More Afternoon Delight (Bus 9)

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Here we go again you wonderful ladies - entry requirements are a suggestion for 'sex position of the day' 😉

20 BFPs so far in June how many more will we get!?

@egg2020 - June 24th
@marshmallow123 - June 26th
@stabal - June 26th
@madz27 - June 27th
@skip86 - June 28th
@missgoldilocks - June 28th
@newbie0818 - June 30th
@vp91x - June 30th
@lucyrp - July 1st
@sweetdreams92 - July 1st
@sausage1990 - July 1st
@busybee143 - July 1st
@lucie91 - July 2nd
@minster2012 - July 3rd
@dipsy77 -July 3rd
@dkdk123 - July 4th
@katao - July 4th
@amy00 - July 5th
@ltay2 - July 5th
@notyetamumbuttrying - July 5th
@vil10 - July 6th
@franklydear - July 6th
@justmouse - July 7th
@blodyn91 - July 7th
@cocoblue22 - July 7th
@watermelonwizard - July 7th
@smileyT - July 8th
@jazper - July 8th
@littleRa - July 10th
@clairey844 - July 10th
@2020mission - July 15th
@DB20 - July 17th
@mococo1 - July 20th
@sarahttc2020 - July 21st
@lv1987 - July 24th

Anyone missing just let me know your next testing date xx

Good morning all, hadn't been posting for the last few days on Bus 8 but was checking in every now and then to see how you were all doing x

@SmileyT thank you for the new thread and adding me to the list x

@Stabal congratulations! What great news to be waking up to x

Not much for me to update on except I am now 6 DPO. Tried to promise myself I wouldn't symtom spot but here I am making note of every little twinge 😅

Have a lovely day everyone xx

Hi everyone. We’re trying for our first, I’m 26 and OH is 31. I ovulated yesterday so am going to test 4th July. AF is due 7th July

Morning everyone marking my place on the bus xx

@lucyrp I was going to ask how you were getting on, I had so many pages to catch up on I didnt know if Id missed your news but just saw your post on here. Can't believe you're still stuck in limbo! You definitely deserve a medal for mental strength! Hope you get answers soon.

@DKDK123 nope no news here unfortunately! i've has some spotting when i wipe now and again but nothing really. no AF or BFP 😣 i was hoping to get my BFP before going back to woot but i'm back full time as of the 1st so that definitely hasn't happened! i got offered my 21 day bloods but of course i can't have them if i don't have AF!

Welcome back @Clolo I've actually been drinking pomegranate juice from about CD7 but that's because I know my lining was thin before (IVF measuring) & I drank it and then it got better 🤷‍♀️my doc says it's a really good anti oxidant anyway & recommended for those with heart problems so I think it can't hurt

Also hello again @SweetDreams92 & welcome @Buckingmad, you are similar timing to a few of us 🤞🏻

@Katecolx we are here for you, maybe have a lovely walk outside today to clear the air xxx

@Juno231 Testing around 10th July, how about you?

@cocoblue glad to see you got a flashing smiley! Might do 3 OPKs today. Femometr App says Im ovulating, dont believe it. So now thinking Clue might be more accurate. Does BBT usually rise after ovulation?
@Minster2012 been drinking ut for two weeks now, none left for today (was hoping Id have ovulated) but no EWCM, been drinking lots of water as well. Just hope it changes at some point this week. Been pretty relaxed and stress free, reduced exercising so should work 😔

@KateColx will you be able to DTD tonight? If OH is at work send him some naughty pics to try get him in the mood. So annoying when we have to be the one to do the first move, but on an important day just tryyy and not stress over it and do everything you can.

@Skip86 thank you ❤️

Okay get ready for a proper self-indulgent brain dump...

So this morning I got up and ready to wow OH with a cheeky corkscrew shag, had a shower put my preseed in and initiated sex after about 10minutes I was like 'fuck me this isn't happening' tried all the normal tricks and tried to take deep breaths and stay calm but nope he was having none of it. So I burst into tears, it's actually not because it's fertile window but just because I feel like he just isn't into me sexually anymore. Before my MC in March we had been avoiding sex during fertile time and we managed to fall because he couldn't keep his hands off me and I fear that a lack of hair, make up and the gym has just changed his whole outlook 😩 In our whole relationship we've never had this issue but when I talk about stopping trying he is so hurt and doesn't want to entertain the option but I just don't know what else to do. I feel so rejected and unattractive, he says we'll finish the deed tonight but it just doesn't change the fact that sex has become this big obstacle in our relationship. I feel like the worst sex bus member ever and a long busy day at work ahead 😭😭😭

Ahh @SmileyT don't worry. I've had this before thinking it was because I didn't have d my weave in and I'd put on weight. I challenged him on it and he was like no course not! It's just ttc is hard on them when they feel that's the reason why we're coming onto them. It's a right pain because we need them to get pregnant and sometimes they get all sensitive about it. Have a chat, try and reassure him you're not just after his swimmers and he'll come round. Hope you have a good day x

@SmileyT Same exact thing happened to me last cycle on ovulation day! I cried for about 20 mins, like proper full on could not breathe crying! Felt exactly the same, that he didn't want to have sex with me because hes no longer attracted to me, even questioned him why he wants to marry and have kids with someone he doesn't feel attracted to 🙈 thats when he just opened up and said it felt like I was trying too hard for a baby and not acctually wanted sex with him. We are trying to be more relaxed this cycle, but last nigh was borderline forced 😫
I think all these hormones makes our minds go wild! He definitely is still attracted to you! Has he spoken to you?

Good morning ladies.....

Thanks for the new bus @SmileyT you are a star ⭐️

I was posting to myself on the other thread so I'll copy across what I put in a min just catching up on these posts too....

@Stabal congratulations on BFP I can definitely see a line 🎉 x

@KateColx rant away we all get it :) hopefully you're covered anyway but try and DTD today in case maybe take some tips off @Minster2012 to get him in the mood! X

@LittleRa im in FW too now it seems woohoo 🎉 @Juno231 x

@lucyrp you keep positing your antics it inspires us all. I hope af arrives soon x

@SmileyT oh no big hugs don't feel like that! You are beautiful and amazing and I'm sure he is majorly attracted to you! Sometimes these things happen it doesn't mean anything! I'm sure you'll get home tonight and have an amazing time. Try to be kind to yourself it's nothing you've done it just happens and your OH will prob be feeling the same. I'm so sorry you feel rubbish and have to go to work x

This is what I posted on the old bus....

Good morning ladies!

I am much more smiley today since it's CD15 and CB has picked up high oestrogen (flashing smiley!) woohoo 🎉 now just waiting for my LH surge haha! I'll probably be mardy again in a few days!

@SmileyT yeah the CB advanced fertility monitor the expensive one the sell that records everything like a computer so it should be bloody accurate for how much it cost! X

Well this weather looks amazing for the next few days!

@lucyrp make the most of this week before you have to go back to work boo x

@Mococo1 I was reading up on this last night we do have all our immature eggs but they are suspended however on the pill in the break some mature to the next stage and are susupended again so I don't think it necessarily takes 4 months after all some women get pg the first month after coming off it says that women with no previous ovulation issues should ovulate within 3 months after stopping it. It also says that taking hormonal contraceptives ages your ovaries in appearance and shrinks them and your egg reserves appear much lower than they should so these tests shouldn't be done when on the pill! Very interesting! Thanks @blodyn91 for the insight I certainly won't be taking hormonal contraceptives again! X

Do sesame seeds do anything? I had loads of them on my dinner last night!!! *@SmileyT** I had sesame beef stir fry and jasmine rice it was lovely but a smaller portion than I would like been a bit 🐷 recently x

@blodyn91 it certainly is very interesting isn't it I've learnt lots of new stuff too x

@Missgoldilocks think about it that couple it won't all be perfect he might have that quality but your OH will have other qualities that that guy doesn't have. Try not to focus on that one thing he doesn't do so well but focus on all the wonderful things he does and the reasons why you fell in love with him in the first place. Maybe explain to him how you're feeling about TTC and explain how he could help you by being a bit more supportive and then when he does any little thing that is remotely supportive praise him and tell him great he is for being supportive and how much you appreciate it and he will soon learn. Men sometimes just need to be shown how to be a bit more supportive in these situations he probably is finishing it hard in his own way but isn't aware of what's going on in your head atm and I'm sure you'll get your BFP soon and then you can put this time behind you. I hope you feel better x

@Sausage1990 welcome back! Yep some of us originals are still hanging on in here on our next cycle! I'm due to test at beginning of July too x

Sorry to randomly jump in but wanted to say that I completely feel ya @SmileyT . I have always felt that my DH had a higher sex drive than me, he would always be up for it no matter what time of day and has never have had any problem finishing (sometimes even too quick!) I honestly think it's the pressures of TTC, it takes some of the spontaneity out of it because the other day he softened up mid DTD, couldn't finish, and it also made me really sad and felt really ugly. I didn't tell him I just said no worries but I still can't stop thinking about it. Before then we were DTD almost every day and now (during my fertile week) we have only done it twice. It has become slightly awkward so I know I need to try and take the awkwardness away and maybe not talk about TTC and DTD all the time and in the same sentences, and maybe bring it back to DTD because I want to and not because I want his babies. This is only our first proper month TTC as well!!! The pressure is real!

@SmileyT my OH is like that sometimes. i try numerous times to initiate and he's just like no not now and then i feel deflated and sometimes he even stops mid flow because he has a "stitch" and can't finish 😫😂

@Minster2012 thanks lovely, I've just taken the pup for a nice walk before I sit down with my laptop which has helped ☺️ I think I'm stuck in a bit of rut in general so I don't think that's helped. I'm going to make a conscious effort today to get myself back on track, and hopefully that will help me to stop stressing so much about TTC x

@blodyn91 we could yeah, it's just rubbish when it falls on a week day as we rarely have sex mid week anyway as he works such long hours and is always shattered (he has a manual job unlike me on my laptop 😂🤓) but I'll try it! I knowww, I hate feeling like I'm pestering about it but I'm trying to get across to him that it's just a few days a month that we need to put tiredness etc to one side haha. Thank you 😌 so pleased I have you guys to keep me sane x

@SmileyT aw I feel for you, I've been there! Is this the first time something like this has happened with you guys? I'll admit I've thought the exact same about OH being into me during lockdown when I've just lived in comfy clothes and with no make up on etc. but you're gorgeous! So don't feel like you're anything but that 💛 He loves you and seeing you without make up etc for a few weeks isn't going to change that, do you think it's maybe the pressure of it being in FW? He'll be feeling just as bad as you, maybe worse, don't be hard on yourself x

7dpo and just waiting waiting waiting. Still have firecracker nips and temp still rising 🙏🏻

This is my reply to previous thread:

@Cocoblue22 @blodyn91 it took me 2 months after coming off the pill. Apparently the pill doesn't stay in your system more than a few days, but because your body is used to be forced to not ovulate etc it just takes time to find its own rhythm. Unless there's an underlying issue that the pill was masking like in my case 😑

@Missgoldilocks men are poos. At least you know you're doing everything possible, but I know how frustrated you must feel x

@Franklydear sounds like ovulation to me :)

@Sausage1990 welcome back lovely. It's good to have a break isn't it. And glad to hear you're 1dpo! Not long now!

@smileyt thanks for the new thread, and like others have said this whole ttc business does take its toll. Have a little chat, I'm sure it's nothing about you x

We've all been there @smileyT 😫it's awful. Especially as we are all feeling low in lockdown it's rubbish and @Bertyb7 you aren't jumping in you are part of the bus!

@lucyrp @Bertyb7 @Cocoblue22 @blodyn91 @notyetamumbuttrying @KateColx @Minster2012 thanks so much for all being so supportive. It's horrible but also so comforting to know it's not just me and my shitty hair (hairdressers appt booked for the 9th 🥳). I really don't want ttc sex to strain our relationship and have told him we don't have to have sex on set days and I don't have to tell him where I am in my cycle but he says he wants that so I don't know what else I can do. He was basically in tears this morning and was adamant it's nothing to do with me, he has always said he prefers me without make up and I'm sexiest at home on the sofa just chilling but like you've all said ttc is a mindfuck. I want to have his children because I love him and he is bloody fantastic it's just hard when you make loads of effort and it doesn't happen. I've decided to just take the pressure off anyway, if he initiates sex over the next week that's great if he doesn't I'm not going to force it, my relationship is the most important thing👌🏾

Morning ladies!
I had a break from here yesterday and can't find messages I was tagged in so I'm not ignoring you all! OH didn't get home until just before midnight last night and it was ovulation day but we managed to DTD as soon as he got back so may have been too late but it's done now, just a waiting game! I think I should be 1dpo today, will test to check later!

@Stabal congratulations❤️

@SmileyT my OH was like this last night!! He was so so tired and I kept talking to him to see if he was awake, so eventually I thought fuck it I'm going in, gave him a little bit of a blowy and he still led there didn't move a part from the occasional pleasurable grunt, so I was like wtf!!! Whilst led there in the most unflattering pyjama top, 10 week old brows, no lashes, hairy legs, absolutely fuming, anyway we ended up DTD after I had a go at him! But I totally know where you're coming from with the appearance side of it, I feel disgusting and have put so much weight on, so you're not on your own! And I'm sure OH is still very much attracted to you!x

@Newbie0818 what took 2 months post pill sorry 🙈 a normal cycle? or ovulation? This is my 3rd cycle now but first tracking

Still catching up on the old thread but marking my place 🙋🏼‍♀️ can't believe we are on bus 9 already 😱

@SmileyT I feel for you and you're not alone! For the past 18 months or so my OH's drive has really gone down (coinciding with a new job he got) and I've had plenty of mini breakdowns and crying sessions feeling hugely unattractive. I've actually stopped initiating completely cause I got rejected so often and it really affected my confidence. We're just... out of sync libido wise and although he's improved a bit (every 7-10 days instead of every 2 weeks) we're still nowhere near the 3x week we used to do for the last few years, nevermind the multiple times a day we used to do when we first got together!

Just remember it's not you, it's normal, and we're in it for the long haul so there will be ups and downs along the way xx