TTC & breastfeeding chat

[Heyha]

Hi all
Just started TTC number two while still feeding 13 month old. Couldn't see a recent thread for others in same boat so wondered if anyone else wanted to chat along?
Had my first period pp only about 6 weeks ago then nothing since. Been using OPK just to start tracking again til my normal cycle returns, wasn't expecting anything interesting but had a real clear LH surge a few days ago and had been DTD so who knows, o guess I am in TWW now? Even a second period would be handy at this stage so I can get some more info about where my body is at!

@RandyGiles06 I’m not sure if it would cause fingers to swell. Mine are definitely still swollen. Can’t fit my wedding ring on. I’ll let you know if this changes now I’ve stopped feeding. Xx

Hey everyone, I've just looked up this thread as had a month off TTC and realised I've missed loads of messages again 🤦 great news on the BFPs ladies!
Last month I had a really heavy period and no OPK peak so didn't focus on TTC. Had a 31 day cycle and just coming to the end of a really light period so who knows what's happening. Be nice to get a BFP for Christmas but we shall see

Ah @Heyha fingers crossed for you this time around. How much are you feeding now? It’s great you’re getting periods, hopefully the big O will happen before Christmas and you’ll catch it.

I just got my first period since having DS in April. We’re waiting until after Christmas to ttc so hoping they’re now regular as we’re two monthly before ds. We’re holding off because I got pregnant this time two years ago and had a mmc so it’s really triggering the idea of being in early pregnancy before Christmas. Xx

Congratulations @glowingtwig! How are you feeling?

I'm 20 weeks on Friday and have my anomaly scan then too, so hoping that all is ok. I'm starting to feel moments now too which is nice. Not had any more bleeding since 14 weeks and a private scan at 17 weeks couldn't see any signs of a hematoma which was causing the bleeding so hoping it's reabsorbed itself.

We're 5-6 weeks since our last feed, my daughter is going down well at night now with a story and singing, but does still try to get at my boobs and says "I have mummy's boobies!" with a smile! Interestingly if I have a little squeeze during or after a shower I'm getting milk again, despite it all drying up before so I guess they are getting ready for the next baby!

Aww well done @Workingmama1 on going so long without the feeding. It must have been tough. Great you dd is coping well and great hews you’re gearing up for the next baby. Not long now until the anomaly scan. I know I felt far more chilled when this was out the way. So good the bleeding has stopped. Hopefully plain sailing now! Xx

20 weeks already, that's flown! All sounds positive 🙂
DD has been poorly and teething yet again so the feeds are creeping back up but I decided last night I'm going to wean her during December building up to the Christmas holidays. I'll get over it if she still needs a bedtime feed but want to get down to that as she has wanted night feeds this week and not just little quick settlers which she used to. She needs to get better at eating food and I don't think she will while she thinks she's got access to me from 5pm to 7am!

Thanks everyone! @Workingmama1 great news that you are nearly at your 20 week scan, I definitely felt more chilled too when it was done and you can really see that shape of their little profile on the screen!

@Heyha everything crossed for a lovely Christmas present. The heavy then light periods, maybe that's your body working itself out ready for baby number 2.

Sorry to read about your mmc @Catconfusion I would feel the same... In fact I did about the pregnancy in August because it was the same timing as the mc I had two years ago. Good luck for ttc in the New Year.

I'm doing ok... still can't get in any way excited and try not to think about it too much. I can't help analysing stupid things... like with dd my hair stopped coming out in the shower, but with this pregnancy and the last one it's still shedding as usual. Maybe it's because I'm only BF once now in the morning and I never had that 4/5 month hair loss people talk about. I've had a few stretchy tingly feelings and felt terrible the first few days after my BFP but now sometimes I don't feel pregnant at all... with dd I had such sore boobs, but nothing like that with this pregnancy. Again, maybe it's because I'm still BF so the boobs don't need to go through the usual changes?

What do people think? Is this normal with a second pregnancy?

I'm 5:2 today I think; lost my first pregnancy at 5:1 and my third at 6:1 so a good while to go before I'm feeling in any way secure about it. The weeks are dragging so much.

My anomaly scan all went well last week, I'm not sure I've relaxed yet but have allowed myself to start getting organised, I've ordered the nursery's wallpaper (its currently pink and were having a boy!) and a nice maternity/baby wearing coat. Now looking at double prams too...

@glowingtwig I didnt get sore boobs at all in the first trimester, they only started a few weeks after I stopped feeding my daughter so I guess breastfeeding stops the normal sore boob reaction to pregnancy as they are alreading doing the job! Randomly the last 2 weeks I've started getting milk again, I think it's gearing up for baby 2. Only a few more days and you'll be past the point of your previous loses which is a milestone.

@heyha weaning can be tough is they are poorly/teething but it sounds like you have a bit of an action plan!

Hi ladies, hope you're all doing ok. I'm only feeding DD now when she asks for it, maybe every couple of days at nap time.

Bad news on the pregnancy though... I'm just back from a scan at 9 weeks after getting some brown blood this morning. No heartbeat and the baby stopped growing at 6w 4 days.

I feel so sad and disappointed and so worried I won't be able to have another baby now and that I'm too old. That's three miscarriages now but no idea where to go from here.

I’m so sorry @glowingtwig such horrible news for you and your family. Have you spoken to your GP? I’d have thought you’ll get some tests now. My friend had three losses in her early 30s for no apparent reason and then her two beautiful boys close together so it’s not necessarily age related. I really hope it’s all over quickly and you can start the recovery process. Just do whatever you need to to get through the coming weeks: chocolate, wine, lots of Netflix. It’s truly awful but you’ll get through this and a good chance you’ll still have a baby. Just hang on in there! Xx

@Workingmama1 congratulations on the anomaly scan. Such an important milestone. I’ve only just noticed your post. Such good news! Xx

Thank you so much @Catconfusion that's reassuring to hear about your friend and so glad she has her two children now.

I haven't spoken to my GP yet- I always worry that they think I'm being panicky (I had a few meltdowns with her over a higher than they'd like FSH result when ttc DD after mc 1) but I suppose I would feel better talking it over with her. At least I might find out a bit more about my options with tests they could do.

A self-care day today while dd is at nursery but Thursday she is home so I'll allow myself this one day to wallow then try to get on with things.

Sorry the BF thread has taken this turn! I hope everyone else is getting on ok.

Ahhh I’m so sorry @glowingtwig definitely have today to yourself, lots of chocolate and Netflix! When you are feeling up to it I think your GP will help you.

I am now officially TTC, first month this month and currently in the tww, AF due any day! I am down to feeding my toddler just at night time

@glowingtwig it seems even three miscarriages can just be bad luck. If you think about it, in your 20s probably 12 eggs a year are viable. Past 30 say 10 eggs a year are viable. Past 35 say 8 eggs a year are viable. This probably goes down to 6 eggs a year past 40 (obviously we’re all different). So if you get pregnant during three cycles where the egg isn’t quite right it won’t progress. Lest we forget that the sperm can also be not quite right. I’m sorry to simplify this and I’m so sorry you lost your baby. A doctor at the hospital explained it to me like this during my second miscarriage and it really helped. He just said keep trying and the chances are good. I would have a chat will your GP and get a referral in. My friend who had the three miscarriages was waiting for an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic when she got pregnant with her first son. She then got pregnant with her second three months after having her first. No problems whatsoever. I really hope you get pregnant soon. Has it started to come away naturally? Such a horrible thing to go through. I hope you have lots of support! Xx

@RandyGiles06 awww good luck. Fingers crossed you have some good news soon! Xx

@Catconfusion hi! I came searching for success stories and recognised you from the ttc breastfeeding board

I've had a pretty dreadful time with this mc and was rushed into hospital by ambulance after a massive haemorrhage on Christmas Day. I'm now home but it's still not over - hoping to hear it's all complete on the 30th when I have another scan.

I've gone down a rabbit hole of depressing 'research' today and have made myself feel even worse. The stories on this thread have made me feel a little better. Thank you.

Oh ! Meant to put this on a positive stories after 40 board but hi again everyone. I hope you are doing ok? I've stopped bf now to give my body a break after this latest mc.

Here's to a happy and healthy 2021 x

@glowingtwig so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and that it was such a traumatic one. I hope you can rest now recuperate now. The physical side of miscarriage is something that should be talked about more as it can be really difficult. I'd definitely try to speak tonyour gp and take it from there. It took me about 3 months from my mmc to conceiving this baby (ironically my due date is a year and one day to the day I found out there was no heartbeat).

I hope everyone else managed to have a good Christmas despite the restrictions, it was a quiet one for us but DD made it special as its the first year she has understood Father Christmas.

We seem to have swapped feeding for an obsession with touching my boobs (particularly my nipples!). Not quite sure how to stop it...

So good to hear from you again @Workingmama1 and that you are doing well. I'm trying really hard to think that there's a reason this one hasn't worked out and that you have the baby you are meant to have all along.

My GP is really good and has referred me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic in January and the consultant at the hospital sent off for testing so we will have new things to try perhaps with the next pregnancy if it happens.

I'm missing the bf but my little one doesn't really ask for it now, she's happy with a bottle at night.

I just want this to be over so we don't waste any more time. What a journey this is!

@glowingtwig great to here from you. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It sounds really traumatic. Great news your Gp is on it with a referral to find out if there’s anything wrong. It could just be awful luck and the next one will be the one. Remember your body is not broken and you will recover from this. Xx

Glad you here you’re ok @Workingmama1 and you had a good Christmas. So lovely your dd is more aware this year. Ds is 8 months and he loved opening the presents but got overstimulated really quickly. Really looking forward to next year when he’s more aware. Xx

All good here, I’m 18 dpo which is the day I ovulated last cycle. We dtd on Sunday and would have this morning but ds had us up in the night. Might just try again tonight and in a couple of days then leave it. Tbh I’m hoping to lose a bit of weight, Christmas really hasn’t helped. Obviously it would be lovely to catch easily but I’d be more confident at a lower weight. Bmi is 29 so it’s not awful but would be nice to be down to my pre pregnancy weight. Thinking of you all! Xx