TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,

Fingers crossed for lots of BFPs this month as we are definitely due some!

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@calimommy

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@VP91x
@Runnergirl1
@Hayley19835
@Mommybear05
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@Renna
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Wishingfornumber2
@Northernsoul90
@Sallyjo27
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@Lollol86
@MrsK21
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@LKMH
@Cici89
@Blondecomment0703
@CasperFlamingo

I'm CD11, waiting for something (anything) to happen this month 😂. Only taking my Inofolic Alpha this cycle and nothing else.

Hope I've tagged everyone xx

@VP91x it was OHs Dads birthday celebration yesterday and it was so lovely. We were sat outside at first but had to move in as it was too hot!
Yeah we drove down last night because we knew it would be busy this morning. Just ready to head out early as it'll be hard to get parked I think. So should be a nice day by the sea

How are you? What's planned today?

My temp went up a tiny bit last night - celebrating the small stuff xx

@Pugprincess that sounds sensible, let us know how you get on!

@2020wish so happy for you! Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly and we can all share in some of your success this month.

@Bl0ndi3 I know what you mean about it feeling like a really difficult game. I wish I could ask family if this has happened to them and if they have any advice, but I don't want to let them all know I'm TTC! @Wishingfornumber2 maybe you are on to something with this laid back approach...thank you for your good wishes

@MichT4 thank you, it's really muggy here today and it rained a bit overnight so I'm hoping that will at least make all the weeding I have to do a bit easier!

@MichT4 ah si lovely you'll be by the sea today. I'm sure you'll have a great day 🥰. What does your chart look like now?

Yeah okay here, tiny bit fed up with opks/temps but nothing I can do and I know why it's happening so that helps a bit.

Nearly at Chessington! Xx

@Pugprincess Definite line progression 🤩🤩🥳🥳

@Bl0ndi3 it is hard getting a negative after 😔 at least it means your body is recovering though and you can start ttc. Its totally up to you with the opks, I didn't get a negative test until 6 weeks after my mc it took forever I then started doing clear blue digital opks on the day of my negative and I ovulated 3 days later. My cycle was really long though because of the hcg being in my system for so long so my body was probably waiting to ovulate. Xx

@VP91x Yeah I think I will do I'll just see if they can do offer anything even just for some reassurance! Xx

@VP91x Have fun at Chessington! Xx

@VP91x @Pugprincess @Firevie @Northernsoul90 @2020wish @SmileyT @scrambledeggy thank you - pets have a funny knack of worming their way into your hearts don’t they! I started spotting yesterday too (which is my new post-mc way to start af) so it’s been a bit of a pants week - finished off today by going to my friend’s baby shower who (if I hadn’t had a mc) was 2 weeks ahead of my pregnancy.

@MichT4 your pupper is so cute! My sister has a collie too :)

@Jazper I’m considering contacting my gp now as I am about to enter my 7th cycle post mc and my last few cycles have been a bit shorter - I don’t know what counts as too short, but I am 36 so think I should get in the system quicker rsther than later.

@VP91x have fun at chessington
@Bellabubble sorry to hear about perhaps impending af. Def speak with your gp - I’m sure nothing to worry about but if it gives you peace of mind and gets you in the system why not
@Pugprincess yay that’s such good line progression. Keeping my fingers crossed for you
@MichT4 enjoy the sea today
@2020wish yay! Wishing you all the very best and that this journey continues to be healthy
@Tink20058 oh wow! 18 weeks that is great. Wishing you all the very best
@Bl0ndi3 @Lemondropsandgumdrops so sorry to hear about your losses but as others have said this is an amazing group of strong women! So you’ll have all the support here that you need. Give yourselves time to heal and be kind to your bodies. Our bodies and minds are very strong. Men wouldn’t have the physical or mental strength to carry a baby or go through such horrible losses as we have. Trust that your bodies are working for you in overmode and that these strong bodies will bring you healthy babies!

I’m back to BBT this morning / took my temperature ay 6.30 as usual. It was 36.61 so slight less than the other two days at 36.74 but still above cover line so I think that’s still good if I remember @VP91xs words of wisdom correctly
Have a great Sunday ladies
Xxx

Thank you all for the kind welcome - as rubbish as it is that so many of us have gone through this it’s reassuring to have people who know how it feels!!

I’m officially in the 2WW now, temp rise showed yesterday after the positive OPKs so it’s a case of waiting now. I’ve ordered some ‘trying for a baby’ vitamins as realised I probably should have started the folic acid etc again if we were trying?

My first baby I was ‘properly’ trying - she took a while to conceive and I was so into BBT, constant OPKs, drinking the grapefruit juice etc! This baby we lost, we had one chat about trying for a second (our first was 15 months at the time) and literally 2 weeks later I had a positive test in my hands so it was a total different experience. Then with how long this miscarriage went on for I feel back to that almost obsessive state of wanting to control everything. Really going to try to hold out to test if I can.

@Lemondropsandgumdrops you definitely need to start folic acid.
I've become so obsessive with it all, it's all I can think about. I just want to be able to relax whilst trying but it is isn't happening. I'm also in the tww. The waiting is a killer 😂😂

@VP91x @MichT4 I’m really good thanks, glad it’s cooled down a little (overcast here) just pottering in the garden have a house valuation this week so trying to give it bit more kerb appeal lol we have decided to find out gender so going to book a private scan for next week my nhs one is 31st August but partners still not allowed here so don’t want him missing out how are you both doing? Xx

@Pugprincess that is massive line progression 😍 how many days past ovulation did you start testing? Xx

@Lollol86 you don’t want to know 😂😂😂 think I did one most days. I started seeing something from 10dpo but didn’t get the stronger line until 12dpo. I’ve just done a clear blue! Bearing in mind this was my 6th wee of the day lol

@Pugprincess it's so obsessive testing isn't it, I'm only 7dpo and dying to test but I've not got a great feeling about this month. That's amazing how the line has developed. How are you feeling? Xx

@Lollol86 I hadn’t got a great feeling about last month either, I had a bit more cm but that was it. Tested on 7dpo just to curb my obsession and lo and behold a BFP that took longer to appear than the 10 mins but it was there. X

@2020wish I'm just having a down day today, you know when it al gets to much and you can't stopped thinking about it, the same always happens as I reach the second half of the tww xx

@Lollol86 I completely understand. Last month I was so down I even had a chat with my partner about giving up and not trying again until after our wedding in 2 years , even posted here that I wasn’t gonna try in aug. It gets too much.. I’m surprised I ended up pregnant that month as I just felt I wasn’t and I didn’t even tempt or anything. And went away for a long weekend on the drink in my tww convinced I wasn’t. I now believe all that letting go and stress free waiting in the tww heloee implantation along side aspirin. The world has a funny way of working out. Treat urself to a takeaway tonight and a glass of wine. U have been pregnant before and u will again. Xx

@2020wish 100% and I haven't even been trying that long, it's just so hard when you have something and it's taken away and then you just want it back straight away. I'll be fine. I've had a lazy day today and it's the worst thing to do as I just sit and think. Tomorrow is a new day xx

Ah ladies just almost gone from chessington, we could not stand being there. They absolutely packed it out, it was boiling. 90mins + for most things. Nightmare 😭. Will read through the messages once I've cooled off, irritated beyond belief 😩 xx

@VP91x hey lovely! Thanks for checking in on me 😊 I'm doing okay, just been really busy. I'm not sure what's going on with temps/opk. My apps have said that I ovulated on day 16 but I got a static smiley on cb on day 11, so I'm not sure how that is working haha😂 I carried one dtd anyway so I should be covered, although I'm not sure if I even ovulated now. But I feel okay knowing that I have an appointment booked at the end of the month with a fertility doc.

How are you doing? Xx

@VP91x oh no that sounds awful. I can't believe they packed it out 😡 xx

@Firevie I think I should also take @VP91x 's words of wisdom, my temperature is still well above the cover line but dropped by 0.2 today so I'm feeling a bit meh. Also just found out that an old friend has had a baby today, which is making me a bit bitter, think I'm going to get back out in the garden and take my frustration out on some weeds!

I know this is insensitive and very petty of me, but I can't emphasise enough how jealous I am of the stability you all seem to have. Some of you already have kids, most of you seem to own your own homes, and you are all off on lovely holidays and days out. This year has totally wrecked my financial and career plans, and I feel like such a failure to be still renting and in-between that I can only take my lack of a proper BFP as some kind of personal slight. DH doesn't earn a lot, and I'm in a line of work that takes a long time to train for. I know 25 is still quite young, but.....ah maybe I need another decaff tea to calm me down

@scrambledeggy don’t think like that. Everyone feels that at some point. Life has a funny way of working out. If it makes u feel any better in feb my partner was on a 51k salary, I was pregnant and was had started the process of buying our own house and our wedding booked for next year. Come March and he was let off due to covid. Our dreams of buying all put on hold and we were basically homeless and are now living in temp accommodation, had to spend a lot of our savings keeping us afloat and bills covered. Wedding pushed back a year now and a miscarriage come April. We are now just starting the process of buying again but now it’s just in my name and for a lot less of a value as my partner is now working a 0 contract job to keep bills paid. He’s applied now to a new permanent job this week so fingers crossed that will work out and I’m pregnant again and further along with finally a strong heart beat!! I’m just decided that everything else is materialistic and my dream house will happen one day and I’ll find the money somewhere to pay for my wedding but right now all that matters is to not stress at what I can’t control. It will all work out for u and I’m sure u have so much to offer and achieved compared to what u think u haven’t achieved. Chin up xx

@2020wish Considering how rude my post was that's such a kind response, thank you so much I'm so sorry to hear what a horrible rollercoaster of a year you've had. I can't imagine the trauma of the job loss, homelessness, and your miscarriage. How amazing that you're still so willing to take the time to offer advice to others. You make a good point- fixating on material things when a lot of the time they are beyond our control, especially now, is nothing but a waste of time and energy. Wishing you brighter things in the future with your pregnancy.

@scrambledeggy i have 2 children but we are still renting. We had to decide whether we put our lives on hold and saved for a deposit or started a family, we choose to have a family. I'd love to own my house but I just can't save for it at the moment. One day maybe 😂 xx

Had a couple wobbles today as I had a couple
of nice messages through from friends and family that got me.

We've been for a walk up to Darwen Tower about 5.5km which was tough and had a few bad cramps whilst on the walk but otherwise actually really enjoyed being out and exercising.

How long have people had off work when they had their MC? I kinda feel like I could find a way to cope if I went back to work but I don't want to have to cope and even think about work etc if that makes sense? Work have been great and just said take what time I need. I've been off since Tuesday afternoon so far when it all started and will probably stay off this week at least too but will need a doctors note 🤔