TTC 35+ Thread 4 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

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Yes it's Thread FOUR! Baby dust all round!

Congratulations @EmeraldLily18, but sorry you missed out on cocktails. Fingers tightly crossed for you

@SnowWhite1985

Good luck to everyone! Nice to see some positives in the group. Feels like a day that will never come for us so it’s nice to try and stay hopeful. Ttc isn’t at all how I imagined it would be. I’ve found it incredibly lonely and I have major lows after the negative tests each month. It took me more than a year to persuade my partner we were running out of time, so now that we’ve gone 8 cycles with no success I also feel quite resentful of him sometimes. He went on the assumption that we’d conceive quickly so was unwilling to try until we were completely ready. But now he got a transfer with his work and I hardly see him during the week. It makes ttc really difficult and exhausting and it’s hard not to regret not trying earlier because we’ve been together a long time. He managed to convince me it would happen quickly because we’re both fit and healthy but of course it didn’t. I’ve spent months doing opks, but now I don’t even understand my cycles now I’ve started temping. And feel like I’ve got it all wrong and we’re DTD at completely the wrong time or perhaps I’m not even ovulating properly at all. Sorry for the long posts, feeling a bit over emotional tonight as we were supposed to spent tonight together but he had to go back to work early and then we couldn’t. Anyway...best of luck to everyone, nice to see so much positivity and solidarity in this group xx

Morning @SnowWhite1985. How are you feeling this morning?

I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough, emotional time. I think TTC can be very lonely for women with male partners, a lot of the 'emotional labour' of tracking, timing and testing sits with us.

I don't really have any advice, but didn't want to read & run

Oooh congrats @EmeraldLily18!

@EmeraldLily18 congratulations!

@Hayleywoody82 How you doing- Have you started dtd yet? Are you going to track your ovulation this month or just dtd a lot?!

Congratulations @EmeraldLily18 !! That's brilliant news 😊x

Hi All,

Anyone else testing on Thursday this week? I think I might...It will be 13DPO by then and CD22.

My Tracker suggests AF is due next Monday CD26, but given I was a day early last month and had a static on CD9, I'm thinking more likely due Friday/Saturday...

Sounds silly, esp as I'd said I'd only POAS if AF was late, but I feel like I'm making more progress if I test...As if it makes me more 'almost' pregnant...

@Muda morning.
Yes I've started tracking im cd8 today. No smiley face yet but dtd last night. Last month I ovulated day 11 so hopefully soon.

How are you doing? Xx

@EmeraldLily18 wooo hoooooo amazing news!!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍 Fab seeing these BFPs coming in! Keep up the good work golden ovaries!!! 🤪🤣

I think I saw some new names, so welcome! 😃😃😃

@SnowWhite1985 sorry you're having a rough time! The whole TTC business is overwhelming and there is so much information and noise out there! However, all these ladies here are wonderful and this group is here for you for advice, offloading, etc! 😘😘😘

@FridaKFangirl fellow cyclet I'm a few days behind you! Hoping AF won't turn up mid-late next week, then will test! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Happy Monday everyone!

Congratulations @Wavesandsmilesagain and @EmeraldLily18!!!

CD30/11DPO here and I don't know what's going on! After a BFN yesterday I went to the toilet and saw a bit more pinkish spotting than before, so resigned myself to the face I was out this month. However (and sorry for TMI!) I left my mooncup in overnight and when I took it out this morning there was nothing in it...so my period hadn't actually started.

Trying not to get my hopes up again too much. The first time I got pregnant I didn't even test till my period was a week late, so trying to get into the same headspace again!

@EmeraldLily18 congratulations to you. That's amazing.👏🏾🤰😁

Wow the golden ovaries are doing well this month!! Congrats @Wavesandsmilesagain @EmeraldLily18!!!!

Good morning all, welcome to the new ladies. I know I haven't posted much. I am really busy trying to sort out a lot of things. My partner will be migrating next summer and we will follow after ( probably the following year or when ds finish college).

My eldest son will be moving to Canada once he finishes college, but wants to migrate with us first to Caribbean before he goes to Canada. It all came crashing down couple of weeks ago. Suddenly felt like we were running out of time as we actually haven't started doing much. I feel like I don't know where to start with planning. So I have started a to-do list. Most times I completely forget we are TTC. Also it's my partner's birthday next Tuesday, I actually forgot about it 🙈🙈

Sorry for the long post.

Congratulations @EmeraldLily18 and @Wavesandsmilesagain. This is a lucky thread! Come and join us on old ovaries new lines if and when you you’d like xxx
Hugs @SnowWhite1985 and anyone else struggling. I remember all those feelings so one for TTC #1 and the even when the BFP arrives worrying it won’t stay. I don’t have any answers but exercise and distraction and old fashioned fresh air walks helped me
When the feelings got too much xx

Congratulations @EmeraldLily18 and @Wavesandsmilesagain! Your stories give me hope - I have my fingers crossed for the rest of us still TTC!

I can’t even get DH to DTD two days in a row, let alone x2 plus a day for two weeks! We manage about four times a cycle - ahh. Maybe that’s where we’d going wrong!

So my spotting is definitely heavier today so I’m calling this cd1 cycle 4! Let’s hope it’s a good one!!

Got my d21 progesterone back and it was 25 which I think is good so no worries there causing the spotting. Guess I just need to live with it. At least it was all fine

@Happyhappy37 wow are you moving to the Caribbean?

@Hayleywoody82 I’m good- I always feel fine at the end of AF as it’s like you have a new chance at it all and feel full of hope!
I’m not sure whether to track my ovulation as we are planning on dtd At least 4 times a week so should hopefully cover it all. I have got a couple of smiley sticks left so could always test around the time I think I’m ovulating.

Huge congratulations @Wavesandsmilesagain and @EmeraldLily18 🥳 fab news!!!! 💕

Okay a TMI one

I have to pee after DTD every time because I am prone to UTIs otherwise. But when I do that, I can’t lie down so nothing “falls out” for a bit

Anyone else have this problem?! How long should you lie down for after DTD?

@muda yeah. 🙂

Congrats @EmeraldLily18, fab news

@SnowWhite1985 hugs. It is lonely and rubbish, and so much on the woman. My partner was similar and didn’t want to wait until we were “ready” - ie bought our first place and got married (first one is done, second on hold!) and I think also assumes it will happen straight away.
I’m also finding the OPKs confusing and have never had a peak; despite other symptoms of ovulation. I remember friends saying the same and they all got pregnant in the end. I
got a thermometer but I’m definitely doing it wrong and so that’s confusing too. Easier said than done but I think the more we stress about it, the worse it gets so I’m really trying not to get too wound up.
Here if you need to chat

@LT103 good news about the progesterone! Good luck for this cycle!

Congratulations to you @EmeraldLily18! Another positive- woohoo!!

@Tiletiletile1 maybe just lay down for a bit and then wee... I've started to use a soft cup (if only because it makes everything a little cleaner afterwards 😂) x

A cup is a good idea, selina! I hadn’t thought of that! TTC has been going on so long for me that I’m willing to try anything!

This month am taking aspirin and using preseed - used conceive plus last month - and have got DH on proxeed (but it’s pricey!).

Anyone else trying anything new this month?

@Tiletiletile1 I’ve seen people talk about baby aspirin- are you just taking normal aspirin or is there a low dose aspirin or something that you should take? When are you taking it?