Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

@Happythoughts91 Does that make you about 11dpo at the moment? Depending on implantation, a FRER could definitely pick that up - I got my obvious bfp at 11dpo. But that’s counting from ovulation, not peak - it was 13 days after my peak.

Maybe take the FRER in the morning even just to get rid of that anxious test feeling?

I’m 14 days exact today from my first High and then peaked on the Friday. So I’m working it out to be 10 today and tomorrow will be 11.

Ekkk. Maybe I’ll do it in the morning. Did you have any symptoms when you got a positive? Xx

@Happythoughts91 yeah I had cramping from about 5dpo but even “cramping” seems too strong a word, it was like flutters? Nothing like af cramps, much lighter. Vivid dreams, sore nipples, then a bit of nausea on day 11 and 12.
I normally get really obvious PMS symptoms - huge bloating, starving, sad/irritable, so it was more the absence of them that made me think something was different!

Oooo @Happythoughts91 I really hope it picks something up tomorrow for you how exciting. I said I’m feeling chill but this is only my first cycle and I’m waiting for my peak atm when I’m in your shoes I’ll be a wreck I imagine!! How are you feeling atm?

@Amy259 thank you!! And honestly before TTC he was only ever up for it once every 2-3 weeks it was me always asking him for more and now he’s more eager than me to DTD so I’m enjoying it whilst I can. It’s a win win though if I don’t conceive I get more fun times if I do I get my baby 🤪. Early days still though I imagine in a few months time (hopefully it doesn’t take long but you never know) I’ll be like nooo more!!!!

@RLou3 the tiredness hasn't hit yet but I am getting very lightheaded especially in the morning and have been a bit nauseous! I think I'm about 4.5 weeks have you rung the dr? I'm scared I'll jinx it!

It's sinking in now, honestly Friday I thought I was going to lose my mind I was so shocked I felt ill but now I'm so happy and so worried it won't work out we haven't told anyone, will probably tell our parents this weekend..

@meganlea definitely take hope from me my cycles were so irregular I am absolutely gobsmacked that I am pregnant (even writing that looks so crazy!) I don't want to jinx it as it is so early but my cycles didn't stop me getting a bfp.

@Happythoughts91 I think I was 11dpo and did a clear blue digital which said to use from day of missed period and first thing in the morning I took it 3 days before period and at 6pm and it came up straight away! Really hope you get your bfp!

@Amy259 you will probably stop trying and get a bfp!

@meganlea send him round here to talk to my DH, will you?! 😂

@maudesid that would be lovely, to be able to conceive without going back into a life of stressing about OPKs, bbt, cm, symptom spotting and whatever else!!

@RLou3 How nice! Bet it was amazing telling them 😍 did they know you were ttc?
I'm going to get a frer on way home from work tomorrow
So nervous tho so I might just drag it out as long as I can 😂🙈

@Happythoughts91 you have some good will power to not to test 😊
Keep us updated 😍

@meganlea all these things we have to take into consideration 🙈
And even when we do get our bfp there's so many different things we have to avoid too 🤯😂
It's so exiting tho 🥰

Hello, I’ve just literally tested and it wasn’t my time this month. Feel a little deflated and had a tear or two. I don’t know why? I’m so silly as I know it’s my first month off the pill, and I didn’t expect it to happen. I definitely have symptoms and feel ‘weird’ but I think that’s just coming off the pill.
Atleast the wait is over now and I can try to forget about it all for a few weeks now. Xx

@Happythoughts91 honestly - don’t stress yourself, easier said than done - I know. The first month we tried I was adamant that I was pregnant, as I had every symptom going. I was even writing them down day by day! So I could look back. I honestly had every symptom. The mind is crazy. The next month I got my BFP I barely had any symptoms!! Other than yellow discharge (sorry) and stomach felt like I’d done sit-ups - which made me test as I definitely hadn’t exercised!! Other than that - no tiredness, sickness or ANYTHING!! Keep positive - it will happen xxx

@rosiej95 well we got married in August so I think they knew it would be the next thing for us. They’re so excited 🥰🥰🥰 when are you Going to test? Xx

Honestly girls - I really urge you all to use preseed lube! Both me and @maudesid used it the cycle we got our BFP (you did didn’t you 😂😂 hope I’m not making that up) such amazing reviews of people trying for AGES then using that lube and conceiving!! Xxxxxx

@RLou3 I'm going to try & nip out on my lunch break at work & going to buy a few I'm only 8dpo so I'm thinking I might hold out a little.
It's so hard to not get my hopes up tho
Tbf part of me is a little like I really think we have done it this month & then the other part of me is like 😩 I'm just not so sure :(

@Happythoughts91 your not out until AF shows up ❤️ it is so hard not to stress tho I think our mind plays so many tricks when we want it so much 🥰

@Amy259 I spoke way too soon, last night he fell asleep!!! And the. Woke up 2 minutes later like I’m ready now but I was turned off then and said no lol. I can be so stubborn. But we’re going to DTD as soon as he’s home from work tonight and not leave it until bed time.

@rosiej95 tell me about it! This is like hurdle 1 of motherhood out a 1000 other worries!! Fingers crossed if you end up testing today.

@Happythoughts91 don’t beat yourself up about it, just know that you did everything you possibly could, and if AF comes, have a good break from thinking about it eat whatever you want drink whatever you want for a couple of days and then prepare again. You haven’t got AF yet so I’m still hoping for you!!

Thanks for the recommendation @RLou3 I have just ordered some off eBay for £8!! Don’t usually need it but DH is getting a tad sore down there . TMI but he’s always so eager to just put it in! And wonders why he’s sore, he needs to calm down and go with the flow!!🤣 anyway at least it’s ordered.

I’ve had ANOTHER flashy face! That’s 6 days in total now. I keep googling and apparently it happens to loads of people so I’m going to keep DTD as often as I can and keep going with the tests, peak will come hopefully any day now I can feel it in my bones if it hasn’t already happened this afternoon as I have a killer headache that’s come out of no where and the line on the test this morning looked pretty strong so today could be the day! If I ovulate today would it show as a static in the morning do you think?

@Happythoughts91 as down hearted as you feel now, I promise if af arrives after a couple of days (if not later that same day!) you’ll be ready for some comfort food, maybe some wine, and be excited for the next cycle!

@meganlea I would maybe get some cheapie OPKs - they’re a lot easier to read than the CB because it’s a gradient rather than just yes or no. You probably won’t ovulate today because you would have peaked already (so it would be static - it goes static when you peak, not when you ovulate, you’ll ovulate 12-36 hours later) but you could peak this afternoon and not know, then it’ll be static tomorrow but you wouldn’t know how long ago your peak was - does that make sense? The cb is great as confirmation but you’re better knowing exactly when you peak so your maths are more accurate so I’d get some cheap stick ones instead.

That all being said, dtd as often as you are I really wouldn’t worry!! 😂 they say every 2-3 days most of your cycle would cover it, so don’t stress too much. I only know so much about it because my DH isn’t always up for it every day so I like to make sure if I’m going to be stubborn about it it’s for a reason haha.
I also love preseed, so another vote here!

Just trying to catch up!!

@Happythoughts91 I get you.. it's SO disheartening when AF arrives but I always feel over it quite quickly and ready to get on it again!!

Preseed.. I see a lot of preseed talk. I think I need to invest. How does it work? Like do you insert it in you?! Xx

@beckyBP yes - it comes with applicators - so you squirt the lube into the applicator and then put applicator up and squirt it up there, then just throw applicator and use a new one each time! Defo worth a shot !! Xxxxx

bfn tonight so I'm going to wait now until Sunday & test again (if I can wait that long 😂)
If the spotting I had was anything to do with implantation wouldn't it have shown up on a frer? 🤷🏻‍♀️ just wanna fast forward time to the end of the 2ww now 🙈

@Amy259 what cheap OPKs would you recommend, do you have a link to the ones you get? There’s so many different ones on eBay!! And yeah that does make sense!! We’ve DTD this afternoon so that’s today covered if I have peaked, I guess we’ll know for sure tomorrow!

@rosiej95 urgh that’s so frustrating, time literally seems to go so slow when waiting, don’t lose hope!

@meganlea I use the easy@home ones and downloaded the Premom app (they work together) - it’s brilliant and hasn’t got any prediction for af or ov wrong for 4 months now because the algorithms have the added help of the OPKs, not just your data input.

I’ll attach a photo, you can get them on their own or in a set with hcg strips. I would just go for the LH strips though as the preg strips aren’t sensitive, they need levels of 25 to detect hcg (versus a FRER that only needs 6.5).

Then I used Wondfo hcg strips to detect my really early bfp because they only need hcg of 10 - and work out about 50p each instead of £5 for a FRER, so they’re good if you’re a repeat tester like me 😂

@RLou3 yes we did use pre-seed! Only one of the times we dtd but right on ovulation and as you say has great reviews!

@rosiej95 don't get too deflated yet how many dpo are you?

@rosiej95 oh Rosie I’m sorry, but there’s still hope! Definitely test again on Sunday.

@beckyBP I agree, already feels tons better. Hoping AF comes this weekend and then I can move on and be excited for next cycle.

We ordered two bottles of conceive plus tonight. They are tiny bottles 75ml at 19.99£ each lol.

The reviews seem to be fab. So will keep you girls posted. Xx

Might have to try preceed if it worked for you both gals @maudesid & @RLou3

Sorry if it's tmi but is it like a bit of a mood killer inserting it 🙈

Going for SMEP this month as haven't actually managed it yet. CD 10 currently and pretty sure I ovulate at CD 16/17

Defo let us know how you get on with conceive plus @Happythoughts91

@rosiej95 still plenty of time! Don't count yourself out girl.

@rosiej95 it’s still early!’ Defo give it a couple of days more xx

@beckyBP - yes it is a mood killer but that’s how our ttc sex was anyway LOL!! To be fair id usually have a bath, then squirt it up there.. then call DH upstairs 😂😂😂 so I was ready and waiting. It’s SO watery. Not what I expected for lube.. but it’s the best one for supporting sperm.. xxx

Day 10! I usually ovulate on day 16-17 so getting ready to DTD as much as possible.

I think this is cycle 4. I feel gutted - just expected it to all happen much much quicker than this.

@RLou3 I mean it clearly worked so worth it! That's actually a good shout do it without them there. I just pictured laying there like 'hang on babes, let me just..' 😂 gotta laugh!!

@rosieb060 I feel ya girl. Flash back a few months and I picked myself announcing this month. I know people get offended when you've been trying for under 6 months and 'moan' but it is just SO hard not knowing when it's going to happen and trying to carry on with life.

We'll get there girls! Xx

@beckyBP me too! I'd started to make plans for my mat leave starting from a certain month

Tested again this morning bfn...
I'm giving up on testing now it's such a crap feeling & now I'm feeling a bit mardy 🙈😂

I'm really hoping it happens before Xmas 😔