TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,

Fingers crossed for lots of BFPs this month as we are definitely due some!

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@calimommy

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@VP91x
@Runnergirl1
@Hayley19835
@Mommybear05
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@Renna
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Wishingfornumber2
@Northernsoul90
@Sallyjo27
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@Lollol86
@MrsK21
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@LKMH
@Cici89
@Blondecomment0703
@CasperFlamingo

I'm CD11, waiting for something (anything) to happen this month 😂. Only taking my Inofolic Alpha this cycle and nothing else.

Hope I've tagged everyone xx

@IWM20 so sorry for your losses and also hope this is a super sticky bean for you, you definitely deserve it.

I too want to know what your secret is tho for catching some quickly ♥️

@HappyVibes mine is a bit of both but has been a little wetter the last couple of days. I guess time will tell xx

@MichT4 yeah doll, I understand that it usually dries up 2-3 days post ovulation at the latest. Really hopeful for you ladies - this is so exciting for you all. Xx

also, the thought of having sex at the moment just feels really weird! I feel very conflicted between my sadness and my want to TTC. Did or does anybody else have this with their MC? It better pass pronto though because I don't wanna delay TTC at all.

My feelings are all over the place and I think more than anything I just feel so so lonely inside my sadness because nobody in my real life knows how it feels and I'm sick of being told the same positive outlooks on MC. This time last week I was blissfully pregnant before the bleeding started on the Tuesday. Tomorrow is going to be a rough day I reckon.

@MichT4 yeah tbh he's just buying stuff for the dog this week so he can just spend some extra money on that. I'll get him a nice cake etc. Cook some steak, the usual!

You have just as much chance as anyone else. Keep the PMA and dw about CP we all know it's worse than useless 😂🙄 xx

@Bl0ndi3 I was the same. My first MC we didn't DTD for a while. We weren't actively trying for that cycle, as I was torn whether to wait for one AF or not. We were going to use protection but decided against that. I didn't track for the first 3 cycles so don't know if i ovulated anyway.
After the second MC we didn't hesitate so much as we knew we wanted to try straight away. I felt guilty at first but I think it helped distract my mind and focus on the positives, that we could try again rather than just thinking about the loss. The first time we DTD felt a bit strange and that's when I felt quite guilty, but then it did just feel like the right thing to do.

I'd say don't feel bad for whichever you decide. And I found that people don't know what to say, so go with the generic 'at least you can get pregnant' or 'just relax and it will happen again soon'. It doesn't help, but I think it's such an unspoken subject that people just say what they think is the right thing. I think sometimes an 'I'm sorry, it's really shit' followed by a listening ear is enough.

I hope you are ok tomorrow, stay strong and look forward. But also allow yourself some sadness. You will grieve, and it will come and go. It's expected and totally OK xx

@VP91x ooh a steak dinner....lucky boy 🍆🍆

I just had some EWCM. Don't tell me I'm due another positive OPK 😂😂 xx

@MichT4 @Bl0ndi3 I honestly don't know 😂😂. The only difference has been I've had loads of EWCM after the miscarriages which I only get once or twice a year usually 🤔 and we DTD on that day. Only 3 times this month so must have just been timing and the EWCM. I haven't really got any symptoms compared to the other pregnancies 🤔. I tested because I was due on but spotting hadn't started which it usually does. I sent my husband to the shop for some tampons and a pregnancy test 😂😂 just to rule it out really. Ive felt ever so slightly nauseous but not really anything much and not lasting long. Slightly sore boobs but not much compared to last time. I just really really hope this is 3rd time lucky 😞 xxx

Okay quick daily catch up before bed...

@2020wish next scan is next Wednesday, so only 9 nights to wait 🤞 great you have another one in not too long aswell x

@chloedancer897 I'm sorry you are feeling low and it was a BFN this morning, the ladies have given so much good advice but honestly just look after yourself and spend some time focussing on your beaut family x

@Firevie my temps were kinda strange and dipped before my BFP so stay positive x

@VP91x I was living in Sheffield at the time and my mum thought it was too cold up there so never visited so was easy for them not to meet 🙈 are your temps still stable? It may just be a late ovulation this month don't give up yet. Also yay to a new pup x

@Pugprincess yay to getting a scan booked in, so happy for you and this little bean x

@Bl0ndi3 my cycles were pretty regular I've still got some of my CB tests from the first box of 25 I bought and used them for 4 months so I'd definitely recommend doing them alongside cheapies x

@Lollol86 my CM would be creamy after ovulation and I know everything says that it's supposed to dry up but I'd find it was pretty sticky until around 11/12dpo then would be dry one day before AF x

@MichT4 my CP was low and firm and it still doesn't feel high so I've completely disregarded this sign 😂

Excited for everyone testing this week 🤞

I'm sure it will be @IWM20. Third time is the charm! I have everything crossed for you xx

@MichT4 haha 🍆💦💦

Ooh ewcm 👀👀 increased CM is a brilliant sign. Stay away from the OPKs. What are you near testing range now? You must be right..

Thanks @SmileyT. Consider it totally disregarded. Stupid CP. 😂😂
I hope you are ok and not suffering too much in this heat! Goodnight hun, sleep well xx

@Bl0ndi3 I'm so sorry you're struggling. It's so hard when others don't understand. Lucky my first time round 2 years ago. My sister in law had been through it so I could talk to her. You might find if you open up to friends that some of them have been through it too. This is what I've found from both mmc's. People just don't talk about it enough.

@scrambledeggy Omg I hate the direct ads too. Plus I stupidly signed up to different emails about my pregnancy so got the you're 10 weeks pregnant! Emails.

@Northernsoul90 I had to unsubscribe to them all quick. I deleted all social media while pregnant as it was making me more anxious then when my mmc happened I got it back but I may delete it again.

I've just had some brown discharge after spotting this morning. I was out with a friend & our boys. I had to ask her for a pound for the sanitary towel machine. So embarrassing. Just lucky the machine was there & she had a pound!! I stupidly didn't take any with me. I'm really hoping it's just old blood & not a sign of infection.

@SmileyT oh that makes more sense, haha! But still, how funny. They must have been shocked when they found out.

Yeah super stable.. (pic attached) it's freaking me out! Hope you are feeling okay xx

@VP91x Not sure what you mean with testing range - I think the heat has gone to my head. But I am now 10-12dpo, still plan on hanging on til Thursday. I can't stress enough how much I just want to not test, but if I was lucky enough to get a bfp and I found out on holiday, I think I'd be too anxious. I'd want to call my doctor and be close enough to get any prescriptions or anything - if they offered anything that is.
I won't go near my OPKs, although I was oddly tempted earlier 🙄😂

I thought earlier, maybe check the eah opk? xx

@VP91x that is super stable 😳 but look at all that EWCM!! xx

@VP91x that's frustrating about your OPKs but agree with @MichT4 the control line looks really faint. Do you have another brand you check with? Could be a dodgy batch?
Yeah it's soooo strange the medication is working so quickly, the one and only time on CD75 that I'm happy to see blood. Saying that it's gone back to old blood looking spotting. I'm going to finish the course and hope I get a proper AF after as it's still just spotting now.

Hope you manage to get a peak soon and if it coincides with OH's birthday, all the more luckier he is 😬

@IWM20 congratulations! Praying this is a sticky bean for you 🤞🏽

@Northernsoul90 glad you had a relaxing day with friends and took your mind off things. Have you started OPKs etc for this cycle? Sorry I've lost track of the thread!

@Firevie enjoy your trip home to Vienna. I've only been once for work and remember being wowed by the city and how beautiful it all looked, was majorly bummed I didn't have much free time to explore though. Looking forward to your pics! X

@MichT4 I don't have any different brand OPKs. I never thought that maybe the control line was light too.. Hmm. Thursday will be a good day to test, you'll either be 12-14dpo ❤️. What test are you using? Xx

@MrsK21 oh boy, maybe I buy some other OPKs to double check but my temps haven't shifted either so nothing has happened either way. I'm glad it has at least started something for you and that it is working 🥰

@MichT4 😂😂 my bloody useless ewcm with no ovulation. Such a tease xx

@VP91x I have my cheapies, and I also have a CB early detection but I don't want to waste it 😫. I think I'll probably need to though as it'll be more accurate I suppose - not sure how sensitive the cheapies are xx

@MichT4 yeah I would use the cb early detection for sure. You don't want to second guess with the cheapies xx

@IWM20 aww congratulations 🥳 I hope you are 3rd time lucky. A friend of a friend told me they had 2 mc then been good with the 3rd so there’s hope. I also got so much more ewcm after mc compared to before. X

@SmileyT thank you I thought I’d better get onto them ASAP! The first app was too early on really though. I have a better chance at 6/7 weeks. That’s 🤞🏻 I get there. X

Hope everyone’s keeping cool in this muggy weather. X

@MichT4 cheapies I’ve found are 10mlu. Which brand are they? If you use a cheapie give it a good ten mins to develop and really look in the daylight would be my advice. I know everyone says about evap lines but I personally never ever had one over the years and I’ve stared at A LOT of tests 😅

@IWM20 Congrats, wishing you the best for this pregnancy, what a hellish couple of months you've had!

@HappyVibes thank you for the wisdom, fingers crossed for a BFP. I'm sure before my pregnancy last month I didn't have that much CM, such a mystery.

@Bl0ndi3 I felt like crap for a few days after because I had been allowed such a short time during which to start imagining the future. Tomorrow I'm talking to an advice and wellbeing service that my workplace offer to see if I can talk some of it through. Allow your self some time to be a bit all over the place tomorrow, I probably will! Agree with @MichT4, there's no right way to deal with it.

I couldn't eat my tea this evening, which is normally a sign of imminent AF, please no!

@Pugprincess Thank you! I will have a look xx

@VP91x Thank you, I have the nurse calling on Wednesday so will see what she says as well - day 5 today of light bleeding so I'm hoping it's just a normal period and the blood is dark because it's older xx

@MrsK21 No I haven't started yet I'm still bleeding atm cd 5 today I thought I was cd 5 yesterday but I miscounted! How are you getting on?? Xx

@IWM20 Congratulations 🥳🥳 fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy for you! Xx