TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 7)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,
I'm missing loads of testing days, so just let me know your updated days if you have one and I'll make a note xx

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa

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@fafi- 17th July
@2020wish- 17th July
@fafi- 18th July
@HE88- 19th July
@Rainbowhope11- 20th July
@GraceG26- 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby- 21st July
@Renna- 22nd July (?)
@Diorissimo1985- 26th July
@VP91x- 26th July
@Rb486- 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2- August?
@Northernsoul90- not testing
@Sallyjo27
@bxiiboo
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Banbi
@busby85
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Chickoletta
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@Sjk89
@Emsnewmum
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@Lollol86
@MrsK21
@Rebecca1992

Update from me CD20, 3DPO (I think) 🥰.. Nothing going on at the moment, will wait impatiently for the next week xx

@2020wish oh wow! These lockdown easing measure are just so unclear at the moment! Despite the situation and guidance right now, do you feel more at risk on your ward at the moment? Going off sick just seems extreme when you're not sick and they could retain a staff member through redeployment to a clerical role. Just doesn't seem like a productive solution to anyone. What grounds would the dr sign you off on?

@Northernsoul90 thank you! I’ve just changed my pad so I can keep an eye on it and read the advice from the miscarriage association and that also says it’s quite normal. So I am going to go with that and stop worrying! It will be fine 🙏🏽🌼

@fafi I’m unsure tbh. Yea I feel I’m at risk and tbh my head just isn’t here today cause I’m worrying about being run if my feet on 13 he shifts when I’ve just lost 3 pregnancies. So hard.

Just got word also today that the new car we bought that I had a crash in in June is officially a write off lol fs

Also everyone that is interested in the Facebook will u private message me your Facebook name or email. And I’ll friend u and add u later and then unfriend you. If I’m making it secret it doesn’t work with posting a link x

@2020wish I would get signed off by your doctor ask for it to state pregnancy related on the sick note I have recently read our policy and it isn’t counted on your sickness record and they cant take you into monitoring sickness meetings as long as you keep your manager updated with any changes xx

@Tink20058 good advice! @2020wish I don't blame you for feeling that way, I would too, you need to do what's best for you. Will PM you x

@Tink20058 Going to try and get through rest of this day. Felt so I’ll all day with these masks on. And then not come back until I’m 3 months at least. Got ur pm @fafi

@2020wish I found this with school, someone else off preg was sent home in March and never returned yet I was on rota to work with key workers kids? If the other lady was still off rota surely I should have been? I didn’t understand it.

My tests are slower fading I think. Bottom (from last week) to upwards and top this morn.

@Pugprincess did u query it with them

@Pugprincess yes tests are deffo fading

@2020wish thanks so much for offering to include me in the BFP fb group.. but i actually don't have fb anymore.. deleted it a few years ago after a bad experience. Can't say I miss it though this is the first time I've been tempted to re-join!! I'll stick around here for now, haven't had a scan yet so would prob like to do that before joining any pregnancy groups. I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow but still suuuuper cautious 🙈

@Northernsoul90 I'm so glad you've got a negative test now! Onwards and upwards :)
I've not started using CB OPKs yet but hope they give you a clear indication of what's going on from now on.
I've stopped doing my OPKs for now too as they were coming up totally blank after some highs at the beginning of July. Have a horrid feeling my body's just shut down in some sort of weird way.

@vp91x really hoping your TWW goes quick and you get some positive news soon! It's all looking quite positive from your chart so far.

Ladies who take BBT does the temp have to be taken at the exact same time? I wake up roughly within the same hour window so just wondering if any advice on the leeway for temping? Xxx

Anyone else's periods really heavy and painful after MC? This is my 2nd period following miscarriage and possibly the most horrific period I've ever had. Heavy and so painful. I cried myself to sleep last night with the pain. Id say I have a good pain threshold but I've never had period pain like this 😞

@MrsK21 I don't take mine the same time as you, same as you, roughly within the same hour window (and obviously a bit later on the weekend!) - apparently it is meant to create higher variances on the graph but I have found that the trend is there generally and I have been able to track. I think the most important thing is that you've been asleep for more than 3 hours.

@chloedancer897 this is my first period since my miscarriage and it's so heavy, it's literally pouring out of me. It's totally normal though I had a little google yesterday to check x

@fafi yeah I think I'd struggle to do it at the exact same time! I don't set myself an alarm as I like to wake up with my natural rhythm so i'm weary about disrupting my body clock just to take a reading.

Seriously considering if an AVA is worth it now! @MichT4 sorry if you've already mentioned but did you buy your AVA new or was it an ebay buy? If so, would you recommend? Seen quite a few first models on ebay for reasonable looking prices.
Hope you are doing OK as well, has work been keeping you busy today? How have your OPKs been looking? Hope it's all settling quickly for you lovely xxx

@MrsK21 I recommend it for the ease of temping. Annoyingly I got PG the first month (only annoying now as it ended in MC) so in terms of having any trends for detecting ovulation, I don't yet, or it will assume I have a 50 day cycle.
I got mine second hand on eBay. I don't regret buying it, if just to confirm ovulation.
Today was busy actually, kept me suitably distracted. I'm pausing on OPKs a bit until later on. I'll try and do one a day but difficult in the office as I drink all day. I'll do one tomorrow, think I'm at home.

How are you? What cycle day now? xx

Hope you're ok @Lollol86 it's just so painful. It reminds me of after pains or something

@micht4 that's good to know, I'll keep an eye out for any that go onto eBay over the coming days - I've only been manually temping a few days now and it's already become "another TTC thing" and I'm keen not to add stress and make it feel more like a process 🙄

Aw glad you've been busy and works been a good distraction. what do you do for work? Sounds sensible as well with your OPKs, hope they start showing something promising soon ☺️

I'm good thank you for asking, was feeling quite down about my cycle not restarting last week but feeling more positive after a restful weekend and I've got my consultant appointment in a weeks time. I'm shockingly on CD54 now!!! 😳 So I'm really glad I've got the tests etc coming up. In the meantime I've tried to focus on my mental health and also get back to fitness. Been doing my body pump and combat classes at home which I absolutely love but haven't been to since lockdown and then the mc. I've lost all my gains so looking forward to focusing on that for now 💪🏽 xxx

@2020wish did you start taking aspirin straight away or did you wait for ovulation? Thanks x

Thank you @MrsK21 🥰. Your body won't have shut down I keep thinking this too - what if I just don't ovulate or af doesn't arrive I'm really just trying to stay positive but it's hard. I wish we could all just get a straightforward answer as to what is happening in our bodies. I'm useless with the temping I keep forgetting to do it!!

I've just done another opk just a cheap one and the line is barely visible now after having been 50 percent a few hours ago . I'm not sure if that's because I've had quite a bit to drink though and didn't really hold. I begrudge not letting myself drink or wee though when I've no clue what cd I am at the minute. Last time I was ttc I only used cb ones and would test using fmu as I didn't realise you weren't supposed to, I always got flashies and a static this way and would only do one test a day. I have also read somewhere that cb ones you are supposed to use fmu until you get a flashy and can then test more frequently 🥴 it's all so confusing.

@chloedancer897 it’s horrible isn’t it. Hope you are ok too x

If I go off day of mva as cd1 I would be on cd 42 now! But have only just got a negative test today

Hi ladies just popped in with a little update and to say thank you so much and farewell to you all . I really do wish the very best of luck to all you lovely people Wether you already have your bfp or are still patiently waiting for that first sign of your rainbow appearing 🌈 just reading your stories and the amazing way you all support each other on here has really helped get me through the last few months . My 12 week scan this morning went well and both twins are growing nicely and as expected . I was delighted to see they have their own sacs this time round 😁🙏 but as they are sharing a placenta there is still a very high risk of complications going forward . Going to be a long climb up the mountain for us but currently heading in the right direction which is all I can hope for at this point . Next mile stone will be passing the 16 plus 2 point were I Previously lost my Twin boys 💔 . For this reason I’ve made the decision to come off all parenting forums and social media for a while and focus only on relaxation and spending quality time with my girls over the next month or so to help me cope with the overwhelming fear / anxiety and most Importantly help me stay away from google . In the nicest possible way I can only hope to never be rejoining you but truly appreciate the special safe space you’ve all created here and hope that If I do have a need to return that your all long gone having graduated to your due date clubs . Lots of love and positive baby dust to you all 💞