Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 2

[Annny27]

Hi ladies- setting up another thread so we can keep in touch :)

@MilsCookie - thank you for the link! Will give this a go! X

@Milscookie her name is Bettina Rae - she has a YouTube channel and different videos depending where you are in your cycle. She's got 3 children and had 3 miscarriages including a late loss and 2 D&C's. She's also mentioned how long it took her to conceive each time and it's varied from over 12 months, 5 months to straight away. So I felt she was quite inspirational and she knows what it's like being on the other side so you can relate to her! In my previous post I said it ' can't help' and I actually meant can't hurt 😂 although I'm sure some people find the whole yoga meditation thing a bit out there, I quite like it and at least I feel I'm doing something to help. I'll check out the YouTube link you sent too. I get what you mean about temping. It does make you obsessive.

@Dannybx welcome, sorry you find yourself here. You might also find the above useful. It's helping me. Oh and try and stay away from google. Although im still working on that one! 😆

@Fizzl I do her Fertility yoga videos sometimes too! I really like her 😃 Sure it’s coincidence, but the first month I started them was the month I got pregnant before the MC 🤷🏻‍♀️ I remember sitting down to one and her saying to put your hand on your stomach and say ‘I trust that my body is healthy and my baby is coming to me’ - it made me smile so instinctively! I always remember that line when I’m feeling low about TTC.

That aside though, I definitely think just having those restful, mindful, relaxed moments (especially in the 2WW) is so important to keep us sane! ❤️

@MilsCookie well done not testing! Amazing! I’m lucky if I make it to 8dpo before caving!
Welcome @Dannybx and so sorry for the loss of your twins! Do you have any children already?

@milscookie @fizzl @sunnysiddup2020 So I caved - 12dpo and BFN. Kinda needed to prepare for next cycle and was expecting to see a negative but still hurts! I know I am not officially out until AF arrives on Wednesday/ Thursday but basically am!

Just feel rubbish and DH is pretty upset about it too. Phoning doctors when AF arrives to book our "we have been trying for a year" appointment 😪😪😪

@TerribleImagination will you early test?

Will deffo give fertility yoga a go!!

@scrumdiddly123 ahh sorry your appointment was a waste of time! You think if you were there they would gave just scanned you!

@Annny27 Nope, I resist the urge every month somehow! AF is due Sunday, so that’ll be the earliest I’d test, but I’ll try and make it to Monday (if I get there without getting AF!)

So sorry about your BFN lovey, I’m crossing everything for you that you just need a few more days and get some amazing news 🤞🏻

@scrumdiddly123 hello! Thank you for being so kind. We have a nearly 3yo son. He is literally the only reason I’ve had to keep positive. The last few weeks have been particularly hard - I’m a nurse and I’ve been working in some new areas. I feel like I’m not allowed to grieve because so many people are losing family members my loss just doesn’t seem big enough to matter. I’m just doing my best to be positive, no one wants a negative colleague.

@Annny27 sorry it's a negative. I get the whole need to feel prepared - I felt exactly the same this cycle. Hopefully by making the appointment you will feel more positive and proactive. The GP told me to wait 6 months but I've already decided I'm going to go back before to get my progesterone checked as we started (half heartedly with a 4 month break in the middle whilst we went on a few holidays and wanted to enjoy ourselves) trying from last jan. oh to be that relaxed about it all again! I feel better for planning that in my head tho as I feel more in control so although it's disappointing, hopefully you'll feel the same way soon.

Ah I love it. We're all going to be yoga fanatics soon! But like @TerribleImagination said if it helps keep us chilled then it's only a good thing!

Oh bless you @Dannybx that must be so hard! It’s hard enough going through a MC let alone in these circumstances and I can imagine even more with your job! So pleased you have your son to keep you going! I’ve had 3 miscarriages in 6 months and have taken so much comfort from my children x

Sorry it was negative @Annny27 😫

And I'm out for this month. Good luck to those ladies still waiting to test. Xx

Nooooo @Ejb86!! Did AF arrive early?? I’m so so sorry lovey 😢

Aw no @Ejb86, so sorry AF arrived😞
@Annny27 I’m so sorry it’s a BFN, ur not out yet but i know it’s hard to believe that when you see the BFN. I do prefer to know before AF arrives too..psyches you up for it at least.

@scrumdiddly123 That’s so frustrating that they didn’t just scan you regardless. But at least you did get confirmation that you’ll be looked after again.
Hopefully May will bring a record no of BFPs for us now!

@Dipsy77 how did your call with your GP go?

@Dannybx welcome and I’m sorry for the loss of your twins.xx

@Leok83 thank you x

Ah I’m sorry @Ejb86! May is going to be a good month for us all 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@leok23 thanks for asking,
I waited all day for the call went through everything with her, she said that she was reluctant to bring me in for swabs due to the current situation so she is treating me for thrush first, a tablet and cream and if that doesn't work I've to go in for swabs. I did ask if I could have antibiotics but she said that I'd need swabs first, I also mentioned I'd used caneston last week and it didn't work so I'm sure it's not thrush she said it's the same stuff she is prescribing me but there's no harm giving it another go. I fully expect to be in the same position next week but I suppose it's best to try and avoid going in although I do think I will be at some point x

@Dipsy77 hopefully it gets sorted soon. I spotted after my first AF for 20 days right up to ovulation (so really for about 2 months after ERPC), thought it was infection too but swab came back good and it went away itself without any treatment..hopefully your might settle itself too.

@Leok83 thanks it seems to have been going on so long now I just want normality 17th feb seems like an age ago I thought everything would have settled by now so fingers crossed xx

@scrumdiddly123 I’m so pleased you are now back to a new start but so sorry it was so frustrating 😥but onwards and upwards now xx

@Anny27 much hugs on the BFN so sorry that was the result

@MilsCookie have you tested? Are you staying strong?

Sorry I’m trying to only check in a bit & there’s a lot to catch up on over the pages!

Was it @Dannybx with the due date on DDs birthday that must have been hard lots of hugs coming your way 🌈🤗

I’m finding the days in between the weekends when DH is here dragging so much with DS being a big handful & obsessing over TTC & yet I know it’s not going to work. We had a big fight on sat night after my second AF came 11 days after first when we should have been in fertile window & my bro had just had his baby it was horrible just felt so alone 😥but we made up of course I’m just worried if social distancing continues what are we going to do if TTC naturally fails

Feeling like crap today - ttc and the sadness that comes with it is actually turning me into a bit of a recluse. I feel like all my family and friends are just waiting for a pregnancy announcement or feeling sorry for me that I am not pregnant yet. Feel really pathetic when its only been 4 cycles trying this time (well a 11 months in total if we count from the start of ttc)

@TerribleImagination that's pretty impressive you manage to resist every month! Can I get some of that willpower next month 🤣🤣

@Ejb86 sorry that AF arrived :(

@fizzl yes I will deffo be enjoying those ciders when AF arrives! Wish it was sunny weather as it would have been perfect cider weather on the weekend haha

@Leok83 yeah it sort of softens the blow preparing yourself for AF

@minster2012 it must be really tricky in lockdown with children at rhe moment!

@scrumdiddly123 thanks 💗 another month of wishful thinking

@Annny27 I’ll send you some willpower over for next month 😉🥰 I manage not to test early, mainly because I couldn’t bear to see a positive test and then wait to see if it’s a chemical or not 🙈

Thanks for her name @Fizzl I am going to try her today! My friend also recommended a good podcast on Spotify - "Unf*ck your Brain" - I listened to one called "Brain Habits & How to Change Them" yesterday and I really liked her - funny and to the point!

@Annny27 I'm so sorry it was a BFN and that you're feeling low today. It is so so hard. I definitely feel like I'm on a rollercoaster every month with my emotions with how up and down I feel on different days! Have to try and keep the faith that it will happen for us. Sending hugs xxx

@Minster2012 that must be so tough. DP and I have had a few arguments and they always seem to happen at the start of a new cycle - usually caused by me having another meltdown at AF's arrival and the hormones flying everywhere! I'm 14dpo and still haven't tested. AF is due tomorrow so if she doesn't arrive by thursday I might test then but just got a feeling she'll be here by tomorrow! I keep having on and off cramps which is just so annoying because I think she's on her way and then the cramps disappear altogether!

Ooo @MilsCookie I might check out that podcast too actually, might try to get my head in a better place thank you- you’ve done brilliantly not testing well done! Stick with it I have everything 🤞🏻🤞🏻For you 🌈🥰

Sorry AF got you @Annny27 and @Ejb86
❤️❤️❤️ hope you both feel better
X

Just came to check your updates.

Not feeling great here... yesterday mum asked why i was waiting to try for another baby (as she knows about mc and i am 31 in a few days).
I couldn’t even find the words to explain that we had been trying for 5 months. So i just laughed nervously and made jokes.

Today DP s sperm came back and it’s not good. So we decided to enquire for ivf-icsi ...
As this will probably help us.

Strange days.

May was supposed to be relaxed and we just enjoy but now i know we can try for a while... and enjoy and not much will happen.