTC journeys - all you need is a sense of humour!

Bus history:
June - 24 BFPs
July - 11 BFPs
August - 18 BFPs
September - 4 BFPs

October BFPs so far:
@blackcurrantqueen - Oct 5th
@mrsbear1122 - Oct 12th
@savethechubbyunicorns - Oct 13th

Testing dates:
@adogisforlife - October 17th
@pebblesinthesand - October 17th
@mosherchick - October 18th
@Vil10 - October 21st
@ladybird345 - October 22nd
@lucyrp - October 22nd
@Franklydear - October 25th
@Kay00 - October 25th
@Juno231 - October 26th
@dsr87 - October 28th
@clairey844 - October 30th
@notyetamumbuttrying - October 31st
@katao - November 1st
@2020mission - November 2nd
@nestinginNL - November 18th
@Hopeful110 - November 22nd

@2alreadywantanother you have had such a rough few weeks 💕 hope once the tooth is all sorted everything else all slots into place and you get another BFP 🤞🏻🍀
I'm trying to be more "zen" about life in general and trying to believe that absolutely everything happens exactly when it meant to not when we want it to.... I'll be honest, I'm failing miserably and I'm elbow deep in a bag of onion rings but I'm telling myself it's exactly what I'm meant to be doing (more lies, I'm meant to be making dinner) 🤷🏻‍♀️

@gem176 just after a bag of crisps myself lol
Yeah I'm like that. What's for ya wont pass ya. And I know as hard as the mmc was it brought us closer together even tho I didn't think that was possible. Hes so good to me and such a brilliant dad, I know I'm already blessed with what I do have.

@2alreadywantanother he sounds absolutely lovely just like yourself 😊 fab attitude to have. Like you I know I'm blessed with what I have but just feel I'm not done with one.

I hear ya @gem176 theres deffo 1 more in me 🥰

Time for something a little more light hearted... anyone here who already have kids agree 😂😂

@Gem176 I have the contrary, my ds can hear every single sound I make, just as annoying though, and make no mistake, hearing it doesn’t make him do it!

@Franklydear My dd has very selective hearing, hears me opening chocolate from a mile away but can't hear me asking her to tidy her room from 3 foot away 🙈😂

@lucyrp I'm on my second month of the seven seas, didn't appear to affect my cycle either way last month but I'm pretty regular anyway, I know that isn't much help 😂😂

Marking my place here! Love keeping up with you all even though I don't post much now 🥰

I am now 14+6, still feel sick occasionally although it's easing which is a nice relief, finally back to eating most of the foods I went off in the first few weeks. I have a private gender scan on 9th November so not too long to go 💗💙

@Minster2012 On the subject of sex after BFP, we haven't done it at alllll since we conceived 🙈 I feel really bad on my OH but I've just felt so sick and generally cba, plus in the beginning the thought of something happening to the baby and me blaming that, even if I knew logically it wasn't anything to do with it, really bothered me. Sex is literally the last thing on my mind though at the moment! Me and OH have talked about the lack of it, and he understands, he's happy to wait until I feel ready (or maybe not so happy but doesn't show it 😂) which I'm hoping will be soon as it does feel weird being so long.

Right ladies I've done my wallowing & im back in the room) my cavernous vagina is now leaking blood & stuff (naiiiiiccccceee) & I have gin, DS in bed & gammon cooking. Plus a VERY nice bottle of red about to be opened (£18!!! 😱) I bought for the occasion of AF coming after IVF. Also cramping to fuck. Grrrrrr.

@Gem176 onion rings, bloody good choice.

@Ltay2 that's a long time that is, not gonna lie I'm hoping I might be confident a bit before then but if you've talked about it then that's good & Jesus if we feel shit on AF then god through your pregnancy if feeling shit I can only imagine! Bit like I said my DH was literally gagging after 10 days so I'm a bit worried but hey ho, not at that stage yet.

Hey @Joanna1009 welcome! Sorry for the slightly low tone! Probs my fault but one of the reasons is lot hang round together is our amazing support through thick n thin of TTC & life in general so welcome to our weird & wonderful bus 🚌❤️here's to hopefully providing that new guy with the child of his dreams 🥰

So ladies, not of fun then

What's your tipple of choice? /cocktail
Obviously I like me a gin. We know that, all flavours really EXCEPT VIOLET THATS HUST WRONG but weird fact for you, when I met DH at 29 I was teetotal after a horrendous experience at 26 left me in hospital. He found it weird coming from a family of big social drinkers & with a nana nicknamed "nanna sloe gin" bit he enjoyed being driven around by someone who still had a good time then drove. Until I met his family who then got me onto fruity cider then sloe gin & the test is history.

Oh and @Dsr87 you actually asked a TTC question from what I've read before I think it's pretty hard to tell much with Cm right after OV one way or the other though a few ppl say if you get really wet second week it's hopeful 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Minster2012 I can see you had gin by your spelling 🤣
I do white wine and dark fruit ciders, occasionally beer, but I am not much of a drinker, pretty happy with one or two, my mum will not allow alcohol in the house, at all, just a bit of cider in Xmas, one bottle that’s it.

OMG @Franklydear I've only had half the glass of gin so far?!! That's just my poor typing skills whilst trying to cook the gammon 😂🤣

My mum is a bit like that too she'll have one glass of fizz or rose that's is, she's pretty disapproving of my in laws & their very much weekend and social drinking which she sees as binge drinking. Mehhhhhhhh

Dark fruit cider, good choice! So you can do the non alcohol ones then in the future to hide it 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Minster2012 It is a long time I agree! Definitely longer than I anticipated waiting but all my fault for having a non existent sex drive 🙈 sure we will get back to it eventually 😬

@Minster2012 I'm a G&T sort of a gal too I'm currently nursing a seedlip and tonic trying to pretend it's a good as the real deal...but failing.

I'm in my first official TWW and dear lord I seem to have entered some sort of time warp where time has slowed to a crawl!! Maybe some actual Gin would help...but I'll be good for now!

@Hrps I don’t mind the gin, is the tonic I find repulsive, what else can you mix it with?

As predicted AF arrived in full force this morning so wine and chocolate are definitely on the shopping list today @Mosherchick. Sorry to hear that you're also out for this month.

I've actually found myself in a remarkably good mood considering "That Bitch Flo" is here and decided this morning that instead of feeling sorry for myself I wanted to remind myself of 5 things I'm greatful for so I thought I'd share them with you guys since they're helping keep me smiling today.
1)My beautiful daughter
2)My wonderful husband
3)My lovely best friend
4)My fitness (I'm more than a bit obsessed with running)
5) My body confidence (finally managing to consistently maintain 3stone weight loss for the first time in my adult life)

Everytime I start feeling down I count off my 5 things. It might not help for long but right now it is.
Saying that I am in the bath eating chocolate ice cream but we all need a bit of that sometimes 😁

@blackcurrentqueen I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Hope you've got people at home who can look after you.

@KateColx I didn't have spotting as such but I had a bleed during the second trimester and went to the maternity assessment unit at my hospital to get checked out. Could you speak to your midwife or EPU? There might be a simple and harmless reason for it. There was with me.

To all those who've mentioned pregnancy loss and how strange it is that we don't share until after 12 weeks, this is why I talk to my best friend about TTC and will tell her straight away when I do get pregnant. I know I'd need someone separate from my husband, who would understandably be grieving himself, to talk things through with if something went wrong. @2alreadywantanother that's so true and a good way of thinking about it about not being able to share the happy news first if you wait to tell those closest to you.

Evening all and happy Friday!!

Nice to hear from a few of the fledglings, glad to hear you're pregnancies are going well-it's kinda reassuring to read that it can (and I'm sure will) happen eventually for all of us.

Warning-miserable woe is me moan incoming...

Feeing a bit of a debby downer tonight; a colleague has just posted pics on social media of her newborn 'honeymoon' baby that she conceived straight after getting married followed immediately on my feed by a mum I met from baby group announcing her 2nd pregnancy and it just makes me feel so shit about myself and bitter (but then worse for feeing that way lol) that some people seem to decide to get pregnant and bang they're pregnant. I'm such a hypocrite because that's pretty much what happened with me, came off the pill and fell pregnant within a few months with my litte girl so I have no right to feel this way but I'm 17 months ish into trying for a second and just a mmc to show for it.
And even writing this I feel horrible for feeling this way because I am genuinely happy for them...I just want it so bad for myself.
I know you guys will understand and I'm not posting because I want sympathy, I just feel I need to let it out somewhere that people get the crazy mix of emotions that fill you when ttc for a while.

Anyway, enough of that-I really want to be positive and believe it will happen at the right time.

I'm not particularly religious or anything but a friend of a friend shared with me that her belief is that the baby chooses you to be their parents when the time is right and I love to think that's the case-somewhere and at some point that little soul will choose to join your family. I found it really reassuring to think that might be true although I know some people might think it's a bit weird.

@Missgoldilocks hope you are having the best time at the pool party, bet you are rocking it and look fab in your new swimwear 🥰

@Minster2012 I have come to the conclusion that you are wasted in whatever job you do because you should be a blogger or a comedian because I just love your sense of humour and I always enjoy reading your posts. Sometimes I read a post and scroll back knowing full well your name will be at the start because I am laughing to myself 😂😂

@blackcurrantqueen so sorry my lovely-it's just so unfair xx

@Skip86 only share if it will help you, and at a time you feel ready to-we're here for you anyway xx

@Juno231 I think we're cycle buddies this month, pretty sure I ovulated Tuesday eve or Wednesday although hoping to keep up with the regular BDing until AF shows as we tend to ease off after ovulation so my 'new thing' this month is to keep going until much closer to AF.

Sorry for the long post-you girls are such a help to me and I really wish us all lots of luck in the coming months xxx

@franklydear try a Gin and pink Lemonade, that or the quite leathal ginsecco even better with sloe gin! I'll stop now else I'll actually go and get one!

@Franklydear gin and juice 👍🏻

@Minster2012 im a bit of a drink slut, I'm not really faithful to any of them. I'll have fruity ciders, rose wine, vodka orange, gin cranberry, beer... whatever I'm in the mood for. However if I'm in the local cocktail bar then without fail it's a tutti frutti 😍😍😍 100 miles to said cocktail bar (I live in the arse end of nowhere but it's beautiful) so when AF arrives I'm doing the journey and getting 6 to go 🍹🍹🍹🍹🍹🍹

@Pebbleinthesand Damn, I was really hoping you would make it. Sorry to hear. Ice cream in the bath sounds lush! I'm currently stuffing my face with pickled onion crisps. Got myself a nice bottle of red for tomorrow too.

I know this is going to sound neurotic, but even though I'm now in full flow, I won't truly move on until I see a negative test. So I'm going to get that over with in the morning before I neck the bottle lol. It doesn't help that I'm getting nausea today that I didn't have yesterday.

Oooooo on a roll now @Hrps I quite like the seed lip g&t when I was up duffed in feb/mar though can't remember which one it was, I swear a lot of my problems with alcohol are psychological. Or just I'm a psycho. Or both. I also like the kopparberg alcohol free ciders though do feel I'm drinking a bucket of sugar but I guess when we drink we are downing a load of calories so mehhhhhh what's the difference 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️and sorry this won't help but have you tried a sloegasm? That's what us posho women twats drink at 11am on a shoot day of course (helps us aim our shotguns don't ya know 😂) which is sloe gin & Prosecco. But if you ain't posh like we actually ain't it's homemade sloe gin (gonna make some next week) with Aldi gin. Perfect.

@Pebbleinthesand I LOVE your idea. Maybe we should all do 5 things we are grateful for ❤️

1. my miracle son
2. my wonderful husband, my rock
3. my life- beating a terminal cancer diagnosis from dec 2014 UP YOURS CANCER
4. my AMAZING best friend who carried my amazing son & her whole family who are my family who made it happen by giving up over a year of their lives
5. my whole family who got me through when I nearly died - I wanted to die and only clung on to life because I knew I would let them down if I let go. I have a tattoo of a saying to commentate this on my wrist & I look at it in all the hard times to remind me there are ppl that care if I'm there or not. This extends to my husbands family, I'm very lucky 🥰❤️

@Clairey844 I'm giving you a huge fist pump. We feel you. In NO WAY are you a hypocrite and btw secondary infertility is a thing. As I said earlier, I kinda wanted to say something about our loss as a slight retaliation to all the announcements I see. "Hey yeah #stillnotpregnant" I've viewed 3 houses in the last 2 weeks and because they are 4 bedroom houses & in a certain bracket with a garden/field I guess the estate agent felt ok asking "so do you have kids?" I said yes, a 2 year old. And 2 out of 3 have then said "and any plans for more children?" Errrrrrrr WTAF???? Are you offering cos that would be a hell of a lot cheaper than our next round of IVF....shall we try this master bedroom out for size??? But sorry the problem is me???
I'm not sure I'm cut out for a comedian!! But thank you 😘but ps I'm loving the thought of you and @Juno231 comparing notes on which days to DTD to get the best from the month!

Gonna stop now, there's an £18 bottle of wine that hubby is fast demolishing 🙄

OMG @Gem176 you and I need to meet & have a drinks party ladddddiiiiiieeeeeee loving that!! Sounds AMAZING!! 🥂🍸🍹🍷🍾get em in

@minster2012 when it comes to cocktails I'll have anything rum or tequila based but my favourite is a negroni - yum! I usually just go for copious amounts of red wine though...

@Dsr87 rule of thumb is essentially that all post OD symptoms are progesterone driven and anything pre 6dpo won't really be pregnancy related as that's the earliest you can have implantation. It's all there just to mess with our heads essentially 😅

@Minster2012 you would be an awesome comedian and you already have a following
@Pebbleinthesand what a fab trend to start

1. My wonderful neurodiverse ds
2. My great dh
3. My brothers and brothers in law, where the in law bit is not necessary at all
4. All their wives, my beautiful sisters in law, all for one and one for all
5. My friends, other autistic mums mainly, there for me to have a moan, and also for practical help when the going gets tough

What are the bets that we all end up crying with this thing?