Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

@maudesid exactly! Im so hoping next month is your month! 🥰

@RLou3 I'm exactly the same tbf! It's so hard basically our body's are giving us a lucky dip 😂

Tbf The only reason I'm feeling a little more relaxed atm is because I'm not in my 2ww haha!
I'm going to try my hardest not to over think things this time.
Trying to distract myself with excersises 😂

@Ducky96 congratulations on your BFP!! 🥰 that's amazing! ❤️

@rosiej95 thank you!

Wishing everyone the best of luck on getting theirs soon!!

@RLou3 I'm so glad you said that because I feel the same and thought it was just me!
I can't stop worrying and overthinking and endlessly researching when I've barely started 'trying' but convinced it won't happen for us. People comment on the fun of trying and honestly I feel it's the opposite, we've been together nearly 12 years and generally DTD once a week'ish now I'm supposed to be having it multiple days in a row at specific times and it feels forced and if DH isn't into it then it won't happen! Like this month so now got to wait another month hoping next cycle isn't too long.
It is honestly all I think about.

@maudesid I honestly couldn't agree with you more! But you're already better than me, DTD weekly?! Before TTC (this month) we were lucky to DTD monthly 😂😂😂 we've been together 13 years... so similar to you guys!

So now I'm literally checking ovulation and just having to do it then 😂😂 I cant take a relaxed approach - it's just not in my nature. I need to know we're giving it our best shot. So don't worry - there's no romance in it for us... maybe it's the newer relationships that enjoy the trying part? I just don't get how any of this is enjoyable! I'm so consumed by it and already stressed and this is month 1!!!! God help us xxxxx

At @maudesid bless you it's SO frustrating when you get a positive and the deed doesn't get done!

@RLou3 well that's reassuring I thought everyone else was jumping on each other with glee haha!
@rosiej95 thank you I hope it is for you too!

Just checked my app to see how many DPO I am.. 5 HOW?! It feels like i should be about 10. The TWW has actual powers to slow time!!

@beckyBP I’m exactly the same as you, 5DP... Are you feeling anything? Xxx

Hey @RLou3 ahh ovulation buddies. No nothing currently. Are you? I've just been googling things to do in the luteal phase to encourage pregnancy 🤦🏼‍♀️

How about you?

@beckyBP well this is my first month... had pain low down yesterday but from everything I'm reading - that would be to early for symptoms anyway!! But I think it's just my mind!! Constantly thinking OMG is that something... when is AF due for you? I'm due on Saturday next week. How many days before AF do you usually test?

Have you been pregnant before and how long have you been trying? Xxxxx

@RLou3 I know what you mean. I also think when TTC you take WAY more notice of what your body is doing than ever before.

AF due a week Monday for me so still a good while. I've only ever tested on day AF due or if it's been late. Trying not to test tbh but easier said than done.

No this is our first time trying and this is cycle 3. We were due to get married in June but obviously.. rona. So we decided in July to try instead as we don't want to wait anymore.

How are you finding the whole thing? X

@beckyBP crazy how similar. We were also supposed to get married in June.. postponed to September and then decided to just do it last min at the beginning of August... so we had a 30 person wedding (nothing like we originally had planned) but was lovely anyway! Just so glad it's done to be honest!! Couldn't bare the thought of planning any longer!

Finding it so stressful. I'm such a worrier. I've already convinced myself I'm infertile! Crazy I know!! But I just can't help it. Do you use ovulations sticks so you know when your peek is ? We were only able TDT once in my fertile window - so I shouldn't hold my breath this month! Also do you tent to drink any alcohol in your 2ww? Xxx

@RLou3 no way! We also postponed until September and now we've just postponed full stop 😂 I know what you mean.. in a way I wish it was just done now. So sad feeling that way about such a big day.

Bless you. It is a very stressful process.. much more than I ever expected. I started using ovulation sticks in month two and I actually had my dates way off so glad I use them! You never know.. it only takes one time.

Well.. I'm not a huge drinker anyway but my fertile window typically has fallen when I've had plans each month so I have had a few. Not been drunk at all. I'm also still drinking caffeine tbh! If I don't have much luck in the next couple of months I'll look at changing my diet habits.

I do take supplements too. Obviously not sure if they are working because I haven't get pregnant yet but I've been on them probably a month and a half now x

@beckyBP yeah I'm also not a big drinker but have plans this evening and don't want to not drink when I normally would be start even more questions! It's crazy.. all people have asked us, since we married "when you having a baby" omg makes me so annoyed (I was 100% that person, until I started trying 😂😂) just really p's me off. Think I'm putting myself under so much stress and worry - every little questions makes me annoyed (obviously not on here but from family and friends).

I'm also still having my morning coffee but same as you - will see how I go...

Also on vitamins (Luisa zissman recommended ones - cringe) but they have AMAZING reviews..

One last question - how old are you? God I'm nosey but I'm so invested in this process and now I've got an ovulation friend, we need details on each other 😂😂😂... I'm about to turn 30 by the way xxxx

@RLou3 totally with you!! I now just think it rather than ask when I see someone's got married 😂
I think go out and enjoy yourself. I'm trying to be of the mindset.. I can't stop my life completely!

You're going to DIE.. I'm also on the Luisa Zissman recommended vitamins 😂😂 but yeah same.. I've seen amazing things.

Don't be sorry! I'm exactly the same.. I was 29 in May so super close in age! This is super weird 😂😂

@beckyBP hahaha can’t believe you’re on those vits too 😂😂😂😂 maybe we will conceive on the same month too! That will be the cherry on the top ❤️❤️❤️

@RLou3 @beckyBP I'm also 5DPO how crazy!! As I said we didn't manage to dtd so I'm out this month but af also due next saturday and want it to hurry up so I can get on with next cycle! Fingers tightly crossed for you two!
I'm almost 28 but have endometriosis so didn't want to wait any longer, I have looked at the Luisa Zissman page (never thought I'd be this person!) Do you both take all the recommended vits and where did you buy yours?

That would literally be the best @RLou3 😂

Another ovulation buddy @maudesid totally know what you mean wishing away to the next cycle.
I buy them all on amazon. I mean I don't know if they do anything but worth a shot isn't it xx

@beckyBP definitely worth a shot I might have a browse now! Currently just taking folic acid with vitamin D and also Omega 3

I'm still just roughly going by my app atm. I know it's not as reliable but just seeing how it goes.
Day 3 of my fertile window & my BF has fell asleep every night so far after saying he just wants cuddles...
Keep telling him in order to make a baby you need to have sex 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 so frustrating

How frustrating @rosiej95 🙈 we missed the best days last month and I couldn't help being mad at him because we'd done jt plenty in the lead up 😂 but at the same time.. I didn't want it to be forced.

I've tried to do SMEP two months in a row but not quite for there

@rosiej95 it's so frustrating isn't it! You don't want to nag and get annoyed because that's even more of a turn off but also kind of want to shout at them! I honestly don't get how people doing SMEP have sex 10/12 times in the fertile window!! Once would be nice haha

Morning ladies - what is SMEP?? Xx

@RLou3 Look up sperm meets egg plan, meant to optimise timings however involves a lot of sex! haha

@maudesid oh jeez! Yeah count me out of that one 😂😂😂