Anyone TTC second baby?

[Lnix]

Hey! Just looking for some folks in a similar position to start a chat with.

I'm 34 and have been trying for a second child for 6 months. With my first, I didn't realise how lucky we were when we got pregnant in the first cycle with no real trying. I was 30 at the time. Our daughter has just turned 4.

This time, I tried the relaxed approach for a couple of months to start with and then resorted to opks and an app to give some guidance as to when would be a good time to try.

Anyway, after trying for 6 months with no joy, I'm beginning to feel a bit anxious. I can't stop wondering if there's a problem and can't stop googling!!

Please join if you're in a similar position and wanting to chat! X

well well The Witch has finally arrived this morning after 3 days late - blooming thing what a cruel B! Oh well here to the next cycle. I will try to not not trying though next month just relax and not doing OPK or anything. This is cycle 11 of BFN after BFN after BFN and I really am fed up now so a little break would be nice I think. How's everyone doing?

@Antihop Hope you will get BFP this month! You know what pms and early pregnancy symptoms are very similar so you might catch it this cycle! Do you have any other symptoms? Fingers crossed for you! How long have you been trying? x

Hi ladies, could I join please? I'm 4dpo atm and obsessing already, cycle 6. I know they say it takes 6months to a year but I get depleted every single month. I have a son who is 8 and I conceived him in 2 months but my partner now has no children. I'd like him to get a test done to make sure everything is okay, obviously he is putting it off. Lol I'm probably just being impatient🙄

Anyone else close in time to me?

@Mrssendy @3isthemagic sorry you guys that af came

Hey guys sorry I haven't been on in a few days! Welcome and thanks to anyone who has joined recently! @Mrssendy so sorry af came in the end...and 3 days late! That's just unfair. It happened to me a few cycles ago and I fell hard that month. Hope you're ok!! I was really quite down and tearful when AF appeared on Tuesday. I have picked myself up again as really there isn't any other choice is there? But I'm tiring of these monthly disappointments! As for SMEP, I think we may try it this month but I totally agree it doesn't sound very appealing 😂 I may do opks too...just as this still lets me keep on top of my cycle to some degree. I have tried to book acupuncture but haven't heard back yet. Think best to go after period and I'm CD 3 today so best give them a ring! X

How's everyone doing? I'm in my fertile window according to fitbit and after DTD yesterday I'm not really in the mood to go again but ovulation day is Wednesday so will have to muster up some strength to fit in another one over the next couple of days!
Anyone else find it hard to find the energy to DTD?! 3 yr old DS is exhausting and work busy so 😴😴

@SomethingAboutYou I think I'm in my 2ww, but cant be certain as haven't had a positive OPK. I'm hoping it will all be ok and we've dropped lucky but we only dtd twice this month as we've both been feeling ill. As you said, it's exhausting and almost impossible to find the time with a 2yo and hubby going on long evening runs in training for an endurance event in the summer.

@Ejb86 fingers crossed you got the timing right and twice was the magic number 🤞 it is mad how much I worried about falling pregnant if I forgot to take the pill on time, if only I knew how much effort this conception malarkey takes!

@Ejb86 @SomethingAboutYou 100% with you...energy for dtd is very limited when life is so full and tiring! If I didn't do opks and therefore couldn't predict when I might ovulate, we'd have no chance! The "just do it when you feel like it" mantra would not work well for me! 😂

hope everyone managed to rest over the weekend and get some shagging in! i'm cycle day 6 (second month of trying) and I've challenged my other half to 5 consecutive nights of bonking, which he is more than happy to hahahaha.

I find the more sex we have, the more I want...... if we have a break of a few days I find it difficult to restart again..... anyone else like this?

@SomethingAboutYou how does the fitbit fertility thing work?

i find every app tells me a different ovulation window which is very frustrating, just going to have sex every day instead hahahahaha

@Ellsbells112 similar to you, I have a 4 year old, my new partner doesn't have any kids, he is freaking out about his fertility, i'm tempted just to send him off to the GP for peace of mind

anyone used this home sperm count kits?

@inahaze the fitbit thing is quite basic, I've basically been logging AF start and end dates for the last year and it gathers the information and uses the averages to predict your next AF and when your fertile days are. You can add extra info like how heavy the flow is, CM type etc. I've just logged AF and I've started to log DTD days as I have a terrible memory. It's been pretty accurate at guessing AF due date (I'm not very regular so the algorithm on averages seems to get it quite close to the mark).

5 nights - good luck! I think you're right about the more you do it the more you want to, I can easily go a month without any but 2 days on the trot now and it doesn't seem as daunting trying again tonight....!
@Lnix the do it when you feel like it mantra doesn't work here either as both me and DH can go a while without DTD and not be bothered!

This month is not my month. Af arrived yesterday. I only came off the pill in Oct so it's still early days. It's reassuring that AF has come back quickly and regularly after stopping the pill. When I ttc for dd, it happened on my second month so I was hoping I'd get lucky again quickly, but I'm 6 years older and 42.

Yesterday after AF arrived I was on the way home and I kept seeing families with 2 children and it made me feel sad. I had this feeling like my arms were lacking a baby if you know what I mean. Dd would make such a great older sister.

So today I've had loads of EWCM did an OPK and strongest I've had yet, persuaded hubby to dtd again tonight.

Just worked out, I'll probably either get AF or be testing on Valentines day. Fingers crossed!

Fingers crossed for you @ejb86

@antihop I get what you mean. I'm noticing pregnant women with toddlers on tow everywhere, and I'm definitely seeing them through rose coloured glasses and ignoring the stressed looking parents and tantrumming kids! Hope you're ok. Going back to regular cycles makes things so much easier to predict after the pill so defo a good thing.x

@antihop Aw sorry you're out this month. I agree, seeing siblings together is hard sometimes. I feel this way for my daughter too...she'd be amazing and I just want to give her a sibling so badly!

In other news, I had my acupuncture! It was soooo relaxing! If anything it was nice for that. Goodness knows if it actually has an effect. I've booked myself a few more sessions and will call it a day after that if no joy. X

@Antihop sorry to hear this month wasn't successful, I bet October feels like ages ago.

@Ejb86 let's hope all the signs were right!

anyone else get age-gap anxiety? my small is 4 tomorrow and i'm panicking about a 5 year age gap!

@inahaze YES I have serious age gap anxiety!! My daughter was 4 at the end of December. But then I try to be rational at the same time...lots of people have small age gap but I'm a teacher of 6 year olds and quite a few of them have a sibling under 1 and it all seems very normal. I mean, I don't ever look at them and think WOW why have you got such a tiny sibling!?

Hi ladies. Nice to see the chat is still going!

I have a 5 year age group between me and my sister, it was nice growing up.

I think I'm in my fertile week again so that's good. Anyone else due to test around 22nd?

@Emelene Hi again! I'm in my fertile week and due to test 22nd! Trying 'SMEP' which is sex every other day until a positive opk and then 3 times in a row...or something like that...we shall see how we manage that! X

Yes @Emelene AF is due between 19-22 feb so will be testing around the same time.

@inahaze & @lnix I have the same age-gap anxiety. We won't be trying late March-April as we want to avoid a xmas baby so I'm putting a little pressure on myself to conceive this cycle so he'll still be 3 when #2 is born. We foolishly thought we'd have a small age gap (until the reality of parenthood settled in) so its hard to shrug off that idea. I can see how much easier it will be though now that DS is getting more independent and can do things himself so silver linings!

@SomethingAboutYou it does have silver linings indeed! Feel like my 4 year old can do pretty much everything for herself now! I need to focus on this and make my peace with the age gap. It was through choice at first...just wasn't expecting ttc to go on and on. My DD is a VERY Christmassy birthday...it is a bit of a pain to be fair but think we'll risk carrying on trying! X

DS is a Christmas baby so we don't want 2 at the same time as it's difficult enough as it is! I don't know how I'll feel taking a month "off" but then every xmas since birth we've vowed not to do the same again with a second baby!

@Lnix my LB will be 3 on 21st Dec this year. Christmas birthdays are tricky aren't they? We have what feels like hundreds of birthdays from Dec to March, so I'd like to avoid those dates this time. However, if we haven't been lucky by then I wont be stopping trying. Beggars cant be choosers!

@Ejb86 and @SomethingAboutYou yeah December birthdays are tricky! We are similar in that neatly everyone in the entire family and extended family fits into the October-Dec bracket. Imagine a summer baby! Soooo different!

There are pros and cons to birthdays anytime of the year, DSis is end of August which is lovely in terms of weather and events, but when they all went on hols post A-Levels she was still 17 so without proper ID for any of the pubs and clubs! DS has his bday in the weird zone between xmas and new yr, it will be fab for him when he's 18+ and wants people to go out celebrate with him I just find it stressful arranging xmas and bday presents and trying to fit in seeing family and doing something nice for his birthday. I stress too much about the little things

Hi ladies. I'm on CD8, second cycle TTC. Not testing or tracking so not sure when I'll ovulate. I stopped breastfeeding my almost 14 month old DS in December because I wasn't getting AF. We are DTD everyday day (since CD4).

looks like a lot of us are due to test around the same time!! my period is due 23rd of february so a lot of anticipation for that weekend.... ahead of our 3rd anniversary celebrations! eek!!

hi @FairyG ! very similar to you, i'm cycle day 8, i should ovulate in the next 3 days, we've had 3 nights of consecutive bonking, probably need at least 3 more for good measure. This is also month 2 of trying. Did you get your period back quickly after stopping breastfeeding?

i feel i should declare at this point that i am a breastfeeding counsellor, for the sake of transparency! I'm training towards being IBCLC

what does everyone else do?