TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

[VP91x]

Evening all 💕

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@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@Pugprincess
@IWM20
@Lollol86

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@VP91x
@MrsK21
@MichT4
@Hayley19835
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Northernsoul90
@Firevie
@chloedancer897
@Happyvibes
@Bl0ndi3
@eclipsechips
@Will867
@Jazper
@susiebluebell
@Cici89
@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
@ladysamee
@Sully84
@LAcain
@gizmo167

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@chloedancer897 absolutely feel the same. We haven’t DTD for pleasure in so long since TTC it’s so sad really. And this is partly why we had our little meltdown today. It’s not healthy at all. It’s so hard cos we don’t want to take a step back from DTD as a baby is something we absolutely long for. But at the same time it’s not normal how much it’s consumed our lives over the past nearly 12months. It’s such a tough call.

That’s why I am literally now at extreme measures and genuinely considering taking chlomid/HMG if nothing tangible happens come Monday. Blowing my mind is all this xxxx

@HappyVibes Thank you, I might look into that then! Do you think you are having problems with ovulation with thinking about clomid? Xx

@HappyVibes @chloedancer897 I'm with you both completely, I'm not excited by ttc anymore just consumed by it - 1.5 weeks of the month I'm okay and then from fertile week to af it's all I can think of. It really is hard. Dtd is just for one purpose now and I feel like it's just so regimented but can't seem to snap out of it, I worry that if I stop taking a certain vitamin or stop tracking in some way it won't happen. Xx

@RichmondLady1981 pre MC I was average a 30 day cycle. Post MC they’ve been different - 26, 36 & 31. So I think they’re regulating back to their usual average now 💓

@HappyVibes @chloedancer897 @Northernsoul90 thanks for the info girls, I will do some reading up about SMEP in bed and might even plan to do that for my next FW.

I’m glad CBD was FMUs as I was panicking I had used them wrong and missed when I ovulated. Although, no real need to worry about that now lol!

I’ve made my peace with not being pregnant this time around so AF please come soon! 🤞🏻 Xx

Welcome @123feraverto and sorry to hear of your losses. I have found great comfort here in knowing that there are women here going through the same issues and emotions as me xx

@Northernsoul90 no I don’t think I do at all as we have been successful 3 times and relatively quickly - just sadly two chemicals and 1 Mc. I just mean as we are literally loosing the will I would genuinely try anything to increase our chances. I know I ovulate regular, I’m confident on that. I just know that chlomid would help increase the chances of course. As would HMG. I will see what they say on Monday & then weigh up our options thereafter. Xxx

Thanks all for your lovely replies. It’s been very tough, we told our families we were pregnant at 7 weeks so we have had amazing support. But wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

My name indeed does stand for Harry Potter 😂 I’m just obsessed haha.

Sorry I forgot to mention I had a negative pregnancy test 6 days after my surgery and did a couple just in case.

I’ve had some very low cramps last night and all day today. Not sure if I’m over symptom spotting or not but will wait it out and see how my OPKs go over the next few days.

I was very regular prior to being pregnant and AF would always turn up on time on day 28 so it’s a weird feeling not knowing what’s going on now.

Fingers crossed we all get the BFP we hope for very soon ♥️

@HPenthusiast
Sorry to hear that you’ve been through such a tough time. Hope things start to improve soon. It’s good you had a negative just 6 days after your surgery. It took almost three weeks for me to get a negative. X

Enjoy the rest of your weekend. X

Thank you @Northernsoul90 and @Lollol86 it’s at 11am XX

Morning ladies. Sorry for the silence yesterday, was at my sisters all day. I've woken up feeling really icky - only had a processo and a corona - I've become a massive lightweight!!

@Bellabubble ooh your pooch is so cute! Please tell me this puppy anxiety and stress passes quickly! I adore him but am already ready for the easier days 😂

@HPenthusiast @123feraverto I'm so sorry for your losses and that you find yourselves here. I really hope this group makes a horrid situation a little more bearable.

@Lollol86 yessss!!!!!! Huge congratulations on your scan. You must be on cloud 9! When is your next or are you waiting for the nhs one? So happy for you lovely.

@Pugprincess good luck this morning. Let us know how it goes

@chloedancer897 your OH is a diamond, it's probably a really good thing. Now you can just try and put it to the back of your mind. How were your temps? How was your daughters grown up shopping trip?

@RichmondLady1981 🍆🍆 hooray for the static! Hope you came up with something inventive last night 🤪

Hope everyone is ok this morning xx

@MichT4 dunno what I did last night but it didn't record properly! So have no idea what my temps are like. Maybe that's a good thing! The shopping trip was lovely. She really enjoyed it, thank you. How are you?x

@chloedancer897 Did you get 3 hours sleep? It won't sync if you don't get a solid 3 hours

Yeah I'm fine thanks, exhausted and feel a bit manky but aside from that 😂
It was a bit hard seeing my sister yesterday, she's 6 months now. But it's getting easier to be around and talk about. Pretty sure I heard her talk to my other sister about the gender point again - I was busy trying to eavesdrop but OH was yapping on about boxing so I couldn't hear 🙄😂. The subject upsets me because I'd do anything for either!

But anyway, all fine thank you. Loki is sleeping so I should be sleeping (like with a baby) but he wouldn't cry and wake me like a baby would, he'd go and eat or chew something he shouldn't

Any plans today? I plan to sit and do not a lot, even though I really need to clean the house xx

@MichT4
Last night was a disaster! We went out on a date night and had a few drinks and SOOOO much food. We both got back and just couldn’t!! Too full and shattered 🤦🏼‍♀️ So we woke up early (we have a 15 month old) and DTD this morning instead. (Sorry TMI). I’ve just tested on OPK and this one is even darker than yesterday (according to Pre Moms automatic measuring) so peak is today and not yesterday so I think I’m ok in terms of timing and hopefully haven’t missed the window 😬

Annoyed with myself as like you, I’m a massive lightweight now! Means I couldn’t do my temp this morning due to alcohol. It was quite high but have to discount it due to the 🍷 🍷. I think it’s a false high though as it seems peak LH is today.

What do you reckon?

Btw @MichT4. Sorry you feel a bit meh. The lady I work closely with told me she was pregnant last week which was a bit weird. So happy for her but I understand what you mean... not easy.

@chloedancer897 that makes both of us. I can’t temp today as I was naughty last night 🍷🍷and it’s quite an important time as I need to detect a temp raise To confirm ovulation. Ahhh well there’s always tomorrow.

@RichmondLady1981 haha! Lovely to have a date night though. Sounds like you really had a lovely time and that's so important!

They are both dark, but I guess something is registering higher so I would agree, it's peak today. Today could be ovulation day as a similar pattern happened with @vp91x and her scan confirmed ovulation likely on the day she got the dark one second day in the morning (is that right @VP91x?). So still absolutely covered and more time to DTD too!

I hate a fuzzy alcohol feeling, especially when you barely had anything 😂

@RichmondLady1981 this mornings perfect because even if it released last night it will be sat waiting for up to a day I think. Just incase it’s not released yet keep going for the next few days I would. Xx

@Pugprincess keep us updated xx

@MichT4 thank you, for the first time yesterday I actually thought to myself I'm pregnant. Next scan is the 26th of September which based on my lmp I will be 10 weeks. I'm actually going to contact the doctors tomorrow to arrange appointments as I haven't done that yet.
I'm such a lightweight now, I used to be able to drink loads but not anymore. I also find if I have a night out I feel awful for days 😂😂 xx

Thanks @Pugprincess.

I’m working hard on trying to track everything but sooo time consuming and I’m not that knowledgeable. I’m guessing that I’d only ovulate AFTER peak on OPK? Which it seems was yesterday. Would be strange for me to have ovulated yesterday when I had a higher LH reading today? What do you think?

Thanks @MichT4. That’s great info on what happened with @VP91x.

Vp91 would you mind sharing what happened. Did you Actually ovulate on second high (peak) day?

Just getting our cycles out to go for a spin around Richmond park. Should blow away the cobwebs.

It’s probably your peak peak now @RichmondLady1981 think with my cbd you expect to get two days of peaks so I assume it’s the same for those ones? The others will guide you more. I’m confident you haven’t missed it by not doing last night though. Good luck! x

@RichmondLady1981 I've atatched my chart here just so it always helps, but yes that's what happened! I got my peak on the afternoon at about 2pm of CD12, got an even stronger peak on the morning of CD13 which the sonographer confirmed I would have ovulated at some point later in that day by her estimations and then on CD14 I got a negative OPK by around lunchtime. The huge temp rise on CD14 also correlates with this xx

@RichmondLady1981 sorry chart attached xx

@RichmondLady1981 I'd normally get tests like yours LH surge starts in the afternoon and I would have about 18hrs of positive readings. Normally I would ovulate the 2nd day (confirmed by temps) but it varies by person, think ovulation can be 12-36hrs after the start of your surge then you have up to 24hrs after ovulation to catch the egg, so 2 and a half days from your 5pm test yesterday which would take you to Early Tuesday morning before you're out of fertile window👌🏾

Welcome to those that have joined sorry for your losses ❤️

@Tink20058 so lovely that you'll have a girl to add to the family. Haha although Bella has weed on my floor a few times so I'm not sure how much less stinky they are. Yeah officially 4dpo, can you believe it!

@Rb486 I hope you are feeling better 💕

@Bellabubble oh no!! I'm so sorry that you had such a crappy month, your poor pets 😔. We also lost both our rabbits! Definitely get on the phone to the docs and if they ask how long you've been trying just say over a year anyway and it probably has been with the miscarriage and everything. I'm still waiting for my gynae appt but I took soy iso again this month and finally I've ovulated for the first time since April! I've paid for two private scans, the first one which confirmed PCOS which I'm not sure if you were still on the thread for? And now this one just to see what was going on this cycle.

@chloedancer897 how are you this morning? How's your temps? I hope your daughter enjoyed her birthday day out x

@HappyVibes I'm sorry it was AF for you. Great that you have the gynae appt tomorrow. Careful with the clomid if you know you ovulate every month as it might hyper stimulate you. See what the doc says obviously, I'm sure they'll ahed some light. Sending you lots of luck for your new cycle 💕xx

@Hpenthusiast so sorry for your loss that is so so heartbreaking. Did you get a negative pregnancy test before getting those peaks? Sometimes you'll get a peak if still hcg present. I really hope you get your bfp soon x

@123feraverto welcome so sorry that you've also had two losses consecutively. Lots of luck for this cycle xx

@Diorissimo1985 I've been thinking of you, I hope all is okay? Xx

@Pugprincess good luck for today lovely ❤️

@Pugprincess. Hope everything goes well for you at the scan x

@HPenthusiast I'm sorry for your loss. Also, CD10 might not be your true peak. If your HCG levels haven't dropped to normal, then ovulation test might pick up HCG hormone and cause false LH surge result. Anyway, please keep testing to track. Good luck!

@Tink20058 I just read back over to find your message about your double confirmation of a little girl 💗. Such lovely news. And your bump 💗 makes me melt xx