Feb Bus Pt 3

[Juno231]

@MimiArm
@paintfairy
@MrsTwentyEight

Figured I'm not ready to let you ladies go ☺️

@MrsTwentyEight haha cycle buddies again! Yeah before Saturday we scored Tues /Wed but that was pointless wasn't it 🤣

O-2 and O are objectively super good days to BD so maybe we need to stop beating ourselves up about it!

@Juno231 haha I think we may be overthinking this too. Managed to grab OH after work for another score 🤣 Hope you did too!

@Juno231 @MrsTwentyEight it only takes once! So that around the right time is theoretically fine. I've tried religiously every other day from end of AF to 3 days after O and it's never bloody worked yet though. So I don't think it can be the timing. 🤣

Another useless surgery rant. They phoned me tonight. Did I know that the appointment i have booked (that the nurse did when I went last) was for the other site and not the one I usually go to.
Erm, no?
Luckily managed to swap it (would have just gone there had i had to, mind). Its a good job they rang though or I'd have been at the wrong place on the day! (And the other is 20 minutes away, so no hope of getting there by the time I'd have realised). I've never been there ever and you'd have thought the nurse would have pointed it out when she booked it (since it wasn't at the same place i was currently sat, having a blood test done). 🙄

CD7 for me.

And- the day 2 I had last week was pointless. They've just rang. Somehow they've done it wrong again? How?

@paintfairy jesus christ. Did you ask them that though? Please tell me you're kicking up a fuss!

@Juno231 it was the receptionist who didn't really know anything other than what she was reading from the screen. I don't really know what to do now? I guess I could do with knowing what the results are- then I'd know if it was wrong. If I call back- it'll still be a receptionist who won't be able to tell me anything?

@paintfairy you should be able to tell her what's happened though and that this is not acceptable and you demand to speak to a GP because you cannot afford further delays. Have the GP call you back asap to explain this. It's genuinely been distressing so you don't even need to exaggerate on that point!

@Juno231 there's not much the gp can do though as we have to wait for blood again anyway. I was struggling not to cry earlier. DH was useless. I was telling him and he just walked out the kitchen. I said oh you obviously aren't interested. He said I am but what can I do about it? 🙄 Just fed up. Wouldn't hurt to be supportive in some way, would it? 😢

But I called back and it's definitely wrong. I don't understand why the nurse took progesterone only when she knew it was day 3? And booked me in for a day 21 when I was there? I've taken the name of the useful receptionist (she's the one that rang me to book the day 2 the second time and remembered me, as she started reading it) and she was nice enough. Some of them are useless. There's apparently massive stars next to the notes. But there were notes last time so I literally despair.

Do you know- I'm still sitting here with it going round in my head as to how they even can get it wrong. And I'm also confused about my original day 2 because the nurse definitely mentioned fsh and lh then so why are these then not taken? Wondering if the system is wrong or what? Just don't get it!

@paintfairy Oh wow - just wow. Honestly. I really feel for you and in your shoes, I'm sure I would have been almost crying as well. It's beyond frustrating when you are trying to be proactive and people just mess it up for you - especially when it's down the line and you're already frustrated and it's a sensitive issue. 🤗 I get it, I totally do. I felt the same way when I was getting nowhere with the private clinic and they just wouldn't help.

I hope you feel slightly better tomorrow. I have no idea how they've cocked this up again and again. How difficult is it to take blood and mark what tests are required? When I had mine done I remember the nurse reading the notes from the GP as to what was being tested, and she bagged the samples and marked the tests required there and then. That's not a difficult task to carry out!

They just don't get it that's it's a once a month test so when they f up, it's weeks wait to do it again.

I'm glad you've at least found a helpful receptionist to speak to. When you go back, repeat repeat repeat to the nurse what's being tested. I do t know what else to say. Rant away here all you need! x

@Juno231 - I seem to have a short LP judging from when I used to track with OPKs. I used to get a positive OPK around CD17/18 on a 25/26 day cycle. But of course those positive OPKs meant nothing since I wasn't actually ovulating.

I feel like the OPKs are a waste of time now. If you can get multiple positives, what's the point. We've just been DTD regularly since I got the positive on CD8 and will keep at it every other day for another week so we are well covered I think. I'm CD13 now and still lots of EWCM. Your guess is as good as mine! (I also ditched the Fitbit - my theory is scrapped after last cycle!)

@MimiArm yeah i did wonder if you'd even have a baseline LP if you weren't ovulating before. If you still have EWCM I imagine you've yet to ovulate so it's good you're carrying on DTD.

@paintfairy I don't even know what to say. I'm so frustrated and sad for you. There's nothing else you could've done I don't think. In my case the nurse didn't even know what the blood test was for - all she had to do was print the sticker for it based on what had been entered in the system by the gp. Your OH is being a giant turd as well, would it hurt him to be a bit supportive? Could you imagine us being this callous if our men were going through these things??

2DPO. Am dreading AF already.

@MimiArm you expect private clinics to be better! But the nhs are just wasting money here?

So I've had 3 blood tests so far. The day 21 they did wrong but luckily they was a progesterone reading on all of them, so they have that at least for it. The first day 2 was the one I queried with the nurse she was doing it correct. She did mention LH and FSH though and even checked with the dr twice before printing off the sticker? And last time the nurse knew it was day 3. And went through it with me. Wrote day 3 on the blood tube. So how the hell did it get done wrong? So out off 3 blood tests so far- every single one was wrong.
How am I meant to even be optimistic that it'll be right ever? 🤔

@Juno231 even though your appointment is may, at least you have one. I'll still be having pointless blood tests by then! 🙄

I know what you mean though- I just expect AF now. I don't test. Don't even remotely expect anything to happen. Because I honestly don't think it will? I was slightly hopeful last month because I ovulated later and less spotting but nope. I wonder if this stress will delay it again? It's OK being told to relax ttc but then the bloody drs are the ones stressing you out!

DH did hug me when I got home earlier and i was quiet. That made me want to cry so then I thought I maybe preferred him ignoring me. 🤣 I think they just don't really get it? I don't think he's that bothered about it all (he's not resistant but he's not praying it'll happen either) so to him is just like- well, whatever? I try not to seem bothered so he maybe doesn't realise at times that I might be upset by it. I tend to brush things off and be upset alone secretly. It being delayed one month annoyed me but I coped with it. 2 is not reasonable but more importantly I've no idea if they'll do it right next time? Which takes me to bloody February.

Cd9 for me. Nothing on an opk so I'm pretty sure I won't ovulate on day 11 (usually I get a faint line the day before the stong line) so hopefully i won't ovulate too early again.

@paintfairy Any line in your OPK today? I'm CD15 and sore - Sore and crampy and sore boobs too. I feel all swollen all over tbh. Positive OPK was a week ago so I imagine I should have ovulated by now, even if that one was a false positive/premature positive.

Got the phone call for IVF yesterday from the private clinic. We are very top of the list so they were ready to book us in next week (and pay for the lot).

We have postponed it as we still have three months supply of Clomid and would rather give that more time. So our consent appointment is on 1 March as our option 3. If not preggars by then, we will be given script for all the injections etc at that appointment and will be ready to start straightaway from the next correct cycle day, depending on how that falls.

@MimiArm managed to get temp this morning. Still low. Very very slight line on OPK today. So it won't be tomorrow I ovulate I don't think. We've also not dtd for a few days now and wont be today either. Hoping we can tomorrow!

I think you are right to give clomid a go. A couple of months delay in ivf won't make a difference in the grand scheme of things. And there's a chance it can save you money.

@MimiArm I agree on the clomid route - ivf is so tough on body and mind that you might as well try to avoid if you can.

@paintfairy @MrsTwentyEight what cd are you now?

5DPO here!

CD11 for me @Juno231

@Juno231 I'm not sure when I OV-ed this month as I ran out of CB dig sticks and just focused on DTD every other day from CD15! I think it was around CD22....so I'm around CD 4 or 5 ? How about you?
Sorry been a bit AWOL few days ladies
Hope you're all keeping well
I've had really bad rhinitis since yesterday which means nothing whatsoever but it didn't stop me googling ''sneezing before implantation'' ha! And the amount of threads that entertain such notions...I guess it makes me feel better I'm not the only mad one out there
AF due Dec 21 ish ....! Same as you right @Juno231 ?

@MrsTwentyEight yeah just keep plugging away if in doubt. That's what i usually do. I'm struggling with tracking and I really need to because of the ridiculous blood test scenario.
I had 1 hour sleep last night so bbt didn't happen. I forgot to hold today so opk is iffy. I've no idea how long it even was. Too tired. But there was a line and I'm guessing it'll be tomorrow I ovulate. We managed to dtd this afternoon (tonight I'll pass out) so hopefully I've covered it.

@paintfairy jesus why 1 hour?! CD11 isn't too bad, would be good of OD was in the next few days though

@MimiArm well remembered! I'm due AF on the 20th - am 5DPO today.

@Juno231 because I'm ridiculous and involve myself in things that make life difficult. 🤣 I had a dog turn up at 2.50am.....

If I do ovulate tomorrow it'll make my 21 day blood test only 1 day late. So fingers crossed its near enough.

@paintfairy wow like a rescue/foster? Hope you sleep better tonight!

@Juno231 yeah. I've no idea what I was thinking. It just kind of happened. 🙈 Not sure how long he'll be here for. I was nearly divorced for a moment. 🤣