All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

Hi Claire,

must be great to be able to work from home. Unfortunatley i'm off work sick due to being so miserable with this pregnancy but i'm doing my best to have positive thoughts.

My scan is friday next week, the 5th so only another week to wait. will be sure to let everyone know how I get on and hopefully it be the start of BFP's and people will follow me over to the 'AN' and 'pregnacy after mc' threads.

sending everyone good vibes and positive thoughts

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Morning all!

Good morning everyone

katendmom thanks for asking, I relalised that I was having a reaction very similar to thrush when I was using the pessaries so I didn't use anything for a cuple of nights and now I'm fine but at least I have some different ones in stock if it happens again.

Floss - fingers are crossed and I am sure it will be something normally unusual, if you know what I mean. A whole spate of my friends have had unusual smear tests recently and its turned out okay. Don?t give up on the acupuncture. Mine doesn?t tell me what he is doing really but I am convinced that it was the reason why I conceived so quickly after coming off the pill this summer. Maybe too quickly . . . Anyway, on Tuesday I had a session with him and he put a needle in the middle of my forehead, which was a first. That evening I had a good old blub in bed and felt much much better. Maybe he unblocked something too . . . Anyway, more and more doctors are becoming interested in acupuncture here in DK, which makes me think that there is definitely something to it.

Kat ? loved your post and you are so right. I totally think the body is systematic in that way. My friend was saying that next time I get p/g I should just try and be easy on myself (as I was gymming and yoga-ing every day and being super extreme healthy diet). Its possible that my system went into ?shock? after my previous lifestyle! Anyway, her theory is that the body goes into ?fight or flight? mode and shuts down things it can?t support, i.e a pregnancy. So thanks for the positive peptalk. I think I do need to break out of my own self-pity ? and was just thinking about that as I cycled to work this morning?
I am also jealous of the cake-fest as I live in Denmark . . .we will just have to enjoy it virtually or have one of those photo-booth, chat thingies. But supposedly, this country is really progressive on the maternity leave front ? I think the industry standard is 7 months full pay and then govt-paid benefits after that up to a year. But I work in male-dominated small advertising agency and have a feeling that they may wriggle out of that a bit . . . but you do get a year of money and you can share it with your partner.

NH ? great job. Do you write or edit or is it more design layout stuff? Anyway, I have to go cold turkey on gossip mags sometimes ? they are so addictive. What did you find out about Zinc by the way? I bought some for my bloke but haven?t taken any myself.

Ellie - drooling over chocolate button muffins! Might have to make those myself, but I am muffin-topping over my jeans today, so the pig-fest has to stop at some point (I am always more disciplined in the morning and lose it in the evening). Yesterday, I had no cake but ate some double-stuffed peanut butter Oreos that my mum sent me ? so good.

Claire really sounds like a rough day. Please be super-indulgent to yourself right now. I think it helps if you dive right into all those feelings and grabble with them. I didn?t take time off work and just tried to get back to normal quickly which doesn?t do justice to what you are going through, if you know what I mean.

lcy hope you are okay.

ClairePO ? get stuck into the wine - and it HAS to be real (what would be the point otherwise?)! It certainly helped me through some tough times. When I had my MC, my SIL announced six weeks later that she was PG and whenever my MIL talked about her scans/appts etc I just wanted to punch her in the face cos she always looked so pleased about it. You can?t help those feelings even though you know they are wrong. All I can say is things do get better eventually!

Re. Kerry: her representatives will have released the story saying she?d had a MC, it wouldn?t have been the news agencies making it up. Sometimes these things happen. Everything that we print, we believe to be true (our lawyers don?t let us do any different). Unfortunately I have the very unexciting job of sub-editor so I don?t get to meet any of the celebs or go the parties, but when I was a sports reporter I used to interview all the footballers, which was pretty cool. I gave that up though and moved into mags cos I got fed up of working weekends. I love my job but every job gets boring sometimes!! And no I don?t keep the goss to myself!

Kateandmom ? That is a scandal! In the UK by law you are entitled to one year off and your job must be kept open for you or you should be offered a job of the same standing when you return. They only have to pay you for six weeks, but then you are entitled to a further seven and a half months SMP (about £100 a week). I can?t believe it is so bad in the US. I get six weeks full pay, then four and a half months half pay plus SMP.

TJuice - 15mg of zinc is recommended. I take a pregnacare multivitamin every day and DH has sanatagon A-Z cos that has 15mg zinc in (some multivits have less zinc)

Hi everyone, sorry haven't been on here for a while. Cake fest 9th Nov? Any ideas for venue yet?

hi just popping by to say hello need to go and make lunch for the monsters will have a proper read later if I get the chance.

When I had DD1 I got 6 weeks on 90%, then an additional 6 weeks at 90% paid by the company (had to be paid back if you didn't come back) then £100 a week until 6 months then 6 months unpaid.

Company had a restructure whilst I was away but I had already told my boss I wasn't coming back and was moving to the other side of the country but he swung it so I was made redundant, kept the maternity money, got a lovely redundancy package and bonus which was great. I would love to work part time but the cost of childcare prevents it so I'm a SAHM. Also my job was very specialised and I won't get one like it up here so I'm kind of screwed career wise which is once the DCs are at school I want to retrain as a primary teacher.

oh can't do cake fest as I'm in Scotland wee but too far to travel but I will ahve some cake at my pc.

Hello everyone.

Just wanted to say that I totally agree with katendmom about how unintentionally we can block out the thing we want most (katendmom should be a motivational speaker). It took me 3 years to get pregnant the first time but unfortunately this ended in a miscarriage. I didn't want to have to wait another 3 years to get pregnant again so I tried hypnotherapy and a month later I was pregnant. I really believe the hypnotherapy helped.

Anyway, had my 2nd scan yesterday and they have said I am over the worst of the bleeding now. The nurse I had dealing with me was lovely and gave me a hug when I got upset and took the time to chat to me about trying again.

Well I better go and dust off my hyponotherapy tapes in preparation.

Take care everyone x

Good luck Dustin! I think hypnotherapy and aromatherapy are definitely good things.

Sweetkitty, I would also retrain as a primary school teacher if I couldn't do my current job after my kids go to school. But I am hoping to come back two days a week here after maternity leave to keep my oar in if you like. Once you leave a profession to have kids it can be hard to get back into it (so unfair)

Biopsy results normal! Three cheers!!! Feel like a huge weight has been lifted - didn't realise now much it had been getting me down.

Consultant also said to lock dp in (his words) and start ttc without further delay!!! Might just do that......

At work, will post more later.

Thanks nh101 I may need it.

Good news FlossieF.

Flossie - thats great news, good luck with the ttc

Dustin - agree hypnotherapy and aromatherapy are lush

nh - one of the reasons we left Scotland in the first place was because I couldn't get a job (I'm a microbiologist specialising in food safety) I don't regret coming back but it has in effect ended my career if I do the post grad teaching teaching course it's only a year but I know it's a very hard course and I don't have family that will help out so could prove difficult. Still don't want to think about that yet main thing is getting a third baby.

Flossie that's great news.

Someone at work who knows I am PG has just told me that someone who doesn't know I am PG has just asked her "Is nh pregnant - her skin's a mess" Cheeky bitch. I don't even like her but she knows I am desperate to be PG cos of my MC so it is not the greatest leap to ask if I am but to say that! I am - I am looking a bit of a mess (spotty) but you don't want to hear it do you!

bitch

actually I have got a few spots today

gillydaffodil I found about hypnotherapy and fertility after reading a magazine article about a therapist called Tina Taylor. she had helped women who had been told they had no chance of getting pregnant naturally and after having a few sessions of hypnotherapy they got pregnant. I emailed her to ask about booking an appointment but she was based too far away from where I lived. She suggested I purchased her fertility cd. I don't think I have consciously listened to it all the way through as I always fall asleep but it still works on your unconscious mind apparently.

LittleSquirt I am Russian so revolutions work for me as well. And since I am still in this pregnant but not limbo - my hormones are still high giving false positive after my MC - maybe I'll find another project for a moment until I can really TTC and start a revolution. What the heck?! After reading all your maternity leave deals ? I?m ready to move countries again!

GF3 I am so glad you're feeling better!

FlossieF GREAT NEWS girl! I am ecstatic for you! I can ONLY imagine what a relief it is - go on, log off and get down to business with your DH.

Can I just tell you all - in R/L I am SO shy about talking about the "bedroom subject"... that I would never even talk about it with my DH . If he saw my posts, he'd flip over.

Thanks girls about the motivational speaker compliment. Not professional. Just developed over the years as I am always trying to convince my DH into something. He's had it. I think now he just gives up ? hence changing his mind about TTC on his own (without me nudging him) shortly after telling me that he "won't put me through this again." Like it was HE who caused my MC!

I'm feeling a bit strange today. Some mild cramps, very similar to what I'd normally get before OV. Bleeding has stopped long ago but my stupid pg test is still showing positive?! It is just NOT fair. So I am refusing to buy any more tests - OV or pg. I'll just wait until my belly starts growing and then I'll know I am pg .

~Kate raises her hand and swears ~ I shall not buy any tests. I shall collect all that money and buy self a lush pair of new shoes by November 1.

Oh, I know what you mean Kate - I finally got a BFN 3 weeks after my ERPC in July so was elated when I got a BFP the following week but turns out that was still from my MMC (how my levels went down then up again I'll never know but it nearly killed me when I thought I was PG again but then got loads of BFNs again after that )

Hello guys so many posts to keep up with!!!

Floss - I'm so glad everything was ok big relief.

Am feeling better today, went shopping (always helps) bought great boots and jeans that I definately wouldn't be able to fit if I got pregnant. Might look into this hypnotherapy stuff - who knows

Hey Popsy75 - do whatever makes you feel better! Am I right in thinking you are not Popsy76 who was on my original MC thread back in March (stupid question??? I am sure she was Popsy76 - confusing!)

Thanks for all the good wishes, and positive thoughts - much appreciated. It turns out that the reason they did the biopsy was that my cervix "looked warty"!!!! Consultant thinks it was just a pregnancy related change, so all good, but a warty cervix??!! Lovely. Just as well I can't see it!

Positive - hope you are feeling better soon, and that the scan next week brings good news. Keep us posted.

TJuice - I shall keep going with the acupuncture - I'm keeping an open mind, and hearing about other people's good experiences helps.

I've also contemplated hypnotherapy (I've also read the Zita West book, Gillydaffodil!), but I'll see how it goes. If I can maintain a positive frame of mind by myself, I'll save my money, and if not, I'll investigate further.

Unfortunately, I'll have to give the cake gathering a miss - I'll be in China with work. It's a hard life. I'm actually based in Birmingham - is anyone else from round here? If so, we could organise a Midlands cake-fest.... (Mind you, Zita West would not approve of all this cake talk.)

Hope everyone has had a good day - insensitive and uncalled-for comments from work colleagues aside.

Sorry, work has been so busy, and I've been just exhausted. No AF yet, no BFP, no idea what's going on. Maybe I didn't really O? Maybe that spotting WAS my AF?? If so, I told DH that means I may be O'ing soon and to rest while he can.

Having had a baby in the US and one in the UK, I definitely think the UK is far ahead in both maternity/childbirth care and maternity benefits/leave. The US, for all it's talk from the government about how important family values are, they sure aren't "family friendly"!! (And yes, I can say that as I'm an American - been living in the UK for 3 years now, married to my British DH). My work even gave me 3 weeks off (listed as paid pregnancy/sick/bereavement leave) each time when I had a miscarriage as they stressed to me that they wanted to make sure I was both physically and mentally feeling okay before I returned to work. At my old job in the US, had I called in saying I can't come in I'm having a miscarriage, the response would have been "so you'll be in.. what... like tomorrow?"

Morning ladies!
Good news Flossie, you have a warty cervix eh??.
I was told a couple of years ago that I had a baggy vagina! I mean how rude! I think it was because the nurse couldnt see my cervix to take a sample for smear! Thats my story and I am sticking to it. I no longer have baggy bits, Pelvic floor exercises very good. I do have 2 children you know.
I am going to stop now as a digging a bigger hole for myself. Maybe I should change my name?

Something to cheer up your Friday mornings!