TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

This is the thread for those of us in the TTC after loss penguin huddle who want to try to eat a more healthy diet, exercise more, lose weight or just feel better physically this year
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@MrsMGE @Avocuddles @MissSparkles81 @SunshineCrocodile @Mumlili8 @VenusStarr @SunStruck

If I’ve missed anyone please tag them

How about we start by saying what our goals are whether that he the number on the scale, doing more exercise or just feeling better about ourselves?

I’m BunnytheBlueWhale (NC recently - see TTC thread). I’m 35 and probably weigh about a stone more than I’d like since I had my stillborn daughter in February. I don’t need to lose weight massively but having post-baby weight and no baby is a bit rubbish!

I’d like to lose a bit of a weight all over and also target my belly with brushing, moisturising and maybe microneedling at home...

I eat a lot of sugary snacks so want to massively reduce those and also try to take a healthy lunch to work to stop me spending so much money on food!

@Shefliesonherownwings I second what @MrsMGE says, very wise words. I was very anxious after my dad passed away (very shortly after my first MC) and I struggled on, thinking I had to regain normality. It was exhausting. On a work trip to Belfast I became so anxious about being away from home, I was bed-bound in the Hotel, being sick. It was awful. It got better over time and as some ladies know, I really found myself with mediation and yoga in the park. I still get anxiety now but I try to use the methods they teach about breathing, rationalising, giving the anxiety time.

The location of your appointment is just beyond words for me too, how can this be happening? I'm so sorry you're having to deal with everything you're dealing with AND also having to battle to get the meeting moved to a more appropriate spot. Honestly, like @MrsMGE said, are we even in 2020?!

You can self make the snack balls yourself - I made some from the fertility kitchen and they turned out lovely. Saw another recipe lately with apple, cinnamon, oats, acorn syrup and some flax seeds. Looked delicious!

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@LASandOtto I made the same ones as you from FK after you've posted it (cherry, almond and cocoa) but added two tablespoons of almond butter in addition to the usual ingredients and hands down, these are the nicest balls I've ever made xxx

On the train down to London for work and have been inspired by this group to make a healthy snack choice...... never had the DE balls before but looking forward to giving them a try!

Morning all ... yesterday was a difficult day in work. I was in clinic in the afternoon and everything was going ok till one of the consultants asked a mum if she had lost any pregnancies and I lost it. The room started spinning and I had to walk out. Eventually I managed to compose myself and go back in and finish the appt.

When I got home I gave into temptation and scoffed almost a full bag of these. 🤪

@Avocuddles I hope you enjoy those. I thought they were delicious!

@Shefliesonherownwings I think the anxiety is to be expected unfortunately. Your experience is quite similar to mine and I might have mentioned on the other thread that, from the evening I gave birth to my DD,
I worried DH wasn’t breathing. He was asleep later that night and I had to wake him up to check he was alive. I did it a lot after that. If he didn’t answer the phone, I’d panic. If I couldn’t hear him breathe or snore or whatever I just assumed the worst. I’m not as bad now but I still do it. I hope it calms down for you too but my DH was quite understanding about that so maybe speak to yours if he doesn’t get it. I almost shook him awake sometimes!!

@LASandOtto I might look at a recipe for those balls. If they’re easy, I might give it a go as they are expensive to buy but I might co tk he to hug them when I get a meal deal

@MissSparkles81 Is there anyone you can speak to about some adjustments to your role so that you are not exposed to any upsetting situations? I get it might be hard in your job but they have to give some consideration to what you’ve been through

DH and I were fine when we got home and managed some BDing

Hope everyone else is ok

@BunnytheBlueWhale just ate them and they were delicious, thanks for the recommendation. Boots meal deals really are great value aren't they.....

Yay to baby dancing! Hoping so much that this is your month.

@MissSparkles81 what a tough situation to deal with at work, I'm sure any of us would have reacted the same way. Is there anyone you can talk to at work around how you feel? I know they're just doing their job but could you perhaps be forewarned so you can briefly pop out of the room?
On another note I love those limited edition Christmas crisps - you should eat them before they're out of date!

@MissSparkles81 Don't worry, I had a small pack of crisps last night. I was still in work at half 6 and because of all the exercise and walking I was starving. Then I went to my dance class and did a workout this morning, so tbh I don't care that much! It's not about denying yourself everything for the rest of your days, but about shifting the balance to make good choices on most of the days. It's quite empowering!

Can I ask, what job are you in? I'm guessing within the NHS? Apologies if you've said before, I must have missed it or confused myself xxx

@missparkles81 @MrsMGE ohhh crisps is my weakness!!! I love them! 🤤

I really need to try those deliciously Ella balls! Look great. I've made several healthy snacks like that before but this looks really good (and obviously comes highly recommended by MN!)

I am having one of my veggie days today 😃 I felt really tired this morning so skipped the gym. It's unusual for me but good to listen to my body! What's on the menu today for all you ladies?

Prawn risotto with courgettes, peas and carrots is waiting for me this evening 😊

Thank you for the messages @BunnytheBlueWhale @Avocuddles and @mrsmge ... unfortunately my office is based within a maternity unit so unable to work elsewhere. I am a childrens specialist nurse and usually clinic conversations dont every mention mc as you can imagine. Thats what took me by surprise yesterday.

Thankfully off today so went and returned a few parcels to the post office and treated myself to a subway salad for lunch. Now snuggled on the couch watching the Crown.

I don't know if anyone has watched it ... I am a bit late to the game but hooked.

Really should go and tidy up before the bf gets home then its clubbercise tonight x

@mrsmge oh la la - sounds so fancy and yummy! Even better when you don't have to cook yourself 😂

@missparkles81oh that must be so difficult 😔 good you have a day off today to recoup and look after yourself ❤️

@SunStruck Yes, I know, courtesy of DH 🙌

@MissSparkles81 I loved it too, watched all three series! Good choice!

@MissSparkles81 You’ve made me think I should watch the Crown!

@BunnytheBlueWhale honestly its so good. Im not even a fan of the royal family but its got me hooked x

@MissSparkles81 I personally consider the monarchy to be a completely outdated concept, but it didn't stop me from enjoying the series. I loved Claire Foy and Vanessa Kirby, some really strong female performances there!

I'm sorry re your job situation, this cannot be easy and not much can be done about this if someone just suddenly drops it into the conversation. At the same time, I kind of think this should be spoken about and mentioned in conversations because in some ways, this would finally make the whole experience less scary and more human to everyone. It would be understood for what it really is, rather than avoided as one of "those uncomfortable things". But of course I get that if the pain is still raw, an unexpected mention can be triggering.

Take care and enjoy your clubbercise tonight (I'm very jealous!!) xxx

Thank you ladies, you never fail to make me feel a bit better. I'm sorry others have suffered and continue to suffer anxiety, it can be so debilitating. Yes I am basically imagining DH dead in a ditch somewhere, being attacked and killed... Even if he said he was going back to a mates house I'd worry he would fall asleep and suffocate. I just can't relax on my own anymore. Before we lost Isla I was super independent, loved my own space and having time to myself. I don't recognise myself anymore. At counselling, we spoke about DH going out and he said I should always just text and ask him to come home if I feel anxious and he will so I feel a bit better.

I went to a yoga class at my gym today, first one I've been to since being pregnant. I found it quite hard but it felt good stretching all my muscles. Unfortunately at the very end when we all lay down for relaxation, the tears came. I have no idea why, I just couldn't stop it. I managed to hide it from everyone and got to the car before properly breaking down. I hate this out of control feeling and never knowing when I will get upset. Sorry to vent but it's been a hard afternoon.

In good news, I've done well with food today and still have enough WW points for some chocolate tonight. I'm going to look out for these DE balls, they do look good.

@Shefliesonherownwings If your DH is food with his phone then that should help. At least twice my DH had his phone on silent so didn’t answer me for ages and I was stressing out! He later said his phone was on silent in his coat and I was like “What?!” He had to have an op on November (partial circumcision for medical reasons but we both love the result 😂) and they said he’d be back from theatre in about 30 mins. He was gone for an hour and a half! Can you imagine what I was going through siting there. Apparently the nurse didn’t know but DH has barely come round and he was like “you’d hear tell my wife I’m ok!” He was ok. What happened to us is so cruel but that doesn’t mean it will happen again. I think you will hopefully find it gets a bit easier to return to some sense of normality. Yoga was really good for me but made me emotional too. You are so early in your grief too, things like that will happen sometimes. I’ve had journeys into work on the train where I’m suddenly crying and then manage to hide it... not sure there’s a way around it but it doesn’t happen to me often now xx

@Shefliesonherownwings I was the same as Bunny, on a number of occasions I stood at the train station en route to work and cried. Cried on trains, sometimes at my desk (luckily have my own office), in work toilets, when I saw something emotional on TV. Anything to do with babies, pg announcements, blood and AF was extremely triggering for me up until recently. Now I get that kind of anxiety or the "heavy" feeling as I would describe it, kind of like "oh, God, here we go, another bump around me" kind of feeling, but it goes away quickly. I've stopped noticing pg women around me so much, I'm getting to the point where I actually don't care that much? It's their pg and they may well have their own problems, and I have mine. But it took me 7 long months to get to this stage and I think it just happens when your mind is ready. Lots of things help, keeping healthy certainly does, but it's not one of those things that can be rushed. Xxx

• can't be rushed, of course!

I have finally lost some weight! Wooooo!!! I feel great this week, really on it. I did two one-hour walks at lunchtime this week, third one planned for today. One dance class, two HIIT sessions, third one coming today. Apart from one small pack of crisps, no naughty stuff! I have so many different things planned with friends and family next month that I'm trying to be very, very good. It's hard work sometimes, but it's paying off!

My waist looks a lot better! Some flabby bits left, lower abdomen is a bitch, isn't it. I need to get rid of the fat from there, but otherwise, I am slowly starting to see some abs again, my bum and things are also in much better shape! I'm delighted, actually.

I read somewhere it takes 3 weeks to develop a lasting habit, this is my 3rd week and long may it continue 🌺😊

The Fitbit is also brilliant... It's arrived already and I love everything about it! How did I live without it!

Happy Hump Day, girls! Xxx

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Too many typos, sorry! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Morning ladies - just quickly checking in! Sorry I've been so quiet - another mad week. I am keeping my fingers crossed for all of you who are pregnant at the moment and sending love to those who are having a difficult week (appreciate the two aren't exclusive!)

I am jumping on the FitBit bandwagon too... I've had it ages but not worn it consistently. Am going to try and get my 10,000 steps a day :)

I am travelling for work and would like you all to know that I chose some fruit and stevia-sweetened Quark for breakfast today instead of my usual pastry! All well and good except that the weight of the spoon tipped the almost empty pot into my lap and now have Quark on my dress... this would never have happened with a pastry!! Anyway I have been inspired by all the balls posts yesterday and got a Larabar for a mid-afternoon snack... I'll let you know how it is!

@tortiecat You never fail to make me laugh 😂😂😂

What colour is your dress?

@tortiecat Oh you did so well to get a healthy snack, it is a shame it made a mess! Let us know the Lara bar is. Not sure I’ve heard of it

But I did buy a meal deal this morning amen got some more nut butter balls (hazelnut). They didn’t have the almond but the hazelnut were delicious anyway

@MrsMGE It is red with white spots. Or it was. It is now red and white spots with a dodgy looking smear over my left thigh (which is firmly hidden under a desk)

@BunnytheBlueWhale this is a Larabar: https://www.larabar.co.uk/our-products/
It did not last til the afternoon, I have just scoffed it. It wasn't bad, it tastes exactly like dates smushed together with banana and nuts, but a Wispa it is not ☹️

@tortiecat At least it has white bits then 😂 You can pull this off!

Graze chocolate orange flapjacks are delish if you're after something tasting chocolatey, but not too calorific (Wispa was my go to chocolate too!) xxx