Our first month ttc our first

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As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

@Amy259 I'm pretty confident AF will be here tonight. feeling pretty crappy. Someone I know just got pregnant accidentally. Stories like that really annoy me!

But I'll be fine! Going to buy that bloody expensive clear blue ovulation detector 😂

@beckyBP ahh sorry to hear that. Let yourself feel crappy for a bit, it’s allowed - you’re the most positive human when it comes to this so I have no doubt that in a couple of days you’ll be back to bossing it again, but it’s good to wallow sometimes - let yourself feel crampy for a wee day or so then you’ll pick yourself right back up again ♥️

I hate that too now, and I hate that I hate it because I don’t mean to feel resentment at all.
My husband’s best friend and his wife welcomed their beautiful baby girl on Thursday and the photos make my heart burst with happiness for them, but also make it hurt a bit - I can’t wait until that goes away!

@Amy259 thanks doll that was SO lush. That's made me feel better already 🥰 as soon as AF comes and I have my little sulk I'll be fine.

Saaame. I hate that I hate it too. But it's not that we're not happy for them we're just sad for ourselves and that's ok too!!

How are you doing?? xx

@beckyBP yeah for sure, at least with lockdown the pregnancy and birth announcements are all via text it call, much easier than dealing with it in person.

I’m okay thank you, currently 5dpo and feel a bit weird this cycle - normally by now I’m starting to wonder but I have this weird calm feeling that this definitely isn’t my month?! Hard to explain but it’s like I won’t be surprised with a bfn at all. This is the first month I’ve felt like this, it’s weird. Not negative or down or anything, just have this feeling it’s not my month but that I’m okay?! Strange!

How are you doing today? Any sign of af? Xx

@beckyBP thank you hun!! It still doesn't feel real. Sorry to hear that AF is on her way. Hopefully she's tricking you and isn't really going to show. But if she does, have a few days to sit in your feelings so you're ready to go again. You've got this! I hate when people get pregnant by accident too....because it's never really an 'accident' is it....I might have believed that before TTC, but now I'm like....what did you think would happen having unprotected sex?!?!

@Katelyn99 Thank you so much! Fingers crossed for you!! Have you tested yet or are you holding out a bit longer?....it's so hard when it's just one long waiting game!

@Amy259 Yeah but you've been brilliant and helped a lot of people in this thread, and not just with information but emotionally too!! X

The book you recommended arrived yesterday ha....An impatient womans guide to getting pregnant... typical! I'm still going to read it though and then give it to a friend who is trying as it looks so useful!

I think I'm still in shock tbh, I've been up and down a bit, feeling on top of the world and then I've burst in to tears a few times too when my anxiety just comes out of no where because it's really happening now and I'm also petrified. It's going to be a longgg 8 months. No real symptoms yet either just weird movements that feel like cramps/bellyache but don't hurt like cramps or bellyache, if that makes sense.

How are you feeling? Did your temp increase in the end? Going by your last message I'm hoping it definitely did, eeek! The early stages of the tww are the WORST. At least this time next week you can test!! So I hope this next week goes really quickly for you!! x

@Amy259 Thank you, fingers crossed for you too!

@meganlea I tested this morning but BFN, I'm still holding out hope that it was just too early though! I've noticed today an increased sense of smell so hopefully that's a good sign 🤞🏻

@Amy259 maybe that's a good thing. Maybe you're more relaxed.

All good thanks doll, went for a long walk earlier then had a nap. Still no AF 🤔 but I have the feeling of any second you know. Have done all day. Strange.

@meganlea eeek so excited. So is it just your mum and partner you've told. I think I'd have to tell my mum too you know! I think she'd know. They do don't they mums!

Xxx

@meganlea thank you, that was lovely♥️ you girls definitely help me through every cycle so I’m glad you feel the same!!

Oh man, what a rollercoaster - bless you. I’m sure I’ll be the exact same.. tbh I don’t think I’ll believe it until I see it! And no doubt I’ll still be testing every morning 😂

That’s so funny it arrived today, yeah give it a ready then spread the love by passing it on, good idea.

Yesss it did, spiked the morning of 3dpo so looks like I did ov which is delightful! Not feeling confident though, not sure why!! Xx

@beckyBP yeah maybe, feels really weird. I almost feel resigned that we won’t be able to without help? But not in a down way, more in a “why stress about something you can’t control?” way. Ask me that in a week though 😂

When are you due af? Are you regular enough to know? It can be about a 3 day range for me so it’s always a guess, which is a pain xx

@Amy259 I TOTALLY feel the same.. I was Googling IVF processes last night 🙈 it's just not knowing isn't it. That's why I'm booking a DTD appointment now. Although it's early..

AF was due today. My cycle is normal 27/27 days and today is 29.

However, I started taking pregnacare and didn't it mess with your girls cycle lengths? Or maybe someone else said that 🤔

Normally I'd have tested by now but I feel really pre af like and had a bit of spotting Friday so I'm confident she's on her way.

@beckyBP I thought about phoning the doctor too.. but I worried they’d think I was a pest getting in touch after 6 cycles in the middle of a pandemic 🙈 which is daft to think about because my feelings are so valid but it’s just the way my head works!!

Pregnacare didn’t do anything to my cycles, two months I added omega 3 and that shortened them but I’m not complaining. I’ve just had maca root delivered for DH to take which he was keen on but I’m not sure I’ll take it as it can mess up cycles. I also took guaifenesin for my cm during my fw and holy smokes what a difference 😂😂

@Amy259 totally know what you mean. I was going to be naughty and say it'd had been a year 🙊 I just want to know if something is wrong. Of course your feelings are valid and also this is such a stressful process!!

Ah interesting! Maybe not then. I thought I read it but I've read a lot of stuff 😅

You are literally the holy grail of TTC! I haven't even heard of these things but I'm going to look them up now! Xx

@beckyBP hahaha no I’m just crazy!! Maca is supposed to help sperm health and libido, my DH’s has dropped and he’s getting down about it (and it’s not ideal obv for ttc) so cant hurt to try! It’s herbal, and even if it’s just a placebo for him it’s worth a shot.

The guaifenesin stuff is basically cough medicine (tablets) but with no other ingredients like paracetamol etc, specifically for mucus loosening, so it helps your body produce thinner/healthier mucus everywhere! So it makes your cervical canal suuuper ideal for sperm. I’m quite dry (tmi) and preseed is great but it can be a bit much? And sort of rules out surprise bd so I wanted something easier. I bought it on amazon and just took it during my fw and noticed such a difference, I was really impressed xx

@beckyBP ps I would def tell fibs about when we started ttc but had to get my coil out at the hosp so they know 🙈

@Katelyn99 Aww no, hopefully it's just too early to tell, maybe give it another 2 days and then try again!

@beckyBP as if AF hasn't come yet....she's playing games for sure like if you're coming don't bloody delay it jheez!

Oh mums definitely know, I say that but throughout my adult life whenever I say I'm tired or have stomach ache she's like you're pregnant. So she's likely to have guessed if I didn't tell her anyway haha. But yeah I have a very big but tight knit family/extended family and my sisters can't hold their own wee so my whole family knows now and a few close friends that knew we were trying. I've warned them all though that it's still v early days so don't get too excited just yet.

Just read your msg about going to the Drs too, if you're gunna do that I'd send your partner to his too if possible, get his swimmers looked at as the book Amy recommended I'm only one chapter in but it said 40% of fertility problems are down to male factors so if you can can rule him out then at least you don't have to worry about his side of things! xx

@Amy259 funny you should say that I've done 6 tests so far and will be doing another tomorrow. I can't help it I just need to check it's still happening haha.

Aww brilliant, at least you know you're in the game though. And it's weird that you feel like that this month. Maybe you're just mentally preparing yourself for the worst, or maybe you've really learnt to let the stress of the tww go, which is really good either way, it might work wonders if you're body is in relax mode. Hopefully it sticks, just keep doing whatever you're doing. xx

So.. af still wasn't here this morning and..

@beckyBP oh my godddd!! AMAZING news! Congratulations girl!! How are you feeling?! Xxxx

@beckyBP Wow!! That is one solid line!! Congratulations girl!! I'm so happy for you :) How do you feel?? xxx

@Amy259 @meganlea Thanks you girls! I'm
Really happy, super anxious though! I've ordered a load more tests.

You girls have bloody got me through this process. Thank you so so much x

@beckyBP I need to up my game - you pair are leaving me behind!! 😂😂 fingers crossed some of your good fortune rubs off on me too.

I bet, but I’m sure feeling anxious is totally normally and sadly just part of this wee start bit. So happy for you xx

@beckyBP and you us, girl! Don't know how I'd have stayed sane without this thread. So thank you!! Can't believe you've just got your BFP! That's 2 this week alone! ....... Lets hope it comes in 3s @Amy259 I've got all of my fingers and toes crossed we need you in this!!!!

Also, do not expect much from you GP appointment, just called them thinking that's what you do and they might prescribe me with some folic acid tablets and give me some advice on how to look after my mind and body for the next 8 months, but no?! The receptionist said 'You only ring the GP if you're ill, I'll give your name and address to the midwife who'll either ring you or send you a letter for your 12 week scan'. Like ....WHAT!!! I need a Dr to hold my hand, I wanted to tell them how bloody petrified I am, I wanted some advice/resources, I wanted the bloody tablets you have to take for the first 12 weeks lol. Looks like I'll be spending the morning researching all of this and getting my own tabs. So confused lol

@Amy259 I have got everything crossed for you! You bloody deserve it.

Totally! I think I'll do a few more tests and take it from there.

Thank you again doll. Honestly you've been bloody amazing xxx

@meganlea I was wondering when to call the GP but my friend works there so I don't want to do it too soon 😂

That is crazy though that we're just left to it. I don't know what to bloody do?!

@beckyBP I found out this morning that we don't actually have to go through our GP, so you might just be able to avoid that friend! You can refer yourself at your local hospital, it's on the NHS website, just type pregnant NHS and it'll be on one of the first pages, I think you just put your postcode in and it will tell you who/where to ring. xx

Congrats to both pregnancies this week! Amazing news! My AF had just finished - CD4 - so keeping everything crossed for my second cycle and better luck this time! X