TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,

Fingers crossed for lots of BFPs this month as we are definitely due some!

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@calimommy

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@VP91x
@Runnergirl1
@Hayley19835
@Mommybear05
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@Renna
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Wishingfornumber2
@Northernsoul90
@Sallyjo27
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@Lollol86
@MrsK21
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@LKMH
@Cici89
@Blondecomment0703
@CasperFlamingo

I'm CD11, waiting for something (anything) to happen this month 😂. Only taking my Inofolic Alpha this cycle and nothing else.

Hope I've tagged everyone xx

@MichT4 AF due on 13th so trying to hold off until 12DPO. Dying to test now but I'll just get a BFN and then I'll be gutted!

@2020wish if only I'd get those early positives like you and @Pugprincess ! I'll hold off another wee while

@Pugprincess fingers crossed that you have a healthy & happy pregnancy 🥰🥰🥳

@Firevie glad you got home safely, I would temp at whatever time is going to be consistent for you in Vienna whilst you're there for the month. 6.30am if it works for you so you don't always have to sleep in xx

@MichT4 I'll have to give it a watch then! I'm okay, I done a lunchtime opk and it was super low, will do another in a minute when we get home. We went to see my parents this morning then the animals after Bella's lunchtime nap and it was SO quiet, but so hot I couldn't cope. I feel so lethargic today.

@MrsK21 hey lovely, just parents this morning and Bella wanted to see the animals (for the 15000th time) so went there, tomorrow we have chessington which I'm hoping will be quiet too because the wildlife park was so quiet today. OPKs are doing nothing at all 😩😭 How about you? Xx

@2020wish I hope your sickness subsides a little bit ❤️ it's not nice at all. Keep hydrated especially with this heat xxx

@Wishingfornumber2 oh no, I hope you aren't in limbo for too much longer. Is there a possibility you could have ovulated later? Yes! I went on Monday, how did you find it? X

@SmileyT glad you are resting up this weekend🥰🥰

@chloedancer897 increased CM especially if unusual for you is definitely a symptom, I'll be quietly hopeful for you over here 😂💇 xx

@Pugprincess we are only on episode 10 so we've still got about 20hours if this one to get through but nice to know there is another one on the horizon 👌🏾

@MichT4 my nails are looking much better than they have in ages but not sure if that's just because I'm not playing netball and cutting them every week 😂 MAFSA is just too funny but each episode is actually quite long it's taking me much longer than my normal binges x

@VP91x boo to your opks not doing anything... did you say you're still going to get the blood test done on CD21? x

@SmileyT I still haven't gotten past episode 1 of MAFSA need to watch it! It seemed like it was going to be quite dramatic.

Yeah, I think if nothing happens by CD19 then I might aswell book them for CD21. I can always move it if anything miraculously happens by CD21. My temps are creepily stable and no variation on the OPKs at all just the faintest crappy line ever haha xx

@VP91x I really don’t know, hopefully I have ovulated later 🤞. Thought legoland was good but went on Thursday and it was really hot and didn’t think there was that much shade. There were quite big queues for the bigger rides (75 mins!) but as my son is 4 we just went on the smaller rides anyway and queued for about 20-30 mins. How did you find it? Hope you have a good time at chessington tomorrow. I haven’t been there in years! X

@chloedancer897 I hope it's a bfp. Sounds like you'll be testing around the same time as us all. I'm not feeling hopeful - no symptoms. But then I have no symptoms of AF either. I do have CM, in varying amounts, but I just don't think it's anything exciting.

@VP91x those bloody OPKs! What's going on?? Yeah just book your bloods anyway. I feel the same, I'm sure it's the heat 🥵

@SmileyT interesting about the nails. I'm a biter and they are normally so short because of training, and today I just noticed how long they are. I've never seen them like it.

xx

@MichT4 yes mine did! But chopped them off now because one broke and I can’t have one short and rest long.

@VP91x thank you! It’s scary. Only told my inner circle, you guys, my closest friends and my mum and brother, as I will need you all throughout this process whether it’s good or bad. Unfortunately we can’t tell husbands family because they don’t keep it secret like we asked if you remember me saying about MIL telling people and them texting us to say congratulations even though I wasn’t past first trimester. I know they were excited and have hopefully learnt the hard way now but I still don’t think I can fully trust unfortunately as they tell me secrets about other people so the way I see it is it can work both ways. Will just hold on and see how things pan out and go from there. Think I’m quite enjoying having it a little bit more secret because it’s less pressure I feel like. Also thinking I might have to tell my headteacher next week if things are still progressing ok (I’m very wary of a chemical at this stage), just thinking about covid and also they were on about changing my role back to what it was (had made me a new role suitable for preg) that was a bit of a kick too though as I was looking forward to my new role so felt like another loss!

@chloedancer897 my positive wasn’t stronger until yesterday and that was 12dpo. At 9dpo it was still very very very faint and hard to pick up on camera and could have been mistaken for evaporation lines. The one step were the only tests picking it up though, not even frer did. That’s why I kept posting pics on here though because I was adamant something was happening. Once the best at home ones came up yesterday I knew then as they had been stark white all along. So my advice would be test early by all means but use a test that works for you and allow it plenty of time to develop. I was looking up to 10 mins. Just don’t be too disheartened if nothing as it can just mean it’s too early. My wees seemed to vary that early on too, like one day my evening wee showed a slight slight line even though my morning one was nothing.

Husbands family’s coming over tomorrow so I need to wear a loose top lol, MIL is watching me like a hawk at the moment 😅 when we went over theirs last week she said I looked pale and then made a big fuss about offering me alcohol and I declined 😬 I bloat so quickly x

Thanks all, quietly hopeful but I'm always hopeful and it ends in disaster.

@MichT4 I think no symptoms are a good sign! Like I've said before, I've had all the symptoms and haven't had a BFP. So hopeful for you

@VP91x thanks for your tip on temping. You’re right i will keep it at 6.30am Vienna time.

Thanks to all you other ladies for being so supportive.
Update on drunk DH lol - I let him call for a bit and only called back late afternoon. Explained to him again why I was annoyed etc. He apologised and felt bad! He’s suffering from his hangover which I’m pleased about haha
Also just told my parents on our walk about our MMC. They were upset but glad I had a good doctor and that it’s all okay now. My mum was emotional but I think it helped that they can see me being strong and healthy again.

On another note / my parents have always been smokers but only smoke in the kitchen. It has never bothered me before but now that I’m in my TWW it really is bothering me. It can’t do any harm though in my TWW right? I just hate the smell of it which I have never been so aware of. Perhaps a symptom? Lol I’m just clutching at straws.

How has everyone’s saturdays been? I’m exhausted now after no sleep and being on foot since 5am! Also went for my run today here in Vienna.
Have to do some office work tmr and then we are off to see my uncles aunt and cousin. Some family time will be nice!

Hope you’re all well! Xxx

@Pugprincess forgot to say / I’m loving the bump pics - absolutely beautiful xxx

Hello ladies 👋🏼
I've had a few days annual leave from work and have totally thrown myself in to my family which has been amazing but has meant I haven't really been on here at all, so I am totally out of the loop! I hope you are all doing ok. This group moves so fast, anyone feel free to update me on any big news I've missed to save me scrolling back through days worth of posts 🙏🏼☺️

@MichT4
Where are you at now? You must be close to testing? I have my fingers tightly crossed for you!

@VP91x
Quick scan of the most recent posts and i can see OPK's aren't giving you your peak. How frustrating, but at least you know why and you can find comfort in knowing the GP is going to help you achieve that bfp.

@Pugprincess
Absolutely made up you have got a bfp so quickly. You must be in shock after trying for so many years before mc! What a beautiful surprise. Congratulations 🥰

Quick update from me. I am CD1 of my 6th cycle post mc now. It's the first month I haven't cried about the arrival of af. I did feel gutted after my negative test, undoubtedly, but oh and I have got the ball rolling with fertility testing so perhaps that's why, making me feel proactive and giving me some fresh hope that, if something is wrong, we can do something about it. I realise we haven't been trying long to warrant testing, but as my OH is older, we don't want to waste any time and just want that peace of mind.
@VP91x you did ask what tests and I just haven't had chance to reply until now. I have my thyroid, LH and FSH bloods being taken on Tuesday, then the progesterone bloods on cd21. We then have a consultation booked with a private fertility specialist on 15th September where we will request full basic fertility analysis - sperm analysis, thorough scan (inc egg reserves), vaginal examination and AMH bloods.
15th Sept feels so long away but it's the earliest I could get. Gives us another cycle to conceive though. How lovely it would be to have to cancel it 🤞🏼

@chloedancer897 I am hopeful for you too. Really hope you get your bfp.

@Jazper I am now 7-10dpo today I think. I wasn't going to test, just wait for AF, but we are off on holiday next Friday so I think I might test before then just in case. I really hope I've been super lucky, but I also hope if AF is coming, I know about it before I have to test. I don't want to see a bfn.
Sounds amazing with the tests you have lined up. Do you mind me asking how much you are having to pay for all the private ones? Day 1 means a new opportunity so we will celebrate that.

@Firevie did DH say what his plans were with getting to you? How lovely being back home. Glad you spoke to your parents, it's always a nice comfort. I don't think the secondary spoke will so much harm, if any at all

xx

@Pugprincess interesting about your nails. I'm almost certain it's nothing but it's just odd for me xx

@MichT4 thank you! Was def good feeling my parents! DH needs to wait for his visa to be delivered - the embassy did send it yesterday so should have arrived yesterday but perhaps delayed due to Covid. So, hopefully it will arrive Monday. But now because he messed up yday he wants to shield himself for 4/5 days before coming home. So he will probably come Weds. tbh I’m quite enjoying time with just my parents! Just goes to show no matter how old you are, you’ll always be their baby when you go home 🥰 xxx

Hi ladies, hope it's okay that I join, I was recommended this thread by the lovely @SmileyT 💜

Unfortunately I had a miscarriage which started with bleeding on Tuesday at around 6/7 weeks pregnant (first pregnancy ever) and it was confirmed by a scan and bloods yesterday - the doc saw nothing on my scan so I've already passed it all and my HCG levels were down to 23!

It's still so very raw and I'm struggling getting my head around the fact that I now have to try all over again and that breaks my heart the most because we had been trying for 8 months which I know isn't long in comparison to others but for me it felt like a lifetime after waiting years for my OH to be ready to have a baby. It feels so unfair.

If anybody has any advice on what I should do now I'd be so grateful I feel a little lost. All I know is I wanna be pregnant again PRONTO!

@Pugprincess how awful about your in laws not being able to hold it in. I think you’ve made the right decision only telling certain people. I hadn’t told anyone (just as well) but DH told his mom dad and brothers! He can’t keep anything from his parents which is so weird!!! Xx

Wow @Pugprincess look at that Beautiful, I really hope you get that sticky bean you deserve. I ballooned before my miscarriage and haven’t been able to shake the weight off so still looking abit plump lol.

So I wasN’t going to do an ovulation test as I was going to keep it casual but with the pain in my left side I wanted to see if I was in tune with my body. And got this lovely smiley face. I just hope it’s lh and not picking up the tiny tiny bit of hcg I may still have in my body. Yey for ovulation x

Oh @Bl0ndi3 I am so sorry to hear of your mc but this is absolutely the perfect group for you to be in. I am an infrequent poster but some of the ladies here post every single day so it's a perfect source of support however often you may need it, there's always someone around ❤️ I know how long it can feel on the ttc journey and I do hope it happens again quickly for you. Nothing much you can do now other than ride it out. Wait for the bleeding to stop, use pregnancy tests until it is negative and then test for ovulation until you see a peak. Of course, you don't need to test, but if you feel the need to be proactive, this would be the way to do it. Xx

Hello 👋🏻 I’ve just jumped on another thread about the 2WW but seen this also. I had a MMC in May, I was 11.5 weeks pregnant but baby only measured 7 weeks. I bled for around 72 days after, which I know is absolutely not normal. Despite internal scans, antibiotics to treat any suspect infections and various blood tests the GP couldn’t give a reason. Finally last week at 72 days it stopped, and the last couple of days I’ve had positive OPKs. Now I’m just waiting to test in 2 weeks and hoping this will work. Terrified to be honest!

@Bl0ndi3 @Lemondropsandgumdrops so sorry you both find yourself here. So cruel we have all had to go through this but please find comfort in this group, it's been a great support for me xx

@MichT4 happy to celebrate day 1 and a new opportunity, and I will this evening with a glass of red after my STEAMING HOT bath 😍😂
Ooh, you are so close. I get the need to know before you go away. I got a negative at 10dpo, and I was desperate not to test again but I felt I needed to at 12dpo as we had booked in to GoApe at Dalby Forest and I was concerned that by some miracle I may be... anyway, bfn and I was ok. GoApe was amazing and as we say, a new opportunity arises.
Of course I don't mind. It's all priced separately though. The consultation alone is £240, sperm analysis £120, scans and vaginal exams £280 and AMH bloods £80. I have managed to get my initial bloods (thyroid, FSH, LH and Progesterone) done through my GP but only because we have arranged further analysis privately. If we had been going NHS, they wouldn't have been interested until the 12 month ttc mark. Follow up consultations are a little cheaper but not by much. Just hoping all is found to be ok or we'll have to start searching for a coppers down the back of the sofa 😂
Good luck if you decide to test before you go away. I really am so hopeful for you xx

@Jazper thank you so much. ♥️♥️♥️ I'm fairly certain given how low my HCG was that I'll get a negative pregnancy test fairly soon which as horrific as that is, I'm taking as a good sign that it's so quick. I'm bleeding still but very lightly or on and off, and have the occasional albeit horrific cramps. I'm hoping the physical stuff goes away soon as I won't be able to start healing emotionally until they do and that includes the bruises on my arms from the bloods too!

I have also just ordered some cheapie OPKs to use until my period comes (if it does, I'd rather it didn't and I got a BFP first but I won't put all my hopes on that) and then I have my clear blue digital ovulation tester thing that I used for the first time the cycle we conceived so I'll use that if needed.

I think it will help me to have some control over TTC but we've always been quite relaxed OH doesn't want Sex to be dictated by an OPK so I've always just done them, not told him and then put the moves on him as and when required 😂. So I assume that's how it will be going forward too so I want as much info I can get from OPKs as I can get. I have to be realistic that this could take a while again but my whole heart hopes it doesn't 💔

@Lollol86 thanks honey I find such comfort in talking with wonderful strangers on here than anything else ♥️

@Bl0ndi3 i tend to keep my OPK's hidden from my OH too. The pressure does him no good and makes dtd less spontaneous and enjoyable. I think trying to stay relaxed (as relaxed as you were pre mc) is such an important piece of advice. I know it's hard. I was super relaxed before my loss, had never done an opk and we conceived within 4 months. Post mc, ttc was all consuming. I was so desperate to be pregnant again and I am now one day in to my 6th cycle post mc. It feels like it's been forever already and I know it hasn't. And you're right, the physical side effects delayed my healing process too. My 5th cycle was my first 'regular' cycle post mc. All 4 cycles before that were haywire and such a strong reminder of what I had gone through in February.
There really is nothing to say it will take as long to conceive again. And nothing to say it won't. It really is a case of just having to wait, hope and see. But I am sure you know that already.
Just try to stay relaxed and trust your body knows exactly what it is doing ❤️