TTC after MC - September 2020 (Thread 13)

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Morning all,

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I don't think I have everyone tagged so please pop yourselves in xx

@AutumnDays90 Ugh about the text! This seems to happen to way too many people! I got a call for regarding my booking appointment after both of my losses! The midwife was super apologetic, but after the second time the hospital reassured me they would get in touch with my GP to cancel. It seems like such a simple thing but it shows how disconnected the services must be - sorry you had to receive that.

@fafi it really surprised me. All of my antenatal care was at the hospital and they assured me it would be an automatically cancelled

I had always thought something was 'off' about this pregnancy but after having my booking in and an early scan at with a heartbeat I had started to relax and thought my nerves were simply that it had been a surprise for us.

I am hoping we can try straight away, but having had IVF for our daughter... not show how successful we will be naturally again..

Ugh sorry for all the typos! Predictive text 😒

I love the idea of a gratitude journal @daisyorange, what a lovely thing to do.

I’m trying to stay in a positive mindset that it will happen when it happens. I’m in the space between AF and ovulation though so always find mind set more positive at this time, hopefully it will continue into the TWW

@Sully84 i find it really helps to remind myself of all of the other great things going on in my life when TTC starts to totally take over!

I find that the most positive time too. I stopped temping during that time and it was nice to take my foot off the pedal a little.

Good luck to you and all of the other lovely ladies on this thread xxx

Hi all,

I've been quietly checking the thread every day to make sure everyone is ok. Sorry to those with BFNs or AF has showed and congrats to those all who got their BFPs.

I'm now in fertile week and being so lax this month that I've forgotten to start OPKs! I'll probably start tomorrow. I usually ovulate CD13-14 so I know my body enough now that I probably don't need them but I just want to make sure I don't have a month where I don't ovulate. I've been stressing much less this cycle because I've got a job move coming up and trying to focus on that. However OH is really stressing. He keeps asking when FW is and when he 'has to DTD' and I hate that. He's cried a fair few times this month too which is unlike him. I think he's taken my stress! Continuing with the Accupuncture and doing yoga which help. I'll stay on here to keep an eye on everyone so I haven't disappeared. Just thought I'd give everyone a wee update xox thinking of you all xo

@AutumnDays90 I’d get between the sheets. Looking like a positive or very close to a peak. Yes it’s possible so soon. Good that your body is ovulating so soon.

Awful about the 12 week scan. It’s just not acceptable. Sorry to hear that!

I’m not sure about HCG and ovulation tests but some people fall pregnant after surgery before even getting their first proper period and go on to have healthy babies. Just makes dating a bit trickier! Good luck this month!

@chloedancer897 good to hear from you and good that you’ve decided to relax a bit. Great you know your cycle so well so you can avoid OPKs this time. Hope you’re ok and enjoy some good quality time of that husband of yours 💕. Job move sounds like it could be a good distraction. I went for a deputy head interview yesterday and been prepping for a week and have to say, as stressful as it was, it was a good distraction.

A little update. My temps went up a little this morning (although I did drink a couple of glasses of champs last night so it could be that!) but I have brown/dark red discharge a couple of hours ago. Nothing since but will keep an eye. Guessing start of AF as think too late for implantation? Feel a bit crampy. Never had implantation bleed before. Anyone else have it and found out you’re preggers? what day did it happen? (Can you see I’m clutching at straws here! 😂).

@RichmondLady1981 good luck! Fingers crossed for you. Sometimes you just need something stressful to distract you!

Welcome @daisyorange Fellow flowers!

@chloedancer897 Good to see an update from you, my heart goes out to your OH and his struggles. Mine really struggles to talk about it unless I really prompt him and start the conversation, he wants kids so much but there's so much fear as well. He was amazing when I had the mc but finds it hard to express what he's going through My thoughts are with you anyway!

@RichmondLady1981whilst lots of olaces say implantation bleeding is different from af - I know a few people who got ib heavy enough to be fooled into thinking it was af and not finding out until a month later they were pregnant! Good luck on thhe job front too - did you have to do it via zoom or were you allowed in the school? I’m currently only 2 weeks into term and feel like it’s already been 5 😂

Thank you! Boys have been back for two weeks and I’ve been back for three. Absolutely exhausted. Been settling my 16 month into a new nursery at the same time and had to interview at Head office in London which was conveniently placed next to John Lewis (needless to say I popped in afterwards!). It’s an internal promotion so wasn’t too bad. Thank you. I’m not surprised it’s hard work isn’t it. How long till Half term again!!?? 🤣

Yeah been a bit more just but not full flow. Got a weird ache on my left side. Can’t believe they were fooled into AF. Everyone is just so different.

How are you doing cycle wise?

Morning. Quite a significant temp drop for me AGAIN today. 😭 😢 🩸 No AF yet but I fear she’s hunting me down 😂

@RichmondLady1981 I’m on cd10 today - so my app says low fertility (it conveniently colour grades it as I get towards the predicted ovulation date lol!) so will be getting on it from Sunday onwards lol! Half term literally feels like a lifetime away at the moment lol! I’m currently chaning my topic for the third time as well (luckily I keep planning generic and it’s just displays and my terms overview I have to change) as the previous teachers didn’t pick up they had year 3 topics (I’m year 1/2 at the mo but actually trained and specialised in early years!)

Woah that must have been really busy settling your little one into nursery as well as sorting for an interview! I would have made a John Lewis pit stop too 😂 sorry to hear about the temp drop - mine tends to do that about 3days before af. It doesn’t always mean af is coming though 🤞🏻

How are you feeling about it @RichmondLady1981?

Exactly same for me today. Went from 36.40 to 35.97! AF will deffo be here today or tomorrow. I actually feel relieved to know now - it’s the guessing game that kills me!

Onwards, upwards and plenty of wine tonight for me!

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Good morning & happy Friday beautiful ladies!

How is everyone feeling & where is everyone up to in their cycles?

So @RichmondLady1981 the temps are Helpful with that tracking but not conclusive. You know our old saying...of until AF arrives, keep up the optimism. 🌟 and if she does come treat yourself & look after yourself in whatever way feels right for you.

Update from me lovelies. I had a good few blahhh days after AF the other week - went hard at the gym, lots of baths, homely foods, booked weekends away, online shopping, new pjs. & then got my spring in my step back 😊 Currently waiting for my FW which should be soon. Taken a huge step back this month & my god it feels SOOOO good.

The sun is shining & it’s Friday! Woohoo.

Hope you’re well @VP91x How are you doing?

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Good morning everyone, and @HappyVibes good to see you pop up! You do sound a bit more like your old peppy self which is so lovely

@HappyVibes I love that picture thank you for sharing that. It’s nice to hear from you again and nice to see that you are taken a laid back approach and that it’s paying off.

I’m on CD10 today. Began SMEP on Wednesday and due to start OPKs today. It’s my first time using the cheapie OPKs so if anyone has any tips to throw my way I would be grateful! Round 2 BD tonight but OH feels like he’s coming down with a cold so may not be able to follow it through as planned this month. Fingers crossed I ovulate soon and can get it out the way but that’s not likely! Xx

@RichmondLady1981 thank you, we did dtd, just in case!
Fingers crossed AF is a no show for you 🤞

Ovulation test just now has faded, will check later today just to make sure it keeps fading. Hopefully that was ovulation, not just my body's attempt at it. Cervix seemed high and soft too yesterday.

I am going to use some leftover progesterone pessaries from my IVF after 3 dpo... thought it might be worth a try!
Also have carried on with pregnacare and aspirin just in case, I was only prescribed aspirin a week before my mc, and I have been wondering if that would have helped, if I had started it sooner.

@daisyorange thank you lovely. I’m with you on the wine front!!! 🤣. Always a bit disappointing but only my second try since mmc so still early days. I’ll be cheersing you later 🥂 I usually have my period Immediately dropping under the cover line so wondering what’s holding her up! Want it over with.

@AutumnDays90 good on you! Wouldn’t want to miss the window. 😉 sounds like you’ve had your peak.

Hi guys! Been a few days! Stayed away while having AF around but I'm now back in the game and waiting for FW to arrive! I started temping from the morning after AF arrived because I've never done it before and it's all mucked up already because I've been woken 3 times every night since AF started by the kids and last night it was 1am 4am and 6am and I'm up at 7 for school :( is it possible to ovulate really early in your cycle? I've done my first opk today and the test line is almost as dark as the control line? Like I'm going to get a positive in the next few days? I have only just finished AF today xx

Hi @KatiePlus3. No that’s not positive yet and it could stay like that for a few days. It has to be as dark or darker. Still need to give it time. I’d recommend doing it twice a day (12 hours apart) as you can miss you peak easily within a 24 hour period. This was mine this month... you can see the progression.

Feel for you with the waking!!! Are you temping? If so regular waking can affect your temps. 😘

Sorry @KatiePlus3. This is better as shows a peak.

I had started to temp yes but its gone out the window at the moment because of the wake up calls -_- lol! ahh ive not seen that app for the opks ill have to try and download that! im taking all my vitamins and OH is taking his multivitamins too and has stopped drinking the cans of monster energy drink! he was drinking so much of it! xx