TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies,

New thread - currently CD17 (cycle #3) still waiting for peak OPK.

I hopefully have tagged everyone -

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4
WellHurrahAndHuzzah
@ManchNic
@Jazper
@Dizzy201
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@1990EM
@Chickoletta
@Tink20058
@sunflower96
@Meomeomeo
@chloedancer897
@Niisa
@Bellabubble
@Sallyjo27
@Ejb86
@Wishingfornumber2
@anaconda76
@AR52
@DontStandSoClose
@Donnat89
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@NightDreaming
@Saim86

If anyone else would like to join please do❤️

@VP91x nothing as exciting as you ladies, I’m an accountant and am Finance Director at a small company. What brands did you work for? Sounds like fun

@Renna I’m glad the scan went well - sorry AF got you :( I think she’s getting me too! I definitely had a wobble beofre work this morn - it’s hard when you want something so mich isn’t it! Since the mmc I have started spotting before AF comes - each cycle it has got a day less of spotting so I’m thinking my hormones are just taking longer to regulate than I thought they would! xx

@vp91x fingers crossed your peak is here tomorrow!! Xx

@MichT4 how are you waitin for your temps to rise now? Fingers crossed for you too xx

@MichT4 well you say secret but I tell him often I don't plan to go back to work and he just laughs and says you don't pay for anything apart from your hair and clothes anyway 😂 also totally with you on baby weight with no baby, tbh I thought I'd be pregnant by now so thought why bother but I need to focus on positive things in my life if it does take another year 😩 my friend used to work as an accountant for KPMG but recently moved to a skincare group and she says it's much more interesting than auditing banks 😴 xx

@VP91x yeah I'm hoping to stay until it closes, that £250 I'm saving a month on travel will cover my trip to Barbados which I finally just booked 🙌🏾 ooh what kind of recruitment are you in? My sister used to be in medical recruitment and found the hours gruelling night think her boss was a tosser... where do you work? I have never tried the cup after having sex in the evening but can imagine it's more of a pain, during the day it's quite good for when I want to do something afterwards and don't want cum down my leg 🙊

@Bellabubble I really do hope AF stays away, I think we all understand that desperate need to get pregnant again but it will happen and if AF starts it's a fresh new cycle with fresh lining which might be the perfect nest for your little bean ❤️

@peonyrose87 congratulations lovely!!!! What lovely news to see on here!! 💕💕

@SmileyT what a small world - I'm also an accountant at KPMG, and for that reason, like you I also want to be pg and not think about work for at least a year!!! Can't wait!!! 😂
I live quite near to Chingford too! Here's hoping we all get BFPs soon, the pandemic is over and maybe we can start a little baby and new mums club IRL 😊

@peonyrose87 huge huge congrats to you! What a lovely strong positive as well! Hoping you have a lovely smooth pregnancy xxx

So I was just wondering how early anyone had got a bfp (one that doesn’t require a magical computer program to see an invisible line!) on a first response early test?The queen of not testing early is contemplating testing before my period and has for the first time ever forked out on a first response. I’ve only ever bought £1 or Asda tests to test before so I’ve always just waited as I never saw the point. I hate to admit it as I also don’t symptom spot but I feel odd and noticed my boobs have grown literally overnight. I didn’t want to say to my husband “hey, my tits have grown I’m totally preggers” (I don’t really speak like that 😆) as he’d think I was nuts but I wonder... turns out I didn’t need to say as he walked in the bathroom as I was getting in the shower and first words out of his mouth were “your boobs have grown, are you pregnant?”.

So the none symptom spotter, none early tester just wondered when might a test work? My period isn’t due until weds so normally I’d test weds but I’m contemplating early. I’ll be 12dpo today (sat) 🤔.

@rainbowhope @mrsssk thank you!! ☺️

@DontStandSoClose I tested yesterday at 11dpo and got a clear positive on a first response! Good luck!

@DontStandSoClose I literally just spent half an hour changing the contrast and brightness of my photo of FRER test🤣😂 I honestly wish I didn't test this early (I'm 9dpo). I swear I can see something but if I show it to my hubby or anyone for that matter, he's going to think I've gone completely loopy 🙃Last time I got a positive on a FRER I think I was around 11 dpo and the line was pretty clear, although I must say, the lines on the clearblue were much darker and thicker. I think at 12 dpo you have a good chance of getting a positive if you are pregnant this cycle.

Thanks for your replies, @Rainbowhope11 I don’t have anything against anyone else with their early testing and computer program seeking lines I’m probably just a fun sucker or something 🤣.

Hmmm the temptation to test tomorrow is edging in... I usually feel a bit “off” when I’m pregnant early on before morning sickness kicks in about 6 weeks and I do feel like that, but I’m doing the opposite to symptom spotting and symptom denying 😆. I‘ve convinced myself it’s stress as I’ve had a stressful week.

@DontStandSoClose well done for having such will power!! I was supposed to be doing that this month, but then my amazon package arrived and then next minute, boom I was peeing on a stick so early for no good reason 🙈😂

With my previous pregnancy (ended in mmc), I didn't even think I was pregnant, one of my apps said I should test that day and I had no intention of testing, only tested because I found a test lying around. I really wish I could go back to that stress free time 🙈

Haha! Symptom denying 😂🤣 love that!! Well good luck if you decide to test tomorrow 😊

@MichT4 that's cool that you're an accountant. I worked at Harrods mainly, nice working there but retail is really unsociable doesn't fit in with family life. So that's the main reason I decided to do a career swap. How are your temps this morning? X

@SmileyT oh so jealous you've booked, when do you go? Haha, made me laugh about what your OH said. Well, I haven't started yet because I was meant to when lockdown hit, not ideal timing. But, I'll be in medical recruitment too! Did she work for a big brand or smaller? I hate shitty bosses, some people you wonder how anyone ever thought they could manage anything.

I'll be based here in Cheshunt, the office is a like a 10 min walk. So ideal, after all those years of commuting.

😂😂 Yeah, the cup is more of a faff at night, I always end up falling asleep with it in as well, so not good.

@mrsssk where do you live? 😊

@DontStandSoClose I would definitely test!! Wishing you luck sounds positive 🥰🥰

@Rainbowhope11 how are you lovely? Xxx

Ladies, little update - Cd21, still flashing 😭😭 thats my 11th one. Cheap OPKs still just as sad as the stupid smiley. Pleaaaase, can I just ovulate already? @Wishingfornumber2 we are going to be smiley record holders. Xx

@Bellabubble impatient is what I am! I just want to see something definitive and it seems I’m being made to wait.

@VP91x it has gone up, but only a bit, from 35.96 to 36.1. I just don’t feel confident I’m going to see that real spike, and I want to!
I decided last night not to stress too much about it if I can, I hope I am ovulating, but panicking won’t change if I have or not. I say that, if I don’t get some sign it happened I’ll be gutted. I’ve felt quite positive, despite how long the cycle is, and if I don’t get some signs then 🤬.

I can’t believe it’s still flashing. Is this mornings darker than yesterday’s FMU? I think your lunchtime one might be an exciting one 🤞🏼

Harrods sounds fun, but I can imagine it’s not to most social of jobs. And probably quite stressful.

@SmileyT 😂 sounds like you’ve got a plan there then, just need the hours to cover the hair and clothes and you’re sorted!
I am super jealous of your holiday! Can we all come? 😂

@DontStandSoClose how exiting. Have you tested? Let’s see!

@Rainbowhope11 is it worth posting a picture? When will you test again?

@VP91x and what happened with your temps? xx

Sorry to hear u girls are still in limbo with the opks! Fx u get peaks today!!

@DontStandSoClose have u tested?

@chloedancer897 haha at least hubby stopped you

@MichT4 I wonder if the AVA shows as distinct a temp rise as it is skin temp compared to BBT? Have you checked that out?

My temp went back to my norm of 36.1 today I think I was just hot yesterday. This mornings ICs was super pale!!

Ugh well, I'll see how long I can hold off for.

Yeah retail hours are just 🤢 xx

@VP91x of course I’ve googled every eventuality. I have actually seen a fair few charts where it’s a really gradual increase. However I’ve also seen a couple with bigger spikes. So unknown what to expect but I guess with my first month of data I won’t really know. I think if it’s gradual, for piece of mind I might just ask again about a test just for ovulation only. Although that’s a snapshot I suppose so not overly useful. As long as the gradual reaches that higher level. Dreading another drop.
Oh I dunno, let’s see what happens. I just keep wanting another night to come so I can check it and I really don’t want to be wishing away my weekend 😂

@micht4 do you know much about the Ava and shift work? Considering next cycle completely binning the opk strips and manual tempting and not planning sex at all. And maybe just wearing the Ava to see in hindsight my ovulation and if I got my window. How are you finding it yourself compared to the cost

@2020wish the jury is out at the moment. It’s only my first month and I’ve never tracked BBT at all before so it’s all very new.
I like it because I just wouldn’t be good at manual temping, so without this I’d be none the wiser. Obviously I’m now waiting to see some definite signs in my temp, but that could be an issue with me rather than Ava. At the moment it says I ovulated a week ago and I didn’t. But I’ve read that after a full cycle, you have to kind of force it to recalculate and then going forward it should be better. Sounds weird, but I’m not sure one month is enough for it to be effective.
Like I said, at the moment I’m just waiting to see if it tells me anything before I decide if I like it or want to launch it (somewhere safe, it’s expensive 😂) but for me it really is the only way of temping so it’s better than nothing.

I don’t regret buying it, I got it on eBay and am confident I could sell it on. I just wish it was telling me what I want it to!

So that’s an inconclusive review there. I will say if you get one, ignore month 1, or maybe do a few cheeky OPKs around ovulation so you can confirm it in the app. Although your previous data might make it more accurate anyway.

Not sure on shift work but I think as long as you can sleep for more than 4 hours then it just takes your lowest temp at rest. So I think it would be ok. It’s meant to take the pressure away from same time each day, so suggests to me shift work is included there xx

@MichT4 thank you. Might look into it

@2020wish are you still holding out for tomorrow?

@MichT4 I’m actually a bit nervous to test tomorrow now... I’ve just spent the morning going back on my cycles and my last three positive test. All three cycles I got bfn right up until CD28 and my BFP on CD29. Every single cycle lol tomorrow I’m only cd28 and AF due either Monday or Tuesday depending on different apps

Unsure of what to do

Plus I know I’ve melted everyone’s head about this but I honestly think I’m one of those small percentages of women that don’t react to pink dye tests. In all three cycles I have NEVER got a positive on a frer. Even when I was getting 2-3 weeks on a clear blue digital during my second pregnancy. So I dunno if I’m smart using them? It’s the strangest thing. I’ve tried all different frer tests from different batch’s and shops and never get that positive apart from two half lines during pregnancy one and last week at 8dpo this cycle but tbh I probably had line eyes so I’m doubting myself now. But never a clear faint full line wel after af was late in all cycles. Clear blue early detection have always been spot on for me tho..

Sorry I should correct.. one half line during pregnancy one on cycle day 29 and that half or quarter of line I thought I saw on 8dpo this cycle

@2020wish I think you should test when you’re ready. The longer you can leave it the better for the result, so if you aren’t desperate to test then I’d wait.

I definitely wouldn’t use an FRER then, can you grab yourself a CB for Monday?

If you’re feeling really patient, you could just wait until Wednesday? Wishful thinking?

I’d do it whenever you think you’ve more chance to see a BFP. There’s no point doing one if you’re then just going to conclude it’s too early, just prolongs it. Easier said than done