7 months ttc (cont of 6 months ttc)

[Twinkletoes85]

Hi ladies,

Following on from our 6 months ttc thread, for anyone wanting to join in it’s just a group of us who have gone past the 6/7 month mark ttc looking to chat and support each other. All welcome 😊

Joining now before I can’t find the thread again! 😊

@Twinkletoes85 thank you so much for setting this one up! AF arrived this morning so I’m officially now on my 10th cycle TTC... 😬

@jessmcg I’ve just replied to you on the other one, when are you expecting your blood tests back?

@Twinkletoes85 I’m hoping I should get them later today or tomorrow! I suspect if I have an issue it’ll be borderline but I do think it could be getting in the way.
@Hoping41 Thanks for your note! I sit at 36 flat or just below most of the time. Apparently it’s a bit on the low side and could mean something to do with the thyroid potentially? I’m reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility at the moment and it seems to suggest it is likely to be an issue especially if you don’t produce much fertile CM each month. Sorry if TMI but I think that might also be me!

@jessmcg it’s mad how many things have to line up to make it likely isn’t it! I’ve said it before but I always thought it was a case of having fertile eggs and fertile sperm and then it’ll happen. Never occurred to me body temp or cm would play a part. Nevermind how much of a difference caffeine etc makes

My biggest issue with my DP is getting him to cut down on his drinking. Don’t get me wrong he’s hardly a raging alcoholic or anything but he will drink more than I think he should for ttc especially being on furlough! From a past life I get quite anxious about how much other people are drinking anyway (especially partners) so he thinks I’m stressing about that rather than how it’s affecting his swimmers so doesn’t take me seriously.

@jessmcg Sorry to hear about AF, mine is also due today! I'm no expert on temping but mine are between 36.2 and 36.4 before ovulation.

Hi all!
@jessmcg I must have skipped that part of the book! Mine is around the same as yours actually, this was my first month tracking it. Does yours increase a lot after ovulation? Mine did a little but not much and I noticed a small drop this morning. Been cramping on and off so i think I'm out too 😭

Hi all. I've found you 😀
BBT is like a foreign language to me at the moment. I hadn't even thought of tracking it until I joined mn a couple of weeks ago. But yes, I had totally underestimated how tricky it is to make a baby! I think, because no one talks about it, you just get the impression it's an easy journey for everyone.
So with everyone temping, can you usually see when you are not (or are) pregnant before af arrives?

@Kitttycatt Thanks so much. 🙂 You’re in the healthy range if you read any of the books, so that’s good! Do you think your AF is on its way?

@Fifol Keep on tracking! It can tell you a lot about your cycle. Sorry to hear your AF is on its way - welcome to the club! Onto the next cycle together potentially. We can do this 🙂

@twinkletoes85 I feel exactly the same about alcohol. I know lots of people drink and conceive but I don't ask him to do anything else. We had a conversation about it the other day in which I was very blunt. As it's in his control and will make a difference to his swimmers I wanted to know how he'd feel if we don't conceive and there was something he could have done to improve our chances. It has changed his view a lot so I'm glad we spoke. He doesn't get roaring drunk and he's definitely not an alcoholic but, as I was putting in so much effort, I found it tricky to watch him not try. Good luck with your oh.

@notyetamumbuttrying Hope this brings you over here. When I get a chance at lunch I’ll try tag everyone else over here. It won’t let me post on the old one now

Hi all joining the new thread.

@Hoping41 I know how you feel. I haven’t really been drinking alcohol for a few years. I will drink on nights out but I just really hate being hungover the next day whereas my boyfriend will occasionally have a few drinks after work and at the weekend. He has said once lockdown is over and we are back to normal he will go to docs to see if they can test everything is ok with him but I’m impatient and need to know 😂 I’m really trying not to be pushy but we are just going in to TWW and next month will be cycle 7. Contemplating a home kit for him but not sure how accurate they are and haven’t really done my homework on them.

I have been so much better this month on myself. I am ovulating around day 15/16 and have done the last 2 months in a row. My period is regular every 28/29 days and I’m losing weight and eating a bit healthier so in my head I feel like I am working the way I should. I’m so focused on it and feel like although he does really want a baby he isn’t putting the work in 😂

@Hoping41 that’s exactly how I feel! It’s not like he’s getting wasted but at the same time I know full well he can happily stop after one or two so can he not just try do that now all the time? I’m glad your OH listened to you, it’s a good way of putting it that brings it home a bit.

Mines a bit of a typical bloke he’s fine on his own but once he gets on zoom or something with his mates for a catch up he’ll drink more. I need to work out how to get him to read what I do as when he does the research himself he tends to believe it over what I tell him. But I can’t get him motivated to look yet as he doesn’t think we’ve tried long enough. He’s 28 so the clock doesn’t tick for him yet like it does for me, the urgency’s not there.

@jessmcg sorry about AF arriving, look after yourself over the next few days.

I've had a really bad few nights waking up at 5am, just feeling so anxious about trying to conceive. I'll get really horrible thoughts that it wont ever happen and I cant rest. I've tried switching to decaf tea, exercise, more water to get me ready for this cycle but mentally drained at this point. Anyone else the same or got any ideas of what to do?

Can i join? :)

This is our 6 month ttc for this pregnancy but 12 months overall as we have had a miscarriage in that time.

Our first pregnancy we conceived after 4 months but sadly miscarried at 12 weeks and this is now the 6th cycle ttc after the miscarriage!

I am 1dpo and ready for the torturing tww haha

Hi @annny27 so sorry to hear about your MC 😔. That must've been so difficult. The more the merrier on here. Everyone is super friendly. Hoping for you this month 🤞

My OH drinks a beer most nights. Normally it's just one to unwind and at the weekend maybe a couple. It does worry me that he shouldn't at all. I've mentioned that if we don't fall this month then I'd like him to cut down.

I'm now 3dpo and the fear and negativity is starting to creep in. I'm trying to stay positive and believe this is my month and push them aside but I can't help thinking it won't happen. Maybe I'm just trying to prepare myself.

I understand the panic, I feel a wee bit like that. Just found out yesterday that another one of my friends is pregnant which brings the total to 10 (this is just my circle of friends as well, there's a lot more just people I know who are pg or have had a baby in the months we've been trying) I think that's what's panicking me, I'm feeling like everyone is falling pregnant and I'm not. So going to try and channel some positive vibes today and calm down.

I found you all!

@jessmcg sorry AF has shown. I know lots of people dont like the rejection of a BFN but I find it preps me rather than the endless hope and then 'bam' AF comes. Hope you feel better for the advance warning but it's never nice.

I had a similar temp issue, also sitting around 36.0 or lower. Acupuncturist helped bring it up by 0.3-4 but I've just had confirmation of a thyroid problem too so I would get that checked out as it could explain things for you and help resolve it.

@PinkFlamingoGirl it will happen for you, some of that baby dust around you MUST rub off!

Hi @Annny27 welcome, I’m sorry to hear about the mc. I can’t even imagine how hard that was.

The tww is the worst! I mean honestly when Mother Nature was sorting out this whole baby thing she definitely decided to make it the most frustrating thing you could ever do!

Gosh @PinkFlamingoGirl that is a lot of pregnant women! I can totally understand why that can be affecting you. Try not to feel too negative, you’ve done the important bit now with dtd all you can do in the tww is look after yourself and try keep hoping.

@KK251289 Thank you! I’m being very kind to myself. Lounging around and focusing on rest!
Have you read Taking Charge of your fertility and do you do any mindfulness / meditation? Meditating really helped ease my anxiety. Don’t get me wrong, I still worry, but it has REALLY helped.

@Seafrontsky Thanks so much that is really helpful! Did you see a Fertility Acupuncturist? I’ve just set up a consultation with a herbalist but once we can, acupuncture is next on my list. I went to a lady before but we didn’t have the right chemistry, but think it’s time to revive this potentially.
Can I also - did it throw up hypothyroidism or something else? I def think something is up although I wouldn’t say I have any major dominant symptoms bar low temps, tiredness, struggling to conceive.

@Annny27 welcome to you! This is a super supportive group. ❤️

@PinkFlamingoGirl I do know what you mean about the panic and the feeling too that you’re being left behind. It’s really tough. Is there anything you can to distract yourself obey the next few days? Do you do any mindfulness?

@Seafrontsky thank you🤞🌟

@Twinkletoes85 yep...I'm drowning in it lol. Exactly, the deed is done and now it's wait and see and hope. I'm going back to work next week so hopefully that keeps my mind off it!!

@jessmcg no I don't do anything like that! Might need to try it out. I'm quite impatient though and my mind totally wanders if ever I try to meditate lol. Sorry about AF 😔 sending you lots of luck for the next cycle.

I think maybe a good audiobook. Had anyone read any?

Also are you guys spending a ridiculous amount of time scrolling MN reading posts or just me? 😂

@Annny27 welcome! And best of luck

@jessmcg now I'm worried about my temp lol you'll have to let me know how you get on. I didnt even think there could be an issue.

@pinkflamingogirl all the time! Literally. It's so helpful though looking back at old posts on different things.

I'm still waiting on AF anyway I'm half fed up knowing she is surely on the way and half still hoping theres a chance. It's so annoying I hate ttc!!

@fifol yes I agree. I find it so interesting reading everyone else's stories too. When are you due on? TWW is the worstttt. xx

Thanks everyone! Yeah it was a hard time and was actually my due date yesterday which was a bit of an "omg my baby would have been here" moment. But onwards and upwards 🙌🙌

@jessmcg there's is a YouTube channel called fertility from the soul that does fertility affirmations/ mindfulness which is cool!

@twinkletoes85 thank you! Yeah I wish you could just pee on a stick right after ovulating and it could tell you haha! Is this your first baby?

@PinkFlamingoGirl thank you for the welcome! I am 1dpo so we see similar cycle buddies I guess! And yes I swear since ttc all my friends are pregnant 🤣🤣

I found you!
@Hoping41he arranged his test privately and is getting the results via GP. I think he might have been able to get the test via the GP but I won't criticise his motivation to get it sorted! My DH hasnt been taking any vitamins, doing anything with his diet or cutting down on booze so I'm hopeful there are things he will be able to adjust if any of the results are slightly off. He had a mad panic that it would come back saying no sperm or something like that, but I'm trying to remind him that the more information we have the more we can manage rather than blindly hoping for the best each month. How did your DH cope with his results? @Twinkletoes85 my husband is exactly the same are it sounds like yours are regarding alcohol. He has managed five days without a drink in prep for his test today but that was a flipping achievement! If his tests come back below average I'm hoping it'll have some impact on his drinking. It's difficult to say without implying he's a raging alcoholic! Which he isn't, it's just him mindlessly having a drink when I'm mindfully be very careful about everything I'm doing!
@Seafrontsky that's really handy to know. I think any results have got to be more manageable than not having a clue. It could be that I'm taking all these supplements but really he needs to be doing something, or it could be that all is fine and it's just a matter of time.
@jessmcg ah he's going Monday? Yeah definitely let me know how it goes! Seems like we're on fairly similar paths at the moment. The clinic my DH is going to isn't doing any 'face to face' appts due to Covid so he will be 'producing his sample' and then us driving over to the clinic before all the swimmers die, it's pretty stressful. I hate being late at the best of times, but today it'll really count! He's trying to style out his stress currently but I can sense he's a bit anxious!