TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

[claireb7rg]

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Feel like I'm on cycle 3567 😂 It's been at least a couple of years, I've lost count. But, it has been an incredibly stressful two years for other reasons and I truly believe what you say, our time is the right time ❤️

Awhh I hear ya @selina37 took 3 years for me last time then happened twice within a few months (one mmc). Will happen when it’s right for sure! I hope things have settled down for you re stress! Life has a way of throwing so much at you all at once sometimes ... gotta just make lemonade (maybe add gin too) with those lemons!! 🍋

Hi @Overlyanxious it's my first month using them so not sure yet and hopefully not - my peak should be in two days

I think you might be on to something @Overlyanxious

I took EPO for EWCM and usually have my peak today.

CBFM - still high
CBD - low not even flashing like usual
Easy@home - last box I bought had some dud sticks in but not showing high either.
Ava bracelet - temp not rising

Gutted as first month have taken EPO and I think it's mucked up cycle

Hi ladies, well, I think I may be out this cycle. I made what I now see was the wrong decision to skip the OPKs this month. I thought that I might be more relaxed if I could just pee whenever I liked without worrying about timing and holding, and figured that we usually have regular enough sex and could just keep going until I saw a temp rise. Of course this would have to be the cycle in which my bbt is not giving me a clear picture, plus we've just missed two days of trying as monday I was feeling really unwell and had no interest in dtd, then last night my oh was so knackered from work I just couldn't wake him up! 🙄 I usually ov between days 13 and 16, now on day 17 and still not sure if I've ov'd (my app thinks I ov'd on day 13 as I did have a rise, but I think all my temps so far are still lower than they would usually be post-ov). I guess if I haven't ov'd yet then I might still be in with a chance if we try later today, but if so I will have missed the two days leading up to ov. Oh well, at least I'll be able to have a few drinks over xmas and avoid having to answer questions about why I'm not drinking! I won't make the mistake of skipping the opks again. I can understand how it might make some people more relaxed, but I'm too much of a control freak, I need to know exactly what's going on! 😂

@whatever1980 hopefully you will get your peak really soon - it may just be a day or 2 out. I know when reading about other supplements they can sometimes affect your cycle. Although sometimes I find my cycle does something weird for no reason.

@Kitekat81 fingers crossed you still have a chance this month. Perhaps you could still do opks but stop doing other monitoring like temps so that you still have control, but aren’t checking everything all the time. I’ve given up on temps as it was stressing me out too much

@Overlyanxious yeh you might be right, maybe I skipped the wrong thing! 😂 I've stuck with temping as I had a few anovulatory cycles earlier this year which really freaked me out, so I find it really reassuring to temp and see that rise every cycle to confirm ovulation. It also saves me a fortune on pregnancy tests, my temp usually starts to drop around 10/11dpo so I know by then not to keep my hopes up as af is on it's way 😣

@Kitekat81 ah yes I can see why you do temping. Last month I was pretty sure my af was coming and I did a test and the next time I went to the toilet there she was. I’m annoyed I wasted a test.

I’ve just had an internal ultrasound to check everything is looking ok inside. I wish they could have told me then and there whether I’m ok. How I have a week of pain waiting

I'm feeling like you @Kitekat81

I take soy to bring ovulation forward (worked in Oct and Nov) but at the same time been taking EPO which has pushed ovulation back. Couldn't make it up.

I usually get night sweats around period and ovulation (have for years)which I had thought meant I was peri-menopausal but doctor confirmed not. Not had that this month so it's obviously dealt with that - great but delayed ovulation. Not even sure whether it has given me much more ewcm either to be honest.

Thanks again everyone

I’m feeling a bit rubbish right now. My boss just announced her pregnancy to the team. I already knew - but I feel horrible being reminded. I’m really happy for her and she’s lovely, but when I was briefly pregnant in summer I had imagined me making that announcement. I wish I could just be happy for her and not feel unhappy

@whatever1980
I think EPO delayed my ovulation if i ovulated as well. Iv stopped taking it. Just taking the seven seas supplement and my husband is taking a mans pill and thats it xx

@Overlyanxious i know it's tough when other people announce it. Obviously you're delighted for them but it's an "ouch I wish that was me" moment and then (for me) will that ever be me again and it goes to the pit of my stomach.

I'm really private about this too so I only really mention it on here. I feel people I know would say "ha you should've started earlier you're not going to conceive now" I know they wouldn't reply but that's how I feel.

Anyway all we go (apart from not take EPO) is to stay positive

@MgW1 do you think EPO stopped you ovaulating?

@whatever1980
I dont know , I took it for 2 weeks. I had the ewcm on Cd20 and my cycle is 30 days normally. Will my Af be late? Have you tried Agnus Cactus? X

@whatever1980 yes it goes to the pit of my stomach. Yes, I also mainly raise it on here as just need to get it off my chest. I’ve also told my sister as she’s really understanding - but she’s one of these lucky people who got pregnant first time and with twins.

Fingers crossed you ovulate soon

@Overlyanxious I know how you feel. Some announcements are easier to deal with, but some others are so hard. When we started trying in April, I thought I would be pregnant by now (of course) and was already thinking about being on maternity leave, and which of my colleagues I would want to cover me at work when I was off. 8 months later and that very colleague announced that she was pregnant herself. So now I'll need to start thinking about how I'm going to find cover for her, rather than having her lined up to cover me. I found that one really hard to deal with as I felt like she was kind of part of my TTC plan (even though of course she had no idea about that!) The only way I managed to deal with it was thinking that if I also got pregnant quite soon, it would be great to have a friend who was due about the same time to go through the pregnancy and maternity leave experience with. However another cycle has passed and I'm still not pregnant, so that's looking less likely now 😢

@whatever1980 @MgW1 I was also taking EPO before I had my last anovulatory cycle, that and Pregnacare. I read online that both can delay ovulation, I have no idea if that's true but I stopped both immediately and so far 🤞 my cycles have been back on track. I take seven seas now (plus quite a long list of extra things...) and so far everything is going ok. It's funny that we choose between Pregnacare and seven seas like they are much the same thing, but if you look Pregnacare has way more ingredients, and in much higher quantities than Seven Seas, so it's a much stronger pill. I don't know what the right answer is. Maybe if your cycles are irregular then Pregnacare might help to make them more regular, but if they are already regular I wouldn't take anything which might mess with them 🤷‍♀️

@Kitekat81
Stopped pregnacare because they were making me way too constipated 🙈 it was just awful!!! I dont think all those ingredients are necessary. The seven seas seem to be suiting me well , no issues so far. I dont know if I should be taking anything else , im 37 and he hubby is 40 x

Epo delayed my ovulation too. I have no problems with pregnacare. I stopped it for a bit but restarted it and my cycles are much more stable on it. I took omega 3/dha this cycle to help with ewcm

Also tried conceive plus for the first time. Ovulation day is today so 2ww and fingers crossed for a xmas bfp!!!!

@MgW1 I actually can't quite believe how many things I take now, sometimes I wonder if I might be completely mad. I take seven seas, extra Vit D, extra methylfolate, ubiquinol, and omega3 fish oil. I've also just bought vit C and vit E to add to the mix 🙈 I just want to feel so badly like I'm doing something to help me get pregnant that I can't not take them. In fact all I really need to do is make sure we have plenty of sex at the right time in my cycle, which I think I've failed at this month by deciding not to use opks 😣 I've just turned 39 and my oh is 43 x

Ooh good luck @LT103! 🤞🤞🤞 x

I took epo and grapefruit juice for ewcm and I ovulated earlier this month by two days. Strange how things effect everyone so differently!

@LT103 welcome to the crazy 2ww 🤪 good luck! 🍀

@Kitekat81
Im feeling a bit down and sorry for myself! Last 2 months i definately didnt ovulate , its not out the ordinary following a late 1st trimester miscarriage. Anyway this month i feel i have scuppered my chances taking epo 😔 Af due saturday and I think I ovulated last weds .... got terrible cramps today! A gin and tonic is helping at the mo but will probably be balling later!!! The prospect of having another mechanical sex month 🙈 i just cant face it! Told my hubby we will just do it twice when i get ewcm - he has banned me from using the word mucus .... says its not v.sexy 🤣 xxx

@MgW1 you don't know for sure that the EPO made any difference, maybe a later ovulation this month is just your body still resetting itself after your mc? And a later ovulation is definitely better than no ovulation 😊 Did you manage to dtd much around last wed if you think that's when you think you ovulated? If you ovulated late then your af should be later as well (although nothing is predictable if your body is still resetting itself). How long is your luteal phase usually? Lol I haven't dared use the word mucus with my oh 🤣 he has very little interest in the science and tends to glaze over when I talk about hormones etc - he's only really interested in when my fertile window is (=lots of sex), when my period is due (=shop is closed 😂) and when he needs to be careful because I'm in a very sensitive mood or my boobs are sore 😄

@Kitekat81
Your absolutely right , better late than never....its a positive move in the right direction. Well i have been preg 3 times and its happened either 2nd or 3rd month of trying. 2nd month of trying with the latest that ended in miscarriage. We were only casually trying. Not used opks until now! Il see how I get on and try to think positively that things are getting there post mc.
Oh i know about shop open and shop closed! Opening hours will be reduced over xmas week as the shop keeper wants a few gins!!!! 🤣 xxx

Hi

@MgW1 not tried Agnus castus have you? What's it for? Before EPO I was all up for taking any supplement but now I think I may need to play it safe due to my age.

I tried pregnacare and was getting really bad headaches and I thought it was down to stress at work and was taking paracetamol everyday I didn't link it to the tablets but then looked them up on here and saw it was a side effect

Thanks for good luck messages same to everyone here too!