October 2007 ~All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC of BFP after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

As we agreed - starting a fresh thread before our original shuts down. Will post this new link into the old thread so everybody can find us!

In the meantime ~ sprinkling it with pink and blue baby pixie dust

and splashing with baby glue so lo's stick around forever ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Hi gang,

Due to DH trapping a nerve in his back, I was asked at 5.45 this morning if I wouldn't mind going and helping on the market stall today. I'd been dreading going back as:

a) I still feel cack
b) I didn't want to face people and be all smiley
c) The loo facilities are basic beyond belief (and I'm still bleeding)
d) I didn't know how I'd react to seeing babies etc
e) I didn't want people to say things that would upset me

Didn't do too bad really I suppose. Cried 3 times and welled up a few.

Had two stupid comments from other stall holders - "I strongly believe that what's meant to be will be" wtf???

And a customer of mine who I'd told the news to two weeks ago (day before all the sodding trouble started)who knows about DH's illness, and also that I had an anaphylactic shock 6 weeks ago came out with this gem: "oh, I was only saying to my husband earlier that I thought you'd lose it because of the stress" charming!!

Needless to say, I cried. I also cried when someone brought a crying baby to the stall next to me, and when the local nursery brought out all the little kids in their pushchairs for some fresh air.

Someone tell me that this gets easier!

DH had his first round of treatment today - 1 litre of gunk injected straight into his tummy (OUCH!!) and 0.25 of a litre in a drink he described as "snot-like". Yum... bet he can't wait for next week!

Still, I told him he gets his own back on Monday when I have the internal scan to make sure all is well. Then, treatment or no treatment, he's on baby making duty!!

grinningbee. You've got too much on your plate. It's very unfair People are idiots aren't they.

grinningbee. You've got too much on your plate. It's very unfair People are idiots aren't they.

Freaky - what happened there. I don't think I pressed post message twice.

oh grinningbee, its not fair. it DOES get easier i promise. but you are still mourning, go easy on yourself

grinningbee - oh honey people are idiots I love the it wasn't meant to me statements, I've also had "maybe you can't carry boys" " maybe it's a blessing 3 could be expensive" WTF it does get easier, please don't be ahrd on yourself you are grieving and have a lot on your plate too ((((hugs))))

I have the one that will "top" the list in the worst possible way. A "friend" who knows that our son has challenges with sensory integration that is affecting his speech development said 'you know, it's probably best that you lost your pg. You can now concentrate full time on fixing the child who you already have'

Yeah... about that... I cannot put in writing what I told her

so grinningbee sweetie the point of my post was to say - some people are just ~beep~beep~beep~beep~ and the best way is to shake their comments off and put them out of your head... but then if you can't - bad language was made up for something... I think it is for responding to statements like that!

I had a gem when I MC'd.. MIL (staunch Irish Catholic) said 'well its just as well that happened don't seem to have plans to get married'. Even worse when we told her we got a BFP to begin with she didn't congratulate us at all she said, 'well, you have to get married now, or you'll have an illegitimate (sp?) child'. .

grinningbee- so sorry some people are twats!!!

Kate-thats like us according to dp we arent ttc but despite the fact we have a draw full of condoms from before the last unplanned pregnancy (was actually totally unplanned and still dont know how it happened) not a single one has been touched!

well, i brought another 5 tests off ebay today as im losing my patience with the other ones and i bet you, I BET YOU, both lots turn up on saturday. So i will have 12 tests and wont be able to use them till next wednesday

can i not just use 1 just to try them out?? pleeeeeeeeeeeease pretty pretty pleeeeeeeeeease

that should have been 'It's just as well that happened you two don't seem to have any plans to get married"

huh - isn't it Thursday? Didn't you say, sausage, that you would be testing every thursday? Don't tell me you haven't already . . .

katend - sorry, but that is the most thoughtless and vile comment i have heard. i can't imagine how you could be less sensitive. you need to tell her to put the pipe down now, because she must have been on crack to open her mouth and let that come out.

grinningbee - such a rough day -i hope you get a chance to chill and get a bit pampered this evening. i am also flabbergasted - honestly, some people are just vile.

something is wrong with me - I just helped myself to two slices of cake that my dp brought home - one chocolate fudge brownie cake, one kind of nutty bakewell with jam and I COULDN'T EAT THEM

which is UNHEARD OF. just really really didn't fancy them. must be unwell, feeling dizzy, going to bed.

i didnt test today, ive beena good girl i figured if yesterday was a bfn then today will be aswell so why waste my money

lol at crackpipe. Kate - totally at what your "friend" said. I bet you felt like knocking her out.

tjuice - what cd are you on?

faint line, faint line, cacking pants, cacking pants!

Ooh tjuice . What cd are you on? You might be able to test on a clearblue digital.

congrats and hope it gets darker

Oooo tjuice! So exciting!

kateandm - HOW insensitive! Am all cross on your behalf.

i am on cd32. we don't have clearblue over here - just weird danish brands. and i did it on a very cheap supermarket one. but i found one in the bin that i did earlier this week and there is an even fainter line. so used to seeing nothing,i just chucked it away.

am now going cross-eyed, a la sausage.

TJuice Wow fantastic. Can you treat yourself to a CB Digital?

I had a comment that stabbed the heart, my MUM said "well it was only a ball of cells" Which is true as I was only 5 wks but I was still PG and then lost it.

Went to Doctors yesterday and as I expected she said my two Chemical Pregnancies are just incredibly bad luck. She said that if I have another one they will do some simple blood tests to check everything is ok.

As for testing early (I have been testing on day AF is due so technically not early) she said that is down to my mental state. Didn't want to tell her I'm a completely obsessed loon so said well I seem to be coping quite well! It's best to test as if I get a third mc then they'll do tests but not best to test if it devestates me. Catch 22 then! I'm going to keep testing because AF is devestgation enough and I'd rather know if there is a problem.

Doctor did say I've done the hard part and apparently keeping hold of it is the relatively easy part Doesn't feel like it to me

TJuice - Two positives todays darker, seems positive to me. Congratulations.

my friend told me yesterday, that Halle Berry kept all of her negative pregnancy tests until she got a positive - she had over a hundred or something . . .

just googled it - she only did 35, then got pg on the 36th! that's nothing . . . .

tjuice, thats great, im so happy for you! you will stay around tho for a bit won't you? i know you are scared, but its all down to beanie now, will cross everything for you!

but disregard the one you did earlier this week, after 15mins you get an inaccurate result and a line could be evaporation.