TTC 35+ Thread 4 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

[Sleeeeeepy]

Yes it's Thread FOUR! Baby dust all round!

@Onehotmess At least it's clear, I think it's worse when you get your hopes up then realise it's just wishful thinking.

I'm now on CD3 and according to a cheapie opk have high LH. I think my hormones are totally messed up so have acquired some vit B6 and vit b complex. Has anyone taken either of these?

@Sleeeeeepy - I take a B6 supplement, and also ubiquinol (meant to be good for egg quality).

I think my hormones are more messed up by anxiety than anything else - I feel so ill before every test or appointment. It's frustrating, as it can't be avoided. I'm trying REALLY hard to relax more.

@Onehotmess - I'm 38 and TTC #2. I'll be 39 next month.

Our daughter is nearly 3 and was conceived quickly. But recent tests have shown that I probably now have a low egg supply. It doesn't make much difference to natural conception, but it means IVF is less likely to work (if we try that).

@Sleeeeeepy yes definitely not a squinter! Completely blank! I’m now getting the usual pms type grumpy as well as normal pre af hip pain etc which is totally normal at this time unfortunately.
I have only tracked based on dates so never used opk or taken anything. I think we will be pausing trying until after Christmas now, but might look at how to improve chances after that. First 2 were conceived on first attempt so not used to ‘trying’ 🙈

@Onehotmess Same, DS1 was first month proper trying, DS2 was a surprise and I didn't realise I was pregnant until I was about 7 weeks 😬

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It's very quiet! How's everyone?

Enjoying the sunshine?

@selina37 definitely enjoyung the weather. Soon we will be crying about how cold it is. 😃
How are you doing?
Anyone started Christmas shopping?

@Happyalwayswinning Christmas shopping!! Surely not this early! Have you started?! How early are you supposed to make Christmas cake (if you don’t buy it in the supermarket that is!)

@Highlandmama around half term usually! So October?

Morning ladies! Definitely haven't started Christmas shopping! I try to cut down every year and enjoy company instead of things.

I haven't tried this month due to having had hycosy so it's nice not to have the TWW on my mind constantly plus I know any 'symptoms' I try and spot are just cyclical symptoms.

Hope we have another sunny day ☀️

Morning all!

My husband had his semen analysis results yesterday - all "normal" and "satisfactory", apparently. So he's had a cheery face ever since.

I'm really pleased for him (and for us) - but is it weird that I'm also a bit resentful/jealous?! I just wish I didn't have the low egg supply thing, obviously. I feel like the weak link :/

Otherwise, I'm really anxious about our private clinic consultation next Tuesday (which will be via Zoom - I'm scared of technical glitches making it weird!). It feels like we've been waiting FOREVER.

I reckon the doctor will say to us either:

1. Your egg supply is crap and your results suggest it isn't worth bothering with IVF. Or:
2. You have a low egg supply, so you'd better crack on with IVF ASAP - but the chances of it working are super-small.

Either way, I KNOW it'll make me feel rubbish... even though it won't be a surprise to me. But at least it'll be over with. And then we'll have to decide what to do next. Aaaagh.

Re: Christmas shopping - not yet! But our daughter turns 3 in November and we'll probably try to shop for Christmas around the same time. Last year, I made the classic error of leaving it all to the last minute, then both child and me were ill the previous week, so it was horribly stressful. NEVER AGAIN! Hard to break the habit of a lifetime, though...

Morning all, i will start my Chris shopping end of this month.

@cc81 good luck with your appointment.🤞🏽Zoom doesn't glitch. I really dislike these video appointments/meetings etc..

Sending positive energy 🙂😊

Christmas

@Happyalwayswinning - Thanks :) I'm so anxious!!!

@CC81 not at all weird to feel jealous - I felt exactly the same!

Thanks @selina37 :) How are you feeling about the whole low egg supply issue? How much detail did you get at your scan? Was it just due to limited follicles showing?

I've been referred to the NHS Fertility team (even though I can't get IVF on the NHS, due to having a child already - but they might do the tubes check thing).

Had my phone consultation with them today, and they said that while I don't appear to have any other problems, my high FSH (which usually correlates with low AMH) means I wouldn't be a great candidate for IVF, due to limited eggs - which is what I suspected.

However, they said it's important to discuss it with a private clinic, as they're the experts and deal with lots of people with low ovarian reserve. Obviously that's what I'll be doing next week.

They also agreed with what my GP has said, which is that low ovarian reserve doesn't necessarily stop natural conception - it's just a bit problematic for IVF.

But also that until you try IVF, you don't know, because everyone responds differently. The tests beforehand are simply an indication of how you MIGHT respond. Not a guarantee either way.

So... it WAS helpful to speak to them, because I now feel better-prepared (mentally) for the private consultation on Tuesday. But also unsure if I want to undergo the expense and stress of IVF if I'm not a good candidate for it.

We could just keep trying naturally and see what happens... but as I'm nearly 39, I feel that time is of the essence.

@CC81 glad to hear that your Consultation was informative. I wish you lots of luck going forward.

@CC81 I think that's really positive! Like you say, low eggs just means if you want IVF you should perhaps start thinking about that.

But, low eggs, again as you say, doesn't necessarily make natural conception harder.

My scan showed follicles in my ovaries and I was literally waiting for him to say I'd just ovulated as I'd felt it a couple of days before.

He said though that low eggs/bit of an ageing process to the womb showing were 'small things'.

You should try and get the hycosy. It can have a flushing effect on the tubes. Of course I'm hoping this is true. One of my true flower really nicely. The other wasn't so good, but we hung on and he could see the dye pass all through my left tube. I wonder whether it could have been a little blocked. 🤔

@CC81 That all sounds very helpful to know, and as you say it's good to have some time to reflect on it and prepare mentally for speaking with the clinic. I've always heard how supportive clinics can be, I hope it's another productive conversation.

DH thinks I've gone crazy as I've got loads of pills all turned up to try to extend my cycle. I've just started taking all of them on the basis that anything more than a 17 day cycle is an improvement!

Hi guys, hope I can join the thread. I’m 42 with a 2 year old and we have been trying for number two for nearly half a year. We sadly lost a baby at 9 weeks last year.

@Sleeeeeepy what pills are you taking? I’m the same!!

@CurlyNo2 oh my gosh I hear you about being frustrated with partners over trying to conceive. We fell out massively this fertile period and only did it on CD 8 and 9 as we’re arguing by cd10’ and I think I ov’d cd 12!! He feels pressure to perform and apparently he can feel me getting tense about not doing it so it’s a vicious circle. You’re quite clever not letting him know your times I think!! I’m
Not sure what to do. I may just tell him next cycle my most fertile days and put the ball in his court and then I don’t have to deal with the rejection and acting like a crazy lady!!

@Internetaddictgirl Welcome to the thread! I'm sorry for your loss last year, and that things have been a bit tough with your DH.

I'm taking B6, B vitamin complex, raspberry leaf capsules and ubiquinol. Going for all the pills for a bit, if i don't catch by xmas I'm going to give up and we'll build an extension on our house. I feel like if it's meant to be it will be

Welcome @Internetaddictgirl, I'm sorry to hear your loss.

I think I'm out this month, if I conceived it would be a bloody miracle. We only DTD CD 8 and 11 and I think I ov'd between 11 and 13. I'm on CD 21 now, I normally start spotting around now that lasts a few days before AF arrives bang on CD28.

@CurlyNo2 its too early to call it. It just takes one good swimmer. 🤞🏽Crossed for you.

Thanks @Happyalwayswinning you're right! I suppose until AF arrives we are deffo in with a shot.

When I conceived my son, it was the least we had tried that month, we relaxed a little and didn't abide by the military planning i normally ran each month. So I suppose you just never know if a little blighter has won the fight and made it!