Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

[Annny27]

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

@Babyghirl sorry I've just realised your new to this thread. Sorry you're here with us but this thread has been a huge support to so many ladies - most now who have their BFP! Which is great and keeps our spirits up that it will happen one day.

@Nuggetlover27 I think something might be starting to happen today!! I'm not getting too excited yet but the tell tale signs are there and I expect (hope) I should get a positive opk probably tomorrow! 🤞 hallelujah - it's late but better than day 60 something like last month 😅

@BeeMakesTea so sorry you're back with us 😞 life can be really cruel sometimes. Hopefully this next one will be your sticky rainbow!

How's everyone else doing? @Annny27 @ELM7

afternoon girls :) fairly sure I have pvulated and am around 1/2dpo - cm is now sticky/ creamy which usually indicates its happened! Will start taking the progesterone tomorrow :)

@Nuggetlover27 tbh we haven't dtd that much this month, just every other day with the last time on the day of ovulation. I did every day last month with no luck haha so not stressing myself out anymore pressuring DH to dtd 🤣

@fizzl I am gutted you haven't ovulayed yet! Are you still dtd every few days or so just incase it happens unexpectedly?

@BeeMakesTea welcome back, sorry that AF arrived :( its always shit!

@Babyghirl when do you usually ovulate?

@Annny27

Norm between CD 11/13 I only temp and have a dip the day I ovulate then day after temp rises and cm turns creamy sticky I tryed ovulation strips but could never find my peak I'm cd11 nw so just waiting for ff to determine when it's happened. I have a 27/28 day cycle norm lp is bot 15 days.

@Fizzl

It's good to talk to people who understand what you have been through, I can talk to people but they really don't understand unless you have been there. I feel sometimes if I bring it up they r saying. To them self's like she should be over this already 🙈🙈🙈🙈 we will all get r bpf and the beans will stick 💚💚💚💚

Fingers crossed the every other day worked for you too @Annny27 !!

sorry to see you back here @BeeMakesTea
Did you have a private scan after your march bfp?
Are you going to have some investigation done?

Hi everyone. Sorry if I'm in the wrong place, but this is my first month TTC after my Miscarriage in June and I'm struggling more than I thought I would. I'm constantly worried that I'll get pregnant and miscarry, and worried that I WONT get pregnant.. so can't win. I'm also not even sure I've ovulated this month so I'm expecting a BFN in 2 weeks.

Hope your all doing ok xx

@abi0795

Hi sorry for your loss in new to the group myself as I find it comforting talking to people that have been through the same as myself, I have had two losses one in Nov 2018 at 10+4 weeks and second in Oct 2019 at 6+5 weeks second time took me ten months again to conceive and lost it I'm now on to month ten and still trying you will have your good days and your bad as I did I still do there's no txt book to tell you how you should be feeling and how long you should be feeling it for be easy on yourself and take the time to heal. Remember when you fall again it's a new pregnancy new baby new outcome and it's something we can't control. 💚💚💚💚

Hi @Babyghirl so sorry to hear about your losses! 😣 I think I just need to build trust with my body again as it let me down! I got pregnant first try on my MC so now I'll be worried if that doesn't happen again (I know it can take time) I'm just so scared I'll never get that rainbow xxx

@abi0795

I think after a loss we will never trust our bodies again well I know I never, when I fell pregnant again the second time I had myself saying when I loss this and not if, but I have learnt that we can't change the outcome at the end and I have learnt to trust that we will get our rainbow babies. Don't be hard on yourself if it does not happen straight away as it's your bodies way off telling you it's not ready to house a wee bean just yet and needs time to heal and build back up again. So nxt time your body will be ready for your baby to grow 💚 x

Thank you @Babyghirl I think it's really hard for some people to understand if they haven't lost a baby before. I envy those ladies who have always had successful pregnancies. Guess we've just got to work a bit harder xxx

@abi0795

I know how you feel I can't be around pregnant women or babies it's hurts to much. Have deleted my Facebook cause pregnancy posts popping up everywhere, tell people I can't talking about people I knw who r pregnant that sounds sad when u write it but I'm just protecting myself from hurt, if I don't protect myself no one else will xxx

So strange you've just said that @Babyghirl because I was just saying to my OH that I've seen 3 pregnancy announcements today and they've really upset me. Totally not them ladies fault and I'm happy for them, I'm just sad for myself xxx

@abi0795

Not there fault at all but I envy them, but God only knows if they have had struggles while ttc. We can only hope and pray our nxt little beans hang around but I have every faith we'll I try that nxt time will work out and my two angels will be watching over me and the baby. Xxx

Exactly! We have no idea what struggles people have gone through to get their healthy babies. They were probably once in our situation thinking the exact same things @Babyghirl

@abi0795

Well I'm taking a more relaxed approach this month, people tell me to relax it will happen I use to say no it won't but I'm going to see how much truth is in it lol so don't be like me and get caught up in just making a baby enjoy each other, do the things you love and try to relax I found myself a lot more relax when my husband to be bought me a wee thing to remember r angel baby and I fell pregnant again. But both time I have fallen in September 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 so hoping I don't fall again in September lol xxx

@Annny27 hooray for ovulation! Let's hope that the progesterone works it's magic for you this month!

My opk's are almost positive 🤗 I'm going to keep testing today and expect them to be positive at some point as I don't normally get a build up to them peaking. We have carried on dtd every other day to cover all bases. We decided in for a penny in for a pound this month 😂 thankfully the ovulation gods (🤨) are slightly on our side as I don't think we could keep that up for 60+ days.

I'm not sure what to do tonight now tho 😬 we dtd last night so I don't know whether to leave it until tomorrow which is probably (hopefully) when I'll ovulate 🤔 or go all in and do tonight and tomorrow.

@Babyghirl I know how you feel. I don't really talk to anyone about it now and those that do know don't really bring it up with me because I assume they don't really know what to say and probably worry it'll just upset me. To be fair I would probably be the same in their shoes.

@Abi0795 sadly you're in the right place! Sorry you have experienced a mc too. Like I said to @Babyghirl this thread has been a great support to so many ladies 💐. It's quite quiet on here now but there's a few of us still hanging on since jan and we've agreed to keep each other company until we all get our BFP.

I've also found pregnancy announcements hard. I've had a good couple of cries over the past months but now it's getting easier. A few of my friends are due babies in the next couple of months and I'm actually feeling ok about it. I'm planning a baby shower at the minute too which I thought would make my heart sink but so far so good so it does get easier.

Hi @Fizzl sorry to find you in this position too ❤️

I'm not even sure I'm ovulating after my MC which is quite worrying, I've had a very close to positive ovulation but then did another test 24 hours later and the line wasn't as strong. What OPK do you use? xx

@fizzl

Hoping your ovulation is about to happen im on cd12 and have had a temp drop today, if it shots up tomara then I will be on 1dpo I norm ovulate between CD 11/13 so heres to hoping its everybody's month 💚💚

2 or 3 dpo so started taking the progesterone today!

This us a public service request.....PLEASE remind me numerous times when I try and symptom spot that I will feel pregnant even if I am not as a result of the progesterone haha! 🙈

@fizzl omg I am delighted :D let's hope its tomorrow and then we can be tww buddies. And I only dtd every other day even around ovulation as i really couldnt be arsed but worth a shot if its only today and tomorrow and that you arent too tired :D

@abi0795 sorry you find yourself here too! Its rubbish going from being elated and pregnant to miscarrying and depressed!

@Babyghirl we might be tww buddies aswell then!

@Annny27

Yep we might be I norm half a 15 day lp and it's 16 days to my next period so I should see a temp rise in the morning, just dtd before I head to work so I think I have covered all angles lol. Hubby on nite shift but he got a wake up call from me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣, how's your tww going always drags in lol 💚💚

Is there anyone on here who knows anything about OPK's? 🙌🏼 xx

@abi0795 I am somewhat of a POAS addict so have probably used about 200 opks since ttc haha. Whats your question?

@Babyghirl not long then :D tww is okay so far although the progesterone has already made my boobs bigger!

@Annny27 will see how we feel tonight 😂 and whether I actually get a peak reading today or not!

@Abi0795 I'm similar to Anny and have been using opk's for what feels like forever! It's second nature to just pee on sticks all the time now 😂 I'm currently using easy@home ones and they're fine. I use one step sometimes too and they're also fine I think! Didn't really like the premom ones but only because they never seemed very dark so hard to read.

Hi girls @Annny27 @Fizzl thanks for getting back to me! I had the cervical mucus and pains over the weekend but didn't test on Sunday, Monday was my predicted day and I got the test result on the left. I then didn't test again until yesterday night and got the result on the right, but my app is saying it's still high.

Now I'm worrying I haven't ovulated 😖 as I never did see a full "peak"

Do you think I may have missed the full peak over night or the morning when I didn't test?

Thanks so much xxx