TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,

Fingers crossed for lots of BFPs this month as we are definitely due some!

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@calimommy

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@VP91x
@Runnergirl1
@Hayley19835
@Mommybear05
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@Renna
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Wishingfornumber2
@Northernsoul90
@Sallyjo27
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@Lollol86
@MrsK21
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@LKMH
@Cici89
@Blondecomment0703
@CasperFlamingo

I'm CD11, waiting for something (anything) to happen this month 😂. Only taking my Inofolic Alpha this cycle and nothing else.

Hope I've tagged everyone xx

@Bl0ndi3 @Lemondropsandgumdrops sorry you have both found yourself here. Great support on this thread and loads of advice when ttc

@Pugprincess my tummy is the same!!! I dunno whether to embrace it yet or hide it lol although don’t want anyone noticing before I’m 2 months

@chloedancer897 @MichT4 so excited for u both testing

@VP91x hoping u either ovulate soon or get answers on ur cd 21 bloods

All I could stomach today was toast but then picked myself up and took my daughter to the beach with my mum and sister. Was a lovely day and really warm, and managed a McDonald’s for dinner!!! But absolutely exhausted now. Think I’m going to bed in an hour

@Jazper that's such good advice because I really don't want TTC again to consume me! I have already decided that I want to channel all my hurt and sadness into dieting and getting fit and healthy for next time so I plan to fully start that on Monday and hopefully that will be a good distraction for me and not make TTC too draining xxx

It's horrible that so many of us go through such a devastating experience, I burst into tears when I first saw the blood because I just knew there and then that it was the end and I don't think I'll ever forget that feeling or that moment.

@Bl0ndi3 @Lemondropsandgumdrops sorry you both find yourself here but hopefully you can both heal in a supportive and loving environment. I couldn't have done it without this thread. X

@2020wish not very hopeful this month especially after the news of my egg reserve and my husbands antibodies. Think we are fighting a losing battle really

@chloedancer897 oh no I must of missed that update? I take it they are low? But not yet gone so there is still hope! Would I consider freezing or is there anything they can do. And what about the antibodies, how does that effect xx

I had missed that too @chloedancer897 really sorry to hear you have had bad news xx

@2020wish yeh, my egg reserve is low but on the lower side of normal if that makes sense. So not horrific yet but time isn't on my side. And hubby has anti sperm antibodies so basically his sperm is being killed. Apparently that level is low enough but it should be 0. So trying to remain hopeful but not exactly the best news

@pugprincess yes deffo a line!! How exciting 🥰 I was thinking yesterday after all the DTD you managed I'd be shocked if you didn't get a BFP in the end 😂 my boobs didn't really start hurting until 5 weeks I don't think.

@Firevie omg I'm not surprised you're mad! It's worse when you feel it's double standards. Can he have a test? My friend did before visiting his parents.

@chloedancer897 CM like that leading up to AF is deffo a sign of PG! Most people are dry after ovulation if conception hasn't occurred 🤞🏼

@Jazper so glad you have fresh hope!

@runnergirl11 yay for ovulation! Nice to know when you feel in tune with your bod

@Bl0ndi3 @lemondropsandgumdrops sorry for your losses and welcome to the group. Like the others have said it's the perfect place to be. I'm pregnant, 7+1 after a chemical pregnancy in May and a miscarriage in June so there is hope! And we seem to be on the start of a flurry of new BFPs 🤞🏼

@fafi do you think so?? Oh god I really hope so. I really do

@chloedancer897 me too hun I have everything crossed for you xx

@Firevie thank you and regarding smoking can you keep windows open at all? What’s the weather like there is it good?!

@Jazper thank you! Yes in shock but trying to keep as level a head as I can but nice to try and enjoy it too. Like you say after all those years trying I feared I’d had and lost my only chance. Hopefully this means my fertility is better now. I really hope this one sticks, I’m paranoid every time I wipe or feel discharge come out.

@Bl0ndi3 hello and welcome, I’m sorry to read about your recent loss, it’s horrible when you have wanted it for so long and then it goes wrong. First pregnancy too because it’s not like we really know what’s normal etc anyway and you are aware it can happen but you just don’t think it will happen to you. 1 in 4 end like this they say though 😩 my tips for you would be to follow a healthy diet if you don’t already-5 a day and all that. Exercise if you don’t already. And the ladies here and myself drink Pom juice (pomegranate) to thicken the lining. It’s really expensive but just one glass a day. Some of us take a supplement called calc Fluor too which are tissue salts to help with lining and developments. There the biggest things I learnt and found in the early days after MC it helped me to focus on making positive changes I felt might help us conceive and carry a pregnancy successfully. How bad are your cramps? Are they lasting hours?

@Runnergirl1 thank you! Great news for ovulation! Was it a flashy smiley face or static? Keep testing if flashy and get DTD 😅 how’s your CM? Lol keep eye out for egg white x

@Lemondropsandgumdrops hi sorry to also read about your loss and how long it went on for. It seems to be quite common that they stop growing early on, mine stopped around 6 weeks 4 days and I lost baby by the time I was 8 weeks. Must be development problems in those cases? The TWW is a killer, but lots of support here, try to keep busy but easier said than done. (I was awful🤦🏼‍♀️)

@Bl0ndi3
I know everyone is different but distractions are good for me too. I need something to almost 'obsess' over. Dieting and getting fit are good distractions and ones which can only prove beneficial in your ttc journey.
It is horrible that it's happened but all I can hope is that it happened because it's what was meant to happen and one day, when I have my baby in my arms, i will genuinely feel that's the case ❤️

Thank you @fafi xx

@chloedancer897 yes stay positive! U still have eggs and cm does sound promising!!! Can they do anything for ur partners sperm? Is there any treatment?

@2020wish no, nothing 😭

@fafi haha that made me laugh! Tbh though in those 5 years we had many months where we went mad on dtd like that and all timed perfectly using opk etc and big fat nothing. So I wasn’t too hopeful but I did have more ewcm than I have ever seen in my life so something changed I believe.

@chloedancer897 cm is a good sign. I had that yellow type stuff, then light brown mixed in it for a few days, now back to normal at the moment 🤞🏻 I don’t want to see any brown cause that’s how my mc started 😭 is there a supplement your OH could take to help the sperm?

@chloedancer897 would hcg injections be something he could take to increase his speed count and improve his sperm quality? A few of us on here have had our partners take it that we suspect have issues and are now holding a pregnancy (fingers crossed so far)

@Pugprincess thanks. I'm hoping it's a good sign but like I said, I'm not too hopeful anymore really.
No nothing at all he can do. There's nothing to prevent it or get rid of it and they don't even know what causes it. He's taking a multivitamin anyway for fertility so every little helps I'm sure

@Pugprincess - no I just have the cheaper one with static or circle, so a lovely little static smiley looking at me. I knew though. My Cm has been all over tbh Due to the recent mmc, I was discharging brownish/pink until a few days ago x

@Pugprincess hi lovely thanks so much, my cramps are weird like I can not describe the feeling they aren't like any period cramps I've had before and they're infrequent and last about an hour maybe and then they're gone. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Interesting!! I'll give both of those a look. I'm forever following slimming world haha lifelong weight struggles so I will be getting fully back on the SW wagon now I'm over the initial heartache and devastation which resulted in junk food and takeaways most days this past week, when I was up to eating that is! Last time I was TTC I wasn't really doing anything outside the norm so I'll give the other stuff a look as I'll do anything to help it along!

@Jazper can't hurt to lose weight and eat healthy can it! I've got about 2 stone to lose so I can focus on that and see how much I can lose before I get my BFP 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Wishingfornumber2 yeah it was about the same about 60-90 mins for the haunted house/big dragon coaster things but Bella is a tad small for the biggest ones anyway so we queued about 20 mins for all the other rides. The duplo bit is fab for the littler ones. I hope you did ovulate later 🤞🤞.

@MichT4 oh I have no idea my body hasn't even attempted to ovulate no variation on the OPKs at all. My temps are just completely stable regardless of the weather, maybe I've finally completely broken 😭😩

@Pugprincess yeah definitely tell just who you feel comfortable with and then take it from there. We are all here to support you ❤️

@Firevie I'm glad you sorted things out with your OH. You end up feeling out of sorts when you're in the aftermath of an unresolved argument! No it wouldn't do any harm in the tww, hopefully the sensitivity to it is a good sign for you.xx

@Jazper yes this is true at least I'm not guessing at a possible cause! Sounds like you've had a lovely few days. I'm glad you have all your testing coming up soon. My appt is on 16th Sept so at least we can wait together ❤️ I'm hoping it won't seem too long as it is almost halfway through August already. Although as you said I hope you can just cancel it!

@Bl0ndi3 welcome🥰 I'm so sorry about your miscarriage it really is such a horrible thing to experience. 8 months is still a long time and it is hard to TTC and not count the weeks/days/hours. I really hope you recover quickly from the MC at least physically so that you feel ready to ttc again in your own time. In the meanwhile, be kind to yourself, cry, be sad whatever it is that you need to process things xx

@Lemondropsandgumdrops oh wow, I'm sorry that you had your miscarriage and had such an ordeal afterwards. I'm glad you're physically in a better place. I hope you have a positive result this month xx

@2020wish thank you lovely, glad you had a nice afternoon at the beach, hope you have a good rest tonight xx

Wow so much to catch up on!! Anniversary meal was lovely I've just got home and into my comfy pjs. I hope everyone has had a nice evening.

@VP91x That's annoying about the OPKs, it's good that you have a plan though and will be getting the day 21 bloods booked in! Xx

@chloedancer897 Fingers crossed for you for a bfp this time!! Xx

@Jazper I am also early on in my cycle - now cd 3 so hopefully we will be testing buddies this time 🤞🏼. Are all of the tests you are having booked privately? I'm glad things are moving forward for you. Sorry just read further down and seen your post about cost etc. Was the reason that you are having the tests just due to amount of time ttc? I don't know whether to book in for some myself xx

@Bl0ndi3 I am so sorry for your loss ❤️ It is such a heartbreaking thing to go through. You are in the right place though and I'm sure you will find lots of support and encouragement here. Will you be tracking ovulation or anything or are you going to wait until after you first af? Xx

@Lemondropsandgumdrops So sorry for your loss ❤️. It's so hard when your body takes a long time to go back to normal after mc, the bleeding must have been really frustrating. I'm glad it has settled now though and that you are in the TWW! Fingers crossed! Xx

I am now on CD3 everyone I've decided to count this spotting/ bleeding I'm having as af as it has arrived at the right time despite lack of blood that I expected to see. I will still speak to the nurse on Wednesday though as I've made myself really paranoid about Ashermans syndrome 🤦🏽‍♀️. Once I get something like that in my head I can't get it out... I don't know whether to book in for some investigations done or am I being irrational?!

@VP91x thanks so much ♥️ I've been holding it together most of the time and then having moments to myself where I just cry! Hoping that passes soon it's awful :(

@Northernsoul90 I've been in two minds about whether to OPK and try now or wait til my first AF 🤔 I have ordered some cheapie OPKs so I may well end up using those and then use the clearblue digital one I still have when I've had AF if I am not insanely lucky and catch first time 🤞🏻🌈🤞🏻

@2020wish thank you for that suggestion. I'll get him to ask the consultant on Monday x

@Bl0ndi3 Fingers crossed for you!! A few ladies on here have caught before first af so it's definitely possible. Have you got a negative pregnancy test yet? Just watch out for opks whilst still getting faint positives on pregnancy tests - they can confuse the hormones and show peak when it's not. It happened to me a few times before I got a negative pregnancy test xxx

@Bl0ndi3 @Lemondropsandgumdrops sorry you've both found yourself here. This is the most welcoming and supportive group, you'll get lots of support, reassurance and cheering on here xxx