TTC October 2020 Bus

[SarahMumof1DS]

Welcome all, current and new ladies TTC!
Let's keep each other positive on our journey to our BFP's! 🤗

Sorry to hear about people having a tough time. Cramps have started this evening so looks like I'm out this month, onto cycle 7 we dtd loads over fertile week so really thought we were in with a chance this month.

Hi everyone, first time poster, first cycle properly ttc for first baby. Apps showing it’s the first day in fertile window. Still a lot of acronyms and terminology I’m unfamiliar with as it’s all new to me. Let’s see how it goes...

Hi everyone my first post here but thought I would join yous as I'm in the TWW too. Been trying for just over a year.
Got 3 kids already but our oldest who's 12 is severely disabled and I'm 35 so hoping to conceive soon as dont want to risk falling pregnant in a few years time when there's more risk of down syndrome.

Hope yous are all well and get good news soon

@Bizawit thank you 😘 And sorry to hear of your loss too ☹️ I’ve managed to go a whole day without testing (!!) but decided I’m going to test with FMU on Wed 20th.... wish me luck!! When will you test again?

AF arrived 2 days early. To say I'm pissed off is an understatement as I have never had an early period in my life. Makes me now worried my cycles are starting to shorten.

I've had enough. DH and I aren't talking now. I said yesterday I don't want to keep trying anymore as it seems like I'm the only one who gets upset or cares about this. He was very chill and just said to happen when it happens. Needless to say I was upset and acted irrationally and had a bit of a wobbler and said there's no point us continuing as he clearly isn't bothered, only me. He said he will go private to get his fertility checked but in all honesty we can't afford it at the moment. I don't want to be an older parent-nothing wrong with them I just don't want to be-so I've explained my concerns around that and just feel so fed up.
The thought of sex now just makes me feel sick. I know that's an issue but im just so exhausted, I've forgotten what it's like to DTD while not trying.

So i came to the conclusion last night no more. It's not meant to be. The nhs aren't being very good re fertility but we can't exactly complain with covid going on, can't afford private. We're done, resigning to the fact that we can't have kids. No point stressing me out when DH doesn't seem too stressed.

@theawkwardblonde sorry to read that. It's so tough isn't it. How long have you been trying? How old are you?

@Merrz I'm 29, DH is 33. Haven't actually been using protection for 3 years but properly trying 13 months..this will be cycle 14 if we continued.

Morning @SunnydazeQ how are you? Thanks for your message. AF arrived late yesterday evening 😔 had a bit of a cry and woke up having accepted it is what it is. Its a shame as I felt different and thought it might actually happen but nevermind. My DH is an eternal optimist and is always like 'We always have next month' which god love him is a great trait to have so I'm hoping some of it will rub off on me!

How are you feeling? It sounds like you had a wonderful weekend! 😀 any good movie recommendations? I love a good movie on an autumn evening. Xxx

Hi @Theawkwardblonde, I just read your message and I am so sorry 😞 that really sucks. We are the same age and I get what you mean. It can feel so isolating when you are the one in the partnership who is exploring every avenue. I'm quite new to the forum and I don't have a lot of pearls of wisdom but I just wanted to reach out and say I am thinking of you. Xx

@Theawkwardblonde I'm really sorry to read your message. I just want you to know that I'm 36 and end of last year and beginning of this year I had a couple of cycles where they were 24 and 25 days in length and I started to panic as I've always pretty much been a 28 day person but actually when I looked back at my history of my period app even back in 2016 I had a 24 day cycle and some cycles it went up to 39 days! The reason I say this is because early this year I was panicking that my cycles were getting shorter but since February my cycles went back up to 27/28 days. You're going through a lot of stress and this can impact your body so please don't let that stress you out. I totally get not wanting to be an older mum as I didn't want to be either and I didn't get my first child until I was 34 and I still want another one. It was not my choice to be this age but I didn't meet my husband until I was 32. I totally get how you feel about that and you are not wrong to feel the way you do so please don't beat yourself up about that. Also my husband and I have had the same arguments about me caring more about ttc and I believe it's just men are wired differently and they also don't have the biological worry of time ticking away so it just doesn't occur to them how important it is to us. All I will say is communication and willing to understand each other's position was the one way we resolved our issue, I'm not saying it was easy.
It sounds like you and your OH need to take some time for each other, de-stress and find each other again. I've been at that point where I didn't want to go near my DH because he's pissed me off in a row about ttc and it's a horrible feeling and thought it was going to destroy our relationship.
So I just want you to know you're not alone. We're here if you need to vent more x

Sorry for my lengthy messages 🙈

@Theawkwardblonde

I’m so sorry to hear that. You have all the period hormones whizzing about now. Just focus on yourself. Treat yourself to something nice and when you are feeling calmer call the doctors and start demanding some support.
Don’t give up on your dream but find peace in yourself and the life you have. You can’t carry on feeling like this. Xxx

@MamaPheebz

Yes creamy but not thick and sticky. Almost watery. X

Thanks @MamaPheebz me too not too thick and not loads of it. I'm also peeing a lot lately and busting to go each time!

@Bmeggar so sorry to hear about your loss. It must be very tough for you. 😞

@Theawkwardblonde sorry to read your post, it must be very difficult right now for you and your partner. One thing to remember is that we can’t always plan our lives as life is unpredictable. We’re all guilty of sometimes creating these self imposed deadlines and by doing so we are actively making our lives more difficult. Be kinder to yourself

Morning ladies how's everyone today? I woke up feeling fine and for the past hour or so I have been feeling sick. I'm due my period on Wednesday not sure if it's too early to test?

[quote BuildingThings]@Bmeggar so sorry to hear about your loss. It must be very tough for you. 😞

@Theawkwardblonde sorry to read your post, it must be very difficult right now for you and your partner. One thing to remember is that we can’t always plan our lives as life is unpredictable. We’re all guilty of sometimes creating these self imposed deadlines and by doing so we are actively making our lives more difficult. Be kinder to yourself [/quote]
Thank you 🙏 xx

@Liloulou welcome! 😀
This is my very first cycle TTC for first baby too! I’m learning so much about my body. Have you bought ovulation test strips? They are super useful to confirm when your ovulation is. xx

We’re just experimenting this month, so we haven’t DTD everyday of my fertile window, just around when my ovulation was to ‘test’ the waters. Next cycle we will probably be more ‘religious’ about it.

Best of luck to you this month, exciting times ahead! xxx

@LisaLx if you have a first response test you can test now. I never felt nausea that early and I suffer with bad morning sickness but you never know. Everyone is different :)

@SarahMumof1DS the peeing more always starts For me a few days before my missed period. I have everything crossed for you. When will you do a test?

@Liloulou

Hi everyone, first time poster, first cycle properly ttc for first baby. Apps showing it’s the first day in fertile window. Still a lot of acronyms and terminology I’m unfamiliar with as it’s all new to me. Let’s see how it goes...

First time poster too, also trying to learn the acronyms lol! I've just had AF and about to embark on cycle 1 TTC first baby. So excited and nervous, but glad to see that others are on the same journey.

Good morning ladies,

13dpo and I finally got my BFP!!! I’m a little scared due to our chemical pregnancy last month but we are over the moon! Praying for sticky little bean ❤️

@kimberley94 amazing news! Congratulations 🥳 💕

Wishing you all the biggest amount of baby dust in the world❤️✨

@kimberley94 amazing congratulations!!

@SarahMumof1DS @MamaPheebz @BuildingThings thank you for the kind words. It's really hit me this month.

@gracie2307 your OH sounds like a lovely guy and it's important to be positive. Onwards and upwards xx Which cycle is this for you?

I love thrillers, suspense and horrors (but not gore). We watched I See You, The Invitation, The Haunting of Bly Manor, Silence, Unfriended Dark Wed. Also watched I Was Thinking About Ending Things but don't recommend it.

It's my fertile week from tomorrow so really looking forward to next week so I can start counting down TWW LOL crazy how we wish the time away. I decided to give up coffee from today so only doing decaff, fingers cross I last 🙈