Anyone TTC first baby, aged 35 or over?

[Honolulu1]

Hello ladies,

Just looking for some pals who are in similar situation to me - hopefully we can support each other in this emotional journey. I'm 35, OH is 38 and we've been TTC first baby for over 12 months overall now (11 months trying). I naively thought it would be easier (emotionally and physically) than this. We sadly miscarried early in Sept so feeling even more cheated that we don't have out BFP by now. My GP has done tests which have all come back normal and have been referred to gynaecology, 1st appt in March. No idea what to expect from that

Would love to hear from others in similar situations, for a bit of moral support. I'm currently 2dpo; feel I should be more than used to 2ww by now, but it doesn't seem to get any easier x

Flo is deffo in the way, probably today/tomorrow. Anyone in the same cycle?

Hello girls... Please let me in.
I am quite desperate.. And trying to stay sane.
I am 36 and I have two kids from my previous marriage (12 and 6). Now my second husband and I are trying for outmr baby... He is 30.
I have been taking pregnacare for 2 months now switched to Proce Max. I was almost certain it would happen fast, but no... And now it is all I can think about. I am doing ovulation tests this month and I even bought some Conce Plus lube...
I don't drink or smoke, neither does my husband. I am so worried we will not get pregnant... Any positive stories here? Good luck to you all, xxx

Hey @claireb707, I've not heard of a nabothian cyst...had to Google it! Hope you get it treated soon if that's what it is. Keep us updated x

I'm the same cycle as you @EB211. I feel like AF is on her way today. I always get so devastated and emotional when it arrives, even though I know I should be seeing the positive that's it's the start of a new cycle and another chance! It's just hard to see that initially. Do you think you'll be doing anything different this cycle?

Welcome to the thread @Adrianoska. It's so hard to keep your head together when TTC, I hear you that it really is mostly all I think about too! I'm not sure I can offer positives but I didn't want to leave you hanging for a response. My GP said it's normal for it to take 6-12 months to conceive if there are no problems, so sounds like you're well within that range currently. Hopefully you'll get there soon. It must be so amazing for you to have 2 children already....that's my absolute dream 😀 Fingers crossed we'll get there one day soon x

@Honolulu1 thats a good way of looking at it. I think I'm going to measure my temperature this month, something I haven't done before. Also make sure we BD every day. We've tried every second day before this. May as well give it a go!!

Thank you so much @honolulu1, indeed it is a maddening process.
I just can't wait! I would do anything to get a positive results..
Anyway, I am testing my ovulation for the first time. I hope that will go. OK. X

I got my BFP just two days ago! one day before my 37th birthday!

We were trying for 20 months! We had already have all the fertility tests done and we were waiting for the IVF referral.

We have an ugly combination of PCOS and low sperm count which made it very very difficult for us, but clearly not imposible.

Now just crossing all my fingers, toes and legs and waiting for everything to go well.

Congratulations @lunit4. What great news x

Congratulations! 🎉🎉🎉

Congratulations @Lunit4 here's hoping for a happy and healthy 9 months

Oh wow @Lunit4 you must be ecstatic! Congratulations!

Congrats @Lunit4 what amazing news. That gives me a lot of hope 😃

Have you tried SMEP @EB211? We used that plan the month we conceived before MC. It didn't work for us the next couple of months, so went to daily in fertile week, then twice daily (which was exhausting, poor OH, haha), then around every other day last cycle. May go back to SMEP this time!

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend whatever you are up to x

Congratulations, @lunit4! x

@Honolulu1 I hadn’t heard of that before, will try it! AF arrived this morning along with painful cramps ugh! Anyways, on to the next go! Going to get a thermometer too I think x

Congratulations @Lunit4 !!! I wish you a very healthy pregnancy!!!

Morning everyone, hope you are all keeping well. So what appears to be my period started yesterday after only 15 days.....last cycle was 40. I have no idea what's going on, but feeling a bit useless

@Bearhug9 how are you feeling? what is your cycle doing at the moment?

we've been invited on a family holiday to Efteling in the Netherlands in October half term....... I'm guessing I wouldn't want to travel / wouldn't get insured after 32 weeks, which would mean a due date of mid-December? is that right? So I can't book it yet I don't think

sorry I'm on the wrong thread! ARGH! embarrassing!!!

@inahaze :) easily done sometimes!!

@Bearhug9- that's odd isn't it as you were getting flashing smilies last week. Did you get a peak in the end? So frustrating that AF can be so inconsistent from one month to the next - she's a bit of a rebel at times. Is period fully kicked in full flow or spotting? x

My period started Sunday and has been weirdly very light, (sorry if tmi - bright red then straight to brown, where I usually get a dark red full flow main stage, but that stage didn't come this time). I think its odd and obviously have been googling but non the wiser. But will be adding that to my increasingly long list of questions to ask gynaecologist when I eventually get my appointment :)

So CD4 here (same as you cycle buddy @EB211) - gearing up for another round of this crazy TTC business. Trying to keep my cool this cycle and not get too stressed with it all.

Does anyone know anything about fertility acupuncture or any other alternative therapies?

Yes @honolulu cycle day buddies! AF pretty much gone, its only lasts three days nowadays and a lot lighter. I've got a doctors appointment next week so might tag on some questions about it!

I've decided to do that too. I'm going to try pre-seed this month as i think it can't hurt. Going to start testing on Friday I think.

Hello ladies!
I'm CD7... the process begins again this week! My OH is already informed that he's got work to do today!
Sorry about your irregularities @Bearhug9. Have you been on the pill before TTC?
For me, nothing new, except a lot of stress!
How's everyone doing?

Cd11 and flashing smiley for me today! Wish me luck, we're going in.. 😂🤞🤞😉

Haha good luck @claireb707!
@Morgane777 @Honolulu1 I was on the pill for years but I haven't taken it for about 3 years now so that should be well out of my system now. I never got a peak reading this month or last so I wonder whether I am even ovulating. The period has stopped now though, it was very light and only lasted 2 days. I normally have very heavy painful periods so I could definitely live with that as an alternative ..

@claireb707 good luck! I’m hoping that’ll be me on Friday!

@claireb707 good luck!
@Bearhug9 have you tried BBT? I did it for two cycles to make sure I was ovulating! I use the Fermometer app.
I'm in my fertile week and doing the tests as well! I should see a peak tomorrow or Saturday!
I'm hoping for good news on this thread!