Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

@Amy259 sorry for taking ages.. it's been a hell of a day. Not even eaten yet! I didn't end up getting a test because it's been a shocker of a day but I'm positive AF will be here by tomorrow. Got the 'AF imminent' pressure and pains.

Really started to convince myself yesterday too 😫

@beckyBP I swear I could see it on that pic as well so I’ll be shocked if AF does come! Hope you’re okay chick.

Also I’m still getting used to the TTC forums lingo and skimmed the msg first and read ‘I’m positive AF’ as ‘I’m positive as f*ck’ so to re read it I was like noooo 😩

@meganlea I've got to admit that did make me laugh.. I'm more likely to say 'positive as f*ck' in real life 😂

But AF has arrived.. early too! And the cramps are baaaad! 😫 I was sure there was something on that text but never mind! We go again!

Hope is everyone? Hope you've all had a nice weekend! X

@beckyBP I've found a very large glass of wine usually helps with AF cramps 😜
In all seriousness hope your allright
Af showing up is shit but af showing up when a test is playing tricks is even worse I thought I seen a line too 😞

That's it tho! you've got this 💪🏻
Another month of having more fun 😊

I'm really hoping to get a bfp before Xmas.
I've kinda hoped that could be our family's Xmas present 😂😂
I've litrally done no Xmas shopping 🙈😂
If it doesn't it doesn't one of them ha but a girl can dream 😍

@beckyBP sorry you had a shocker of a day yesterday - that’s not a fun weekend. Hope today was better for you, minus af arriving... I was so sure I saw something on that test. Hope you’ve spoiled yourself today?? X

@rosiej95 how are you getting on? Where about are you in this cycle now? There’s still time for Christmas bfps! Although my next cycle would put me finding out right between Xmas and NYE and we’re due to be away with my parents so that would be a tough one to keep a secret 😂🥂

@Amy259 AF disappeared 2 days ago!
Was quite a long one this time 🙈
So my plan this month, dtd as much as possible whilst trying to eat healthy and loose this bit of lockdown 1 weight which will hopefully help by dtd lots? 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 my app says ovulation is in 5 days I'm really not trustworthy of the app I honestly couldn't tell you why I use it as a guide 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 but am just going to dtd as much as I can this month and cover all basis 🤞

That would be amazing tho! Haha What a way to end the year 😍😍
How are you getting on? 😊

@rosiej95 I hear that - the covid kilos are real at this end 😂 determined to start eating healthy again tomorrow. Since we got married in August I’ve definitely been enjoying myself a little too much haha.
Yeah apparently if you dtd every 2-3 days between AFs it’s just as good as tracking. I would far prefer that but my DH just isn’t always up for it that often so I feel like I have to time it a bit!
It would be great but I’d rather be much further along before telling my mum, she wouldn’t handle it well if something awful was to happen.

I’m currently somewhere around 4dpo I think... didn’t track this month as we weren’t supposed to be ttc (new job) but we definitely dtd 3 times in what I think was my fw soooo here I am in another tww 😂😂

@Amy259 I'm just so lazy as well when it comes to exercise & because I'm not at work is even harder not to eat my body weight in chocolate 😂
Determined tho to shift it, gives me something else to focus on 😂

That's fair enough in an ideal world I'd wanna wait but the fact I've got them nothing for Xmas Made me think it was a perfect idea ha!

Ahh you never know 😜 the laid back approach may have worked 🤞
Do any of your friends/family know your ttc? :)

@rosiej95 oh tell me about it - I can’t wait to me more than 10 feet from my kitchen cupboards all day 😂😂

Yeah if I got a bfp this month I think I’d book an early scan for just before Christmas then give them it as a gift too!

My 3 closest friends know (bridesmaids, and we chatted about it on my hen) and DH’s best friend, but we don’t really talk about it, they just knew after our wedding we’d try. We haven’t really talked about it with parents either but again they knew we were keen to start after the wedding. I’m sure no one asks but they assume we’re ttc and wouldn’t want to ask if they haven’t heard any news! What about you? X

@Amy259 litrally know one knows apart from my nail technician. We always get the "when you going to start having kids" or dropping maaajor hints 😂
It's usually just family members so I just wind them up tbf haha. Tell them that we're going to be having more dogs instead or if they say about a grandchild I'm like you've got your grand dog 😂 so have come across like it's not happening yet, so I'm hoping that will be a lovely surprise for them & one there not expecting 😂 🤷🏼‍♀️

@rosiej95 apart from my nail technician hahaha I love that! That’s so lovely though, everyone will be so happily surprised.
I feel like that’s why we need chats like this so much - imagine not being able to vent it out or ask for advice anywhere etc, I’d go mad!

Advice (pretty) please: 15DPO tomorrow & trying to decide whether to test or not.

Should I do it, or should I wait a bit longer? Xx

@rosieb060 there’s no way I’d have made it to 14dpo and not tested so you’re a lot stronger than me 😂😂

When is af due? Xx

Thanks for the love girls. I love this little safe space to be super honest. Now the period pains have died down I feel ok and ready to go again!!

Defo going to try preseed this week.

How is everyone?

Today's chat made me laugh.. don't even speak to me about the lockdown lbs. I was my in my best shape in March. I feel like I've doubled 😂🙈

@rosiej95 love you approach this month. Might take a leaf out of your book! .. wait.. is that even the saying??

@Amy259 hoping for a a speedy 2 weeks for you 🤞🏽

Well done for holding off @rosieb060 id say hold off but I didn't take my own advice this month so not really one to dish it out 😂

Xx

@Amy259 AF was due sat!

@beckyBP thanks, love. I've got all the mixed feelings!

I might do one first thing tomorrow morning.

Oh @rosieb060 definitely get testing!! Two days late is so promising 🥰🤞🏻 Do you feel any different at all?

Oh wow @rosieb060 I would for sure test!! Xx

@beckyBP thank you!

Amy259 I don't feel super different to be honest but I'm also trying really hard not to over think it.

I would just be so delighted if it was positive.

Xx

I decided to wait in the end! Going to leave it til Friday if I can bear it (which would be 18DPO I think)

My husband likes to do the tests with me and I woke up at 6am this morning and just couldn't bear to wake him up. He was sleeping soundly.

So, Friday it is! Either AF will hold off and I'll do the test, or won't, and I won't have to do the test. I think the results show up a bit clearer the longer you leave it, so that feels good.

I keep getting weird feelings across my low tummy muscles at the front, like I've run too hard and made a single muscle very tired. But unlike exercise, 10 or 20 minutes later, the feeling goes away again. Feels weird but maybe that's what a late period does to you?!

@rosieb060 you are some woman!! I wish I had your patience - I’d be climbing the walls at this point. I’m already counting down to 11dpo so I can start testing 😂

I’m pretty sure low down light cramps is a good sign! Ive seen a fair few women say that and then I had them with my bfp, I would’ve described them more as flutters than cramps if I was to compare them to stronger af cramps? And a lot lower. But I suppose everyone is different!

@beckyBP haha! I'm glad your cramps have gone now and you're feeling a better. Ready to start your new cycle!!

@rosiej95 omg I wanted to be able to give everyone a little Christmas surprise too! mind, we'd be forced to tell everyone dead early because it'd be obvious when you're the only one not drinking so I guess there's pros and cons to not falling on before Xmas!
Also, I'm the same, when people ask about babies I'm like is my doggo not enough for you?! haha.

@rosieb060 omgg! I'm feeling impatient on your behalf, it's definitely looking good though!! I'm sure @maudesid had a similar feeling before her BFP? Fingers crossed, if you last until Friday, I will be mega impressed!! But like you say, it gives time for AF to show in the meantime if she was to. Fingers and toes crossed!

I'm only CD6 and it feels like it's dragging already, I'm trying not to think about it but it's impossible lol. Having a 5 week cycle too just makes everything fee like it's progressing in slow mo! @Amy259 I'm sure you know the feeling as you're the same. And now you're in your tww it'll go even slower ha!

Taking my pre conception folic acid, vitamin c and d tablets this month, been getting a 30-40 minute walk in every day, increasing my intake of fruit and veg, started temping yesterday and today and recording on premom, don't think I will use the OPKs until maybe CD12, sometimes my cycles are 5 weeks long but a few months ago it was 4 weeks (rare for me) so not sure whether to start a little earlier, I bought a pack of 100 so it's not like I'll run out.

Hope everyone's feeling okay and staying optimistic!!

@beckyBP - I'm sure it is ha I've heard of that before haha!

@rosieb060 you are definitely a lot stronger then I am 😂 I've also heard the longer you leave it the stronger the line 👌🏻
🤞 for you!!

@Amy259 how are you doing? How many dpo are you now? 😊

Hi @meganlea! Yeah I’m really feeling the drag this week - possibly more so than any other tww except my very first and I don’t know why?! I was SO chilled the first 3 weeks of this cycle with no OPKs or temps, it was lovely, but this is torture. I almost wish I’d tracked so I knew what day I definitely ovulated, I think possibly just guessing my DPO could be making it worse because it’s causing me to try to symptom spot.
You’re right, 5 week cycles are the worst! Although when I wasn’t TTC, only having to put up with a period every 5 weeks was lovely. Grass is always greener 😂

Sounds like you’re so on it with making sure you’re feeling good - love that!!

@rosiej95 sorry, cross posted there!

I’m okay, losing my mind somewhat but I suppose that’s to be expected 😂 I think I’m 6dpo, going off when I normally ovulate. Think I’m going to test for the first time on Sat... I’ll be 10dpo and holding off for just 4 more mornings feels achievable at the moment!