Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 2

[Annny27]

Hi ladies- setting up another thread so we can keep in touch :)

@ChampooPapi thanks for lifting the spirits!

@scrumdiddly123 AF being here is a good sign lovely. As you say it means there is a slow return back to normal

@Annny27 sorry you joined the pregnant cousin club, it really sucks.
It will be your turn too soon.
Still got fingers crossed for you and @MilsCookie since you should be testing soon-ish

@ChampooPapi 🥰😘💜 thank you that’s very kind. I’m a stubborn cookie and don’t give up on anything. I’ll get there as we all will!
Thanks @SunnySideUp2020 I’m really hopeful x

My best friend just posted a bunch of gorgeous pictures of her two beautiful children. Her youngest turns one on thursday and I love her kids so much and I feel so awful because all I could do was sit and cry I've been coping well over the last few weeks but I'm home alone tonight and I saw it and the flood gates opened. I feel so awful for being upset and I feel like I shouldn't tell anyone but I know you ladies understand. I was so motivated for the next cycle and now I just feel so sad.

@Annny27 I’m ok thanks, trying to be positive for this cycle and steer clear of googling too much! When are you testing?

Aw I’m sorry ur having a tough time @GlitterFairy1412. It’s normal to have days like that though so have a good cry and hopefully today you’ll feel better. Soon it’ll be your time to be posting pics of your newborn..Hugs 🤗

@scrumdiddly123 that’s great that AF came! Really hope it’s a reset for you..best of luck today!

@Sparkl I know you're totally right. Think I just need to step away from google. I was going to ring the doctors again today but I've talked myself out of it because I think they will think I'm slightly neurotic 😂. I need to remind myself I got pregnant before so I'm sure my body can do it again.

@Annny27 and @GlitterFairy1412 sorry you had a tough day yesterday. I dread any pregnancy announcement now which makes me feel awful and selfish but I've accepted it's also normal.

@scrumdiddly123 I'm glad things are hopefully resolving for you. Fingers crossed you can move forward now.

@Leok83 it's good to hear you're staying positive. I definitely need to take a leaf out of your book and stay away from google.

@ChampooPapi good to hear from you and thank you for your pep talk 😄

@Annny27 and @Milscookie good luck to you both. Hopefully AF stays away today 🤞

@Annny27 sorry about the pregnant cousin announcement, these things really are rubbish 😥we had a zoom call with my brother & his girlfriend & their new 2 day old baby yesterday who was wearing a babygrow I sent them which was one of our DSs, I was desperately trying to show “happy tears” 😬

@GlitterFairy1412 it’s fine to be upset, let it out 🤗big hugs xxxx

Good luck for the testing @scrumdiddly123 is that today or have I missed something I’m sorry it’s hard keeping track!

Fingers crossed @Annny27 & @MilsCookie

Morning ladies! 12dpo and brown spotting with cramps so AF deffo on the way!

Its really hard when people you know announce pregnancies or are at a similar stage that we would have been at! @fizzl @minster2012 @SunnySideUp2020 @GlitterFairy1412 yes as sunny said, it will be our turn one day 💪🤞💗

@TerribleImagination ah the tww! Any symptoms or too early yet?

@scrumdiddly123 glad that AF has arrived and its a brand new cycle for you now! Sorry that tour miscarriage was so prolonged this time 💗

@Leok83 I don't think I will test now as having the pre AF signs 🙄🙄

@MilsCookie any sign of AF yet? I am basically out but I hope you are still in with a chance 🤞🤞🥰🥰

Thank you ladies! Yes @Minster2012 it is today I just got to the hospital. Will let you know how I get on x

When you come down with severe tonsillitis and cant help but wonder if it is because your body is busy making a baby

Morning ladies,

No sign of AF but she's not due till Weds so definitely still time. I'm 13dpo and SO proud of myself for not testing haha - I am definitely a POAS addict so I feel like I've come a long way this month! My boobs don't feel as sore as they did a few days ago so I guess that's the progesterone levels declining before AF shows so therefore not pregnant! I've decided I'm onto cycle 5 now so counting this as CD-2 haha .

@Annny27 ohhh I'm sorry. Fingers crossed it's not AF but I'm sorry if it is. I'm about to go and do a food shop so gonna stock up on lots of treats ready for her arrival!

@scrumdiddly123 keeping everything crossed that it all goes well today. AF is definitely a good sign and I hope it means it's a clean slate for you to start moving forward now! x

Thanks @Fizzl. You have been pregnant before and you will be pregnant again. Are you going to "try" this cycle? I think we're gonna carry on as we did last month - not trying but not preventing just because it really does help my mental health.

@TerribleImagination really hope this is your month!! fingers crossed for you xx

@Ejb86 hahaha love that - are you googling it as a possible early pregnancy symptom? I do that about EVERYTHING. I felt quite horny yesterday (soz - TMI! and googled "High sex drive before BFP?" It was prob just because I was bored! I need to stoppp googling everything haha!!

@GlitterFairy1412 it's okay to feel like that. Just cry and let it aaaall out. Just think - we will have adorable little babies when our friends and cousins (my cousin is pregnant too :-( ) have older more annoying kids haha!! And we WILL have our babies one day soon, I promise xxx

My DP has taken DD for her daily walk so I've time to myself so what do I do look at all the photos and videos of when I had a bump last year, my due date would have been on DDs first birthday so would have been at same stage now as I was last year watching video of her kicking this time last year makes me so want to be pregnant!, I'm currently waiting for gp to ring me as I've been spotting before and after this period (second after MMC) so I think I may have an infection, it's so frustrating I just want to crack on and get trying again I'm 43 so time is against me !x

Just got home, was a total waste of time! Waited half an hour desperate for a wee ready for my scan. The nurse then called me through and said the consultant just wants to go straight to an internal scan so can you empty your bladder and do me a sample. So did that and waited another 10 minutes, the test (with the most dilute wee ever) came back negative so the consultant had decided I actually didn’t need to be scanned after all! I didn’t even meet the consultant but she was relaying this to the nurse who then told me. And no need for another blood test either!
so they’ve concluded it’s now a complete miscarriage. Which is good but a bit miffed I wasted my time for them to just do a pregnancy test which I could have done at home (and in fact did this morning which was still v faintly positive!).
So that was it. I asked the nurse about the recurrent miscarriage clinic and she said they are still running it but offering telephone consultations and doing blood tests and ultrasounds if needed. So that’s one positive as the GP has already sent my referral so might get the ball rolling with that quicker than I thought.
And also when I get pregnant again they will see me through the first 12 weeks and get me in for a scan at 6 weeks.
Not all the answers I was hoping for but at least they’re happy that this miscarriage is over and I can start trying again!

Ah sorry @Annny27 😔 it's so disheartening when you just know. If she does arrive, you can enjoy those ciders! I have no regrets about my wine on Friday and I'm back to feeling quite positive again now CD3.

@MilsCookie well even though we said we weren't officially trying last month we did end up trying 😂. Like you've said before when you know where you are in your cycle it's hard not to. And when we kind of decided to try we threw everything at it again 🙄. I'm going to continue temping and using opk's because I really want to get a clear idea of what's happening with my cycle and luteal phase so if I do need to go back to the gp I will go armed with all my impressive charts and data 😏.

But I am going to try and stay more chilled this month and not worry as much - probably won't happen. I've started doing yoga again which I used to love and just fell out of the habit. I may have also found 'fertility yoga' and thought well it can't help 😂 officially losing the plot I think.

Ah sorry your appointment was a bit of a waste of time @scrumdiddly123 it does seem odd they didn't scan you or send you for bloods just as a precaution seeing as you were there anyway!

@Annny27 Only 7DPO so currently trying to ignore twinges etc 🙈 I try and not overthink any potential symptoms, as hard as that is!

Aww thanks @MilsCookie ❤️ I hope so too! I hope it is for all of us!

Hello - hubby and I decided to start trying after miscarriage of twins earlier this year. Was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to be hopeful? X

@MilsCookie there's been heartburn too, but then I thought this could just be the lack of food in my stomach.

Then 111 and docs tell you that you could have coronavirus

@Dannybx welcome to our lovely supportive group. Such sad knews about your twins. How far along were you? I lost my girls in September at 16 weeks. X

@Ejb86 thank you so much! I was 7 weeks when it all went wrong. Had just got my head around it all. We’re ok though just getting back to the ‘new’ normal. I’m so sorry you suffered a loss too - virtual hugs. X

Thank you for your messages of support everyone, I knew you'd understand and I'm so glad I found this thread. I've slept on it and I feel much better today I'm going about this cycle with fresh eyes and as positive an attitude as I can manage. Good look and baby dust to all ♥️

Also welcome @Dannybx

@Ejb86 Sorry about the tonsillitis! I hope you feel better soon lovey ❤️

@GlitterFairy1412 thank you! I’m thinking positive thoughts for you. X

@Fizzl glad you're feeling more positive. I love yoga too and would love to know what fertility yoga you've been doing? I've been doing fertility meditation on YouTube! The channel is called "Fertility from the Soul". There's one for each week of your cycle. I find them really calming and they help me feel more positive. Definitely a good idea to keep measuring your BBT and doing OPKs if you're concerned about your LP. I still keep toying with the idea of taking my bbt because I think it would be really interesting! But just worry that it would make me even more obsessive than I already am . Keeping everything crossed for you in this new cycle!

@scrumdiddly123 ohhhh bloody hell how frustrating! I'm sorry it was a bit of a waste of time but at least they're happy that it's complete now and you can start to move on. What an ordeal!! That's great they'll keep a closer eye on you as well when you do fall pregnant again.

Ahhh @Dipsy77 I'm sorry. It must be so hard. I'm only about 6 weeks away from my due date now and the closer it gets the harder it is, especially as I naively thought I'd be pregnant again by now. Sending positive vibes xxx

@Ejb86 sorry about the tonsillitis and heartburn... how many dpo are you? I had heartburn at the start of my pregnancy... and like a lump in my throat? Fingers crossed for you!

Welcome @Dannybx sorry you have to join this club but everyone here is super supportive. I like the fertility meditations I mentioned on YouTube... will link week 1 here: