Too many threads and looking for friends to go through the TTC journey

[jenna30]

Hi guys

Not sure about anyone else but i have found that that i have tried posting on various threads and sometimes your own post gets really lost which can be slightly disheartening. I thought i would start this thread for anyone who has just started their TTC journey and together we can share our thoughts and experiences.... i do ask that (not to be mean) that this thread is only for people who have just started their TTC journey to avoid disappointment for people who are way into their journey and who may be experiencing different things. My own story is that i came of the pill in September and have yet to get my BFP. I got my first positive on Saturday just gone and now im 1dpo. Be great to hear from anyone in a similiar boat! Xx

@Sausage1990 hiya sorry I've been quiet this last two weeks. I have been trying to take it more easy this month. Did af arrive for you? How are you doing? Ive just come back from a meal at my in laws and my SIL just announced she is pregnant. And she only stopped the pill in October and she is shocked it happened so quick. I was obviously happy but it did sting especially as it happened so quick. As much as i was relaxed this month this announcement has made me feel quite shit.

@Lucy5546 I have just seen this. Congratulations 😀 so exciting and happy for you. Wish you the all the best. X

Similar thing for me. Got married in October so stopped the pill in September. Currently on my 4th cycle TTC. The whole thing is driving me insane!
My best friend started trying in December and caught first time which disheartened me quite a lot (I’m obviously so happy for her but it also stings a bit).
Currently around 9/10 DPO, this TWW is a bitch!

@Nat4392 its so difficult isn't it. Even though i haven't been trying long it feels like forever and to hear my SIL say they didn't expect it to happen so quick, hurts. I haven't tracked using opk this month as i wanted to take the relaxed approach but now that i have heard this news I'm starting to stress again. TWW is the worst. I hope you get a bfp at the end of it.

@jenna30 yes it’s just so hard. I know 4 months is still completely normal but it feels like a lifetime. It’s completely taken over my life, everyday I wake up and think “what day if my cycle is it?” It’s driving me mad!
I’ve been tracking ovulation and had cramps around 7DPO and had sore boobs the last 2 days. Although I don’t want to look into it too much as I’m a serial symptom spotter and don’t want to get ahead of myself. Hoping for BFPs for you too 😊

@Nat4392 awhh i feel your pain as I'm the same during tww. It sounds positive though with the few symptoms you have had. Fingers crossed. I had none during my tww last cycle so i knew i hadn't conceived. Thank you i hope it happens soon for us all.

Hey guys, just thought of you all over the weekend so thought I would check in and see how everyone is doing :)
I'm having a slightly weird cycle this month - I'm on CD 17 but haven't had any positive OPKs. That said, I've been ridiculously busy and so some days I've gone more than 24 hours between tests by testing early on one day and much later on another, as well as being January-healthy and drinking much more water (last month I had a positive on CD12, and Ovia has assumed from my logging of CM that I must have ovulated around the 6th/7th - CD11/12 - which would fit with the cramping I had and also the start of term meaning I was off-kilter with my OPKs).
That said, I've had some more EWCM yesterday and this morning and cramping, so either Ovia is wrong about ovulation, something suspicious is occurring, or my brain is playing tricks on me again.

@jenna30 - Good to see you back! Where are you at with your cycle? I think my last month being shorter might have put us a little out of sync with one another as you were already due AF later than me (I think: too lazy to go back and check). I hear you on the frustration of other people getting pregnant so quick: I might have said this earlier, but a very good friend of mine literally DTD once and knocked up his wife first try. He knows I'm TTC and can't understand that this is now month 3 without contraception and I'm still not pregnant! I did, out of curiosity look up the statistics for how long it takes and found an interesting study:
"According to a 2003 study published in the journal Human Reproduction, when 346 women ages 20 to 44 timed their intercourse to help them conceive, they had a 38 percent chance of conceiving in one cycle, a 68 percent chance within three cycles, an 81 percent chance within six cycles and a 92 percent chance of getting pregnant within 12 cycles." -- so each month your chances do seem to go up (although I am clearly not a statistician).

The thing I'm finding hard is that I'm quite active and would usually have some summer adventures planned by now there's a few things I have been reluctant to commit to because there's that little "what if?" voice in the back of my head but then if I don't conceive, will I be annoyed at myself for missing out for no reason?
That said, I've just booked a holiday over Easter, because I figure that I'll be safe to go anyway, whatever the outcome.

I’m CD 23 , according to flo I ovulated CD12, however I got a positive OPK CD 14. So still in that horrible TWW, desperate to test but knowing it will be a complete waste of time.

I’ve been so so moody and angry, but I have just done night shifts so that could explain that! Tender boobs but other than that, nothing. My last cycle was only 23 days so based on that, AF is due on Thursday. So we shall see!!

Anyone think I should test now?! 🤣🤣

@MrsH0692 Don't do it! Imagine all the nice things you could buy with the £5 an FRER costs ;)

@EithneBlue So true!!! 💕

Update: sent a message to my OBGYN and going off of my pregnancy history and following my normal cycle of 28-29 days, I'm technically late.
I have to go in tomorrow and get a blood pregnancy test, then another one on Wednesday and then a sonogram on Thursday. I also have to take 200mg of progesterone vaginally, every 8 hrs until we figure out if I'm pregnant or not.

@EithneBlue Thank you. Im CD14 and this cycle i have been the same as you i haven't really tested for ovulation. When i heard the news yesterday it really got me and i spent the whole day today totally down and feeling sorry for myself (which is completely ridiculous i know). Thing is the study you mentioned i have read that too and i did kind of expect it to take a few months but i think just hearing the news yesterday totally got to me (particularly when SIL said it happened so quickly) Im hoping tomorrow is good day. I plan on testing tomorrow as last month i got my positive on my opk test on cd15 which will be tomorrow for me. Having said that i wouldn't be surprised if its different this month with me being stressed this last day. Fingers crossed.

I think its great that you have booked a holiday. Its important not to put your life on hold. Are you heading anywhere nice? Im off to a spa retreat this Thursday and Friday which i am looking forward to. Are your length in cycles fairly similar each month? Mine was 31 days and then 30 days last cycle. So I'm hoping that I'm the same this month and if so my opk test tomorrow should be positive.

@Swife good luck for tomorrow. Fingers crossed for you. Keep us updated.

@jenna30 - I think expecting it to take longer and hoping it doesn't take longer are two conflicting emotions! I play it off a bit but I was kind of gutted to get AF last month. Don't worry about the stress too much, though: I think it's a bit of an old wives tale to stop women from doing anything fun. "Don't be upset, your womb might shrivel up and die." How else do you explain sports stars and serving military personnel getting knocked up on the job? Take the OPKs, do the deed often and keep your fingers crossed.

My last 2 cycles (the two complete cycles that were off the pill) have been 28 days and then 26 days so not exactly the same but not wildly irregular, either. I put 27 days into Ovia as my estimated cycle length, but if I did ovulate on CD11 or 12 this time, that would fit with another 26 day cycle. This seems to be following the same pattern generally, though aside from that odd extra EWCM -- I had slight AF-like cramps post-ovulation last month and have again this month. We shall see, I guess.

The holiday is fine (we are going to Italy for 6 nights): it is my desire to do marathons and multi-day endurance events that is the issue!

@EithneBlue that is so true! Italy sounds amazing and the marathon sounds tough but I'm guessing your are a keen runner? We dtd yesterday and we plan on doing it every other day. So we will see what happens. Are you going to opk test over the next few days?

@jenna30 I will keep you ladies updated. All our experiences can help each other in our journey to motherhood.😁

Any advice appreciated... i just noticed ewcm. I did an opk test today and it was negative. Should i bd today? And how often should i bd? We dtd yesterday and really i wanted to give the oh a break today but now that i have noticed ewcm im not sure if we should do it today?

@peachypetite how are you doing? Are you using OPKs this month? I’m so confused with mine! They are quite dark but not progressing just consistently dark!

@jenna30 are your OPKs close to peak? I think if you’re ovulating today then you’d be fine with yesterday as the sperm lives for a few days anyway?

@firsttime no I haven’t bothered because I’ve read quite a few people on here saying they were confusing and I don’t want to get obsessive! I’ve been having sex like a crazy woman this week 😂 meant to have ovulated this weekend according to my app.

@FirsttimeTTC hiya it wasn't as dark as the control line so i took it has negative. Just noticed the ewcm now so not sure if i should bd today or do it tomorrow. Or just keep doing it for the next few says 😂.

Also you will know when the opk test is a positive i was the same last month and was confused until it showed up really dark one day and it was way obvious. Only then did i know i got my first positive. Can you upload a pic?

@peachypetite haha yeah to be honest, I agree the OPKs are so confusing. My Flo app is saying I’ll ovulate around Wednesday so just gonna keep going. We have been DTD every other day but I’m worried we will miss it so I want to do it every day but I also don’t want to put too much pressure on DP ☹️

@jenna30 yeah just bd as much as you both can!! It can be very exhausting 😂
I can’t upload a pic because earlier I got so frustrated I threw them all in the bin 😂 but I will keep them from tomorrow onwards to track (again) and hopefully spot a positive 🤞

I just hate putting pressure on dh. But i guess needs must 😛😂.

Yeh I think it’s a good idea to DTD in a fairly large window around the flo app as it may not be exactly correct. We’ve done most days with a couple of days off so a little more than every other. It’s hard when you’re not really in the mood but know you have to - never seen sex as a chore before!