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Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

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Annny27 · 17/05/2020 22:55

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

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SunnySideUp2020 · 26/07/2020 20:40

Thank you @Whiffle77 xx

SunnySideUp2020 · 27/07/2020 05:53

13 dpo today and did another boots strip.
I think it's working 😬😳

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Fizzl · 27/07/2020 08:29

Definitely looking good @SunnySideUp2020! There's no denying that's a BFP 😁

scrumdiddly123 · 27/07/2020 08:42

@SunnySideUp2020 eeeek! So pleased for you x

Leok83 · 27/07/2020 08:49

@SunnySideUp2020 that's definitely progressing! So happy for you☺️☺️!! You have definitely got ur BFP now!xx

Annny27 · 27/07/2020 10:17

Yep thats definitley a bfp @SunnySideUp2020 :D congratulations 💗💗💗

Have you told people about your engagement news yet aswell? Did DP plan to do it on the day that you got a bfp? Or was he always going to pick that day. So exciting.

And yes we will still use a bit of presseed. I'll be honest, ttc sex isn't doing the best for my libido so I need the help on most occasions haha 😳 🤣

@fizzl totally I am shocked I am here 8 months post mmc /14 months in total haha!! Could have had a baby and then been pregnant again by now!

How's all the two week waiters getting on?

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SunnySideUp2020 · 27/07/2020 13:57

Ok so just typed an entire response and pressed wrong button 🙄

I just bought a clearblue at pharmacy now and it's the not early ones, just standard one and the test is very strong, not fmu and 13 dpo. And i read about molar pregnancy. I know it sounds completely insane to be worried that the tests are too dark and i am super happy and grateful that i was given this chance again but i am completely losing my mind worrying ....

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SunnySideUp2020 · 27/07/2020 14:02

@Annny27 he had planned to do it on that day from 6 months ago apparently !!!
But he pushed a little to take the test that day and not sunday thinking if it's negative he would cheer me up with the proposal!! 😅

As for telling people it's just been a weird one.. i am not a social media person and i find it awkward to just tell people 😂 i am such a weirdo! Have you ever felt like this? How did you announce?

Also how do you plan a wedding? Do you ask people first to knwo how many will come and then look at venues or do you get the maximum number??????

I know what you mean about the ttc sex... before we went on holiday it was just becoming such a chore. 😒😒

SunnySideUp2020 · 27/07/2020 14:02

@Fizzl how are the opks?

Annny27 · 27/07/2020 14:13

@SunnySideUp2020 I would step away from Google and look towards getting a scan at 6 weeks thats only 2.5 weeks away and it will put your mind at ease. The positive tests are no concern as plenty of people have dark tests at 13dpo! @Leok83 were dark at 10dpo! So its just a good sign of strong hcg :D

We got engaged on holiday and so called in to my in laws on the way back from airport and then called all close friends and family. And think we put it on social media a few says later. But it was back in 2016 so social media announcements were more common haha!

And in terms of wedding - we had a think and made a quick draft guest list and then looked at venues and dates from there. Didn't see who was free (apart from super close family) and then just sent out sabe the dates pretty soon after we booked it which was about 10 months before the wedding. We got engaged, planned and married within almost exactly a year

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Fizzl · 27/07/2020 15:09

@SunnySideUp2020 I agree with anny. Step away from google (which is so much easier than said). I've worked myself up into numerous unnecessary tizz's and wasted so much time worrying on things I didn't need to. It's true what people say about google, you go looking for reassurances but actually search for your fears which then confirms them. It's not healthy for us and it feeds our anxiety and worry. Try and step away from it and enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can 😊

With our wedding I just found the perfect venue by pure coincidence around the corner from where we live! We weren't actually looking for a venue at that point as we'd decided we weren't in a rush to get married. It was a brand new venue being converted and it was pretty much derelict when we first saw it but we knew it would be amazing from the plans and other venues the company had so took a gamble. We knew we didn't want a huge wedding so didn't have to worry about numbers as the venue could accommodate more than enough for what we wanted. We booked the venue first and then sorted everything from there. Similar to anny we did it all in just over a year from booking the venue.

I also didn't do an announcement on social media as I'm not really one for posting on Facebook and it turned out pretty much everyone (but me) already knew that my husband was going to propose as he'd told them 😂 how it was all kept a secret I'll never know. I just messaged all my friends a picture of the ring.

Oh and my opk's.... negative! But let's not talk about that I'm trying to forget all about it for now 😂 more wedding chat! I loved planning my wedding.

Ejb86 · 27/07/2020 15:18

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Fizzl · 27/07/2020 15:38

Ahh happy anniversary for Friday @Ejb86!

I'll DM you a picture from mine (and anyone else who wants to see) - darent post it on here as it's too outing 😂

Fizzl · 27/07/2020 15:48

Actually I don't think you can message a photo 🤯 if anyone knows how let me know

Ejb86 · 27/07/2020 15:50

@SunnySideUp2020 we also saved loads of money by having ours on a weekday, rather than weekend. We figured that those who felt it important enough would take the time off. We gave them plenty of notice with a save the date. I did a lot of the stationery and decor myself too.

Ejb86 · 27/07/2020 16:11

I've reported mine, changed my mind about having my pic up, added a less outing one.

So yeah, 6th anniversary Friday. Desperately craving a really good burger with mac and cheese on the side, so that's our anniversary meal planned!

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SunnySideUp2020 · 27/07/2020 17:10

Thank you all for sharing your wedding planning!
We actually thought to do it this october but now realised it won't happen as it is too soon :/
So we might just do registrar in September and the actual wedding when we are settled jn switzerland 🇨🇭 have jobs and know what's going on job wise or baby wise!

I finally joined the pregnancy thread 😬

It's weird because before the bfp it seemed so impossible to achieve - i know that 7 months isn't that long- but given DP sperm and everything we really were waiting for an insemination in October to get a real chance. And now that we got our bfp i feel like having a baby is such a lonnnnnng way from now! But we are ready 💪

I wouldn't have been able to go through it all without this group that's for sure. Things would have been much much harder.
So thank you for all this. Especially @Annny27 💕💕💕

I don't know what will happen for me, if this will be a successful pregnancy or if i will find myself back on ttc at some point but either way i cannot wait for ALL of us to be in that pregnancy thread together. 🤗🤗🤗

Obviously will still be checking and having everything crossed for all of you 🙏❤

@Fizzl just hoping this uterus of yours hasn't confused itself again 😐

Ah also forgot to add what's been different this month: pretty much everything.
We were on holiday, all relaxed and back to wanting to dtd all the time (horny like teenagers), but we made sure to dtd only every other day and had a 3 days forced break just before fertile week, then in fertile week we had it twice in a row at beginning and twice in a row at the end, i literally ate everything i wanted and all the good desserts and cakes most days without thinking about weight gain (not overweight but on the border these days 😅) and haven't done a single physical exercise... laziest month, and as i said we stopped using preseed.
Don't know if anyone cares but i really wanted to know after someone's bfp so sharing 😁

💛💛💛💛💛💛

SunnySideUp2020 · 27/07/2020 17:13

@Ejb86 it was a lovely wedding from the pics :)
Happy anniversaryFlowers

I don't think we will be able to do weekend pretty muche everyone works and family is scattered around the world so will need traveling days on top of wedding day 🙄

SunnySideUp2020 · 27/07/2020 17:14

weekday **

Nuggetlover27 · 27/07/2020 22:28

@SunnySideUp2020 I'm so happy for you that you got your BFP! You're not alone in the worrying, as much as I want a BFP I'm so scared for when it happens. Try and stay positive 💕

We done a list of the people we wanted at the wedding and looked for venues from there. We knew we wanted to get married on our anniversary of when we started dating so we had a weekday wedding and also made the invites and centre pieces and lots of bits ourself (with help from family and friends) which also saved money

@Ejb86 it looks like a beautiful day that you had 🥰

scrumdiddly123 · 27/07/2020 23:04

Ah happy anniversary for Friday @Ejb86! It was our 7th wedding anniversary last week, can’t believe it’s been that long! I wish I could wear my dress again though I was a size 8 when I got married and definitely am not now 😂
@SunnySideUp2020 your tests looks brill 😀 try not to stress though I know how hard that is.
@Annny27 I’m 6dpo (I think as ran out of opks) but temp rise is consistent with when I think I ov’d. So nothing going on yet, just starting to notice the usual progesterone symptoms- headache, vivid dreams etc
Feeling quite chilled this month and definitely not testing early! How are you?
@Nuggetlover27 did you get a peak in the end?

Nuggetlover27 · 28/07/2020 09:19

@scrumdiddly123 my highest reading was 0.5 in the end on CD24 so I think that's when ov was as it's been constantly low since and now back at 0 (currently on CD32/ 8DPO if that was the case)
I've had quite a few symptoms this weekend just gone but trying not to get my hopes up.
Also I won't be testing early either. I tend to wait until I'm late as I know if I found out early I would just worry for longer haha

Sorry @Fizzl I forgot to answer you RE temping. I do when I remember but half the time I wake up and reach for my tea (DH kindly makes me tea in bed every morning when he leaves for work) and then it's too late to temp haha

ELM7 · 28/07/2020 09:27

Morning Ladies. Hope you are all doing ok.

@SunnySideUp2020 has your amazing weekend sunk in yet?

So AF arrived bang on schedule this morning. Knew it was coming so not to upset but just depressed at how long TTC us taking. Came off the pill 20mths ago and have in total been TTC for 17mths it’s just all consuming.

Can’t change it and just have to believe it will happen when the time is right (just wish I knew when that would be) Oh well on to cycle 9!

Annny27 · 28/07/2020 14:29

Afternoon girls:) cd10 for me!

@ELM7 so sorry that AF has arrived :( its heartbreaking isn't it :( its been 14 months for us in total and our 8th cycle since our miscarriage. I hope it isn't too much longer for us 🤞🤞🤞

@SunnySideUp2020 good luck on the pregnancy thread. I will be watching like i do with the others and pray for a healthy pregnancy for you 🥰🥰🥰

@fizzl I know its crazy that we have been here for so long! But our babies will be all the more longed for 💗💗💗💗

@nuggetlover27 yes I think its best to wait and not early test- for me anyway I prefer to wait

@scrumdiddly123 not too much longer for you then!! Haha I was tiny when I gor married, like probably a size 6 if not smaller! I think wedding stress made me very skinny haha 🤣

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SunnySideUp2020 · 28/07/2020 16:27

Sorry AF got you @ elm7 😔
Sounds like a long time to be ttc... hope you'll get your bfp soon x

@Annny27 thanks lovely x