ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

[winemakesmummyclever]

Hi,

I hope nobody minds me adding a new thread, but the other wouldn't let me reply.

LadyLush - Sorry to hear about your loss . In answer to your question, I thought I was around 11-12 weeks pg, but the scan said the baby was around 8-9 weeks. When I'd had the ERPC, the gynae reg said the uterus was around 14weeks and the baby was still 8-9 weeks.
I'm sure things do get better with time, but things are still pretty raw and new for me. I'm glad things are getting back to normal for you (and hopefully for others too).

jules, i dont often cry but im crying now. you are being so brave. life is shit and its not fair that 14yo's can get knocked up by a random stranger, drink and smoke throughout their pg then give birth to a perfectly healthy baby. its not fair that so many great mothers are on this thread mourning their lost babies and lost futures. its not fair that our babies arent with us. its not fair that the medical staff treat us with contempt, as if we have done something wrong.

but the one thing that gets me from one day o the next is the knowledge that my baby is somewhere, just waiting to be born. and that baby will be so loved, so cherished and so wanted that he/she will grow up to be confident, sociable, intelligent and happy. and your future child has the same destiny.

ps, where are you? we can have a cuppa anytime!

ah, we could meet in shrewsbury, not-quite halfway i think!

i always wanted 4. and i will have them.

i start my course on mon so will get my timetable then. can i CAT you so you have my email? then we can organise something properly!

Oh Jules, I am so sorry, and your message really made me cry. My mc baby would have been due at the end of this month and I find myself dreading the day more with every hour. To feel this way threefold is impossible to imagine and I send you all my sympathy and best wishes.

I have nothing to say that can make it better or not seem to trivialise your pain, except to say that I wish all the best for you and am thinking of you.

hi sybil, ikhyf. my ep was due 1st oct, im finding this month v tough!

im doing a holistic therapies course. if i get accepted that is.

Jules - sorry you are feeling so down at the moment. The flowers was a nice gesture from your work colleagues.

Flosspot - sorry about your house sale going belly up. Bet you feel like murdering the bs.

Torres - CONGRATULATIONS Brilliant news. So pleased for you. I am wishing away the next few weeks so that you can breeze through the worrying first stage

Mrs McJ - So happy all was well in the scan. Beautiful pics of your beautiful baby

Hi Lissie, it is a horrible thing to have in common. The worse thing I find is that everyone else around me has forgotten. I actually had to remind dh last weekend when the 1st of september came around and I mentioned how much I was dreading this month. He was really perplexed as to why. And he's not totally insensitive, he's just moved on. My parents have not mentioned it since the day after it happened. My mil mentioned it, but only to ask if I knew the sex of the baby and if I'd 'be able' to have more children. To be honest I'd rather she had forgotten.

A strange thing is I seem to wipe out due dates once I miscarry. I had to mentally add up how many weeks I would've been now (18). It must be a protective thing. I remember exactly what month/year I miscarried each time but not what date the baby was due.

Kensgirl - so sorry to learn that it's the anniversary of when your dad died Thinking of you and hope you get lots of TLC at this time xx

i have only stored a few of my due dates. it sounds harsh, but if i remembered the edd's of all 6 of my beans i think i'd go loopy.

((Jules)) - I am sitting here with silent tears running down my face for you, your dp and your babies. I really don't know what to say, but wanted to acknowledge your post and your pain and loss. I cannot imagine how I would be if I had to go through what you have been through. My heart goes out to you and your dp.

Are you receiving any counselling? I really think that it could help with getting through this dark time. It's good to know that your dh is doing all he can, but sometimes it helps to talk (or scream and sob) to someone a bit more removed from events. Wine and chocolate can only do so much good before they start doing harm.

I wish I had something more constructive to say. I just wanted you to know that people, both in RL and here, are around to try and help you get through this.

Off to bed now. Hope that you get some peace and rest tonight.

Not too bad but waiting for period to arrive so I can get on with the next cycle. The Evil Witch is being stubborn this month but bfns so far so she's just having fun at my expense. My brother and his girlfriend sent me flowers after my recent m/c and I was pleased to receive them. It's difficult for people to know what's the right thing to do.

my first mc was vv hard. i didnt think that anything could go wrong. when i was 7w pg with ds i had some bleeding and went for a scan, the nurse told me that she was seeing a 5w pg, not 7w. my first thought was "ive got my dates wrong" now it would be vv different. when my ep was found i was sure that either i would mc or everything would be fine. an ep didnt even cross my mind, all these things wouldnt happen to me.

even now, i cant believe that i have lost so many babies in such a short time.

My first was the most painful physically but the third was the one that hurt most emotionally.