TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@Renna I know what you mean about feeling out already, I'm actually not feeling sad I just feel like it's not going to happen this month no idea why as I've thrown everything including the kitchen sink at it but maybe I'll get a shock 🤷🏾‍♀️ hope OHs back holds out for you but like you say only takes one.

@HE88 sometimes on the femometer app it will read the test line and the crease in the test which means it reads it wrong, but definitely peak so ovulation will probs be later today/ tomorrow as think it is normally 24-36hrs after first LH peak x

@Rainbowhope11 did you take a hpt before AF and it was negative? Any chance this is a new pregnancy? Bet this is all very frustrating but think you would be able to have a period with hcg in your system as if ladies have a chemical they can have a period same day as getting a faint positive I think. hope the blood test gives you some answers x

@SmileyT I mean, we've been dtd so that would be amazing if it is a new pregnancy. But I doubt it. I think maybe the clear blue test is more sensitive than it claims, hence still showing positive. Yeah, this is driving me bonkers! On the plus side, I just did a clearblue opk, and it's showing an empty circle, as it should be if I'm on my period. Ever since my mmc, I've been getting the starting smiley every week, which is obviously totally incorrect. I stopped testing with them because I didn't want to waste my sticks and they are expensive! Either way, you're right, I'll get more clarity after my blood test tomorrow. Until then I will try and relax and lay off on the wine haha 😂

@SmileyT I did wonder this with the app. I took another test and it's a clear postitve so at least that matches my cb opk from this morning 😊. Xx

@VP91x thank you for your reassurance.
I have found another thread of ladies going through the same irregular cycles after mc which has put me at ease somewhat.
Hopefully it will settle soon. Thanks again x

You're welcome @Jazper yes it is reassuring to see other people's experiences. Hope you are feeling better today xx

Hope all you ladies are okay today.

CD6 now. App recommended I start OPKs so started my CB advanced today and will do a cheapie later to start getting a feel for my lines. Expecting to ovulate CD12 apparently. Xx

Had a bizarre experience this morning. We have an in-line contact service with our doctors so I mentioned I thought I had an infection and that the thrush treatment I had been given hasn't worked. I asked for antibiotics.
The doctor replied saying the last infection I had was strep b so I'd need to have swabs to find out what's going on. She said I could call into the doctors take the swab use their loos and give it back to reception. There was no one in the doctors really weird but good that I get my results in 48 hours so I can hopefully find out if it's an Infection causing my spotting x

Morning @vp91x I'm okay ! CD10 today. Got another flashing smiley on CB today expecting to see peak on CD12 last month so hopefully see that in a couple days .

Like I said yday not feeling confident already , probably because I've been disappointed last 2 AFs arriving so setting myself up for that happening again ... ALSO .. last night was looking into Male fertility supplements as DHs wellman nearly all gone and was seeing what other ones there are out there ( I ended up ordering fertilaid for him to try next) .. but I came across advice that testosterone supplements can harm male fertility like whilst he is taking it it can reduce sperm count... and he has been taking some on and off as he had them any way as he is into the gym and fitness and when we were back to TTC again after MC I was like yeah take them as well.. thinking it may help yano youd think increased testosterone would be a good thing... turns out it is for libido but not sperm count etc 🙄 I mean hes only been taking it on and off last couple months... and hes not been very religious at taking his supplements at all .. but still another thing that just makes me feel less confident again this cycle 🙄! Makes me think sometimes maybe I should just strip back all this extra stuff like supplements and lube and let it happen naturally like it should ... 🙄🤷‍♀️ who knows ! Xx

@Dipsy77 that's good you were able to go doctors and get a swab done 👌🤞 hopefully this can get sorted for you asap now xx yeah I can imagine it was surreal. I live on a busy seafront and this morning I went for a walk with DH before he went to work at 5.30am... most of the walk we saw nobody and no cars ! I've never seen it like that ever. Weve been out early to exercise before lockdown and theres normally other people out running and lots of cars going to work etc . Very surreal but was lovely and calm
... I of course went back to bed when I got home haha . X

@Dipsy77 ah no way! I had Strep B in my pregnancy with my daughter. I had never heard of it before! Hopefully doesn't cause you any hassle. They never mentioned it again after my birth. I had to stay to be monitored for 24 hours and was given antibiotics during labour. Then all was OK.

@Renna ah! I would have thought testosterone was useful too. Try not to get too caught up with it though. They normally have to mention any risk even if it is minute in case it does affect things. Maybe he stops all the supplements whilst you are trying this month?

Keep positive though for sure!! Xx

@vp91x yeahh he isnt going to take the testosterone any more but probably carry on with the conception supplements. Yeahh it doesnt say anything on the bottle etc and its not like a hard and fast fact that it effects sperm but just seen a study about it online 🙄 I think sperm present now would've been made months ago though so may not affect it 🤷‍♀️ either way doesnt make me feel positive 😂🙄 but I guess I didnt in dec when I got pg .. we will see ! Operation keep busy until then .. 😂🤔🙄 how are you today ? X

Hey girls nice to pop on and see some positive tests in here 🙏🌈... so happy for you! Iv been busy with sorting out my own house and i also rent a house out but the tenants are actually due a baby a week before i was due and needed a bigger place so they have moved out so i was getting it ready for the new tenants this weekend.

Im in work today at the uni again its my shift on campus again soo just doing this but being bidy is goood while im waiting for my fertile window to approach 😴 its gone quick to be honest but just hate how im always over taken by people on shorter cycles (bitches haha joking) xx

@renna My hubby has got hold of HCG injections from a trusted source of course, so hes trying it out this month as he was on it when we conceived in sept its 3 injections a week and it apparently helps massively and it happened for us in sept sooo im guessing it helped hes also into the gym etc so its meant to a natural kinda steriod as it has the same effects so hes happy to take it 😂 ... my ava still hasnt arrived... no doubt itll be delivered today when im not home 🙄 royal mail must have delays x

How is everyone else? X

Hi Everyone, I wrote this on a new thread (new to the website) and found this chat after. Hope you don’t mind me jumping in,
Unfortunately I had a MMC (missed miscarriage) on our second pregnancy last month. (I have a 1 year old)
I should of been 9 weeks at my Scan but baby was only 8 weeks 4 so it had just happened. 3 days later I had a private D&C as I didn’t want to risk the hospital/ the trauma of dealing with it at home with my little boy.
I had bleeding on and off for 2 weeks after (6th of April was the D&C) I had regular bloody tests, my last one my HCG had come down to 70 so 3 days later I got my first negative test.
I had an internal to confirm no retained pregnancy and was given the all clear to try again straight away. I’ve had cystitis this weekend to add to my problems and now I’m getting this on my tests. Had anyone experienced anything similar, what are your thoughts? Feel like my body’s just giving up on me haha! I’d love to be pregnant again but I’d just be surprised if it could all happen within such a small time scale. Worried to could have other issues going on
Thanks everyone

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@Hayleylou89 hey lovely xx good you have lots to keep you busy 💪👌 I'm trying to keep busy but still cant stop my mind not being "busy" still thinking about everything too much for my liking .. is draining 😴 wow never heard of HCG injections for men.. how comes he took them before, did you find out he had a low sperm count or something? Or just doing it as an additional thing ? I dont necessarily think theres a problem with DHs count and I think doing a test to find out would probably be more detrimental as itd probably affect him mentally I reckon . Although I'd be interested to know lol ... but I thought cant harm if he takes a supplement which helps increase this so I ordered fertilaid for him to start taking which seems to have good reviews for this .. but yeah I came across the thing about testosterone supplements I was like ugh ffs something else to make me feel negative this cycle 😂🙄
This month I'm being more "relaxed" doing less ... as DH suggested... if this doesnt work I'm gonna be like right next month we will throw everything at it ... all the injections ...methods.. lube.. moon cups .. everything haha . Try one extreme to the other🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ xx

Hey @Bells993 I'm definitely not an expert so I would say contact your GP for next steps. But if you had a negative and have also bad a chrck for no retained tissue then a positive would definitely indicate a pregnancy! It is definitely possible!! Xxx

@Renna yeah definitely keep busy! I've been trying to do that whilst I waited for fertile week. I am doing well! We have been decorating too so spending my time looking for new bits and bobs online. Definitely a dangerous habit 😂😂

And yeah, you're right you got PG in December and nothing will have changed since then in terms of DP. So everything will work out for it!😊

@Hayleylou89 I hadn't heard of HCG injections either! Xx

@Bells993 i second what @VP91x said we all wish we could fall right away so it would def be possible... and if u had a negative test then theres a good possibility this one is accurate 🙏🌈 really hope so for u, some bloods from the drs would be confirmation for u and they do them fairly quick where i am from xx

@renna I’m going through the same thing with my partner. He had been taking test injection also for the gym but he was aware of it affecting male fertility temporarily so he had come off when we decided to try. I had researched and read (after CP and MC) that it can take 4-12 months for sperm to regulate afterwards and issues with sperm is starting to become linked to early miscarriages. On our 3rd month of ttc we had a chemical pregnancy and on our 4th month we caught again but miscarriaged on week 6. I dunno if it’s connected but felt very discouraged. Unfortunately once we caught last time and had no idea that we would miscarry he took another injection to start back at the gym but here we are again in square one. I don’t know if test is the reason but if we don’t catch again this month we are going to pay the £145 for a male fertility assessment . He never took it all the time maybe 3 times in the past year as he took a back seat from the gym so I dunno but it’s disheartening . I might look into the hcg injection. We both have children to previous partners so we know we can conceive

Well girls they worked for us!! And no he doesnt have low count i dnt think... weve never checked and i have 3 step kids sooo hes never had problems before making babies we just tried them and it worked i. Sept "pregnyl"... us women can take it to stimulate our ovaries to produce eggs aswell they do it with ivf treatment but obv that can lead to hyper stimulation so i wouldn't take it but for him its ok, it also gives them a definite labido which will be handy in the fertile week 😂xx

@renna @VP91 sorry that was directed for u two! X

Thanks girls! Yes I got the negative test 2 weeks ago and bloods are 70HCG can’t remember the measurements over 16 days ago so I’d like to think they would of hit 0. Just don’t want to set myself up for too much disappointment. I’ll give it a few more days then contact my GP, with everything going on I don’t want to pester her for bloods thank you🤞

@Hayleylou89 where can you get the hcg injection or does it have to be prescribed

@2020wish it should be prescribed yeah but he has a friend who gets it for him. Its called pregnyl. Xx

@Hayleylou89 interesting.! Hope it works for you again this month 🤞🤞🤞 I have a step son too and we got pg after 3 /4 months of trying so guess theres problem with his count or anything either. Just annoyed that I was the one that was like yeahh take those testosterone supplements too why not itll help ... but it doesnt really 🙄 so just get him to stop that now ! Hopefully will help. Or hopefully it hasnt had much effect in the first place as he hasnt been taking them for long and forgetting most days ! 🙄🤞 xx
@2020wish you've both conceived before so sure no issue for you 🤞 just ask him no more injections until your 🌈 is here xx
My DH doesnt inject it he was taking the odd supplement testosterone pill last couple months but who knows if that's had an affect 🙄🤷‍♀️ xx