New thread for the crazy gang - part 4!

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Hope you don't mind - I'm taking ownership this time ladies 💁🏼‍♀️ old thread was filling up 😉😘 here we go again!!

@Ange211
@Beau20
@Danni2019
@Missgoldilocks
@Katie1109
@Fredthespider
@Langpants
@BFP2020
@WaitingOnThePositive

Plus our BFP's @Sunflower2019 @Quiffy

Apologies if I missed anyone!! ❤️❤️

@missgoldilocks I was on Rigevedon for years, came off in December, had my withdrawal bleed, then a normal-ish period but it took 44 days to arrive, then last one was just spotting for about 8 days, and now this! While I was on the pill, they were heavier than this, probably 3 or 4 days of flow and then a really light day to finish.

I'm trying to avoid convincing myself it's implantation bleeding, but I know I'm going to end up wasting another fiver on a test now that I'm off work and can dwell on it 😂🤦‍♀️

@LV1987 I know what you mean, I'm actually sitting here saying maybe it's implantation for me too haha but then I shrug it off 😂😉 I think you need to give yourself a few months for your body to go back to normal after contraception, I'd say at least 6 months before your cycles normalise but I'm no doctor lol it could be shorter or longer but I'd say give yourself some more time for your cycles to settle. Contraception fuuuuucks your cycles up

Thing is @missgoldilocks, I've got nothing better to do right now 😂 my RHR is already on its way back up, which to a normal person says "period nearly over!" but to a crazy like me, it says maybe, just maybe, this isn't a period at all... I'm rationalising myself by saying I won't test unless RHR goes higher than it was elsewhere during my cycle. I feel like that's as good a compromise as my obsessed locked down brain is going to manage right now! Somebody knock me out for the next week 😂🤦‍♀️

@Beau20 love the name of that website lol 😂 I wonder what was your google search when you found it lol 😂😂 but some sound advice there! x

Morning ladies. Well I had a complete meltdown last night with a proper cry no idea where it came from. My partner rejected my advances last night and went off to sleep and then convinced myself well that's us out for another month if he won't even DTD when I need him too. I feel bad for being so annoyed with him as it's not even his fault he didn't even know. Think it's worse this month as this month marks a year since my miscarriage and I just thought we would have a baby by now or at least be pregnant and we are no where near. Have not cried like that in a long time and it totally came out of no where had been quite happy all day. Feeling strange this morning but need to stay in good spirits for my son 🙁

@Danni2019 sending you some massive socially distant hugs. I struggle with being told no at the best of times, so I feel your heart ache. Throw in some hormones and being trapped in the house, this TTC business can make our relationships more pressured than ever. Hang on in there 😘

I've take the plunge today and ordered some clearblue ovulation tests. Our holiday was officially cancelled by Jet2 today (we were due to fly a week before they are anticipating running flights again, d'oh!) so we had a bit of a chat in bed and decided now is the time to try and work out what's going on with my eggies 🤷‍♀️

Oh @Danni2019, massive hugs from me too! I totally get the rejection, my OH struggled massively during FW between work stress and being tired he would quite often not have the energy to go that often.

To try and make you feel a bit better you got your positive OPK on Sunday didn't you? If so tbh last night would have probably been too late anyway, so don't beat yourself up. You're better off aiming for the few days before ovulation as it takes the sperm a little time to reach where it needs to be for the egg when it's released x

@LV1987 and @Fredthespider your right was probably too late last night. Got positive OPK on Monday morning and managed to DTD before Monday a few days and on Monday night so hopefully that may have been enough. Just these 12 hour shifts at the moment at the total wrong time are annoying he is just too tired after which I totally get. Feeling better now and just have to keep fingers crossed that before was enough x

Thanks again @LV1987 and @Fredthespider for the virtual hugs it does make a difference letting it all out on here you feel better after getting it off your chest x

We're always here @Danni2019! TTC can be such lonely business as it's rare that you'll tell anyone in real life that you're trying, and you are even less likely to go into the detail that we do here 🤣 x

@Fredthespider how are you feeling? It must have sunk in by now x hopefully its going nice and easy for you without any extreme symptoms x
@Danni2019 sending hugs to you x don't worry yesterday evening was likely too late anyway x fingers crossed you have done enough!
I'm CD 10 today, so probably 5 days away from ovulation (4 days if last cycle is anything to go by) so I'm in my FW. We DTD last night, probably night off tonight and will be enjoying plenty of baby-making sex over 4 days weekend - lets face it, not much else to do anyway! :)

@danni2019 so sorry lovely. It's incredibly disheartening to face another month without that little bit of hope. Sending lots of virtual hugs to you. x

@danni2019 ah - should have read to the end before my last response. Hugs still stand, but there is hope! Fingers crossed for you. We only managed to DTD (just after positive opk) right before ovulation too. So we're in the same boat. I'm 5dpo right now. x

Thanks @Langpants holding on to a little bit of hope as you never know and the day before ovulation is supposed to be the best time for DTD anyway so fingers crossed for us both. Will look forward to hearing your news as your af will be due just before mine.

@Beau2020x how are you getting on? I know your weren't doing OPKs this month anyway but were you still temping or are you going cold turkey on all ovulation tracking? X

Hi girlies! Sorry I've not been as active the last couple of days, thanks for checking in @Danni2019 🥰

I've decided I'm going to take a little break from Mumsnet. Yesterday this whole shitshow just came to a head, had a little falling out with OH and had a massive cry. He said (and I agree) that he's just not interested in sex as much because he feels like it's for one purpose only (which I feel the same) and that he feels like I only want it now so I can get pregnant (half right). He thought I'd be pregnant by now and never ever wanted to actively try for this exact reason, he just wanted it to naturally happen. And now it isn't he feels like I'm maybe trying even harder (which I'm actually not). I feel under so much pressure every single month to get the timing right I'm stressing and causing unnecessary stress and arguments when he doesn't want it. I also got upset because I want him to 'want' to try you know, just so I feel like I'm not going this alone. But I honestly know it would be far far worse if we did actively try. But at the same time if he knew the key days then he would know any other time was just for fun. He doesn't actually believe me that there are like only 3 days you can get pregnant the silly man and that made me so angry!! 😡

Anyway, I feel like a lot of things are getting on top of me. I'm staying off social medial (I think it's toxic anyway) and away from anything that allows me to obsess or get upset over it so really REALLY am giving up on this whole TTC thing. I honestly never thought the whole process would be as shit as this. I mean what is the point of starting a pregnancy on stress and arguments? I have the upmost respect for the couples that go though this 12 months + because it's bloody HARD!

I'll be keeping an eye on this thread keeping everything in my entire body crossed for everyone on here to get their well deserved baby soon. Much love to you all 💕

Hi @Beau20 I hope the break gives you and your OH the head space you need, lots of love xxx

I seem to have my "real" period now, but could use a little input as to what to call CD1. On Monday, I had real blood but only once when I wiped (TMI but after my morning poo 🤦‍♀️). For the rest of Monday and all of Tues, nothing but pink CM and not even enough to mark a panty liner. Weds, nothing all day to the extent that I thought AF had already left the building, then Cramps, upset tummy and full flow late evening. Today is the same.

Would I be best off using Monday, yesterday or today as CD1?

@Beau20 Just popping in to say hope you're okay and you look to be making all the most sensible choices for your relationship and your well-being. I agree it would be much easier if he did realise that there really is only a few key days to get pregnant so he could see the rest is for fun. However, ditching trying and getting back to just the two of you sounds best as your relationship is the most important. I have everything crossed that your stepping back helps you get your BFP. Take care and always here for a chat if you need it

@Beau2020x I'm so sorry you and your partner are going through a hard time. I feel like my partner and I are nearly at this point as this month seems to be the hardest we have had. I wish you well on your break and hope that you can get back some of the spark in your relationship and you both enjoy your time together again. Also wishing that your break brings that BFP you so deserve x

@LV1987 I usually get pink spotting before my period for a couple of days sometimes can even get it 4 or 5 days before so I don't count CD1 until I get proper red blood and that seems to work out in my cycle length as I seemed to have finally levelled out to 26 day cycle and ovulation around day 13. If it was me I would count CD1 as the first proper blood day x

Thanks @Danni2019... If I'm CD2 now, that means we stopped BD'ing too early this month, d'oh! Oh well, onwards to month 4, and starting OPKs. Enjoying a gin tonight now 😁

Hi ladies, how is everyone?

Congratulations on those that got a BFP 🎉

Just wondering if I should make a appointment with the doctor 😕...come off the mini pill november the 23rd and still no sign of AF...do you think it's too early??? Feel like I'm in limbo land 😥

Hi ladies.. been a bit AWOL the last week or so, just had lots going on! Really been getting down about missing family etc over this lockdown 😩

@Beau20 as much as I don't ever want to tell someone to 'stop', it sounds to me a break for you both would do the world of good. TTC is so stressful and like you and others have said you're relationship should always come first at this point. Hopefully some time out will help you both relax a little, and who knows something good may even come of it!! Xx

@Boo2020 hate to say but I was on the pill non stop for 6-7 years and I still had no periods 10 months after coming off it. I had to get referred to obs/gynae and they gave me tablets to kickstart AF again. My cycles have never been consistent since though, vary between 30-40 days long.
Most dr's will probably tell you it can take up to a year for AF to come back on it's own but don't wait if they're willing to help sooner xx

TTC-wise for me, we've gone back to SMEP this cycle. CD16 today. Been DTD every other day since CD9, only doing 1 OPK a day and true to previous fashion my levels are fluctuating a bit 🙄 but O day is predicted sometime next week. So we shall see!
How's everyone else doing?
The weather here is beautiful but our garden is in the middle of major renovation so a bit like a building site more than a relaxing safe-haven 😬

Hey girls, this isn’t really related to the post but didn’t know who else to ask... need some advice. I’m seriously debating ending my relationship, it’s hard as I do love him but he doesn’t pull his weight at home and being pregnant I want to feel looked after a little.
He never wants sex anymore, I know it’s not the most important thing but I don’t feel at all in a relationship.
I know my pregnancy hormones don’t help but I feel like his mother and not his girlfriend, I don’t even feel as if he’s interested in this baby.

Xxx

@Boo2020 @Quiffy thank you both 💕💕

@Sunflower2019 hey lovely!! Listen, all I can offer is advice on what I have experienced - last time me and my BF were pregnant (not planned but not protecting) my BF lost the plot. Completely. Told me to get an abortion (even though he was desperate for a child) etc etc. He lost his shit basically. He was shitting himself. Some men just lose it when shit gets real. My OH totally took everything back when I told him I was leaving him and aborting our baby - decided me and the baby were all he wanted and actually proposed to me (I said no). Long story short I aborted it and it was the worse decision I ever made... yes he stepped up but it was too late. Men lose it - my mum told me my dad did the exact same (they were married) when she fell pregnant with my sister. Some men REALLY struggle when things like babies happen. I'm not making any sense here but my mum and my dad are still together. Me and my OH are still together. Your BF needs a head wobble that's all I can say. He's freaking and one day he will realise what he has and I absolutely promise you this will he fine 💕 take a time out, make him realise what he will lose, take control and I promise you, it will be fine. You've got this lovely.

@Mumofboys17 I meant to tag you there 🙈