Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

[Annny27]

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

Morning ladies ☺️

@SunnySideUp2020 haha! Yes we plan it too glad I'm not the only one lol. I hope your WW goes nice and quick! I also get very aggy around ovulation and tend to bicker with DH as everything annoys me. The joys of hormones? Lol

@Fizzl yes soooo frustrating! Maybe we will ov around the same time this cycle then

@scrumdiddly123 I haven't had any EWCM yet and lines faint for me also.

@SunnySideUp2020 @scrumdiddly123 I'm CD19 atm. Low again this morning on OPK. Will keep testing. Trying to be positive!

This mornings opk, had some ov type pain this morning but also loads of creamy cm so who knows! Will see what it looks like this afternoon! Stay positive @Nuggetlover27, hopefully it’s just round the corner for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@SunnySideUp2020 hoping to be up in Scotland seeing family for second week of the TWW (Hopefully keep me distracted from crazy symptom spotting) so let’s make a pact of Sun 26th as think that’s the day we will be coming home. Think we will be 12dpo at that point.

Afteenoon everyone :) 12dpo today and have slightly browny coloured cm so I imagine that's AF on the way! Pretty chuffed o haven't spotted untill now as iw as worried about a short LP!

Now I have a new obsession- did the surgery cause a blockage in my tubes @fizzl we always have to have something to worry about right 🤣🤣🤣

@SunnySideUp2020 I am not moody around ovulation but I am a right bitch before my period haha!

Ooh you are cycle buddies then @ELM7 and @sunnysideup2020

Hope my cycle buddie is doing okay @Leok83 💗💗

@scrumdiddly123 hopefully opks on the way up! Haha

@Nuggetlover27 ahh I HATE waiting for ovulation especially when its delayed!

@SunnySideUp2020 me too, I keep telling myself it won't be as bad as last month and everything will be normal this month! Here's hoping anyway! I'm also not too bad around ovulation I don't think but my mood takes a jump off a cliff just before AF 😬 my husband literally irritates the hell out of me just being in the same room and I will bite his head off over nothing. As soon as AF starts all is good again and I think he's the best 😂 poor man, it's lucky they don't have their own hormones to contend with when they have to deal with ours!

@Nuggetlover27 depending what my cycle does I normally ovulate around day 17-19 so hopefully you won't have to hang on that long for me! I've got about 8-10days to go yet.

@Annny27 that is positive that you've got to 12dpo without any spotting before now! I hope this isn't af for you 😞 have you tested again?

Oh yes I've worried about every possibility linked to having surgery! I don't tend to worry too much about that now but for the first few months after I was convinced the surgery would leave me with problems. I've even stopped worrying about my luteal phase for now and my worry has shifted tho 'what if my body never has normal cycles again'. Once I've stopped worrying about that I'll worry about something else, obviously 🤦🏼‍♀️🙄

@Annny27 I'm doing great thanks, got 2-3 weeks yesterday on a CB digital and my test line was darker than control line so looking good so far! Also got results from my recurrent MC referral and no problems with clotting/thyroid and both myself and DH karyotypes are normal so delighted it seems to just be bad luck after all. Still light on symptoms other than soo tired but works also been crazy so not sure if I would be anyways!
I really hope that spotting goes away and doesn't turn into AF for you! You haven't been tempted to test again?

@SunnySideUp2020 and @ELM7 good luck with the TWW!!

Morning you lovely lot,
CD20 here and no peeks yet. But not worrying about that today. Trying to be positive.

I have a plan for this month. And my app seems to think I'm in the "fertility phase" so I'm gonna do what Dr Google says and DTD every other day, apparently it can be much more effective than every day as sometimes everyday reduces the quality of his ingredient 😂

@Leok83 all sounds really positive 😀 I'm really rooting for you! 💪🏻

@Annny27 sorry it looks like AF is here for you. Hopefully it's not though.

Morning! @Nuggetlover27 good to be positive, and I agree every other day is best. Don’t want to burn out going for it every day 😂
CD14 for me and opk is similar to yesterday but EWCM is back so hoping for a peak soon. Last cycle was cd16 so maybe the same again!

Ok so i am the only one who gets the crazy at ovulation 😬

@Leok83 good to hear you are having a good progression x

@ELM7 26th it is!
Dp and I have a romantic fancy weekend jsut the two of us 24 to 26 so we will also be going home that day 😀

@scrumdiddly123 your opk looks dark... should be very soon!

@SunnySideUp2020 ohh lovely that you and DP are having a romantic break away. 🤞🏻 For 2 BFP on the 26th!!

Question for you ladies. What do you all do about drinking - or not as the case may be during the TWW?

13dpo bfn so thats me out I think! Waiting for AF now 😭

@elm7 I dont drink really atall I think I have maybe 1 glass of wine a month but I wouldn't worry about having 1 or two in the tww

@SunnySideUp2020 sounds lovely! How is your grandma i csnt remember if you updated us?

@fizzl I think there will always be something for me to obssss about haha! I am crossing everything for a normal and stress free ovulstion for you!!!!

Sorry @Annny27.... about the bfn..
Grandma has now been hospitalized at home. She isn't doing good but alive! But i think they went a bit crazy with all the surgeries and now she is struggling to recover... her wounds wont close and she is very weak.. but al least she is home in the countryside. Still living on a hospital bed with nurses 3 times a day aybay

Sorry mn malfunction... or phone.
Yeah so basically she is being looked after carefully and we will see how the next few weeks go.

@ELM7
as for drinking, i am not a drinker by nature. I dont like the taste of alcohol... so easy not to drink. But if i must have a glass with guests etc i just have a small one... whenever in the cycle

So spent the afternoon in hospital.
We went waterskiing early morning and then drove to Nice to spend the day but DP only then realised he had injured his ankle.
He has 0 pain tolerance, so we went to the hospital... and now he cant do anything for 3 weeks 😶 we are supposed to go to italy on Sunday!!!
I know it's not his fault but such shit timing..
Anyway he has been such a drama queen as well today, didnt help my post ovulation mood 🤣

@Leok83 glad to hear all is going well
so far! Definitely a nice bit of reassurance there for you!

@Nuggetlover27 you're right dtd every other day is meant to be slightly better although if there aren't any issues with sperm apparently the difference is very small. Have you tried smep?

@ELM7 I don't drink in the tww now. When I was ttc last year I drank as much as I wanted in the lead up to ovulation. In fact the month I fell I'd been out drinking cocktails and doing shots of tequila 😳 in the tww I cut back but didn't cut out completely and still had maybe 1 or 2 drinks. Obviously now I always think back and wonder if the drinking played a part in what happened. Deep down I know it didn't but because I'm a massive worrier I've made the decision now to just avoid alcohol completely in the tww and to massively cut back the rest of the time. I honestly don't think a drink or two would do any harm at all but for my own peace of mind I just know it's better for me to avoid so I don't have that added worry of what if that one glass of wine has caused some harm?! Irrational I know...

@Annny27 ah I'm sorry it's a bfn again 😞 this process is so cruel!

@SunnySideUp2020 sounds like you have a lot going on! I hope your grandma makes a good recovery and it's good that she's comfortable at home.

I hope your dp makes a quick recovery too 😬 will you still be going to Italy? I'm so envious of your travels! We've really missed travelling and getting away this year ☹️

@Fizzl aww i know the feeling, i love travelling and during march-june i just felt so weird not being able to move!!
Have you guys not planned anything at all?
Is the UK still very much closed?
Travelling is also god sent when ttc, keeps your mind off it. Less obsessing...

@SunnySideUp2020 no we've not booked anything yet! We had a couple of uk breaks at the start of the year and had planned to go abroad in June but obviously that couldn't happen ☹️

The uk is pretty much back open and from about 2 weeks ago you can go on holiday again but there's lots of safety measures in place so it just doesn't feel like it would be a nice relaxing holiday 😑 having to que to get into a half empty pub just doesn't sound fun! And then I think all the distancing stuff (whilst it's good they've put things in place) just makes me nervous - it's like a constant reminder and makes you on edge!

It's our wedding anniversary in 2 months and we would normally go away for that so hoping to maybe book something then 🤞

@fizzl @SunnySideUp2020 we have a little self catering UK coastal break booked for next weekend but its quite rural so think social distancing won't be that much of an issue :) but yes usually we would have done a nice abroad trip in May or june!

14dpo AF not arrived but its bfn. There's no baby so why doesn't it just fricking arrive and let it be cd1 haha!!

@sunnysideup2020 Italy will be lovely, we go there quite often and its so chilled and beautiful scenery (depending on where you are going ofcourse)

@sunnysideup2020 poor grandma 💗 i guess atleast she can be at home which if comforting

@Annny27 aw I'm so sorry it's a BFN still. Its good to have a good long LP though but at same time it does just drag things out.

@ELM7 I was a bit like @Fizzl, I didn't really curb my drinking when TTC initially, and had xmas party the night before I found out about BFP last November and I drank a lot of wine. But I will always worry that may have played a part in my MC, even though I know it's seriously unlikely. Since the MC I didn't drink in the TWW and I only drank a small amount before ovulation as the stress wouldn't be worth it now for me to be worrying if it could cause another MC. But I'm sure having the odd drink is probably fine..how many people get pregnant and don't know for ages and everything is fine when they have been drinking away at alcohol and caffeine to their hearts content!!

@Fizzl ah nice i hopw you can get a small break for your 2 years 😇

@Annny27 good to hear that you like Italy, we are going to La spezia and Pisa so Liguria and Tuscany regions
I have only been to Rome and Milan so excited to see a different more nature side of it!

@ELM7 how is the tww? I have started symptom spotting 😒😒🙄
Obviously being 4 dpo it's just me being weird !!

Picture - If i hadn't already had a bfn i would be pretty excited by now haha! Having brown spotting since 14dpo so imagine she will arrive today at 16dpo? And I definitley have my days correct as to when I ovulated, body just likes to keep me 9n my toes each month 🙄🙄

@sunnysideup2020 you would think i would learn after 7 months not to symptom spot but i do it every time so I dont blame you haha

@Leok83 thank you 💗 yes lets hope my LP behaves for next month and so do the egg and the sperm haha

Ooh @Annny27 how annoying for you! hopefully it sorts itself out soon
CD17 for me today and opk is nearly peak 😀 so think I’ll ov later today or maybe tomorrow.
@Nuggetlover27 how are yours looking?

@Fizzl I hadn't heard of SMEP but looked it up and that seems like the type of thing we've been doing. The only thing not is the dtd 3 days in a row on ov. Perhaps I'll try that this month (if I can pin point my ov.

@scrumdiddly123 looks like you may be peeking very soon ! 😀
Mine is ... who knows? 🤷🏻‍♀️ I'm sick of this process.
This is what the app someone on here mentioned (sorry I can't remember who) and my lines are all over the place. Started getting stronger yesterday afternoon but this morning lower so 🤷🏻‍♀️

She teased me but she has arrived now 🩸🩸🩸 quite strange but usually I cry when AF arrives but today I havent.....

16dpo so a pretty lengthy LP! Onwards to month 8 - this has to be the one right???? 🙈

@scrumdiddly123 yayyyy for peak! Have you been able to dtd the last few days?

@nuggetlover27 it looks like the right direction for your opks :D