Anyone testing beginning of Feb?

[CocoW]

Hello! I am new to this forum & wanted to chat to anyone testing around the same time as me at the beginning of Feb!
Going off the app I use I am about to ovulate so will be DTD lots over the next week!
I have been TTC for around 5/6 months now but haven't discussed with friends or family so hoping to feel better by discussing with people in the same situation

@CocoW insanely draining! We’ve had to pinky promise each other that we will DTD at least every other day next week. After a long day at work, the temptation to say “shall we just do it tomorrow?” Is too much! 🙈

One of the most frustrating things I’ve found though since TTC is people telling you “just relax and stop thinking about it, it will happen then!”

This doesn’t help!! It’s all I can think about!!

People who say ‘just relax and it’ll happen’ are the people who managed to get pregnant without even trying, mere days after coming off the pill. They mean well but they can’t understand their experience isn’t universal. They’ve never had to wait, to feel sad or anxious or desperate about conceiving, so how could they possibly get it?

Couldn't agree more with the 'it will happen when its mean't to happen' people.
I have only told 2 people when we first started trying & instantly regretted it due to all the 'just relax' comments. I've avoided the convo with them ever since.

Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend. I am working all of it but off on Annual Leave from Monday so looking forward to that & having lots of DTD time without being knackered from work🤣

How's everyone feeling this evening? X

Feeling positive, about to start a busy week of DTD as I should be ovulating by the end of this week 🙈 never thought DTD would become a chore!

Hi guys can. I join? AF due 10th Feb.

First month actively TTC however have not been on contraception for almost a year. Had a very early miscarriage in October and I'm hoping everything goes right this month!

Planning to DTD most of next week to cover fertile days and finger crossed we all have a sticky month!

Can I join? You all seem like lovely ladies. I'm due Feb 7th, started TTC baby #2 this month. The waiting is driving me mad already and I'm not even in the TTW yet.

I'm not doing any OPK testing or temperature taking, just DTD every other day and I'm going to wait until 2 days after AF to do a test (I purposely didn't get the 'early detection' ones this time to avoid that temptation).

Definitely not telling anyone we're trying, DS is at the age where people are starting to ask about when we're trying for a second so I tell them we're one and done.

I actually quite like DTD to conceive, it gets me in the mood a lot more .

Nat4392 I know what you mean lol..
My ovia app says I ovulated yesterday I haven't used opks but think I might buy some if not successful this month x

Hi everyone. Feeling pretty good. DTD last night and two days ago which is a miracle with my husbands shift work. Think I’m due to ovulate either today or tomorrow. I get strong ovulation pain every month so I go by that and log through an app, and don’t use OPKs.

How often do you manage to have sex? I hate the practical/ chore-like way of scheduling sex in but with one toddler, and both of us working, one of us with changing shifts, it can’t be helped.

Last time we conceived I feel like I put too much pressure on my husband to perform so I’m trying not to make a big deal of it. I’d like to have a chance to DTD again today and then that will probably be my window over. Do any of you ever feel sad that you have to plan this? My mum always bangs on about how none of her kids were planned. She must have been extremely lucky as my dad was always working. I couldn’t tell her I’m actively planning (I wouldn’t anyway, I don’t tell anyone, it’s private for me) because she seems to think that’s the wrong way to go about it.

@uisage that is so interesting. Does your partner feel likewise or do they feel under pressure to perform? My in-laws have been asking when the next one is coming practically since my son was three months old. I also told them I wouldn’t have any more to curb their enthusiasm. I find it so gauche it’s basically asking after people’s sex lives.

@KittyWindbag So long as I get naked, DH doesn't really care why 😂. I never say anything like 'we've got to try today', if neither of us were in the mood I wouldn't have pushed it but that didn't happen. A simple 'do you want sexytime' counts as foreplay for him. We conceived really quickly last time, I don't know how I would have been for the long run.

I can't believe how nosy people are! A year after I mrt DH, I went to his christmas party. His boss's wife asked if we were going to get married! None of your business, nosy parker. The most cringe when I told someone I was pregnant was when they tried to figure out the conception date.

@KittyWindbag How are you feeling about trying for number 2? I genuinely don't want to be pregnant again or to have a newborn. He's only just started sleeping semi reliably so that we don't need to go to him in the night. But I really want 2 children and to get the baby phase over and done with!

@KittyWindbag yeah I agree, I hate that it feels like chore and think it puts a lot of pressure on my partner which isn't fair.

I wish we could catch 'unplanned' so to speak but I've been off contraception now for a quite a while without much luck

@uisage I quite enjoyed pregnancy first time round, once I got past the first sixteen or so weeks of constant nausea 😬 the newborn phase is the hardest and I think my memory has really softened the edges of what was a very hard first year. But I love the toddler stage and at least this time around I know that it is ALL phases, the difficult and trying bits do change, or end, or make progress. Trying to remember that.

@samantha00 I envy people who just luckily get pregnant spontaneously. I feel like there’s a little shame stigma attached to really wanting and trying to have a baby. Like, poor you, you must be doing it wrong, I just had lots of fun spontaneous sex and oh gosh, here I am six months preggo, didn’t even notice

Anyone else feel ovulation pain? I get it like clockwork every month, a very specific pressure/pain that lasts a few hours. Was supposed to have it yesterday but didn’t feel it. I know the science is murky about whether the pain means actual ovulation is occurring or wether it’s an indicator that ovulation is about to happen or has happened... I feel frustrated that I haven’t felt it. Now I’m wondering if it happened at night and I slept through it or if it’s happening later than I expected this month.

Am I just being paranoid? Probably.

@KittyWindbag let's just hope it's overnight! Or maybe you'll get it today. It's so hard not to symptom spot. I do envy those people that are carefree and just dtd without worrying about it, but I'm not wired that way!

I never feel anything, which is maybe a blessing. I had a straight forward pregnancy, but I had nausea for the first 13 weeks swiftly replaced by indigestion and insomnia for the duration. Plus my husband works long hours, so I'm not looking forwards to stuff like bathtime and lowering him into his cot while I'm pregnant.

@kittywindbag I get frustrated with ovulation too.. I don't even think I have this month 😞 iv got cm But haven't had ewcm sorry for tmi. I get a niggly pain around that time and a feeling of heaviness which I have had over the weekend so I don't know 😬 x
Just hope iv covered enough for something to happen 🤞

@KittyWindbag I also feel I get ovulations pj s every month, feel just like period pains but on only one side. I had them yesterday & going via my app it was ovulation day.
I have always questioned whether I am just symptom imaging because I am so desperate for us to conceive.

We have only managed to DTD 3 times so far over this last week due to a change in our work shift patterns so now I already have the fear of a negative before ovulation is even over 😔🙃

Hi All - I'll be due AF on 3rd February too! According to my app I should have ovulated yesterday - so my TWW officially starts now!

Kind of feel like I might of ovulated earlier this month that predicted. we have been dtd every 2/3rd day anyway so fingers crossed for some February magic. really trying no to get to clinical about it all as it takes all the fun away!

I'm going to need help in resisting testing too early. I've promised myself never to actual test again until AF is 'late' after the disappointment of a CP in November.

Was absolutely convinced last month was our month - had really crazy symptoms more so even than the cycle with the CP! But nope AF came bang on time.

Can i join please 😊

@BethJade of course! What’s your situation? 😊

Been TTC for 6 months now, my 3rd baby but partners first, using opks everyday, I think I'm due to ovulate in the next few days as I have quite short cycles, got confused yesterday as I got a positive opk and Hpt! Today they all just look like evaps I can't be pregnant as I've just finished my period!
Xxxx

We only managed to DTD three times during fertile window as well, @CocoW as my husband is on night shifts at the moment, which always mucks things up. My son has also been unwell and now I can feel I’m getting it. Super.

I think I must have ovulated as, even according to my apps, which are always about a day out compared with my actual ovulation pain, ovulation window has passed. I didn’t feel the pain this month. Perhaps I didn’t ovulate? I record every month and this hasn’t happened before. Possibly a sign for me to take a step back and get off the paranoia wagon. It took us a few months last time so logically it will take a few months this time

3 times is enough! That's all we do, and, looking back, all we did in the fertile window when DS was conceived. Every other day is good because it lets him make enough high quality sperm, and you are almost as fertile the day before ovulation because they hang around for 24 hours.

The app says that I'm due to ovulate on Saturday and we'll be staying at my mum's house. Awkward! I also think I've come down with a UTI.

Can I join you ladies too? You are right when you say some of the other threads are pretty intense!
I’m due AF 11th Feb so will be starting TTC #2 this weekend/next week