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Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

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Annny27 · 17/05/2020 22:55

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

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SunnySideUp2020 · 23/05/2020 07:27

@ejb that's definitely a positive!

@scrumdiddly123 peak of three days is quite long. Hopefully it's a good sign...

AF due Wednesday for me and currently 11dpo.
Haven't retested as we are just waiting for AF to arrive so we can move onto cycle 6.

That being said with the procedure on CD10 i might not be able to take advantage of cycle 6 as i had read we shouldn't have sex for a week after hysteroscopy.

It will probably be a forced break!

SunnySideUp2020 · 23/05/2020 07:29

Actually procedure is on cd 8 not 10 so maybe we have a chance since i ovulate cd 16 earliest!
We will see..

How is everyone?

scrumdiddly123 · 23/05/2020 12:01

Morning lovelies, hope everyone is well!
@SunnySideUp2020 do you have any symptoms? Hope everything goes well with your procedure. I had a hysteroscopy a few years ago and it was fine.
My opks have started to get lighter now so I’m hoping I’ve ovulated. I had lots of OV pain yesterday evening so think it was then though the apps are saying today! My temp had increased the last couple of days but still lowish so hoping to see a big jump up tomorrow!
Great news that AF has stayed away @Ejb86! Hope it does for a while longer x

scrumdiddly123 · 23/05/2020 12:03

Forgot to add!

Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3
SunnySideUp2020 · 23/05/2020 17:59

No symptoms at all.

Ovulation pain probably was when releasing the egg

I find mine starts after i get positive opk too.

Fingers crossed for this month someone gets a bfp 🙏

SunnySideUp2020 · 23/05/2020 20:55

Ladies i am freaking out a bit.

We just dtd and i had a lot of pink blood mixed with the stuff (sorry for tmi).
I am 11 dpo and never ever had spotting before period.
And my LP is bang on 15 days.

I am worried it has shortened suddenly... but ofc made me think of implantation. But i know it's very unlikely as i had a negative yesterday...

Leok83 · 23/05/2020 21:09

@scrumdiddly123 hopefully it's def ovulation!! Good sign with the pains, I always get ov pains. Never knew what it was until TTC though!

Had a bit of a wobble myself today. DH told me his brother and wife are expecting their second baby. She's 7 weeks so would have been the same if I hadn't had a CP. I'm really happy for them as I know they've been trying since we announced our first pregnancy in December but I'm also really sad as it compounds our losses. DH thought I was being negative and was giving out to me for not being happy for them and I just broke down..I'm not a crier so I think he realised then I was actually truly just upset about our losses rather than just being petty. Don't know why he couldn't have understood that to start tho! Anyways rant over😄

How's everyone else doing?

Leok83 · 23/05/2020 21:10

@SunnySideUp2020 it could still be implantation as it takes up to 48 hours after it to get a positive!! 🤞it's that!!

scrumdiddly123 · 23/05/2020 23:27

That’s strange @SunnySideUp2020 especially if you don’t normally spot. Fingers crossed it’s implantation 🤞🏻

scrumdiddly123 · 23/05/2020 23:31

Bless you @Leok83 it’s hard isn’t it! My sister is due in 4 weeks time and I should have been due the same week as her. And also had a few Facebook friends announcing their pregnancies this week. I just think why is this happening to me when everyone else is getting their babies!

Mococo1 · 24/05/2020 01:37

Hey all I'm the same

My neighbour has just announced she's pregnant (I would have been 3 weeks ahead of her). Colleague at work has announced she's pregnant and also one of my best mates

Seems like everyone has just had a baby/announcing pregnancies and I'm really feeling it as I would have been 15weeks by now and hopefully growing a bump x😭

Mococo1 · 24/05/2020 01:38

@sunnysideup if it's implantation bleeding from the day of implantation you should be testing positive in a few days time with an early detection test! Really hope this is it for you 👌🏽

SunnySideUp2020 · 24/05/2020 06:32

@Leok83 sorry about the news... unfortunately we can all relate. It's such a mixed feelings thing. Hope you are ok today x

@Mococo1 it does seem like everybody gets pregnant but you when you are trying for a while... 😒

So i tested with a frer with fmu today and it cannot be more negative. I also dont feel pregnant at all. Can't even make up symptoms.

The pink light bleed only happened whilst dtd and then nothing since just normal cm.
Really weird...

Has anyone had this type of bleed because of dtd?

Ejb86 · 24/05/2020 06:38

I made it to cd28! Longest cycle since MC. Still only 4dpo so could be going from a 25 day cycle to a really long one, but I'd rather have a long cycle with a good lp than a 5 day lp!

Dipsy77 · 24/05/2020 07:51

@SunnySideUp2020 yes it happens to me after DTD it's happened a few times since MMC but it also happened in early pregnancy with my DD so you never know fingers crossed 🤞 x

SunnySideUp2020 · 24/05/2020 08:34

@Dipsy77 ok thanks for letting me know. The only person i know who bled during sex had some cervix problem so i am a bit freaked out.

Also being 12 dpo and the frer being the whitest i know i cannot be pregnant...

Dipsy77 · 24/05/2020 08:59

@SunnySideUp2020 I have a cervical erosion which I've had for about 15 years so that may be why for me although it happens a lot more since the MMC x

Fizzl · 24/05/2020 10:37

@Leok83 ah I'm sorry that's tough! I just don't think men understand the same. I had a wobble a few months back when in the space of a day or two there'd been two pregnancy announcements and my cousin gave birth. I got upset, not because I wasn't happy for them but just by how unfair it all felt and like you've said, it compounded the loss and that feeling of that should have been me. Initially my husband couldn't understand why I was upset and I was of the view that we're at that in our lives where people are going to be having babies and I just needed to suck it up and not let it bother me oh to think like a man and to not have hormones raging around.

@SunnySideUp2020 the bleeding could have been caused by dtd. When I spoke with the gp the other week about my spotting the first thing she asked was did it happen after sex as that can happen sometimes. Try not to worry too much.

CD31 here now... and counting 😒

scrumdiddly123 · 24/05/2020 11:15

@SunnySideUp2020 I have had a cervical erosion in the past which caused bleeding after sex (had hysteroscopy and they treated it). The last couple of months it’s started up again but not all the time (strangely its when we have sex outside my fertile window!) so could may well be something like that.

My temp has gone down today so I definitely haven’t ovulated 😔 gutted!

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Annny27 · 24/05/2020 11:35

Hi ladies! Cd5 so coming to end of period now

@scrumdiddly123 some people have a slow temp rise, I know I have done some months. Thats gutting though if you haven't ovulated :(

@SunnySideUp2020 could it be due to the scans and stuff you have had recently - when I have a smear I always have a little bit of blood. If you aren't pregnant this cycle it's worth mentioning the blood to your doctor next month

@Leok83 ahhhh I actually live in fear that my sister will announce her pregnancy. Already have a cousin that is pregnant which is torture enough!

@Ejb86 yayyy for prolonged cycle:D

@fizzl no sign of period yet? :(

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scrumdiddly123 · 24/05/2020 12:18

@Annny27 this is my chart, never done it before and this was probably not the best cycle to start with in hindsight! I think if it still hasn’t risen by tomorrow I’ll know I haven’t!

Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3
Fizzl · 24/05/2020 12:36

@scrumdiddly123 your chart is like mine a bit up and down all over the place. I got bored inputting everything so gave up other than temps about a week ago. My temps are always taken roughly at the same time each day within about a 30min window I just sometimes don't input them until later in the day and don't change the time which is why I've got a few triangles.

I'm also surprised at how low my temp is today as I had half a bottle of wine last night so expected it to be higher. My body is just doing the opposite of what it should this month I think!

Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3
Leok83 · 24/05/2020 22:00

@scrumdiddly123 oh no that’s so cruel of you haven’t ovulated😞 hopefully temp goes up again for you tomorrow.

@Fizzl when would you be expecting AF on a normal cycle?

@Annny27 CD5 here too..are you doing OPK this cycle? I don’t think I’ll manage not to! Will prob hold off until CD 10-11 to start though.

Leok83 · 24/05/2020 22:04

@SunnySideUp2020 sorry it’s still negative, you never know it might change but I know it’s less likely after negative at 12 days but still 🤞 for you!

Fizzl · 24/05/2020 22:42

@Leok83 normally between CD28-30 so not massively late yet just don't know when/if to expect af/withdrawal bleed now