Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

Welcome @SalemsPot22! Fingers crossed you managed to cover it and just missed your peak 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@rosiej95 happy new year! That sounds like a good plan, play it by ear and see what happens. We’ve had a few things crop up too that could’ve made us decide to stop ttc but I’m half way through cycle 6 now too and I just feel a bit like who knows how long it could take, so I’m reluctant to not just keep trying. We’ve been invited to a wedding in Tuscany late Aug/early Sept which probably means we couldn’t go if I fell preg this month or next, but the (huge) silver lining to that would be a baby!!
Tier 4 is rubbish - we’re in Scotland so the whole country is in tier 4 too. It’s such a downer!

@Amy259 I think that's the thing if we constantly put things on hold for things that crop up it'll take us ages to get pregnant 🙈 I do like to think things happen for a reason.

Tier 4 is really pants, I'm self employed too so don't get paid 🤦🏼‍♀️ But the perk of being at home is more time to dtd 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

@SalemsPot22 hey 👋
Really wish we could know at like 1 dpo. Would be so much easier wouldn't it 😂
🤞🏻 the 2ww goes fairly quick for you ☺️

Thanks @meganlea! Hahaaa I feel not very pregnant but different if that makes sense?! Feel quite calm actually, which is unexpected because I had visions of anxiety kicking in if i got a bfp! It’s really comforting.

I’m SOOO surprised this has worked! Literally the week I came into my fw was when we agreed to make a start 😅 still very early days though, I really hope it stays!

We bd’d most days in the fw (except predicted ov day and the last day of the fw).

I think my fiancé is in shock/denial to be honest haha!! He was poking fun at me for doing hpt’s so early yesterday while one was in the process of developing, and then I was like “...this ones got a faint line!😱” he hasn’t got a clue about pregnancy haha. So I explained what a faint test means and he’s like “so it’s not properly pregnant then” 🙄🙄🙄😂.

I think I need to get a digital test with a big PREGNANT written on it for it to register haha.

I’ll list my symptoms for anybody who wants to symptom spot?! Can’t say I did anything special though as I didn’t check any temps or take any supps 🤷🏻‍♀️ Just good luck I think!

3-5 dpo: I had quite achey af cramps just all over - no particular side, absolutely zero cm, boobs were a bit sore around the sides. Random quick waves of nausea a couple of times. All unusual as I never have cramps or sore boobs this early and I generally have another wave of ewcm post ov.

5dpo: thought I was coming down with a weird cold! Just felt a bit run down and had a scratchy throat - I usually get that when I haven’t had enough sleep though so thought i just needed an early night?! Could have probably still been the case but I’ve read it’s a symptom so will list it anyway.

6dpo: I had literally a tiny blob of stringy ewcm when I went to the loo. Boobs started feeling much more sore! Cramping had pretty much stopped so I went on the stationary bike for an easy session and started getting really bad cramps again on my right side 💀 (so got off!). No more cm though. Also noticed my boobs had started to look a tad veiny. Tested negative on frer. Another random nausea wave.

7dpo: just sore boobs, no cm

8dpo: v.faint positive on frer 🤩 bit of a belly ache for a short while. No cm. Boobs getting more sore and heavy.

9dpo: another faint (but stronger than 8dpo) positive on frer. Boobs feeling masssssive and heavy and sore today. Really tired at 9pm (unusual!) and quite achey cramping in my pelvis this evening. Also had a few shooting pains from my hips down the tops of my thighs and (sorry if tmi) a bit of throbbing on my privates which was strange! Had a tiny bit of the lotiony cm I read so much about!!! Honestly was expecting gallons of it as usually I read women who have it have so much of it that it felt like they’ve wet themselves?! But it was just a teeny bit this afternoon and haven’t seen any more again since. Boob veins are making a proper appearance now!

Hope this helps!? Oh also I’ve been having the craziest dreams for the last 4 nights. Not sure if that’s just because of all the leftover Christmas chocolate before bed though haha.

@beckyBP @Amy259 if this is it I’m asking which side the egg implanted! If it was while I was on the bike it will be my right side.

Worth nothing I have quite a few friends who had zero symptoms before their kids and didn’t even know they were pregnant until way after their missed periods! Xxx

Can anyone help please .. these are ic tests and nowhere is open now for 48hrs .. any opinions welcome 🙏

These are my tests from 9/10 dpo

@Amy259 well you’ve laid the groundwork now the ball in his court. Fingers crossed he’s pro active with DTD!!

@beckyBP @SalemsPot22 aww guys seems like we’ve synced up on our DPO! I have no idea the exact date AF is due because the first cycle, my luteal phase seemed to last 9-10 days, then 2nd cycle, 14 days, but 2nd cycle was a weird one! So 6/7 DPO today meaning AF could come anytime between Wednesday and the Monday after tomorrow. Premom says Wednesday and Flo says Saturday. So we shall see!! I am not going to test until a week on Tuesday if AF still isn’t here. How soon are you guys going to test?

@TinyPuds aww I’m so happy you’re feeling relaxed!! Thank you for all he info it is definitely helpful for us all to know exactly how other people got there BFPs! So thank you so much!! And congratulations again! I hope your partner understands now. ‘So you’re not properly pregnant’ made me laugh! 😂

@beachlife321 I’m not sure what an ic test is but I can’t see a line. Sorry!!

Hey @rosiej95 lush to hear from you! I think you've got the right idea.. just take it as it comes and what will be will be!

@beachlife321 I can't see anything sorry doll but it's early days. Test again in a few days.

@meganlea @Amy259 how funny we've synced. AF is due for me next Monday (week tomorrow). I've had bad heartburn this arvo so obviously been googling that 🙄🙈😂

@beckyBP it's so easy done though I'm so tempted to google symptoms at 7-8DPO but there's no point because it'll just give me every symptom ever and make me believe it's happening. Trying to resist googling anything, I just want to know right now!!!

@meganlea you're spot on I say to myself every month I'm not going to symptom spot but here I am again!!

I think I had a chemical a few months back and in the latter part of my TWW I was awake by 5am everyday and having very vivid dreams. I work up at 5am today so got really excited but I think that was more to do with the 'back to work blues'.

@meganlea @beckyBP oh girls you’re both right in that bit where time seems to stand still! Every single month I feel the same and always tell myself I won’t test until 11dpo.. then it gets to 9dpo and there I am, peeing on sticks 😂 got everything crossed for you both 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Morning ladies! How are we all doing?

@meganlea @beckyBP how’s your tww treating you? Hope you’re not going too crazy?

I had positive OPKs on Sunday so expected to see a temp rise this morning to confirm ovulation yesterday but it only went up 0.1 whereas normally it goes up by 0.3-4, so not sure what’s going on there!

That’s 2 months in a row now my peak has been 5 days earlier than my long cycles from before, all I’ve added is omega 3 and I’ll definitely be keeping it now 😂

@Amy259 Morning lovely! There's still time for you, I peaked on the 26th and didn't get my proper temp shift, just small increments, until late morning on the 29th so on the third day.....could happen later today or tomorrow the latest. What CD are you now? and what exact brand of omega 3? I am going to order it right now! 😂

I am 9/10DPO today, have the usual pre AF tenderness in breasts that's only noticeable if you apply pressure, had some bellyache this morning and last night so my body just seems to be preparing for my next period. Also I was short tempered last night and feeling a bit emotional, managed to snap at DH and my mum! And this morning I do feel bad, but not enough to apologise lmao I'm still feeling in my feelings. AF is coming soon I can feel it. :(

Premom predicts AF today but my temp this morning was only 0.2 degrees lower than the day before, it's 36.74 today which is still quite high, I'll probably take my temp later today to see if there's a drop. Flo app says it'll come Saturday and that has more data so I'm going with that one for now.

How're you doing @beckyBP?

@meganlea CD16 now! Literally just Tesco’s own omega 3 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh really? So do you think I should still be making sure to dtd? We’ve done it every 2 days, which I’m happy with, but did it on peak day (Sunday) then not yesterday, which I was absolutely fine with because I figured it was O day and the swimmers from the night before would’ve been waiting for the egg anyway (which was the aim!). But now I’m thinking we should go again today if I potentially haven’t ovulated yet... it went so well this cycle for DH that I really didn’t want to have any scheduled dtd but it looks like I might have to 🙈

Are you holding out to see what happens or do you plan on testing?

Hey dolls

@Amy259 for sure keep up on the omega 3! Hope your peak happens soon!

@meganlea bless you 🤍 I do think, on top of pre AF hormones and the fact we 'know' AF is coming when TTC we have every excuse to be a little snappy. It's a double whammy of hormones and disappointment.

I'm 10dpo today and tbh I fully feel like AF will be here on time (Sunday). I've got my normal pre AF symptoms and I feel really crappy. I know you're not out until AF arrives but I've been feeling a bit gutted this week.

Back to work this week too in a new job that I feel like I don't have a clue what I'm doing 😂🙈 so just feeling totally overwhelmed!

Hope everyone's ok!! X

@beckyBP sorry to hear you’re feeling a bit low, you’re right though - it’s easy to say you’re not out until af shows but we know our own bodies.

I started a new job this week too, very very overwhelming so I feel ya there!

@Amy259 if you can maybe it wouldn't hurt as today might be actual ovulation day? I peaked on the 26th so DTD on that day and 27th ....my O day could have been either 27th or 28th but it's more about the days leading up to O day isn't it? So I wouldn't worry too much, if your temp increases later today no point DTD today but if they don't then maybe one more DTD tonight...before tea! haha. You do sound like you'll be covered though but if you can sneak one more in for good luck you'll probably feel better.

Yeah I'm just holding out I think I don't want to get excited to be shot down, I have 2 cheap pregnancy tests in the house, don't think they're frer though they only cost about 70p from B&M. So I'm just going to see if AF comes this weekend.

@beckyBP aww bless you. I feel you with the disappointment feeling, I think us women are really intuitive as well so when I say I can feel AF, I can feel it, it doesn't stop me hoping though, but I can just feel the outcome already.

Ooo good luck in the new job. If anything you will be able to occupy your mind with your new role. I'm sure you'll be amazing just rest up before so you're fully alert, sometimes there's nothing more boring and tedious than that first week in a new role where they have to go through everything! x

@Amy259 thanks doll. It is isn't it. The TWW is harder than I ever imagine.
How's your job going? Are you WFH too. HOW are we meant to learn a job from home 🤯😂🙈

Id defo DTD today if you can. 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

@meganlea I'm holding out to test too. Especially as I feel very AF like. TOTALLY the same! I feel if and know it but still try to convince myself it's early pregnancy symptoms 🙈 I think I'm going to book in a chat with the GP.

Thanks doll xx

@beckyBP Yeah you do right. Unless I get a symptom I've never had with PMS before like nausea or being sick then I just can't bring myself to test. Aww bless you. Hope you're okay. It won't hurt just having a chat with them!

@beckyBP I know - I feel like there’s SO much to learn, made so much harder by not being able to just ask the person next to me where to find a file or how to sort something etc. My line manager calls every day which is great, I just store up my questions for him haha.

@meganlea I did a quick google (obviously) on my lunch and most of the stuff I can find say that the slower rise in temp doesn’t indicate when ovulation was, you’re more likely to see it 2 days later anyway if testing in the morning which made me feel better! So probably (hopefully) see it tomorrow.

Will dtd tonight if the notion is there from DH - he doesn’t know I’ve peaked, I just told him on Saturday this week was important and he’s made way more effort than normal so don’t want to do or say anything to put pressure or a negative vibe on it when he’s clearly tried.

Also peak day was Monday not Sunday - I’m getting my days mixed up!

Hi everyone! Been lurking on here for a while so thought I’d say hello. We’re on cycle 3 now with fertile week next week but trying not to get my hopes up too much.

I was surprised some of you are starting new jobs while ttc. I’ve resigned myself to the fact I can’t change jobs for now while I’m ttc. Puts all the more pressure on as I’d potentially be looking around otherwise! Good luck in your new jobs! 👏

@meganlea totally!! Like you say, a chat won't hurt will it 😊 keep me up to date with you!

@Amy259 amazing! Glad your DH has been so good 👏🏽👏🏽 keep us up to date with how it goes.

Totally get you on the job front! I'm enjoying mine though, are you?

Hey @Sakomondo good luck with your fw! My previous role was made redundant so I didn't have much choice. 😂 i could have taken a role I didn't want for less money within the company but I decided to step out of my comfort zone and it's definitely paid off as it's a much better job.

@Amy259 Oh god I've just re read my reply from this morning as well when you said Sunday and I fully believed today was Tuesday! Which is why I was like yeah plentyyyy of time! just DTD again haha. Christmas has proper knocked us. 😂 Fingers crossed he's up for it tonight. You're only mid week and you've had a night off so he might already have it in his mind to DTD again tonight.

Hi @Sakomondo.... good luck for upcoming fw, hope you manage to cover it! I want a new job but there's barely any within my company we're having a recruitment freeze and I really wanted to go up a step before ttc but also don't want to put my life on hold because who knows how long I'd be waiting for the freeze to end!

@beckyBP I definitely will do, just taken my temp and it's 37.06 so at least I can relax knowing it's unlikely AF will come today. I'm trying to measure how long my luteal phase is too so the longer AF holds off the better I'll feel as I'm worried it's too short.

Hi guys

Hope you don't mind me joining too! I've almost finished my first cycle (13 DPO, all BFNs so far. No AF yet but I'm not holding out hope).

I'm 28 and my boyfriend is 37. This is our first try and first baby together. At first I was a little bit apprehensive as I am a bit younger and didn't know whether we should wait another 6 months, but then thought it could take longer than that so why not start this month just in case it doesn't happen straightaway? Ever since then, even though I wanted to delay TTC, I have been OBSESSED. Tracking ovulation, testing from like 4DPO, desperate to be pregnant. So ridiculous.

And the worst thing is, for some reason I just expected I would get pregnant this month even though I know it takes longer than that for most. I thought well, we DTD every day (or at least every other day anyway) and did around my FW, we've both experienced pregnancy somewhat previously (he has a son from previous marriage, I had an accidental pregnancy - literally ONE accident - when I was at university and chose not to proceed) so I assumed we'd be ok.

Now 13 DPO and looking very unlikely, I feel heartbroken. Or like something is wrong. I have irregular periods but have been tested for PCOS and other gynae problems and it's all good. It looks like (from using OPKs and temping) that I have ovulated too. And the fact that I got pregnant from one accident previously but haven't been able to from DTD every day... I feel so frustrated.

Especially with this new lockdown and finding out my mum had cancer back in the summer, I was hoping that a pregnancy would be the good news and positivity my family and I could concentrate on.

Anyway, I'm going to try and be more positive and less obsessed next month (and absolutely no early testing!). Cycle 2 potentially starting tomorrow when my AF finally shows up and hoping for some better luck this time! Good luck to everyone else :)

@heybabes hey Hun! Welcome to the club 😂

I can safely say we're all exactly the same. The obsession must Bundt every built into us I swear. I also was convinced I'd get pregnant first cycle as my mum did each time but that didn't happen and I struggled!

So sorry you're so heartbroken. My only advice would be take it all in its stride and try not to let it consume your life. Don't delay things 'in case' you're pregnant. Carry on and you can always rearrange stuff when you do get pregnant and it will certainly be worth it then!

Hopefully AF doesn't come for you and you get the best news but honestly, from experience when AF comes for me I'm gutted for a short while then I'm ready to get back on it again xx