Post Pill TTC - Still Partying

[MintGreenLife]

No idea how we managed to smash through 1,000 messages (40% of them are probably me anyway, ha!) in such a short space of time, but a new thread is needed for the post pill TTC party, so here it is...

Tag anyone I've forgotten please, and new party-goers always welcome :)

@juno231
@kay00
@flowerkm
@pumpkineverything
@ams19
@sarahp2308
@cams50
@sperr
@moocher90
@lisalx

@MintGreenLife so sorry about the house. Positives are you cna now save up some extra cash, plus you won't have all the stress that the other one would have brought! And you are a chain free buyer which gives you a huge advantage going forward

@Juno231 yep that's right, EWCM from CD14 and OV on CD25. Here's hoping for a 'normal' ovulation day (before CD21!) this time.

Thanks, I don't feel too bad to be honest, which is probably a sign! Just got to crack on now and find something!

Chart looks good to me, but then I'm used to temps dropping from 6DPO. Keeping my fingers crossed for you xx

@AMS19 thanks :) that's true, although ideally we would like to find somewhere before we officially become chain free, but I'm sure the fact that we will technically be chain free when the purchase goes through should help! I'm going to hammer right move this evening and try to book DH in to see a few more this weekend!

@MintGreenLife brilliant, here's to hoping for a much more normal length cycle! Ah I know I'm overall lucky with my temps so far, this chart just won't win many prizes I fear. Relatively low yet up/down temps.

I just checked my luteal line (you can add that to the chart settings, it's like a cover line for the LP) and it's not been this low since July actually.

@Juno231 fingers crossed! Really hope my LP extends this cycle, if even just a day! Ohh that's interesting, I didn't know you could do that. Like you say though, take your own advice and don't worry too much what the lower temps may mean x

@AMS19 ha it's no coincidence that I run the RHR bus nowadays! www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4050675-Tracking-your-cycle-and-possible-BFP-using-RHR-part-4?pg=6

@MintGreenLife sorry to hear about the house, although it may be a blessing in disguise!

@Juno231 you've inspired me now - I'm putting on my fitbit 😂😂

My OPK today was a flat 0. So looks like the EWCM and ache on one side was a false alarm. If anything my OPKs have gone backwards from a very low point anyway!

@ChinChilly thanks, I think you may be right! x

@Tatty1987 yeah I really have no idea when to book a private scan for either 😬 I was thinking maybe somewhere between 7-8 weeks, but now I’m wondering about what you said and is later than that better!
I think I’m going to need to tell my mum at least before 8 weeks as I need to ask her about our family medical history as I feel like I’ll miss something 😂 so would be good to know before my booking appointment. As for everyone else, I think we’ll wait until 12 weeks as I don’t really know if anyone else will manage to keep it a secret! What about you?

Hi ladies, just catching up on the chat today.

@mintgreenlife sorry to hear about your house. Its good that you have a plan to sell your current property and hopefully that pits you in a good position when you find your new forever home x

Im so interested in how you get on with the Angus Castus ... if it helps bring forward your ovulation then im definitely trying ot next cycle. Im on CD31 and still no clear sign of ovulation. Its annoying having to wait so long for ovulation and extra disappointing when AF turns up. My body just feels so blooming slow at everything it does (which is funny because I am the opposite in my day to day life... I literally have no idea how to switch off and chill out 😆)

@juno231 your chart looks great! Here's hoping your temperature stays up now 😊

@ams19 what CD are you on now? I'm not a fan of OPKs as I never catch my positive!

Im on my second day of feeling sick 🤮 i hope I'm not one of those unlucky ladies who gets sickness from ovulation to AF 🙃

@Kay00 oh no! How long before you plan to test? CD9 for me, so not surprised they aren't peaking. Just given the EWCM and stitch on the right-side thought something might be happening. Plan to DTD as much as possible anyway just in case. Apps are predicting O day from Sunday through to Tuesday so will just max out as much as I can between now and then

Hey @SPENCER22 another one with late ovulation here too, you're not alone my love! Join us!!

@Elsie2021 I'm so sorry to hear you're in the same boat :( me and @MintGreenLife literally do know EXACTLY how you feel if it helps, it's just a really shit boat to be in!! Is it def AF now? I've just been researching agnus castus and vitamin B6 all evening as they are both linked to extending your luteal phase - @mintgreenlife is trying them so she may be able to give you some thoughts soon-ish! Hope you're doing okay and looking after yourself this evening, it's so rubbish isn't it :( x

Hi guys! Just catching up, hope everyone’s had a good day. It hasn’t been a great one for me – AF is 100% here and as if that wasn’t bad enough, I’m having the heaviest, most painful period I can actually ever remember! TMI alert but this morning I woke up, took BBT then went to the loo only to realise I’d leaked through my tampon in the night and obviously stood up without realising! Cue panicked run back to bed but thankfully I’d got up before leaking in the bed!

I was really shocked and quite upset though as never had that happen before while having my pill periods ☹ I’ve had painful cramps all day and just felt super blah. So just ordered some lovely super tampons, thanks a lot AF.

Anyway, apart from that I’m feeling slightly better after yesterday as I know I can’t keep feeling like this every month. I think it might help in a therapeutic kind of way to write out my positives and negatives from last cycle, and my plans for this cycle. I hope no-one minds!

Positives from last cycle

I ovulated! CD30 or 31. No OV detected last cycle so this is massive! Honestly seeing that peak OPK after months of stark white lines made me so bloody happy!
Cycle was 38 days! A LOT better than 108 (if you can even call that a cycle…)
I had a blood test and my hormone results were all fine which is great and has helped put my mind at ease (as much as it can when I’m v anxious anyway!)
We BD on the correct days so did all we could this month, and it never felt like a chore weyyy!
It was my first ‘real’ cycle off the pill, despite actually coming off end of May (which is depressing…)
I took my temperature every day and really enjoyed charting and inputting everything into my apps.
I started talking to you girls and it’s honestly helped me so much, both with stuff like information and advice but also just emotional support!
DH was wonderful when I got AF yesterday and has generally been brilliant throughout 😊

Negatives

I was absolutely convinced I was pregnant up until yesterday morning. Hey ho.
Because I wasn’t expecting AF to come any time close to when she did and I didn’t have any cramps, I was completely taken by surprise when I saw her. As a result I was extremely, extremely upset :(
I’m definitely preoccupied with TTC now buttttt I do think that’s because it’s been on my mind since the end of May when I came off the pill, if that makes sense.
I still feel really angry and frustrated that I didn’t come off the pill earlier and I keep kicking myself because of it and this needs to stop!
I keep freaking out that because family etc sort of know we were planning to TTC this year because we’ve moved house and have a spare room that I referred to as the nursery etc that everyone’s wondering why we haven’t announced anything. But this is all in my head and no-one actually cares haha which I need to remember!

Plan for this cycle

Continue taking BBT every day
Do OPKs again from day 10 or so
I’ve ordered agnus castus and am in 2 minds whether or not to try taking it, may research a bit more tomorrow. TBC!
BD as much as possible over fertile week! DH is very excited about this after watching half of the James and Carys TTC vlog with me yday hahahah
Plan some fun stuff (is that even possible in 2020) to try and take my mind off TTC on the 90% of days this month nothing TTC-related happens!!
Continue reminding myself that I’ve only just turned 33 and I’m actually not old at all.
If family etc does mention TTC, my new plan of action which has weirdly really helped calm me down is to just brush it off with something about my cycle being all over the place since coming off the pill and changing the subject!

Whew…extensive list! Can you tell I write for a living ha. I honestly feel better just writing it all out though :) Hope everyone's having a lovely evening x

@TheHotelCaliforniaim sorry you've had a shitty couple of days. Its great you have so many positives - in fact, your positives list was longer than your negatives 🙂 honestly TTC is such a long unknown but you are totally moving forward in the right direction. You've made so much progress already and every day that goes by is a day you are closer to your BFP! 33 definitely isn't young (i say this as someone who is a matter of weeks off 33) and although we all wish we had come off earlier, at least you didn't leave it any later. You're doing everything right now and that's all that matters xx

@thehotelcalifornia some great reflections there, and some really positive steps forward this cycle! It sounds like you have a good idea of what to do in your next cycle too 😊

And 33 is certainly not very old!! (I can day this because I was 33 for a whole year just two yeas ago 😆)

@PumpkinEverything we were thinking immediate family only at 7 weeks (after first private scan) and then everyone else at 12 weeks once I’ve told my work which I think will be mid December. I will also need to ask DP parents about medical history as I’m not sure on their side. When the midwife phoned me she asked me lots of questions already about this.
I don’t think we are far apart in weeks/ days so let me know how you get on

@Tatty1987 @PumpkinEverything
Are there quite a lot of medical history questions? How far do you have to go back? Maybe I'll get the answers now before I actually get pregnant so I'm not lying and say I need to for an annual health assessment with work....I really dont want to tell my parents for as long as possible as they are both so utterly desperate to have grandchildren I couldn't deal with their emotions as well as my own if something happens early on...

@AMS19 that’s a really good idea, when the hospital phoned me after my self referral she said the midwife appointment at 8 weeks is where they’ll take all the medical history but I got a phone call later that day going through everything for first line relatives. I knew all my side but not my partners. It was a long list of all sorts!

@TheHotelCalifornia sounds like some good positives and good plan of action!

My RHR shot up again last night, not sure what is going on I’m only 2DPO so I doubt it’s anything to be excited about & no alcohol since last weekend, but this is the highest its ever been so not sure what is going on there 🤔

@ChinChilly oh that is exciting!! I've put my fitbit on now @Juno231 inspired me 😂😂😂

@TheHotelCalifornia I loved reading your post and Im sorry to hear AF is giving you a rough time. You had so many amazing positives and lots of good things for your next! You've got this 💕

@ChinChilly Mine started to rise from 3DPO so 🤞🏻 I think it is common for it to rise in LP but it definitely was a big sign for me as it was the highest mine had been. I tried not to get excited but I had other little symptoms and i just had a feeling but i was to scared to admit them in case i sounded mad as they were literally text book, Id always say go with your gut, this time mine was right ☺️

I took mine off for a bit as mine started to lower and I was panicking 🙈 all ok so far though, got a 2-3 on a CB yesterday so taking a day at time here :)

Love checking in on you girls ☺️

@AMS19 I think it’s possibly to early for it to be anything, I think as @Flowerbudd said it may just be the post ovulation rise, keeping everything crossed though, getting slightly obsessed with checking it in the morning 😂😂 glad everything is going well for you @flowerbudd you must be so excited

@ChinChilly Thank you, very excited but it's such a worry, I didn't expect to feel so nervous lol slowly sinking in but feels very surreal :) xx

@Flowerbudd I can imagine its quite nerve wrecking, I think I’m going to be an anxious annie when I finally get a BFP!