TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 2)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies ❤️

Just doing the new thread as the other is full will tag you all here - anyone else who wpuld like to join please do!

Little bit of background -
Cycle #3 TTC after MC in December
This month doing SMEP, tracking BBT and OV (CB advanced and Femometer strips), also drowning myself in grapefruit juice 😂 and will take Calc Fluor in TWW.

Sending everyone lots of luck 🤞

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4

@HE88 your are still early. It could just be spotting. Fingers crossed it’s not AF x

@HE88 I think you could if you feel you need the extra support now. Maybe say you've been trying for longer and obviously the MMC. Might be worth doing just one more test xx

@VP91x I think I might phone just to see what they suggest even if they could refer me back to the fertility clinic cause I have been ttc for 2 and half years now just hope they don't count the mmc as a fresh start so speak! Xx
Thanks @2020wish but this is what happens every time af is due its my bodies way of telling me the witch is on her way. Xx

@HE88 yeah definitely givr them a call, I think it will give you that extra peace of mind and hopefully they refer you to the fertility clinic without too much fuss. ❤️

@HE88 so sorry if AF is on her way I can totally sympathise 😞.
@VP91x day 9 of flashy smiley for me and CD23 so don’t think it’s going to happen. Normally have a 31-33 day cycle. How many flashes have you had? I know the lines on the stick don’t mean the same as a normal opk but the left hand one was getting darker but has started getting lighter again. Going by previous cycles I thought I would ovulate this weekend and had lots of CM leading up to it so who knows if I did ovulate or not and somehow missed it 🤷‍♀️ X

@He88 sorry to hear AF is showing up. I think calling the doc is a good idea just to put your mind at rest that you’ve reached out to them and started some kind of ball rolling, even if it’s a slow one.

Ladies, as you know, today has been a teary one for me. But it’s funny when I read all your girls messages about feeling low, I want to tell you all to be positive. Funny how I can give the advice and not take it.
So, I’ve decided to turn this day around (watch it last the whole of 36 hours). I had a chat with OH about it all, about whether we should go private etc and he said he isn’t worried at all yet. I explained that for me, I wouldn’t worry so much if I knew I was ovulating. He told me I’d find something else to worry about, and annoyingly he’s probably right.
I’ve just trained, and it was really hard. I kick myself because my squat goal for ages has been to hit a 100kg squat (sorry, this is a bit boring I’m sure 😂, but bear with me). Just before I fell PG, and actually when I was PG and didn’t know, I did 80kg for 5 reps and it was so easy. I was over the moon that I was nearly there. Anyway, got PG, MC started and I stopped training.
Long story slightly shorter, today I realised I’ve lost focus of anything else really, I’m consumed by this and it’s not doing me many favours, apart from speaking to you all every day ☺️. So, here are my new focus’

1. Get that squat and, and my bench and deadlift goals
2. Get into better eating habits again. I’ve become a comfort eater and it’s no good for my waistline, or my spending because my clothes are tight. When I have to be back in normal clothes I’m in trouble.
3. Be kind to my body
4. Get pregnant
5. Wait a few more days to see what happens with temps and such and then reconsider next steps
6. Don’t panic about everything

In no particular order (4 first please 😜)

I just wanted to share that so you can all keep me in check. If anyone else wants to add some goals and help keep me motivated with you then please do.
As I’ve said before, I fell PG without thinking too hard, and I don’t think I’m giving myself a fair chance. I need to get back to where I was, and incorporate the new things without them becoming my focus.

If you’ve stuck with this, you deserve a medal. You girls are great and you’ve helped hugely today. I’m excited to see us all get to where we want to be xxx

@Wishingfornumber2 how many times a day are you testing on the OPKs?

I'm on Day 7 of flashies!! My OPKs started getting slighty darker yesterday..so (im)patiently waiting xxx

Just to add, I had advice from a prenatal trainer about continuing training and it was fine to do so. I don’t want any of you to think I’m terrible xx

Has anyone else had a problem losing weight after MC ?, I've never had a problem with my weight before and although I was only 9.5 week when I had the MMC and I was bloated and had water retention and had put about 6 pound on but for the life In me I can't lose it, I'm not drinking apart from when AF arrives and I have one or 2 days where I'll have a drink and I'm eating quite healthy, I'm not drinking caffeine and I'm drinking plenty of water. I don't excercise although I do a lot of walking so I can't understand it I'm thinking it may be hormones due to mc although it was in February, I'm not used to it and it's really getting me down x

Lovely to hear all about all the bfp over weekend. Congratulations to those of you who’ve had them.

Think I’m out this month. Pretty sure period is going to come tomorrow or Wednesday. Which I am ok with, to used to period and no pregnancy to be overly affected. However I’ve realised that is now been 3 years (with 2 MC) since we started to try and conceive number 3. This is making me feel shit.

@HE88 I completely understand the wanting to have a month off trying. I’ve been there. Eve probably all been there. But I’ve also got to ovulation time and found myself dtd as I can’t face not having a chance that this could be the month. Big love you. x

@MichT4 I love this 🙌 and wow 80kg squat!! You absolute winner. Definitely focus on getting your squat and health goals.

Lovely to get it all down in writing. Soon you'll have a full chart of data and you won't have anything to worry about. ❤️❤️

@Dipsy77 it could be the stress making your body not want to do much. Maybe see if you can add in a small workout a day or an extra walk to see if that kicks things off? Maybe switch your brekkie to a smoothie or something that your body will digest easily. Cucumber and mint water is meant to be good for bloating etc. Xxx

@Dipsy77 how is your stress and sleep? Things like that can make a difference to being able to shift weight. Were you doing anything differently before your MC than now? Don’t feel down, there’ll be an explanation, we just need to find it x

@MichT4 great positive attitude 👍🏻. I def need to do point 2! X
@VP91x I just tested a couple of times on sat and sun but only once today. Ahh fingers crossed for you the static is on its way soon! X

Thanks @VP91x. I just wanted to write it down, didn’t want to bore anyone, but it helps me to try and keep a level head. I’ve kind of forgotten who I am a bit in this journey and although it’s important, if I can distract myself I think it’ll be a little easier.

How are your workouts going? Are you back on that programme (was it T20?) xx

@NightDreaming really sorry that another month is going by. Have you looked at trying something different this cycle? Not sure what you have already tried (probably everything so I'm sorry if this is not helpful) xx

@Dipsy77 I'm the same, weight has stuck firmly on, I don't drink either and do my best with healthy eating, just have this permanent bloat since my MC 😭

@HE88 ah no .. hope it's not AF 😢

The it’s important being TTC 🤞🏼

Thanks @Wishingfornumber2. It’s become so normal with being at home to just keep reaching for snacks. Will be good getting some routine back. Again, I was on a good run of eating well before the MC and since then, well....I’ve fallen off the bandwagon and it’s left me behind 😂

@Wishingfornumber2 ahh sorry I misread I thought you had done the cheapie OPKs too alongside!! Is it possible that you maybe missed it with the CB? Xx

@MichT4 I was doing F45! But incidentally have done T20 before those are the Shaun T ones arent they. Not been doing full on HIIT workouts just been trying a different one from the Results with Lucy app. They've got a full prenatal plan too so if I get PG then can follow that after which is useful. Yeah we have to remember we aren't just all about baby making even if it is our main priority atm xx

@MichT4 love the goal list. super inspirational ❤ thanks for reminding us to look out for ourselves and keeping us motivated. Sending hugs, you're amazing.

Oh thank you @1990EM. I realised it’s all I talk about, all I think about. And then I try and tell myself I’m not stressed about it. So I just need a mind shuffle. All you ladies are amazing, and seeing all your BFPs is such a boost, I just want it to be a happy journey for everyone 🤮😂

@VP91x that sounds great. I don’t really know what T20 is but I’ve heard it’s pretty good. Far too energetic for me! 😂. The prenatal thing sounds good too. I’ve been keeping an eye on lots of prenatal advice too so that I can keep some sort of fitness going, I know I can’t continue lifting for long, but it’s good to keep up the things we did before in any which way we can I think.

Of course it’s definitely still our priority, but love hearing everyone’s other hobbies etc too. Are you feeling better this week after taking those up again?

@MichT4 yeah they have workouts for every week in your pregnancy etc it's really good! Yeah also, the weather has been nicer which has definitely helped!xx

@MichT4 oh yes so tempting to reach for the snacks all the time. I don’t help myself though as should buy healthier snacks! X

@Dipsy77 I often feel bloated and have def put on weight since MC but think it also has a lot to do with comfort eating for me! X

@VP91x yes possibly could’ve missed it I guess. Have been DTD every 2-3 days over the last week so might have covered it if I did ovulate fingers crossed! X

Hi ladies just back from work trying to keep up with the thread @Niisa I don’t know how many dpo I am haven’t even had a period scince my miscarriage on 20th April but had spotting around 27 may have tested 1 clear blue and 2 Lloyd’s digital they were negative trued a normal Lloyd’s and it was negative but my frer are still showing faint lines 🤷🏼‍♀️ Did one yesterday then one late night and one today after work have you tried any other brand ?? Wondering if it’s hormone from my miscarriage I was 15 weeks

@MichT4
I don't really get much sleep due to teething 9 month old so maybe 5 hours a night if I'm lucky, I am stressed about TTC, DP keeps saying to me less stress let's try and be calmer about it and just dtd when we feel like it but I get so uptight even thinking about doing that!i like to have as much info as possible and I feel if I don't try SMEP then we are missing opportunities and wasting a month if you get what I mean it doesn't help that there's so many pregnant women and newborns around at the minute plus I feel like I'm getting older and my chances are getting lower x