March Is our Month (testing 14th)

[Sjp17]

Hi Ladies.
Starting a March group.
Our 4th cycle TTC #2. I'm still breastfeeding my son who is 1 this week.
Currently on CD3, expecting to ovulate 26-29th February.
MARCH WILL BE OUR MONTH ✨
Stacey

@Sjp17 mines the 18th!

@YellowFlower22 had the mucus, but only ever had a totally negative OPK... (hoping they're not working rather than I'm not ovulating..!)

@Sjp17 @Sunandshowers ahh mine is the 16th March! So we are 16th, 17th, 18th, lovely 😊 so hope we get our BFPs as birthday presents..!

For those thinking about SMEP, I created a thread in December and it's very active - it should be quite high up on the conception boards, feel free to join! X

Ah, birthday girls!

Does anyone else feel like they're surrounded by people who are pregnant or getting pregnant?! I know it prob just feels like it but currently 5 friends are expecting their second and my SIL just had her 3rd. I feel like an awful person for being a bit jealous of them all and it really feels like it's everyone but me..!

@Lizziejayne13 - welcome and good luck. I get how disheartening it is, especially when you've really tried everything on a particular month. Hang in there until next FW and do lots of nice things for you (like have long hot baths as you won't be able to have those in early pregnancy!)

@RR369 -good advice - I have used a new reader and it is negative! So glad I've not wasted the energy in trying to DTD! Will keep on testing using combo of the cheapies and the CB and try to catch it at right time.

@Sunandshowers - welcome and good luck! I hear you on the cycles, I'm also TTC number 2 and mine have been a nightmare since having him, hence now trying the acupuncture, Fingers crossed for us.

@2020wish - hello. Never done SMEP though think we sort of did it on the cycle we conceived DC so maybe we should go back to that! Good luck

@tgwjslo - welcome and good luck! At least the acupuncture is relaxing hey? Always feel a bit spaced when come out!

@Ellsbells112 - welcome and good luck!

@Sjp17 - let us know what neuropath says and good luck with it!

@YellowFlower22 - not had it on CD3 but, depending on how old you are, I have heard you can possibly have two surges a month if you're older. SO maybe that? Have you used the CB sticks as a double check?

@Sunandshowers - yes totally! I think you just notice it more when you're TTC and obviously it bother you more then too. When I lost my first to MMC, literally EVERYONE I saw or heard about was pregnant and I'm ashamed to say I had a VERY hard time dealing with it, as it just seemed very unfair. Then when I got pregnant with what is now my DC (currently sat on floor, 17 months, watching Peppa Pig!), I didn't really notice anyone getting pregnant, even though of course they were!

It is the same now. Unfortunately my room mate at work is a little insensitive (she's only 23 though so I forgive her), as she knows I'm TTC and struggling and she keeps banging on about X, Y, Z person is pregnant, seems like every day!

What I would say, is that whilst it's hard not to be jealous (2 of my team mates are going off in next few months to have their 2nd and 3rd!), you never know what struggles they themselves have had privately. Just after I had lost my first, I bumped into a guy I know whose wife had just had their first. I was obviously very nice about it to him and congratulated him, but when I walked away I was crying and thinking "it's ok for them, they've got a baby, life is easy for them". A few weeks later a mutual friend mentioned them and said how great it was they had finally had a baby - turns out they had been pregnant twice before and had lost both. So it does happen really easily for some (and they will never understand the pain of being unable to conceive or losing a baby) but for more than you think, the road is not easy.

Sorry, long post, guess I'm just saying hang in there - it is something that a whole lot of people do struggle with, they just don't necessarily talk about it x

@burntpinky 100% agree! I never noticed all the pregnant people once I was pregnant and now it also feels like they are everywhere every announcement hurts but we don't know what they went thru to get there and soon enough we will be those ladies too!

I love your positivity

Not looking so good this cycle for me seems I have a bit of hormonal imbalance going on that I need to straighten out, so while it's still a possibility it's just slim, I've been spotting for 2-3 days before AF which has been the norm since my periods returned at 7mo PP but that is usually caused by a little lack of progesterone the one you need for a pregnancy to implant so having some bloods etc done and starting a whole host of vitamins and herbal remedy to rebalance and try shorten my cycles a bit more, last one was 32 days and that was my shortest PP, ovulated day 19, so trying to get ovulation also down to more like CD14/15 🤞🏼 it won't be too much longer

You're so right @burntpinky, I also know people who have/are struggling but my irrational brain tends not too focus on them (and my hormones are not helping!) Definitely helps to try and keep some perspective!

Sorry to hear that @Sjp17, hope the bloods give you some answers and the vitamins etc help with things.

So I seem to have EWCM, which makes no sense as I'm CD20. I did have heavyish what I thought was ov bleeding/spotting from CD13-17, but now I think might have been a weirdly early AF. Gah, I'm so confused right now This is all so frustrating!

Hope the acupuncture helps along with the vitamins etc @Sjp17 I think it takes our bodies a lot longer to settle hormonally after pregnancy when you bf but worth it imho xx
Sorry I've no advice on the ewcm @YellowFlower22 is it during AF?
I feel your frustration @Sunandshowers that sounds really confusing!! The only thing I've heard of that sounds similar is an early breakthrough bleed (counted as AF) in an annovulatory cycle. I've had two in the past after suspected CPs in the previous cycles. Could it be that?

@RR369 It could well be, my last cycle was 37 days so I assumed that was anovulatory. Have booked another doc's appt (last time I was told to 'wait and see') as I really want some answers, it's getting me down! (Plus I'm naturally v impatient!)

Why do people think it’s acceptable to ask if you’ll have another child? Friend of mine just asked me on what’s app (she’s sat there with two, never had trouble conceiving or a loss - also has a v rich Hubbie and doesn’t have to work, not that that’s relevant) - peeps can really be quite insensitive, esp as I’m 41 so it is obv more diff than if I was say 30. Grrrrr.

Oh well, CB still negative so no DTD tonight. Maybe tomorrow after acupuncture and Valentine’s Day (what a cliche!)

@RR369 no no period 🤔 only had a 2 day period this time round! Bizarre
Must of just been a surge of hormones...did another opk when I got back from work and pretty much non existent!
Hope everyone else is ok today.
@burntpinky feeling you there...although I've don't have children I'm 33 and forever being asked when I'm going to have a baby...just want to scream...WHEN MY BODY WILL ALLOW ME!!!

@Sunandshowers I think we all get very impatient while ttc, with only about 20% chance of pregnancy every month it's no wonder we get so frustrated when our bodies seem to be reducing those odds even more 😩 really hope the gp can help. Do you temp and use opks? Useful info to get the doc to listen.
@YellowFlower22 that's very bizarre indeed! Are you on any new supplements that could be affecting your cm??? I'm wracking my brain trying to think of possible causes???
@burntpinky when people ask me about a sibling for my DD, I tell them very bluntly that I had a horrific miscarriage last year and that shuts them up pretty quickly!! Can't believe people asking me if we're trying- none of your business!! Fingers crossed for ov soon for you, Valentine's night sounds perfect 😁 how long have you been going to acupuncture? I'm finding it very good.

@RR369 Only started OPK and temping this month and so far not very helpful..! Will discuss with the doc though.

@burntpinky That is never ok to ask!! Why do people think it is?!

@Sunandshowers if you want to post your temp chart, maybe some of us might have some insight?? What app do you use for charting?

@RR369 Here it is. Currently using My Tracker. Big temp drop is right when I was mid weird poss AF and the previous one was originally what I thought might be ov...

When does everyone start using the ovulation tests? Day after their period? Sorry still very new to this so appreciate the advice :)

@tgwjslo Good question! (Also quite new to this!) This month I did every day from finishing AF, but that's because I currently have no idea when I ov. Lots of things I have read suggest from CD8 onwards.

Thanks @sunandshowers what CD are you currently at?

@tgwjslo That is a great question..! Going by what I thought was my last AF I'm CD21, but had weird mid-cycle bleeding from CD13 which could have been AF, meaning this would be CD9 (and yes, I'm confused!!)

What CD are you on right now?

@Sunandshowers sorry I haven't been on since yesterday. It's tricky trying to read charts from an unfamiliar app but I would suggest that bleeding around 5th Feb could have been AF so count as a new cycle and start opks again in case you're coming into FW 🤞hope that makes sense xx

Thanks @RR369, I think I will - better safe than sorry..!

Hi @tgwjslo I usually start opks CD8 but I think I'll try to use temps and cm to guide me on when to start this cycle as I use clearblue advanced and they're a bit pricey, used a whole box of 10 last month!