TTC after MC - July 2020 (Part 5)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies 🥰🥰

So nice to have more names on the BFP list ❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@MichT4
@Ejb86

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@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@NightDreaming
@Renna
@Jazper
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@chloedancer897
@Bellabubble
@Wishingfornumber2
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@busby85
@Northernsoul90
@Lollol86
@calimommy
@Quail15
@littletandme
@Rebecca1992
@Sophj19
@fafi
@Re6ecc4
@Rb486
@Girlmum83

If anyone else would like to join please do xx

@Northernsoul90 maybe schools are rife for this sort of stuff. I have told all family and friends ttc. Now really regretting it as it just completely adds to pressure. I’m exhausted with it all. As soon as son was born we said little age gap, no contraception from now until we have three kids and then I’ll get fixed job done. But it really hasn’t been that simple. Breakout me in lactational amenorrhea for 13 months and then I had a mc. There was al this pondering whether to stop bf to ttc. Just felt conflicted. Then mc and it’s all just mad. I didn’t however mention ttc to colleagues so no idea why they speculate.
What has your journey been like? Xx

Ahh @Mommybear05 yes remember you. Really strange, I was only thinking the other day of the ladies on the April thread when I first joined and how everyone is getting on.

That’s so hard when people comment like that. When people say oh when are you having another one I want to scream I should already have one! But just bottle it and say hopefully sometime soon. Hope you are ok. X

@Mommybear05 I think schools can be particularly hard work with things like ttc (dare I say because it’s a lot of women usually in one place 😣). I have told close friends and family about ttc and then after my mc I think the rest have just presumed.

Sorry that you have had a difficult journey, I always feel like there’s one thing after another or something getting in the way when ttc when all you want is you cycles back properly. I hope you get caught soon 🤞🏼

I started ttc baby number 1 in around November last year, we wanted to start straight away after getting married in August so I came off the pill but needed to carry on using contraception for a couple of months in case of zika (we got married abroad). We were trying for 6months ish before I fell pregnant in April although it had been a bit sporadic with DH working away.

The pregnancy seemed to be going fine, I had the usual symptoms and very bad nausea and sickness which started at 6 weeks. I had nothing telling me there was an issue but I am an anxious person so booked an early scan at 8 weeks privately. I went for my first midwife app on the Tuesday and then the scan on the Thursday where I found out the pregnancy sac was empty - they call it a blighted ovum. So effectively a mmc. I had to had an mva procedure as I wasn’t miscarrying naturally and that was done on the 8th June. Currently waiting to get my cycles back so I can start ttc properly but I’m still having positive tests which is really frustrating. I’m back at EPU next week for a blood test which hopefully tells me the hormones have gone 🤞🏼

Hey 🥰🥰 @Mommybear05 so nice to hear from you, I've thought about tagging you many times and asking how you are but I thought you maybe were taking some time out which you were. I'm sorry you're still having a crappy time with your cycles, I know how you feel. Its so inappropriate for people to make comments and talk about you like that. Honestly, some people just don't realise that you never know what is going on in someone's life. Hopefully they all learn to keep their comments to themselves.

Have you spoken to your doctor about the spotting? I wonder if any of the ladies on here know of anything you can take or stop taking to help? Did you start taking anything? Xx

@MichT4 oh no way, was it just when you wiped or has it continued? I really hope all is okay!! Girlmums story just goes to show how crazy bodies can be when PG. Totally understand your OH feeling like that. Sending you a big hug, ❤️

@VP91x iv been doing cheap ovulation tests just faint lines so far and my app says 8th for ovulation if it follows my cycles pre misscarriage.

When I was in the hospital they said they couldn't outrule a polyp but said nothing about it when they discharged me so Im just weary of that!

@wishingfornumber2
@nothernsoul
It's so hard isn't it that we go through some of our hardest times in silence, people just don't think when they mention why you havnt had kids yet that you might actually be trying and while you struggle everyone seems to be getting pregnant at the drop of a hat. I am taking a break from social media because i was just needed to stop looking at everyone getting pregnant.

Just wondering where everyone is from on the group and if anyone is from Scotland?

Thanks @Northernsoul90 and @VP91x. It was just when I wiped, a few times on my first wee. Now it’s brown again but more like brown blood rather than the tinge I had yesterday. Still only when I wipe. Resisting the urge to keep going to the loo so I can check.
I feel ok at the moment, I just hope it goes away again. I think if it doesn’t I’ll call my EPU directly tomorrow and see what they suggest. If it’s not good news then we will be ok, just jump back in and keep positive.
I still feel really sick so I’m hoping that’s a good sign. Will have to keep an eye I guess, and hope for the very best of sticky beans 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🌈🌈🌈

@Mommybear05 welcome back to the group. Sorry you’ve had such insensitive comments. It’s so strange people think they have the right to say things to people, without any idea what they are going through. We spoke about that a little last night strangely and OH said he would never ask anyone or assume anything about PG now because of what we’ve been through. Some people are just ignorant to it. Hard to resist the urge to tell them to keep quiet and tell them why, but they don’t deserve your story either.
Uurrggghh, winds me up

@Mommybear05 ahh I've missed you on these threads so much, I've thought of you so often... I was so hoping that you had got your BFP and long forgotten about us. Ooh you are still just ahead of me I'm CD23 right now and expecting AF on Friday night/ Saturday morning but temps been all over the place this month so not even sure I ovulated but I've kinda convinced myself August is my month (based on nothing) How is the bf going? Still dropped the night feeds? I've told pretty much everyone that I talk to about the MC and strangely it really takes the pressure off as nobody would be so insensitive to ask on progress now, even most people at work know x

@MichT4 as others have said some form of bleeding in pregnancy can be very normal, it's impossible not to worry but try and keep stress levels down and rest loads, no long walks or anything to aggregate things in there ❤️

@Wishingfornumber2 I've had to come off of all social media as just can't face the updates, it's so hard because I want to be happy but also feel so much jealousy which is horrible. And somebody said to me at work 'do you want to start a family now' and I replied with 'well I was pregnant and sadly miscarried so I would love a family but I just don't know when it will be my time' strangely the more people I talk to about it the more people open up to me about their struggles x

Thanks @SmileyT, I am remaining positive until I know otherwise. I thought I’d be in a mess if this happened again but I feel strangely calm at the moment. See how long that lasts 😂
I’ll be chilling today and not moving too much from my sofa

How are you?

I love that you’re honest with everyone, must feel refreshing to be able to speak openly and share your story, shows real strength xx

@MichT4 I'm standardly trying to stay positive... 1st day off of the week and had a lovely morning with OH involving a Disney film. You totally have the right idea, I have so much faith that everything will be fine for you and little bean and either way I'll be here to support you throughout.

And with the being honest thing, although I hadn't told many people about the pregnancy after the MC I read so many peoples stories and it made me so sad that it's almost this shameful secret women carry around with them. I totally get people not wanting to share but I'm so inspired by the public figures that do, it's awful but also comforting to know that we are not alone in this experience x

@Mommybear05 heya!! Lovely to see you again! I find the ladies at school seem to be asking a lot too - I did tell a few when I had the mc and they are so good and don’t ask anything and help deflect when others start prying!! 2 of the 3 had also had mc themselves so completely understood! I know people think it’s conversational, or polite etc - but I find it weird people ask about babies/pregnancy/wanting children! That being said - I worked at Mothercare for a long time whilst at uni and after - and you see and hear so many stories that I vowed I would never ask someone as you never know what they are going through!

@MichT4 hopefully everything is all ok - I have had friends that have spotted all the way through pregnancies, it’s strange how pregnancy can vary so much between everyone! Positive thoughts your way from me though xx

@VP91x I’m due af anywhen between July 17/20th as I switch between 27/29day cycles! So I will aim for a test date of July 20th - hopefully lol xx

Morning ladies 💕 @Girlmum83 wow what an emotional whirlwind. Congratulations, two babies growing for 9 weeks and you had no idea. How amazing 😍 @Dipsy77 congratulations to you also. That’s a lovely line for 9dpo, so exciting. @MichT4 try and keep calm, a little bit of blood doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong. I’m glad you’ve read the commandments, keep reading them daily 🥰

@Bellabubble @Rb486 thank you 🥰

I’m not panicking yet, I’m hoping it’s just one of those things that passes. I’m trying to pretend it didn’t really happen and just carry on as normal in my mind.

Those commandments are a godsend @Rb486 xx

Thanks @Emsnewmum & @SmileyT I think I will do that in the future, be honest straight away about my MC as then at least people know and can stop asking or share their experiences too. There was a women at work who used to mention a lot about me having another baby then one day she told me her daughter had had a MC and so I told her about mine. She gave me a hug and hasn’t mentioned babies anymore. It is surprising how many people have gone through a MC. I have seen on fb some people I know mention about MC and I didn’t know they had been through one. X

@Wishingfornumber2 I'm more relaxed which is very positive but still tracking. So I have been seeing rising lcg past days and got positive cheapy and smiley today ☺️ i am 11CD so I assume I will ovulate tomorrow, earlier than in pre Mc cycles (13-14). But I'm glad it is already happening. Now I will need to hold myself not to test too early. What is ur plan for this cycle ?

@MichT4 I just want to give you some words of encouragement. With my first Mc at 9 weeks, I have started to bleed with medium abdominal pain a day before my first appointment. And at my first check up I heard it is 50/50 chances now. So not all bleeding means something is wrong. It is worse if it is bleeding accompanying with pain and even then it is still 50/50. I wish for you that the bleeding stops already and that you continue to enjoy your pregnancy dear 😘

@wishingfornumber2 definitely I was so suprised with just how many people I knew had gone through the same.

For this misscarriage I started watching youtube videos on misscarriage after my rough time in the hospital and was so suprised at all that we go through.

We just have to be so resilient and put on a brave face but it's so great to be able to come on here and talk to each other through our highs and lows and celebrate with each other in our successes.

You are all remarkable women and I wish you all the best on this journey x

Thank you @HopeForRainbowbaby, it’s nice to hear some hope.
It’s stopped red now, just brown sometimes. But then sometimes AF starts a bit like that.
There’s nothing I can do except stay hopeful and positive, so that’s the plan. Otherwise I’ll analyse everything and it’ll just cause so much stress.

Glad to hear you’ve had a more relaxed cycle. Makes all the difference to your outlook on things. Wishing you luck for this month xx

@VP91x Thanks for the new thread. Currently CD17 today.....AF due 17th (1st cycle since MC so insure really)
I will try hold off for testing but easier said than done. So maybe I will test on the 13th/14th. Feeling strangely positive about this month, getting a clear peak OPK and DTD literally everyday since CD1 🙈😪 I'm wrecked....surly all that sex has to lead somewhere!!

@Dipsy77 Congrats!! Great news to see BFPs so much lately!❤

@Girlmum83 Wow, what a story to have!! Keeping everything crossed for you!! Congrats❤

@MichT4 Stay positive!! I'm sure it's nothing to worry about....keeping everything crossed for you! Keep us updated on any changes!

*CD1 - I meant CD4!!

Thank you @Rebecca1992. Just allowed myself a little weep so now need to pick myself up again and get back to feeling hopeful.

This journey never ends! xx

@Wishingfornumber2 yeah when I told a girl at work about my MC she told me she had been trying for number 2 for 2 years and when she announced she was pregnant a few weeks ago although I did, very selfishly, wish it was me, I didn't have that normal feeling of 'why is it so easy for everybody else'. I was very guilty of asking the question of friends before, always meant in a positive way, but I'm so much more aware now xx

So as is always the case for me in the final week before AF I'm looking forward to my next cycle and wondering who was it that said about hcg injections for OHs? I was wondering where you get them and how much they should take? X

@MichT4 how is OH dealing with things? Hope you are getting loads of cuddles today xx

@SmileyT I think he’s struggling a bit. After what he said last night I’m trying to not scare him. He just said it love you, my pregnant lady’ and that set me off good and proper.
He’s looking after me though. I just hope so much that this is just an unfortunate blip and everything is ok in there 🤞🏼 Xx

That was meant to say ‘I love you....

Oh wow so much to catch up on over the last day or so. Can't believe we are onto another new thread!

Congratulations to those that have got their bfp lovely news.
Sorry to those that have had a recent loss and find themselves on the thread.

@girlmum83 oh wow what lovely news hope you and oh get your head round it and can enjoy it.

@Mommybear05 hello how are you? I thought you had perhaps gotten your bfp and had moved onto a new thread. Sorry to hear you are having issues with your cycle and insensitive comments.

@VP91x af is due either 19th/20th also not planning on testing early.

Where are you ladies with your cycles ?