TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies,

New thread - currently CD17 (cycle #3) still waiting for peak OPK.

I hopefully have tagged everyone -

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4
WellHurrahAndHuzzah
@ManchNic
@Jazper
@Dizzy201
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@1990EM
@Chickoletta
@Tink20058
@sunflower96
@Meomeomeo
@chloedancer897
@Niisa
@Bellabubble
@Sallyjo27
@Ejb86
@Wishingfornumber2
@anaconda76
@AR52
@DontStandSoClose
@Donnat89
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@NightDreaming
@Saim86

If anyone else would like to join please do❤️

@HopeForRainbowbaby how u feeling?

@SmileyT fx for your static smiley soon. Feeling a bit deflated. Going to have sit my daughter down and explain we lost the baby if AF shows this month. We said we would give it two months of trying after we miscarriaged in hopes of catching again and not have to break her heart as she doesn’t understand due dates etc so this gonna be a tough pill to swallow

@SmileyT I’m with you on the exhaustion. I keep waking so early but guarantee tomorrow when I have to get up, I won’t want to.

Sounds like CB needs to change the icon to something less punchable - maybe a little sperm or something 😂

Yeah I guess patience paid off. Now I’m panicking what if I ovulated yesterday and didn’t DTD 🙄. I doubt it because my first peak OPK was Wednesday but I had them until Friday morning. I didn’t test after that - should have stopped after the first!

I did not want to do the quiz, am also over it. But some friends had asked and I had no excuse given we have nowhere else to go 😂 xx

@SmileyT
I started testing cd 10 both last cycle and this cycle. I had one day of blank last cycle and 6 days flashy before my peak at cd17. As I said, all blanks so far this cycle.
It's funny isn't it because, I got really impatient with my flashies last month and yet I'd be really grateful to see one now 😆
Do I recall you said you started testing earlier this month in the hope of getting a flashy?
I'm thinking, if I already had elevated oestrogen on the first day of testing, that may be why I've got so many blanks...

@2020wish sorry for BFN this morning but it's still early for you so song lose hope yet. Does your daughter know about the MC? What age is she? I was thinking of telling my daughter. She is 12. She keeps asking what's wrong with me and sees me so upset. But I don't know if it's the right thing to do.

@HopeForRainbowbaby hopefully it's still too early. Fx for you xo

@chloedancer897 she’s 9. No she doesn’t know because she’s been begging me for sibling for so long and talk everyday about her new sibling on the way :( so we tried to hold off telling her in the hopes we would catch again in a month or two following the miscarriage :( we caught straight away again and miscarriages a few days later so was hoping this would be the month. Have you not told your daughter then? Did she know you were pregnant? X

@2020wish no I didn't tell either of them anything but they are both dying for a sibling and my daughter found my ovulation tests yesterday so I assume she knows something.

I'm so sorry, it's heartbreaking. But you always get your positive on CD29 so it might just be too early for you

@chloedancer897 do you feel you want to tell her ? It’s so hard to know what the right thing is to do.

I’m really hoping. Praying so hard 🙏🏻

@2020wish so sorry that it was negative this morning, but don't lose hope just yet as everyone said. Fingers crossed it goes positive for you ❤️❤️

@SmileyT I know, so odd. They went pretty much the same colour last night until about 6pm then the 9.30ish one was faint, and this morning too. Will do another one soon too to double check.

Hoping this headache goes soon too, had to go to Tesco to get the stuff for a roast and was super lightheaded. Must be the hormone change. 🤢

@VP91x my AF per Flo is in four days. I went for a walk to make myself feel better;) also I should not expect to get pregnant in the cycle directly from MC... ohh well I'm sure the future will bring another BFP. are you 1DPO now ?

@SmileyT @chloedancer897 thank you for your support ! I shall not lose hope 😘

@2020wish I'm sorry it was bfn. You said you felt like AF yesterday but nothing happened right ? I feel like AF today but no sign yet. I see that you will test tomorrow again. I am thinking of perhaps waiting till a day before AF. Let's see if I can hold off😅 hmmm as I had negative yesterday , I was expecting one today too. I just needed some fresh air and some good food ;) how are you? I see that you will be telling your daughter. I'm sending you and your family lots of love ❤️ and soon enough you will have another bfp ( maybe sooner than you think, who knows ;))! Let it be healthy pregnancy 😘

@HopeForRainbowbabyYea last night around 10pm I took an awful few cramps like AF was about to show in full force then (tmi) had to run to the loo and was there for a bit lol so strange turn all cramps went away and none as of yet. (They weren’t even sore tummy cramps but like AF ones) Boobs aren’t sore or nothing. I usually get sore boobs 2 days before AF. So I dunno what’s going on. Yea going to tell her on Tuesday is tomorrow is a bfn and AF hasn’t showed. Going a drive today with the family to help take my mind of it.
You are still very early and have time yet for it BFP

@VP91x thank you. Yea could be the hormones changing for you

@2020wish ahh must be so hard after you've told her you were pregnant, really hope you don't have to tell her any bad news but just remember children are very resilient and she will just want to be there for you I'm sure xx

@MichT4 just remember the sex before ovulation is the most important as after the egg has popped its much harder for it to be caught by the sperm so as long as you've covered the days before you're good x

@Jazper yeah I think it's to do with whether oestrogen is already elevated, I thought mine might elevate early so tried starting the testing a day earlier and it has caught that surge, yours might have already been elevated so didn't catch it this month. I'm assuming I'll still get my peak on the same day but does make me think that using CB is a bit pointless because it's just confirming what I know 🤷🏾‍♀️ as long as we get our static I guess it doesn't matter that much x

Ahh @VP91x I hope you get some chill time once DH is at work and DC asleep... DP got in at 7.30am from his night shift so still sound asleep and I'm having the laziest of Sunday's 😴 x

I'm so confused - I think I'm about 10/11 DPO going off when I had some highs (but no peak) off cheapie OPKs and watery EWCM. I've carried on checking CM and OPKs just because it's the first cycle after mc bleeding stopped and I'm wondering if I ovulated already or may ovulate later.

This morning I noticed after wiping going to the loo that CM had a pink tinge and when checking CM properly it was bloodshot.
Feels far too early for AF to be arriving though I'm certain it's that, rather than implantation bleeding. When does implantation bleeding tend to happen and did anyone experience it before getting their BFP?

I really don't want to do a test before AF is due next Thursday and seeing a BFN. I'd rather just wait for it to arrive. I haven't had any other "symptoms" as well like the first PG I had incredibly sore breasts and was needing to pee so often in the days leading up to AF due. I didn't have this kind of blood tinged CM last time either so I'm certain it's AF making an early appearance.
Just after some moral support to stop me from testing early!!!!!!

@SmileyT thank you, I've actually had quite a productive few hours getting stuff done in the house. Done a opk just now and it's pretty dark both lines are the same colour so think it's just all fluctuating still. Not too worried about it, I know my temp will rise either tomorrow or day after. Ahh, what does your partner do? So nice to have a lazy Sunday.

@HopeForRainbowbaby ahh you still have quite a few days left. Sounds like you're having a nice day.

@2020wish I really hope they are good signs for you still hun xx

You can implant between 6-12dpo and then from implantation being completed it can take 2-5 days for hcg to built up enough for a BFP. So could be implantation. Fingers crossed!! I’ve never have IB but that sounds like it

Anyone a pro at cervix position through our cycle?
I’m not a pro but I usually use the flex cup that sits against cervix rhi AF arrives and I can usually reach the cervix to feel where I’m putting the cup but don’t actually pay attention to what I’m feeling. But thought I’d have a wee go tho there to see what position It’s in and I can’t feel it at all it’s so high. Is that normal? How long does it take to drop for af arriving

@2020wish yeah not experienced IB before so who knows?! Fingers crossed for you too x

@SmileyT , yep, totally get what you mean on cb being pointless. Having said that, I'm really only trying to get to grips with my cycle post mc as it was so all over the place. Once I know it's regulated, I will probably stop. Probably. Maybe not 😂
Have you been using the same holder or a new one every cycle? That's the thing that threw me this month as I used the same holder so expected it would pick up an oestrogen rise even on the first day (after tracking it last month with the same holder, you see?)

@Jazper it will reset after you get a static I think but won't carry baseline over between cycles it will always be blank circle at the start of a new cycle. My reader came with 25 sticks so it will see me through this cycle and maybe another. Like you I think I won't buy more but I probably will 🙈

@2020wish my cervix stays high all the way up until period, this month I did notice the morning my period started it was super low and firm, first time I've noticed it being low so guessing it happens right before period x

@mrsssk I didn't have IB with my BFP before MC but I did have spotting before period first period after MC, don't test and just wait even if it is an IB you won't see a positive test for a few days xx

@VP91x yay to positive test today will definitely get your temp rise tomorrow or Tuesday morning 🙌🏾 he is a train signaller, so silly he was on a night shift last night but there were no trains running and no engineering works so basically paid to just sit there 😂

Hey all, so I'm getting my amazon order ready for the next cycle. What do I need? I don't want to temp or do a million OPKs, my cycle is pretty regular and i think temping will just make me symptom spot. I'm happy with CH digital for now. The smilies are easier to understand lol

With regards to supplements, what should me and DH take? I have been taking seven seas conception supplements just, DH hasn't taken anything but going to start this month. I've heard people saying to take COCQ10 etc, what is the benefit with that?

Thanks guys! Onwards and upwards xo

@2020wish god, no idea. I've heard that it stays high and soft if you're pg but also seen alot of threads where cervixes have been low and hard 🤔

This month I've finally sussed out what my cervix feels like when it's open but, also it moves around throughout the day I've read.

@SmileyT haha, not a bad shift then. Yeah definitely will come up over the next couple of days. What's the deal with the calc is it 2 a day or the 8 that the packet says? Xx

@2020wish you need to look at the consistency as well as position. You cervix can be high and then drop it does change quite a bit. Also try and feel if it is slightly open or closed.

@VP91x @DBTJ this is one thing I can't work out, how do you know if your cervix is open or closed?

@chloedancer897 I take coq10 it's supposed to be good for egg and sperm quality so can't hurt 👌🏾

@SmileyT

Firstly when you go to feel what position is your cervix. If you manage to feel can you touch the top , you will no when it's open as there is a slight gap. You need to try and feel your cervix at least twice a day. Try and also feel it when you are on af as you will then no what it is for cervix to be open.

@chloedancer897 re supplements - you could spend loads of money but might be best to start with vitamin d and high dose folic acid as this what my gynae said would be a good starting point

@chloedancer897 the consultant at EPU told me to take iron supplement, vit d and folic acid x