Feeling alone TTC

[Sitchervice]

Hi there. Feeling quite alone.

I'm 2 days late but have nearly 0 symptoms other than bloating, small cramps.

I'm 100% sure ill get a BFN but I do want to know if other people have got a BFP with no symptoms.

My Hubby and I have not told anyone in our Fam as they can be quite neg about us and our capabilities. So I have no one to turn to for guidance.

Help 😭

Hey Beautiful 👋
I know we are chatting on the symptom post I created but I wanted to say 👋.

I want to tell you your totally not a lone. Here if you ever need a chat, your more than welcome to send me a private message.

It would be nice to have a TTC buddy 🥰

I think most of us feel a bit alone (part of the reason we’ve joined here)! Not being able to tell people makes it lonely.

If it helps at all, I had a BFP last month with no symptoms. It turned out to be a chemical pregnancy, but it was still a positive with no symptoms! You’re not out until AF is here.

It is hard. I've had a bad day today. I'm 8 dpo and decided I'm out. Clearly factually I do not know that. Gut feeling maybe. Plus every month is never the same.

No friends know. DH moans if I talk about it constantly. So when you are feeling deflated its hard! I was happy yesterday. Just not today. 🤣

@paintfairy it's very up and down isn't it.
I tested at 10... BFN... I feel the same as you... I don't think it will be smooth ride for me like these lucky women xxx

Definitely not alone, there's February and march bus threads if you like to join us

@Elmlee Age isn't on my side so that doesn't help. I'd like to be able to relax and know it'll happen at some point but it's impossible. Maybe it'll settle after a year of trying. 😂 But I suppose you expect the worst? My DH is like- just forget about it? But it's so hard!

I don't think Im going to have it easy. I hope but I don't know. Getting BFN is not fun. :/

I have a woman at work who said to me oh it's so easy I came off the pill then next month I was pregnant!

That really doesn't help matters ¬. ¬

@paintfairy I don't think even though I'm only 28..
Nearly 29... I could hack a year. I've decided if nothing changes by the end of March I'll be going to the GP.
Im currently on day 47 and it's grim.

I'm taking folic acid, multi vitamins and I'm going to overhaul my diet I think.

As @Sitchervice said they don't tell you how long it can take after coming off the pill. I really wise I'd came off it after we had got married xx

@Sitchervice no that doesn't help! I came off it early in a hope it avoided problems there.

@Elmlee Day 47?! What? Could try taking Shatavari? I'm trying that. Yes you have time yet. I'm much older than you so I don't sadly. But I know worrying won't help, despite being unable to stop!

@paintfairy ooo what's that? Is it ok to take with other vitamins? X

Hi I just popped on to say you’re never alone here! When I was TTC last year the other users here were fab. I was lucky enough to conceive very quickly but here’s what I did

Use an app 100%, Flo was good for me as it was simple.
Use conceive plus/pressed lubricants (i conceived the first month I used preseed so worth every penny in my eyes).
If you’re a worrier just ditch the ovulation tests and just have lots of sex! The sperm meets egg plan was really helpful for me if you already know when you ovulate.

Good luck ladies x

@Nemchen thank you very much for the positive advise. Much appreciated 🥰

@Elmlee its instead of agnes castus - Google its properties. I take it with my preconception vits.

Day 3 still nothing. Feeling like I should probably take a test but also that it's too soon. :/ hmm

I'm out this month ladies, I tested today and think I'm totally out. Apparently I'm 12DPO... not a sausage.

Hopping on to March bus I think!

So my husband has advised me to see a doctor as we both think this time its just a UTI (I have a condition which means I'm really prone to them) I've booked an appointment so we will see. Here's to hope that my possible UTI has the potential to have a heart beat in a few months!

I'm finding it hard to keep positive now. I had a second BFN and still no bleed. ¬. ¬

I feel miserable today. Although af isn't due until the weekend, my usual spotting is starting and I know deep down I'm out. This really is rubbish.

Heyy wondering if I could maybe join??
I came off the pill 18th December, had withdrawal bleed from 20th to 25th. Nothing since! CD 66! Really thought (naively) I would go back to 28 day cycles 😣.

I understand I'm technically only in cycle 1 of ttc but now I've missed 2 (usual length) periods I feel like I'm losing the plot a bit

Ps yes Ive taken tests... 6 of them! Help x

@Katbaby I've been told by doctors it usually takes 3 months. I stopped my Pill december has withdrawal bleed normal length cycle then 3 weeks bleeding. Now nothing but I'm only on day 35. If you reach your 3rd month with no AF go to doctors. But I hear ya it's crazy making!

@paintfairy - big hugs- I feel like sometimes spotting is worse than AF as its almost like teasing!

@Sitchervice It's like- yeah it's all going wrong but you can wait until the weekend to know for sure!

@Sitchervice yeh I went to see gp a week or so ago, she said the same.
However she was incredibly helpful and has booked me bloods for this Thursday. I just keep getting hopeful that Ive ovulated late and that maybe it catches.
@paintfairy try to not let it get you down. Easier said than done I know! I'm thinking if my period turns up I'm booking a weekend away. Ttc could be expensive if I drown my sorrows in holidays and trips everytime af shows 🤣🤣🤣

@Katbaby 😂 or very fat if you eat lots of chocolate to console yourself, like I just did.

I do hope you get your bfp, it’s honestly very hard the waiting game. I was 2 days late this month and got really hopeful and then started my period today :(